Is there an 'extended' breastfeeding support thread?

[Unrulysun]

Or would I be better off on LLL?

Just read the 'school-age children' thread with interest but didn't want to derail :)

dd is 1 today so it's not 'extended' bf by any normal definition but judging by the number of 'Are you going to carry on breastfeeding her?' (yes because otherwise she'll be composed primarily of grapes) conversations I've had inflicted on me in the last week I think I'm going to need all the support I can get

so proud we made it this far - ha ha!

Don't get me started on formula manufacturers (especially not Nestle, their transgressions are so much more than just formula based too!) there is SO much wrong with what they do (and the markup they put on the formula is criminal too!)

Oh, toddler colostrum poos are foul and not something anyone should have to cope with in late pregnancy. Get your DH to clean it up! Much sympathy, MBJ It does clear up very quickly after the birth.

MBJ :( and . Teaching LOs about it all too, leading to him saying to his friend's mum, "Thank you but I can't have Smarties because they're made by Nestle and they kill babies" . I've got our school, and my work to go Nestle-free . Oldest boy did ask me once in the supermarket whether a baby dies when you BUY a Nestle product, or just when you EAT it so that made me realise that I'd over-simplified the explanation. He understands better now, and he came with us to Kenya last time, too, so saw more what I meant himself. :(

organic I remember when I didn't know what a growth spurt or cluster feeding was, I was convinced I didn't have enough milk. My dh convinced me to try a formula feed in the evenings. We had a few sma cartons in the cupboard from before my dd was born and I remember saying "fine, we will try formula but we are not using that sma rubbish, if she getting anything it'll be aptamil, its closest to breastmilk"...so your not alone! Thankfully I also posted on mn and was told all about growth spurts, cluster feeding etc so the cartons were relegated to the back of the cupboard. I can understand u not linking cows milk to formula. I always thought that babies couldn't have cows milk and didn't know it was what formula was!

haverina glad it's not just me then .

Ladies, here's what I've learnt today about EBF. If your tiddler is doing gym impressions while BFing, ensure they can't slip off your knee while they're latched on, especially with those grippy little teeth that they might just use as a way to stop themselves from falling.

See this: . That's my nipple, that is.

Hello. Can I join in? I've not read the whole thread but will try to later.
DD is 2.6yrs and DS 6mnth. I'm breastfeeding both.

To be honest I'm a reluctant extended feeder and would love to stop but when absolutely shattered I know it's the one thing that will quieten my toddler down and get her a nap. Well this is one of the reasons I give to others if pushed but I can see how much she loves it and she gets so excited when I say ok. I feel that with a new baby brother she needs the comfort of bfing that bit more as reassurance. I'd feel so guilty bfing her brother and denying her. The rest of the time I use distraction when she asks. I no longer feed her to sleep as DH has successfully taken over the bedtime routine for DD. I'm also a closet feeder and now lie to friends who ask me if I'm still feeding as I'm sick of them not understanding.

Oh dear, ouch, that made me laugh out loud! I have a 15 month old who likes to feed but doesn't like to lie down to do it, so this is sound, evidence based, advice organic! Hope your not too sore :)

Hi lostinindia!

Can I broach the horrible subject of weight? I have piled on the pounds/stones since my dd started solids at 6 months. I know why...I eat rubbish constantly and got away with it initially because my dd fed so much. Anyone else in the same boat? I am feeling so down about it :(

stealthpolarbear DD calls it Mi Mi too.

Hi lostinindia.

It's such a shame that you've found it easier to tell people that DD (presumably) isn't BFing any more . But, it's lovely that she still is .

I hope to feel comfortable telling people that DS is BFing from 1 year+, but I don't imagine that I'll mention it unless it specifically comes up in conversation. Unfortunately, I will have to be a bit upfront about it sometimes, due to several chemicals which are used in my workplace.

hi, can i join you please? DD4 is 12m 3w and still feeding on demand. i dont know at what age it is counted as extended feeding, but im not planning on stopping anytime soon.

Hi lostinindia and stuffthenonsense :)

I never expected to be BF DD1 past 6 months so I never came up with a codeword. Hiding the fact that I'm 'still' BF is near enough impossible when she's shouting "I WANT BOOBY" in the middle of Tesco

Organic, I have been known to remind DD1 that my nipples are not bungees. I hope you make a full recovery soon

Hi all newcomers, and welcome :)

Nips are fine, thanks all for asking. Was a bit sore this morning but I think I got away with it. Do you think there's a market for a keep-baby-strapped-to-you-while-nursing harness? . I may call it, hmm, let me see, I'll make up a new word... sling? Maybe that's the answer. You want to nurse? Hold on while I get the Didmos out and get you firmly tied up.

eau My LO isn't speaking yet but he makes his will known as he climbs into my top. No need to guess there.

Ds has taken to pulling at the neck of my top and peering down it, most amusing!

DD2 says 'Can I have Mumma bah pweeeeease' (sometimes throwing in a 'Milady' for good measure [she's well posh, is our DD2])

DD3 say 'Dat' whilst vigorously poking the side she wants or she might say 'Yeah!!!' in a really excited tone of voice whilst poking the side she wants. I sense a theme here....

DD4 hasnt got a word for milk yet, but she does the (sing n sign) sign for milk and definately decides for herself which side she wants. she is now doing acrobatic nursing too.

i had an important and very unwelcome meeting a few weeks ago, had told them i couldnt NOT bring baby as she is still nursing on demand....met by a scornful tone of disbelief....she played beautifully into my hands though by trying to help herself to milk in his office needless to say, he is now bending over backwards to be accommodating for all future meetings.

Speaking of slings, can anyone suggest a sling for feeding a tall & heavy (98th centile, weighs about 32 lbs) 18 m.o.? Occasionally it'd be useful if we're out & he wants to feed to sleep - otherwise my arm drops off with the weight of him once he's gone off. I can't move him or he wakes.

Wow Angel that's big. I was going to suggest a soft-structured carrier like this but I'm not sure you'll be able to get your breast to his mouth.

Have you tried a really big ring sling? I've got 2 ring slings and one of them has a lot more fabric than the other. I was using it up until DD1 was about 20 mo, then she got too heavy and I got too pregnant

Angel - My 3.8 y/o is only 4lb heavier than your 18m and she is the size of a 5y/o (105cm & 16.6kg).

DD3 who is 20m was only 9.8kg/21bs at 18m and a tiny 76.5cm so I suffer from the opposite problem - finding a carrier small enough for a toddler

It's fascinating how they vary in size so much. DS is the same centile for weight and height so he should be in proportion, but I reckon his thighs and belly account for at least 75% of the weight (just like his mum then ).

A ring sling is a good idea - I'll see if I can track one down. I have a pouch sling but it doesn't have much fabric in it.

I do know someone who feeds her 3 y.o. in a SSC or mei tai but I've tried her SSC with no success. He's probably shorter than my DS. :)

DD2 (32m)asks for 'bed and booby' when she is tired and then will ask for 'this one' whilst patting the side she wants.
DD3 (11m)has started headbutting my chest if she wants to feed or she just flops herself into the cradle hold and waits for me to feed her.

They are both on the small side, DD2 is about 16kg and DD3 is 8-9kg. I've never been able to feed them in a sling, I use a wilkinet. I like the slings you linked to but they are out of my price range

Hi, catching up on the thread again. I used to love feeding in a ring sling but ds is so heavy now I can barely pick him up. Those of you whose Dhs have taken over the nighttime routine how did you do it, we're trying to use that as a way to nightwean as I'm pg and it really hurts to feed now but ds just ignores dh and marches into my bedroom to find me. I don't want to force it with him, maybe he still needs the comfort, he's nearly two though. What ages did you all night wean at (if you have)?

purcel my dd night weaned herself at 10 months. I did use the pantley pull off method though and found that she slept a lot better after that. At bedtime my dd has a 5 minute feed but I get the impression she could take it or leave it. More and more she refuses and wants her daddy to give her a cup of milk :( she is 15months.

I feel really guilty because I know that a lot of it is because I went back to work so we were forced to begin weaning during the day. I know I was lucky as I didn't have to return to work until my dd was 13 months old, but I know that it has contributed to her losing interest in bf which makes me feel terrible because I had wanted her to wean on her own :(

Haven't been on MN much lately but how nice to pop in and see this thread here. :)

Feeling a bit guilt that I'm more reluctant to feed dd in public now. She's only 14m too :(

Still do it but just find myself taking a sippy cup out so she can have a drink at the park or feeding her before visiting a friend if I know the friend isn't supportive. Which is fucked up innit?

Must work on courage of my convictions a bit more.

unrulysun I'm exactly the same as you. DD is 14mo too and having previously been adamant that I would keep feeding her in public and not be ashamed of it, I am now shying away from publicly feeding her.