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Tonbridge School goes co-ed - when tradition meets financial reality

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Runningupthathill1980 · 14/06/2026 07:45

Tonbridge School announced this week it is introducing a co-educational Sixth Form from September 2028, with boarding girls following from 2030. Quite a bombshell for a school with that history and tradition. Keen to hear what people think.

What strikes me is the pattern when you look at which schools have gone co-educational and which haven't. The ones holding the single-sex line, Eton, Radley and Harrow, all have substantial endowments and investments, in some cases owning significant land holdings outside the main school campus. Tonbridge by contrast is much more dependent on fee income with modest investment reserves by comparison. The co-educational move brings roughly 100 additional pupils, though it is worth remembering that the additional net income from that alone, once you factor in the infrastructure, staffing and facility costs of accommodating girls, is unlikely to be transformative.

The irreversibility of it is what strikes me most. The announcement frames it in the language of vision, evolution and exciting opportunities. But is this a genuine long term shift in educational philosophy or a financial decision dressed up in aspirational language?

Worth noting too that Tonbridge has always had a significant day boy contingent and is largely weekly boarding, so perhaps this was coming.

Particularly given that the VAT imposition on school fees may not be permanent - its possible that a future government could remove it. If that happens Tonbridge will have made a permanent generational change in response to what, perhaps turned out to be a relatively short term financial pressure.

Once girls are introduced into the Sixth Form is that really where it ends? The logic of full co-education from Year 9 inevitably follows, perhaps within a generation. The school announcing co-ed Sixth Form today is almost certainly announcing full co-education tomorrow.

Ironically every school that makes this move only strengthens the position of Eton, Radley and Harrow as the last great all-boys institutions, making places there even more sought after and oversubscribed than they already are.

Spare a thought too for the families already affected. Boys currently at the school, or with accepted places, chose Tonbridge partly on the basis of an all-boys education. In some cases families may withdraw as a result, which rather undermines the financial logic of the decision in the first place.

Keen to hear all views, including from those who think co-education is genuinely the right direction for the school.

OP posts:
Wipeywipey · Yesterday 09:24

I suppose if you would rather the school shut down rather than become co-ed that is your opinion too. I do understand that parents will feel upset, but my post was more about being adaptable and seeing the potential positives.

ForDreamyMintHare · Yesterday 09:46

Runningupthathill1980 · 25/06/2026 21:38

Thats your opinion - which I believe is largely nonsense. There's no credible evidence for boys not doing as well in single sex environment and the reality is far more nuanced than that. For many parents the decision between single-sex and co-ed is deeply personal, shaped by their child, their values and what they genuinely believe will help them thrive.
If anything, removing that social distraction during the most academically critical years is a feature, not a flaw. Most of these schools have strong partnerships with nearby girls' schools for drama, music, socials so boys are hardly living in a bubble. Plenty have sisters at home too. The social development argument falls apart pretty quickly.
Opinions on single-sex versus co-ed go both ways and always will. But if you chose a school specifically because of what it was, and committed on that basis, you are perfectly entitled to feel aggrieved when it changes. Both sides of this debate have a legitimate view. The difference is that one group is being asked to accept something they never agreed to, as far as Tonbridge is concerned.

It depends whether you think coming out of school as misogynists is 'not doing as well'. I'm horrified by the opinions I hear from boys in privately educated boys only schools.

Legoninjago1 · Yesterday 09:55

To balance that - I walked past a group of boys from the local mixed comp the other day in our local park and was horrified by what they were saying about / to some girls… and I don’t ‘horrify’ easily!

sashh · Today 09:12

Phineyj · 16/06/2026 21:35

I have seen research from the Institute of Physics which found that girls are more likely to opt for male dominated subjects in single sex environments. In my experience teaching a male dominated subject, that's true.

So it might not be about "doing better" so much as having a freer choice.

I think one huge problem with co-ed and girls is that they re often used to police boys' behaviour.

If you have spent 2-3 years sitting next to the boy who is a handful then are you going to opt to take that subject and spend more years sitting next to him?

Phineyj · Today 10:44

Oh absolutely. That does happen. I see it happen every year and it frustrates me enormously. Some of the boys are unaware of the effect they are having. But I see it. I spend a lot of time trying to counter it.

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