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Is formula feeding a feminist act?

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FeelLikeTweedleDee · 09/01/2011 18:29

Excuse me as I'm high on Lemsip so my musings may seem unusual - I've been thinking about womens motivations for NOT breastfeeding.

Out of all the pregnant women I have spoken to who plan to formula feed from birth, the most common reason given is "I don't think it's fair that I should have to do all the feeds/shoulder all the responsibility for our baby's nutrition" which is an argument I can sympathise with. I understand the lactivists response: "there is so much more a man can do than feeding" but one must admit, feeding is pretty much the bulk of what a newborn needs. It also ties the mother to the baby in an exclusive manner which nappy changing, soothing, playing, etc does not.

I admit (online only because I'm a pussy) that women who chose not to breastfeed before even giving birth used to anger me. I couldn't understand why they would not put their baby's needs first. Why they wouldn't even give breastfeeding a shot? But perhaps sexual equality is sound reasoning?

What is your opinion on womens non-medical motivations for not breastfeeding?

If you're thinking "it's none of your business what feeding choices other mothers make", I disagree. Formula feeding costs the taxpayer a substantial sum every year re: NHS resources as well as its impact on the environment, etc. Thus womens non-medical reasons for not breastfeeding is an important issue.

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MoonUnitAlpha · 11/01/2011 19:27

That must be really tough! I couldn't have got through his waking every hour or two phase if I'd had to get out of bed.

RubyBuckleberry · 11/01/2011 21:19

i can't now wiggles - he is not a baby anymore Grin. but any mother should be afforded the luxury of feeding, mooching and sleeping in the first weeks...

having a toddler too must be pretty difficult - i have only had one which i understand is easier in some ways as you only have to concentrate on them...

obviously it is not mean to ask him to get up in the night in the evenings and weekends but in the early months that is my job as i am feeding the baby. bit pointless for him to get up, no? the hormones when you are breastfeeding are meant to help you get back to sleep too, whereas men don't get these hormones so it might be harder for them to drop off again...

it used to annoy me too - ds sleeping in my bed, except after 5am or so bizarrely, didn't mind it so much then...

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