October 2005 (#6)

[Joseyjo]

carry on ladies....

Hi all,

Just checking in! Got a really lazy week at work this week - in today, off tomorrow, in half day Wed for midwife appointment, on an away day Thursday, and in Friday.

Fingers crossed for me on Wed that Boo has moved.

Glad that you're all sounding well, though I am horrified at the idea of leaking the whole way through the mattress!!

Sleep bra purchase it is then - DP is likely to kill me if i trash our new mattress!

Considering my lack of sleep, i've been a very busy bee today, and done some more painting. Bab's room is now totally finished, except for the blackout blind going up (purchased some time ago, still waiting for DP to put it up!), so i'm off for a well-earnt soak in a bubble bath. Hope everyone's various scans/appointments went ok x

nursing sleep bras duly purchased, along with a couple of breastfeeding tops, as i'd rather not be whipping a boob out in front of all and sundry seeing as i'm going to have a house-full! Just when i think theres nothing more to buy, something else always crops up!

Hope everyones scans went okay. I haven't got mine for another 3 weeks yet! but I am one of the last ones due. If all is okay I suspect bump will hold out until November.

Think I might have to invest in a sleep bra after reading the last few posts, don't fancy the thought of waking up in a bath of milk .

The nesting instinct is well and truly overpowered by the knacked, much prefer to sit down and watch baby programs instinct

Nervousmum - hope you can sort out your MIL etc. Sounds abit of a mightmare.

Nervousmum: about your granny situation. I would really advise you to change this if at all possible. Bear in mind that by day 3 or 4 you are likely to spend all day in tears and to be honest you will unlikely be wearing ANY tops at all when you are getting to grips with breastfeeding. For most people, IT HURTS and the best thing you can do is not wear a top at all, so that you nipples get well aired and dry out in between feedings. The first couple of weeks are AWFUL for most people. Learning to breastfeed is likely to feel like the hardest thing you've ever done. I don't want to sounds all NEGATIVE but being realistic it's best to give yourself the best conditions possible to get to grips with your new baby and battered breasts and body and having ANYONE in the house apart from your DH - especially visitors who you are not 100% comfortable with - will be stress that you don't need.

Heck this is my second baby and I've asked for NO overnight visitors for the first SIX WEEKS!!

On the leaking front: I would really recommend putting a waterproof sheet under your bedsheets. You will leak loads and loads and your mattress will be knackered if you don't protect it. I used a waterproof sheet covered with two towels and I changed the towels and sheet pretty much every night! For about a year!!

morningpaper - yes, it is an NHS consultant, bless her.

Oh, and you and anybody else who has an excess of nesting instinct is very welcome to come round and tackle my place

Will the first couple of weeks really be that grim? Are you SURE I won't be blissfully happy because I'll have the best baby in the whole wide world?

Hester, if you can brace yourself, read some of the recent post-natal threads...

Here's a quote from Mioau in the August thread:

"Yesterday he slept from 5.30 to 9.30pm, then fed constantly until 3.30am!!"

Oooooooooh aren'tcha looking forward to THAT!

Your consultant sounds like a star!

I am now officially scared. Had scan yesterday and on the good side of things the placenta has moved up and I will not be needing a section.

On the scary side - JJ is officially measuring 37w4d - that either means that he will be here in 2 weeks time or I have to give birth to a very large baby!!!! I think I'd rather the first option. Can't believe it - have to get hospital bag packed asap.

The new date according to his measurements is 9th September - the day that my stairs and doors for the house are being delivered.

It's really wierd though - I know for a fact that all my dates are correct as we were ttc for so long. I'm putting it down to women having different gestation periods - and I'm one of the ones that grows them a bit quicker!!!!

Antenatel clinic tomorrow - we'll see what the midwife says. Glad I'm in work today to take my mind off thinking about the early arrival.

jovolett,

have they actually changed your due date then? is it not a bit late for that?!!!
my consultant said that your due date shouldn't change after the dating scan at 12 or 20 weeks and after that baby is just big or small for dates. i have been warned i am having a bloater and it measures consistently 3 or 4 weeks ahead of my dates but i have been told that size is not an indicator of development and that there is no higher chance of me delivering earlier because the baby is bigger.
if they have changed your dates by a month (can't remember when you were due) then that means they could induce you a max of 10 days after your new date, but that could still be nearly 3 weeks early.
apologies if you have already thought of all this and had it explained, but i don't think there are particular advantages to having the baby early just because it is big.

.... but then i am having a csection and don't have to worry about giving birth naturally to a toddler!!!!

Joseyjo - I'm getting worried about giving birth to a monster. My husband was 9lbs (which was big in those days) and his Dad was 12lbs 12lbs FFS I really hope that the smaller sized babies on my side of the family balance it all out.

I suppose that there isn't a damned thing I can do about it - other than worry!!

MB

I'm going to ask my midwife loads of questions tomorrow.

The sonographer said that according to the sizes and position, it's very likely it will be early rather than bigger. His head was almost inside the opening to come out. My midwife said this at my last visit so I was expecting that.

I think my safest option is just to get everything ready just in case then just sit it out til he's ready to come out. If he is gonna be a big baby then I doubt I'll be able to do anything but sit about in a few weeks time!

Jolovelett: Try not to worry about it - I was put under consultant care because my baby was measuring 4 weeks big for dates and was engaged six weeks before my official due date. She was a week late and only 7 1/2 lbs! So it's REALLY not very scientific at this stage and no one knows what's going to happen. Late dating is not very helpful tbh - I think it just worries people!

Thanks for the support you guys. I just wish i knew what to do re MIL. I don't know her well enough to tell her to just bugger off, yet i know that DP would never say anything as he doesn't want to upset her. I keep thinking "it'll all work out in the end", but i suspect i'm being naive, as i have no previous experience to draw on. Maybe once Junior's actually here, my killer primal instinct will kick in, but until then, i'll just keep trying to keep everyone happy (ergo probably making myself more stressed and miserable)

((hugs)) Nervousmum. Could you suggest to dh that it would be more upseting and stressful for you to have her there than it would be for her to be told not to come iyswim?? and that your needs should really take priority at this time.

I know it's alot easier to say than do. If I was in your position I'd probably just try and keep everyone else happy too (unless I got a surge of hormone induced confidence like I did with an annoying prat at work last week!!!!)

Had another midwife appointment today, everything is going fine, baby is head down but is back to back (or however they phrase it)but like she said plenty of time for him to move yet. Might all be irrelevant if the placenta hasn't moved though.

Sounds like theres going to be alot of big babies around!

Big babies are no harder to give birth to IMO. It is all down to the circumference of the head, length or body weight contribute very little to the birth experience. My niece was only 7lb but had a very difficult birth because she went all sideways at the last moment. She had ventuose and then emergency cs and this is when SIL has had to endure comments about childbearing hips since puberty.

Ds was nearly 10lb and his head would not fit into a hat marked 6-12 months. We had a really easy birth although I will never be the same again iykwim

Last time I had a scan, the measurements for the legs were above the lines, but the chart didnt say if the lines were 10% 50% and 90%, so I don't know if thats really long legs or what. Will ask midwife, but I am expecting a long baby. But, DH is nearly 6ft, I'm 5ft 8 so we kind of expected for our child to be tall (just not at birth!!)
Head measurements was on the 99th percentile mark, but has gone down now, so looks like one of the measurements was a bit on the eager side.

Going to see today what position my Boo is in. Fingers crossed...

Good luck Elf, I hope your little one's turned. I've still got a couple of weeks for mine to turn before I see the consultant on the 9th so hoping she will. I wasn't expecting a breech baby as this is my third preg and all others have been head down from the first check. Oh well! Anyway weather lousy so staying in today and tackling potty training with my dd. I've told her she gets a sweet for every wee/pooh she does on the potty but she's just sitting on it at the moment demanding sweets. Hopefully I'll have her in knickers before the end of the week. I really don't want to be buying two sets of nappies come October.

My ds gets his gcse results tomorrow so am looking forward to that (he's not!!)

I am starting to have really terrible trouble sleeping. I go to bed really tired but then heartburn/restless leg set in and I'm awake for ages. I'm always tired the next day. Also baby's movements really hurt this time which keeps me awake. I know it prepares you for the first months, but I was quite hoping to get some sleep now while I can. Also dh gets a bit fed up with my fidgeting and getting up in the night!!

Anyway hope everyone's feeling well today xx

Woah, quiet on here today!

Boo is still breech.

Midwife has said she'll see me in two weeks (when I'm 35 weeks) and then again at 37 weeks. If Boo is still breech, she'll send me to the hospital at 38 weeks for assessment.

Seems to be leaving it really late IMO - would the hospital say come back in a week for a C-section?? Or come back tomorrow?!!

I thought that most C-sections were scheduled for about 2 weeks before baby is due? Any info?

that's what I thought elf. That's why I've been booked to see the consultant at 36 weeks as I suppose I'll be making a decision then on c section or ECV if still breech. I thought elective c sections were carried out at 38 weeks, but I could be wrong! Hopefully someone else will know There's still time for baby to turn so hopefully yours will!

Had my abnormality scan today, and no problems detected (other than the club feet, of course). Soooo relieved. They offered me an amnio again, and again I turned it down. I reckon they can't do anything at this stage so I may as well wait and see.

Oh, and I am NOT carrying a monster baby as predicted by midwife - she is 4lb 5oz which is on the 65th centile. I'm tall, so think that sounds very reasonable.

Morningpaper - I am going to sing loudly and stick my fingers in my ears whenever I read your posts! You cannot scare me because I know my docile daughter will be sleep-trained by six days old and will only cry on very, very rare occasions. I will burn lavender oil and she will sleep through every night and nothing you say will convince me otherwise. Tra la la diddle da...

Glad to hear your scan went well Hester. lol at your lovely quiet baby. I am going to have one just the same.

It is very quiet on here. Hope everyone is okay.

ehm, hester can i borrow your fingers and can you teach me that song???? i want such a good baby too

just realised that i've got only 38 days more to go -
and we are still nowhere near finished with anything!!!
we still need to buy a new buggy - need a double now!
still need to finish ds' new room, then bubs room
and buy furniture for both ..

aaaarghh, should i start worrying????

Hester - glad your scan was ok.

I daren't look at those post natal threads. I've still got my rose tinted glasses on.

It looks as if my baby will be a little 'un, the opposite to some of you. Midwife measured bump as small for dates but I'm not really sure how much they can tell from this, so decided to ignore it and not worry. Anyway I expect I'd have been sent for a scan if there was any concern. My others have only been six pounders.

Bought a new bed for my ds2 today in the hope that he will be settled in his new room by the autumn. Rose tinted glasses again!

Take care everyone.