10/10 Chats - Over Halfway There

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AbFabT and lilmiss, sorry for your loses

lilmiss, I had my last mw appt at 16 weeks, and the next one will be 25, but all the paperwork I have says if it's your 2nd then the appt should be 28 weeks. But midwife wanted to see me at 25 to give me a form for something (not sure what might have been the HIP grant form if they still exist when I go).

With DD I was seen every 2-4 weeks due to high risk pregnancy. So almost a 10 week gap is new to me, but also very reasurring as I know I'm not classed as high risk this time.

Not sure how appointments work after 25 weeks, they may become more frequent but can't be sure though.

Well I past exam, only have one more to pass and I have got my degree finally after 6 years, only draw back is I sit my final exam at 39 weeks so hoping I make it .

think it'll be your MAT B1 form nunnie and congratulations!

Congratulations nunnie on passing your exam - I got my result today as well and happy to say it was a pass. I have another 18 months to go to get my degree and plan to take it steady! Are you having a break from studying or have you continued?

I am the same, paperwork says my next appointment should be 28 weeks but midwife asked me to book for 25 weeks to collect HIP forms - just have to see if it still exists after next week

Sorry to hear about sad news for some people

I have continued, so I can get it finished before baby comes fingers crossed. I do it through the OU, so do it from home. Have 3 assignments to be done before end of September and exam in on the 20th of October.

Oh I don't need a MAT B1 form as I am only a casual, I'll still go though .

Thank you, and congratulations on your pass BackAgain .

congrats nunnie and backagain!
Welcome balletmoo, make yourself at home!

Abfabt and lilmiss, so sorry to hear your news.

Glad everyone's scans have been going well

I have my MW appt tomorrow, 24weeks this week, can't believe it!

Right, seeing as we are all halfway now I thought it would be fun to get us all to put into words the last 20+ weeks. It is interesting to see how much we have all changed already, and we can laugh at our naiviety in another 20 weeks time!!

HALFWAY POST

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan?

1. What has been your worst point so far?

1. What do you wish someone had told you before?

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently?

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience?

1. What do you most look forward to, from now?

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be?

Happy reminiscing!! x

1. feeling the baby move and finding out it has a willy .
2. petrified, then relaxed.
3. Excessive wind!
4. About Excessive wind.
5. Enjoyed the first 12 weeks.
6. a nice quick birth like last one, but I would like a natural delivery of the placenta this time please!
7. First hold.
8. Happiness, Wind, sex .

HALFWAY POST

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

Beginning to feel movement - seeing it on the scan is lovely slightly surreal, it really connects me and bump when I feel her move, especially if I'm craving icecream, eat it and feel her whizzing around as its given her a cold bum

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan?

Relief, and then shock as reality hit! DH and I came out slight numb, we had been protecting our emotions, fearing the worst, so rather than ectasy it was happy relief!

1. What has been your worst point so far?

My moods, and the strain they are putting on our relationship.

1. What do you wish someone had told you before?

That everything was going to be ok, and that I had believed them, not gone "yeah, yeah, but statistically...."

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently?

Relaxed, learnt to control my incredibly short fused, short lived temper

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience?

"healthy mum, healthy baby" but also not the fear (and the shaking) when it didn't go to plan. I was to relax and feel in control this time more. Don't mind if its at home or hosp, I just want to feel in control.

1. What do you most look forward to, from now?

ds and bump interacting - I can't wait for 4-6mths old when they can start giggling together (before the real mischief starts!)

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be?

happy mad rollercoaster

wind, nunnie, I forgot to mention the wind! (How could I forget?!!)

I only wrote it as I was breaking wind as I wrote

lol at the breaking wind! glad it is not just me!

Sorry to hear your news too Abfab Thank you all for your condolences.

Great present Roo I am jealous!

HALFWAY QUESTIONS

1.The first scan when dh looked at the screen and said, "is that a baby?"

1. Absolute relief as baby was okay and had a heartbeat!

1. The tiredness and the extra pressure it has put on dh

1. The third one is more uncomfortable

1. Moved house and got sorted before we fell pregnant

1. That it is easy and baby comes out as perfect as the other two

1. Dh holding baby for the first time and looking at me with amazement

1. Tiring, stressful, uncomfortable (but soooo worth it!)

congrats nunnie and backagain

Hello!

Firstly to lilmissmummy and Abfabt sorry to hear you've had sad news today.

Congrats Nunnie and Passbackagain on passing exam and hooray it's nearly all over!

Hope I've remember to included all recent updates - bit like a test of your memory this isn't it?!

Well I guess you'll all be wanting to know how I got on at my scan today then?! Had lovely scanner lady who was very chatty and explained everything, and who didn't think my DH was too barking mad in his comments (he does tend to make daft comments) like "COOL! The baby looks like an alien from Predator!"

We did cave in and ask what sex the baby is. And have been told it's a blue flavoured one! So we were delighted by that news, as it means we now have 1 of each.

Conversation with DD aged 5yrs went like this...

Me: We found out the sex of the baby.
DD: I don't mind what it is.
Me: It's a boy!
DD: Hmmmm... I don't mind what it is!
Me: It's a boy darling!
DD: Well I don't mind what we have!
Me: Are you happy it's a boy?
DD: I don't mind Mummy, I'm happy I'm going to be a big sister!

Was very amusing and sweet. DH is of course over the moon and I have resigned myself to a life time of more trains and nerdy boylike pursuits that he will try and corrupt our son with. Still at least I can escape by going shopping with DD!

Had conversation with boss on return to work about when I would plan to take my mat leave and for how long. All starting to happen now isn't it? Yikes!

Oooh forgot to respond the halfway post questions! Here goes...

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

Feeling baby kick and seeing DD face when we told her she was going to be a big sister.

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan?

Anxious that all would be ok, then pure relief that baby was alive and kicking.

1. What has been your worst point so far?

Scare at 6 weeks when ended up in hospital in pain with suspected ectopic/miscarriage pregnancy

1. What do you wish someone had told you before?

Nowt - done it before wouldn't have told me anything new!

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently?

Don't think there is anything I would do differently - maybe worry less?!!!

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience?

That it won't be long and drawn out and that I have nice MW and not evil MW like I did last time who was horrid!

1. What do you most look forward to, from now?

Meeting my baby in person!

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be?

Rollarcoaster emotional thrilling!

Love the half way questions idea. My contribution??.

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

Without a doubt the day I found out I was pregnant. DH and I have gone through years of treatments, operations, and monthly heartache and it was all worth it when I saw those two lines! Overnight everything was better and I loved that I could stop injecting myself with daily hormones.

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan?

Total relief at our 7 week scan and slightly shocked that there was only one heartbeat after I had four good sized eggs!

1. What has been your worst point so far?

Going to A&E at 2am with pains, one of the scariest moments in my life.

1. What do you wish someone had told you before?

That boob leakage starts early.

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently?

Nothing I can think of, H is perfect, what more could I ask?

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience?

Roses and violins! No I just hope I can deliver Harry safely and I can stay in control, with minimal help. Just DH holding me and breathing together.

1. What do you most look forward to, from now?

Our first cuddle, all three of us together and getting my new family home and settled.

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be?

Exciting, emotional and fulfilling.

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

Feeling the first bubbly movements at around 12 weeks whilst I was in bed.

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan?

I think my exact thoughts were 'in your face! I was right!' when I found out we were having a boy.

1. What has been your worst point so far?

This last week with bleeding and SPD.

1. What do you wish someone had told you before?

That some people don't bloom and that I wasn't one of them.

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently?

I probably would have waited a bit before telling people.

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience?

A straight forward one with a baby and copius amounts of tea and toast at the end.

1. What do you most look forward to, from now?

Honestly, not being pregnant anymore and actually having my baby with me.

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be?

Stressful, freaky and fantastic!!

Oh and I'm sorry for your losses Lilmiss and Abfab I hope that you're both ok.

Congrats Bionic welcome to the blues!!

Morning all, lovely to read your answers to the HALFWAY POST so here are mine.

1. Hearing the baby's heartbeat, especially as I'd been in a right old panic after that rash.

1. 'Omigod please stop pressing on my bladddeerrrrrr!' Sorry but I did! Afterwards it all sunk in and I was just thrilled.

1. Bleeding at 9 weeks, I just remember being on the phone to the dr with tears streaming down my face, I was so calm and so sad and I knew there was nothing I could do either way, it was one of the most awful things I've ever experienced.

1. How brilliant being pregnant is!

1. Chilled out a bit more, rested more and felt less embarrassed about it, worried less (especially about other people's reactions)!!

1. To do it naturally, for Toby to be ok

1. Toby being born!!! At term please!

1. Amazing, affirming, a blessing.

Aw..nice to do that, good idea.
Got the pregnancy weeps sooo badly this week! I haven't had them up to now but now I've started I can't stop!

Morning, Aww poor you dilly having the pregnancy weeps. I tend to be bad in the early evening.

I have been thinking this morning, as my hips hurt and my feet are swollen that I think that I might try some sort of pregnancy exercise class yoga, pilates or water thing (preghead cant remember what it is called).

Is anyone else doing any of these? What would they suggest? Where do I find out about them? Also for the yoga/ pilates what do you wear?

Aquanatal!!!!!! (thats what I was thinking of)

I am a bit nervous about meeting people so I am not sure how I will get on but I think it might heko me to do something like this to keep my joints moving?!

Nunnie I am studying through the OU too which is great as so flexible, good luck with your assignments and exam which must be really close to your due date. I start my next course in November about a week after I am due. I realise how mad that sounds and I know I am being very optimistic about studying with a new born and a pre-schooler but if it is too much I can always defer.

Lilmiss I am doing aquanatal which is run by our midwifes, really enjoy it and I do feel like I have done exercise afterwards but also reassured that it is safe and I am unlikely to hurt myself or bump. I found out about it through midwife. At our sports centre they have a notice board with info on pregnancy yoga and relaxation classes too ? though unfortunately they are all on a Friday and I don?t think I could handle more than one activity in a day

My halfway answers:

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

telling DH we were pregnant again, it was really special as we had had a rough few months after a miscarriage

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan?

Relieved that the baby was OK and excited to be able to tell everyone at last

1. What has been your worst point so far?

just the tiredness and fainting

1. What do you wish someone had told you before?

how tiring it would be second time round

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently?

slowed down a bit more at work, took time off when I felt rough

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience?

less pain than last time! for it to be quick and if possible to avoid staying overnight in the hospital

1. What do you most look forward to, from now?

first hold and introducing DD to her little brother or sister

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be?

tiring, exciting and stressful

lilmiss I'm always going to recommend yoga as I love it! Just wear something comfy you can move around in (my yoga pants are the most comfy thing I have) and enjoy!

Also abfab just saw your post, don't know how I missed it. I'm so so sorry.

Thanks for the kind wishes. I didn't spend much time with him the last few years, but we did keep in touch. And we were in and out of each others' houses as children (we were neighbours), and it's so sad to think someone died so young.

Bionic, that sounds like a lovely conversation with your DD!

lilmiss, I am hoping to do Antenatal Yoga, though the place I want to go is currently full with a waiting list, but hopefully I'll get on next month. I do have an antenatal Yoga DVD I could use in the meantime, and I've done Yoga for years so should be ok. Just wear tracksuit bottoms or leggings and a vest/tshirt!

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

I think finding out in the first place. We just couldn't believe our luck!

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan? Initially nervous that I'd imagined it all and the test was wrong - I was so symptom-free (apart from the lack of periods!). But to see our baby on the screen, just awesome! And the look on DH's face. He is so lovely!

1. What has been your worst point so far?

The work-related stress (not directly pregnancy-related). Other than that, nothing.

1. What do you wish someone had told you before? Can't think of anything yet!

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently? Nothing.

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience? That it is painless, smooth, and baby comes out perfect and happy!

1. What do you most look forward to, from now? Having my own family, holding a baby that DH and I made, and just loving being a little family unit.

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be? Amazing, thrilling, blissful.

so sorry to hear your news abfab and littlemiss

congratulations on exam passes nunnie and backagain, I particularly admire you as I have given up my masters course partly having missed so much due to the hyperemesis, and then knowing I just didn't have the determination to keep it going when heavily pregnant, so well done both of you!

bionicear my DH pointed out that the baby looked evil at a certain angle while we were having our scan it was the only time the grumpy sonographer smiled!!

My halfway answers (good questions seashells):

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

without a doubt telling DH I was pregnant, we had been trying for 18 months (although for 6 months or so of that my periods had stopped due to work stress) and I had given up my job to get rid of the stress. It was such an amazing moment after all those months and seeing how happy he was too was fantastic

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan?

absolute relief and almost shock that everything was ok, it felt quite surreal. I think I hadn't dared hope everything would be ok. It took a while for me to believe it and for the delight to kick in.

1. What has been your worst point so far?

the hyperemesis, without a doubt.

1. What do you wish someone had told you before?

Just how horrendously ill you could be with morning sickness. And also about the fact your boobs could leak this early on, I had no idea!

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently?

Been a bit more positive that the 12 week scan would be ok.

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience?

Just that the baby will be fine.

1. What do you most look forward to, from now?

That first moment when me and DH will meet the baby

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be?

brilliant, overwhelming, emotional

abfab sorry to hear about your friend. It must have been a shock.
bionic congrats! Fabulous news. Your dh sounds like mine- he made comments about sproglet looking wierd and shocked the scanner! I know what he meant though- it did look strange in some of the pictures.

Ok so here's my attempts to summarise the last few months:

1. What has been your most special moment so far?

Seeing the heart beat for the first time on our second scan. I had tears running down my face to think there was a life inside.

1. What did you feel during (and after) that first scan?

The first scan only showed the pregnancy sac (I was all of 5 weeks)and revealed I had large fibroids. I was a bit anxious but excited, although I knew it was still too early to have any confidence in the pregnancy progressing ok.

1. What has been your worst point so far?

Having a fever, severe pains and unknown infection (they never did work out what was wrong) and being made to rest for a few days. Being exhausted.

1. What do you wish someone had told you before?

Nothing really- otherwise I might have been put off! Oh yes, to have been given better advice about booking mw appts by my gp. She got it utterly wrong and caused lots of tears.

1. What (if anything) do you wish you could have done differently?

Nothing

1. What do you hope for with your birth experience?

To avoid a c-section (depends as to whether the fibroids impede either the baby's exit or the muscle contraction). I definitely don't want an epidural- the thought of needles in my spine terrifies me more than the thought of the pain!

1. What do you most look forward to, from now?

Seeing sproglet face-to-face and being a family of 3!

1. If you could say in 3 words what your experience has been so far, what would those 3 words be?

exhaustion, excitement, expansion!

Hello all.
BackAgain, I was going to defer my exam as I am due 8 days after it, but decided against it as I need to finish in 6 years to get a qualifying degree and was a wee bit concerned that if I deferred it and failed, then I would be out of the 6years for a resit. Whereas if I fail in October I can resit in April. All my courses have been a feb start, so I work through the summer and have winter off . Good luck with your course, the OU you are very good so if you are struggling they can offer extra support.

I am in and almost out of the maternity clothes I had with DD, I appear to have a bigger bump at 21 weeks with this one, than I had full term with DD hope it's water .