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December 2010 - good-bye flat tummies (as if I had one... ha ha ha)

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Persnickety · 11/06/2010 12:50

Right, I've done the honours. This is our new thread.

And don't forget the stats thread

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DuelingFanjo · 08/07/2010 11:57

oops
sorry I just saw you are having one

I think it's just each to their own.

chloesbaby · 08/07/2010 12:03

japhrimel that sounds like such a lovely idea. we're not religious either but i would love to have some kind of celebration for the baby and make sure all the family get to meet him / her.
we're all so spread out across the country we only really get together for weddings / funerals and last year at our wedding it was the first time the family had gotten together for years.
at the idea of a family member trying to organise a christening!

chloesbaby · 08/07/2010 12:05

oops, didn't see your post DF - i personally love the idea - a bit like a non religious wedding

PJen · 08/07/2010 12:10

hmmm... we are not planning ANY ceremony for the LO. I didn't even think it is necessary. I am not into big parties anyway and DH had to fight with me to have wedding celebrations. I do everything in my own way anyway and my parents and PILs know that I don't stick to general rules and I don't think anyone is expecting any ceremony from us. I am not christining my baby. It is a very personal choice though...

GreenGeekGirl · 08/07/2010 12:11

Japhrimel thanks for the humanist links - I identify myself as a (secular) humanist too!

Again, I really hope you decide to stay Seomum

JodieO If you're still reading, hope you're ok and your situation is improving. Drop in and let us know how you're doing soon.

I seem to have been very lucky so far on the constipation/piles front (touch wood!) but I try to eat wholegrains with every meal. I generally have muesli on a breakfast smoothie in the mornings, brown toast with or for lunch and then brown rice, pasta, quinoa or couscous for dinner. I was in France and Spain last week and ate white bread probably for the first time in years. It gave my system a real shock - it just didn't know what to do with it! (Sorry tmi)

I can't remember who it was who said they were concerned about their iron levels but fresh spinach has been a dream for me. As I don't eat much meat I was really worried about my iron levels (and I feel the evidence for the efficacy of vitamin tablets is rather limited), so I've been adding a handful of fresh spinach to my breakfast smoothie (frozen fruit is a thing of joy!) every morning. At my last appointment the midwife was absolutely delighted with my levels and told me to keep on doing whatever I was doing.

CherylAnnTweedy · 08/07/2010 12:57

Hi everyone, well I'm not long back from the dr's. I fainted while dropping ds2 off at nursery. I was waiting for when they open the doors, suddenly my bump felt very heavy, I came over feeling very sick, then the heat just rose from my feet up, I was caked in sweat and felt the need to sit down before passing out or being sick. Managed to get myself to the door, but didn't have the strength to push the bell. A couple of other mums rushed over and did that and held me up. Next thing they're sitting me on a chair in the nursery and finding all the sugar they can for me! ds2 was quite upset, bless him. I was there for a while & they called DP who drove round to collect me. (Felt a bit silly, but I would not have been able to walk home, even though it's quicker to walk than drive!).

He called the mw when we got back, she was really good, called back a little while later, and said that she was on holiday but not to worry if we needed to talk. Said to get me to the dr's more as peace of mind than anything else, but she was really good & asked DP to text her when we got home.

Dr was really nice (luckily our gp surgery is full of lovely dr's and this one is probably my gp of choice anyway) and checked blood pressure, blood sugar levels etc. Had a feel & a listen. Everything was good & I have doctors orders to rest for the rest of the day. It's shaken me up more than anything else, and really came out of the blue, especially as I'm being so careful about keeping my sugars up.

We won't be having a christening/naming ceremony or anything similar. I wsa christened, not sure about DP, but more because that was what was done when I was a baby. (and very odd as my dad hates religion and is very vocal about it ). It caused a bit of bother with my ex's mum as she was disgusted that I wasn't having a christening. (She's Italian, so very strong RC family). She would make sarky comments about it and really stropped at me when I said I wsn't having one. Err, my baby, my choice!

WhatWillSantaBring · 08/07/2010 13:34

Sounds like I'm alone in having a christening then! Although I'd consider myself a Christian and very much believe in God, I'm definitely of the hatches, matches and dispatches variety when it comes to going to church, and I have grave reservations about organised religion, as I think it is an exceptionally personal thing!

I can totally understand why some people choose not to have religious ceremonies and although I think there is a lot of good in having some form of faith, I don't care what other people think. However, I do get really upset by aggressive atheists who either think that religion = evil or having faith = stupidity (and i've had both things said to my face by "friends"). I've also had the same argument with a born again Christian (other religions = evil, agnostism or atheism = stupid!!!) . If we all learnt to be a bit more tolerant and respect people's views, whatever end of the spectrum they sit, the world would be a lot better for it!

Right, soap box put away. I hope no one things I'm having a go at them - I just felt like putting my PoV across

Cheryl hope you're feeling better. Hopefully it was nothing more than a bit of tiredness and a bit of a moment that doesn't mean you'll find things hard. I bet you if you weren't pg no-one woudl have batted an eyelid, so I'm sure its nothign to worry about.

Consultant appt next week so (TMI alert) off to get the lady garden tidied up. No need to let standards slip just cos I'm pregnant!! Also, I was recommended getting them very tidy in preparation for birth - and I can imagine that stitches/tears + hair regrowth after being shaved = ouchy ouchy ouchy!! (I assume that they shave you if there's a forest in the way??? Correct me if I'm wrong)

Strix · 08/07/2010 13:34

I'm still planning the baptism for DS, who is now 5. I really should get a move on.

My mother is a devout atheist. She didn't have any of us baptised. So I felt rather silly when I was in my thirties and had to approach the church myself. Really wished she had done that for me and even resented her for my embarassment.

Mine will be baptised (eventuelly ) and they may choose not to believe if they wish.

Strix · 08/07/2010 13:41

Missed your post, Cheryl. Glad you are okay. It's probably the fault of the gredy baby sucking all your blood so there wasn't enough left for you. They are selfish even before they ar born. (but they are cute )

GreenGeekGirl · 08/07/2010 13:53

Strix How can your mother possibly have known you would like to be baptised? Especially if she is an atheist. I would be resentful if my mother had baptised me without my consent!

Strix · 08/07/2010 14:09

Well, it just goes to show we all do everything wrong!

DuelingFanjo · 08/07/2010 14:29

WhatWillSantaBring I try not to be one of those atheists, infact feel strange calling myself one because I haven't rejected God or Gods, just never had one in the first place if that makes sense.

I am actually a godparent to my best friend's kids! Not sure how that happened as I have since read there are some rules attached to people becoming one but I managed to sneak in somehow. I like the idea of being a significant adult in their lives, though I suspect my friend did it for schooling issues which is a bit naughty!

Cheryl hope you are feeling much better now

CherylAnnTweedy · 08/07/2010 14:30

Thanks ladies.

WWSB - I said the same myself to DP. If I wasn't pg I'd have got up and got on with it and not even considered going to dr's. Ah well, no harm in being looked after and may as well make as much of it while I can. You're better than me. January can't come soon enough. I have been waxed since 16, then only time I stopped was when pg with ds2 and this time. Waxing, epilating, threading, plucking is pure agony while pg, and the redness and inflamed legs (etc) stays for about 3 or 4 days afterwards. So as soon as the bleeding stops I will be making a very long appointment to be de-hairified!

It doesn't bother me either way tbh that I was christened even though neither I nor my parents are religious in any way. But it would bother me to christen any of my children ina religious ceremony as (and this is the argument I had with XMIL that she just couldn't/wouldn;t get) I would feel hypocritical to stand there saying that I believe god will look after them and keep them safe when I don't believe that there is a god. If that makes sense.

WhatWillSantaBring · 08/07/2010 14:33

OMG, I'm traumatised.

Just been for the lady garden tidy up and I had to leave half way through (obviously after the wax had been taken off). It was a new girl and I can't decide how much of it was me being a wimp (does pg lower your pain threshold?) but it so horrifically painful and I'm sure she didn't know what she was doing. I'm pretty sure its not all me, as I've been having bikini waxes for eight years and I have NEVER had to walk out before. They didn't charge me but I blamed the hormones - do you think I should complain? No woman should ever have to go through what I've just been through.

Now I'm stuck with half a forest and I don't know what to do - I'm too scared to go back to the same girl but I don't know if there is anywhere else near me that does them! I know in the wider scheme of things this is nothing to get upset over, but I can't stop crying

WhatWillSantaBring · 08/07/2010 14:35

I should add that its not my first waxing since I got pg. The last one 5 weeks ago was virtually pain free. Can my pain threshold have changed that much?

PJen · 08/07/2010 15:04

cheryl how scarry and good to hear that you are doing okay.

WWSB lol to your half forest!! PG do brings the pain treshold down but the girl must have been bad too it sounds... I have done laser treatment prior to pregnancy and now have very little hair down there or anywhere and a tiny shave every week keeps it sparkling clean! I will go back for a touch up laser after pregnancy...

japhrimel · 08/07/2010 15:52

I was christened and went to Sunday school and a C of E primary school but ended up a humanist. Don't have an issue with having been christened though. But both DH and I would feel far too hypocritical to be godparents, let alone christen our own child, especially the bits about renouncing the Devil etc!

WWSB - hormones could've made you a lot more sensitive, but it sounds like it probably wasn't just you if you were fine 5 weeks ago. My hormone levels seem to be settling down now. Lol at the half-forest.

Maybe TMI, but has anyone who shaves their bikini line instead of getting it professionally waxed worked out what they're going to do as the bump gets bigger? My bump is well in the way already and as I've started swimming for the SPD, I don't want to go au naturel! I've got a very low pain threshold anyway thanks to my Fibromyalgia, so won't put myself through the pain of waxing.

GreenGeekGirl · 08/07/2010 16:09

WWSB Hair removal is definitely more painful while pregnant. I usually epilate my bikini line but I've had to give up because last time it actually made me cry it hurt so much. Besides it's good for DH to get used to au naturelle. Not sure there'll be much time for deforestation after December anyway!

To be perfectly honest I think hair removal in general is a bit of a silly and arbitrary thing to do. And yet I do it anyway. I have this feeling though that future generations of women will look back on us and think we're mental for causing ourselves so much pain just to look like porn stars, who only started doing it in the 70s/80s for the wipe clean convenience, rather than cosmetic reasons. I also hate that this is the reason it's fashionable!

PJen · 08/07/2010 16:21

japhrimel what about using the creams?

DuelingFanjo · 08/07/2010 16:29

I haven't ever had a wax, too scared.

Wondering - what are other people doing RE dressing now? What I mean is I much prefer how I look in tight fittinf clothes which show off my bump (Pic on profile) but in work I tend to wear baggier things and haven't pluched up the courage to just be obvious. I was talking to my work mate about it and she says she hates seeing pregnant women in tight clothes so now I am even more scared to just let it all show!

DuelingFanjo · 08/07/2010 16:33

plucked

japhrimel · 08/07/2010 16:54

Can we use the creams when pregnant? I was avoiding all of that sort of thing during the 1st trimester.

Just answered my own question...apparently yes!

www.babycenter.com/0_safe-skin-care-during-pregnancy_1490031.bc?page=3

PJen · 08/07/2010 17:17

ooh DF I just checked your pics and you had similar pre-pregnancy body as I did (size 6-8) and have exactly the same bump size as I do now!!! Amazing how big our bumps are for this early, isn't it? My bump has grown so much in the last week that I can't believe I used to wear what I did... After living 36 years in the same size it is such an adjustment for me to suddenly not fit in my clothes!

I will take some pics and try to put them up asap too it's just I am so tired at nights when I get home after work (which is NEVER earlier than 8-9 PM) and I still have so much to do at home and then crash in bed around 12 and the alarm goes at 7! By the way, I am not sleeping well recently. I wake up couple times at night to go to loo and don't get sound sleep...

PJen · 08/07/2010 17:19

DF I forgot to answer what I am wearing... I have bought dresses from online shops that I sited before and am switching to flaired out pregnancy dresses. Not because I don't like tight clothes or worry about what people think. I just hate ANYTHING squeezing me in any way and I like the clothes to not touch me much... Before pregnancy I alawys wore tight clothes that showed my body line and to be honest I don't fit in any of them anymore...

mumatron · 08/07/2010 18:55

buy on here today, too many posts to catch up with!

to summarise then, no christening or naming ceremony planned.

never been waxed, > but i have heard is more painful in pg. have been winding dp up saying he will have to shave me before i go into labour. the look of horror on his face was priceless.

what am i wearing? well i have been wearing mostly leggings and long vests to work. some floaty some quite tight. apart from that i am in maxi's all the time. love them. dreading winter though. no way will i be buying a maternity coat! layers will be the way forward for me.

16 weeks here and feeling a bit like everything has slowed down. i'm wishing the days away until the 20 wk scan.