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The Continuing Adventures of the First Time Frolicker Graduates....

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Hermya321 · 01/05/2010 20:01

Right (plonks self down and breaks out the biscuit tin and tea bags), I've stuck the kettle on. Whose joining me?

ARRIVALS:

Fulhamgirl - EDD 30th May - DOB 9th Apr - Girl - Lily Ann - 4lb

CURRENT__GRADUATES:

Trying4Baby1 - BFP 21st Aug - 25th Apr - Girl
Kaystar - BFP 27th Aug - EDD?
Pepperonipizza - BFP 12th Sep - 24th May - Boy
Ladyemmalou83 - BFP 13th Oct - 23rd Jun - Girl - Erin Elizabeth
bluesnowfalcon - BFP 14th Oct - EDD?
DesperateHousewife21 - BFP 3rd Nov - EDD 18th Jul - Boy - Dylan
Spirael - BFP 7th Nov - EDD 25th Jul - Secret
Curlycasper - BFP 11th Nov - EDD 21st Jul - Girl
EmsieRo - BFP 16th Nov - EDD 20th Jul
vix206 - BFP 8th Dec - EDD 22nd Aug
HypotheticalMummy - BFP 9th Dec - EDD?
Ozziegirly - BFP 16th Dec - EDD 24th Aug
NovemberAli - BFP 24th Dec - EDD 2nd Sep
Eleanora - BFP 28th Dec - EDD 4th Sep
WhiteRoses - BFP 11th Jan - EDD 15th Sep - Boy
hamsterlover - BFP 11th Jan - EDD?
Hobnob - BFP 17th Jan - EDD 26th Sep
MadameG - BFP 17th Jan - EDD 16th Sep
pixiestix - BFP 18th Jan - EDD 24th Sep
ceebs05 - BFP 22nd Jan - EDD 29th Sep
addie81 - BFP 28th Jan - EDD 8th Oct
chancewouldbeafinething - BFP 1st Feb - EDD 11th Oct
WorrisomeHeart - BFP 29th Jan - EDD 12th Oct
Hermya321 - BFP 12th Feb - EDD 24th Oct
fudgecat - BFP 19th Feb ? EDD 28th Oct
Pidgin - BFP 27th Feb - EDD?
Honeymoo - BFP ? - EDD 1st Nov
YorkshireTeaDrinker - BFP 1st Mar - EDD 6th Nov
DrewsGirl - BFP 4th Mar - EDD?
bunnygirl80 - BFP 12th Mar - EDD 19th Nov
Mumnerves - BFP 1st Apr - EDD 8th Dec
Spanishlady - BFP 3rd Apr - EDD?
luckyseven - BFP 8th Apr - EDD 17th Dec
Capricorn76 - BFP 12th Apr - EDD 1st Jan
Homebound - BFP 30th Apr - EDD 8th Jan

FUTURE_GRADUATES:

aly323
Ariesgirl
Bellaby
calligraphy82
Calyx
CaveMum
chalky3
cher rycobbler
claireinthecommunity
Dinkytinky
evilgiraffe
FelicityFlick
haloflo
Kaloki
kkas
kurl yvoice
misshoohaa
MrsWajs
Muser
Papertiger
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seablue
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Wannamummy
Zippys

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saltyair · 19/06/2010 07:37

I've just read back - I am sorry to hear some of you have been having such an awful time.

I don't think it has sunk in yet - and it is still such early days I'm trying not to get too ahead of myself....I don't really know what to do in terms of contacting a Dr etc...do I need to yet? Jees..i'm 35 and I feel like I know nothing!!!

CaveMum · 19/06/2010 09:18

fudge just wanted to pop in and see how you are. I'm so sorry to hear your news. You and baby are in my thoughts and prayers, and as everyone else has said please do not blame yourself for a moment (((((hugs)))))

bunnygirl80 · 19/06/2010 10:05

fudge I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. I can't even begin to imagine how you and your DP must be feeling at the moment. Please don't blame yourself for any of this , you've done your best to look after this baby, and if this doesn't end well for it's not because you did anything wrong. You and your family are in my prayers.

chalky fingers crossed your bean keeps sticking

oneof8 so sorry to hear about your friend

salty congrats on your BFP and welcome to the grads. You seem to have joined us at an all time low on the thread - hopefully your BFP will the start of a run of good luck for us

ozzie glad your blood sugars seem to be pretty stable. Hopefully they'll stay that way for you

worrisome glad you had a great trip to NZ. Hope it wasn't too cold for you

mumnerves enjoy eating for two I think there's a very narrow window of opportunity between feeling sick and getting heartburn that we need to make the most of

hermya hope work's better for you next week. There are very few things that a monster size bar of chocolate cannot make better

I've started getting kicks that I can feel from the outside now. I'm hoping DH will feel some soon, but they only ever last for a few seconds and as soon as I put my hand there to feel LO stops. I think it's just being stubborn as usual and not wanting to cooperate with me. This bay defintely takes after its mother

bunnygirl80 · 19/06/2010 10:06

baby not bay!

felicityFlick · 19/06/2010 10:14

Just wanted to pop by and send my thoughts to fudge and chalky xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

pixiestix · 19/06/2010 15:46

This thread is heartbreaking at the moment

Fudge, you are doing so well in holding it all together and keeping strong for your baby. FWIW I would have responded in the same way, regarding the possibility of a termination. Where there is life there is hope, and I'm sure we will all be willing your LO on over the next few days and weeks.
The thought of splodge reaching for the needle is unbearable. I am just so so sad that you are going through this.

Hugs to everyone else going through a shitty time right now.

Hermya321 · 20/06/2010 01:40

I am having a bit of a time of it at the moment, work has been super stressful. I seem to have ended up with one of those weeks where nothing has gone right, people are unhappy with me and I think I'm on my final half of a straw at the moment.

I'm still trying to get my head together after scare last week and the whole SPD equals 'hobbling across car park like a loon' thing and I just really didn't need this week to happen at all. I spent the majoirty of yesterday hidden away trying not to panic too much and much of the latter half of today on the phone to DH with him trying to help me not to desend into the depths of misery.

My boss has been very understanding bless him, but I just kind of want work to stop for a while and be simple until I can sort of get my head round stuff. Unfortunately there isn't a big pause button outside my office and I suspect that a talk to my midwife regarding this will be in my future.

Basically, on top of the above I've been getting tight pains round the bottom of my tummy. It could be an SPD thing but they only seem to come in my moments of stressiness at work. One wonders.

On the upside my friend brought me a bar of chocolate at work. It was so lovely, I nearly cried (damn hormones).

Fudge I hope you're weekend is going ok, I'm still thinking of you.

Bunny Thats so cool, do you put your hand across your tummy and then to your surprise you get a well aimed poke. Thats been happening to me lately.

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bunnygirl80 · 20/06/2010 12:08

hermya sorry things are getting on top of you again. I think it's definitely worth talking to your midwife about it - maybe she can sign you off for some relaxation time. If you're starting to feel stressed and anxious again could you go back and see the counsellor that you saw before?

DH spent part of this evening with his hand on my tummy trying to feel kicks but LO must have been asleep. I seem to get lots of movement first thing in the morning and in the early evening. I'm sure I read somewhere that the baby will keep similar sleep/wakefulness cycles after birth to those it has in the womb, so hopefully this is a sign that my LO will be keeping sociable hours

pixiestix · 20/06/2010 17:14

Bunny - I read that as well, and wasn't very encouraged as my LO tends to go mad at 2300 and 0600 every day without fail! Mind you, if it actually sleeps for seven hours solid between those times I will probably be thinking myself to be very lucky come September!

Hermya - sorry you are feeling low. I agree with Bunny - see if you can get signed off, or if not, at least take a couple of "duvet days" to get yourself up to par. This time next year none of your colleagues will remember if you had a few days off, but they will remember if you had a complete breakdown in the office and ended up running around with an axe!

Saltyair huge congrats on your BFP! Its good to let your doctor know and get yourself booked in with a midwife, but don't be disheartened if they are completely uninterested until about 8-9 weeks. Lots of people on this thread were pretty much told to bugger off and come back a bit later! Have you started taking folic acid yet? Thats the really important bit at this stage of pg.

Ozzie - you sound like you are coping really well with the GD and your DH sounds like an absolute star for offering to do the diet with you! My DH is lovely but there is no way an offer like that would be made in our house! I will get my GD test within the next few weeks and I am quite worried about it, because, although I do try, my diet is generally rubbish (I am typing this with a 500g box of licquorice allsorts in my lap, for example!) At least if I fail it I will have you and Aly to turn to for advice!

Aly - hooray for Arpad! It sounds like your LO is thriving in there. Brilliant news!

Mumnerves - I am with you on the huuuuge bump! I had my first "Not long to go now, then" comment the other day and had to sheepishly confess to "only" being 26 weeks. I am going to be a complete space hopper by September!

Not much news from me. LO is wriggling around, and bashing me on both sides of the bump simultaneously so I guess it must be stretched sideways across my belly. I feel like one of those giant drums in a marching band. Its quite fun actually and a million times nicer than being punched in the cervix!
I'm off on holiday for a week tomorrow so won't get a chance to catch up, but I hope to come back to lots and lots of good news, and happy mummies

fudgecat · 20/06/2010 21:58

hi folks

im in hospital now woke up in the early hours of Saturday to discover i was losing a lot of blood. Phoned the on call MW who said get straight to hospital. Was in the observation area in delivery suite for a while next to ladys with new babys but they said they had to keep me there incase i needed to go to theatre\have a transfusion and they did say sorry that that was where i was. They seem sure that my waters have gone now but the bleeding has eased up a lot so they have moved me to another floor and i have my own room. Saw another doc this morning who said that its just a case of wait and see but that they expect i will go into labour at some point and that it is to early for any chance of a happy ending to all of this. I asked what would happen if i made it to 24 weeks and they said because Splodge is so tiny there would be nothing they could do. Splodge is still hanging on in there tho - heartbeat was listened to earlier this evening and was fine.

DP has been a rock and has gone home now to get some sleep

I have internet access now so will keep you posted.

Thank you so much for your kind messages of support.

mumnerves · 20/06/2010 22:31

fudgecat I'm so so sorry to hear your news
Keeping my fingers crossed for you and Splodge. At least you're being monitored and in hospital, hang in there little Splodge we're all rooting for you and your mum!

This thread is so sad at the moment, one after another!

Bellaby · 20/06/2010 23:01

fudgecat - my thoughts are with you xxx

Hermya321 · 20/06/2010 23:52

Oh Fudge I'm so sorry, I'm keeping you in my prayers. I hope you and DP are being looked after.

Pixie Bunny I have a few days off now and boss has put me onto days from now on and they're going to put me into a far easier dept from next week, so I'm hoping that this will give me the space I need to get back into the swing of things. Boss was lovely when I talked to him though. I just wanted to hug him (I didn't though).

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Ozziegirly · 21/06/2010 00:16

Fudge I am so sorry to hear your news. I really hope Splodge can keep hanging on. Take care and know that you are in a lot of people's thoughts and prayers.

WorrisomeHeart · 21/06/2010 05:25

fudge so sorry to hear the latest developments, hope you and splodge are doing ok. Surely the heartbeat has to be a positive sign?

OneOf8 · 21/06/2010 08:43

Fudge thinking of you xxx

Know it wont physically do much, but I hope you are finding some comfort in this thread and the knowledge we are all rooting for you and Splodge xxx

Thank you everyone for your messages. Needed to hide over the weekend from everything.

Chalky this sounds really promising x

I hope this isn't disrespectful to anyone having a shitty time of it, and apologise in advance if this comes across as poor timing.

After my bleed and scan at EPU we only received appt for consultant and 20 week scan. I questioned this with midwife as internet suggested that if you were dated after/around 10 weeks they do not need to "repeat" the dating scan- however although it was assumed at the time I was 9 weeks based on LMP, I was only measuring 6+6 weeks.

On Saturday we received a 12 week scan date for next week Monday. Very anxious as having hardly any "growing pains" I was experiencing in the first couple of weeks of knowing - which were pretty constant, and not really suffering with any of the normal complaints - however quite excited at the same time!

Hermya321 · 21/06/2010 18:40

Oneof8 Just to reassure you, I didn't get any growing pains between 8 - 12 weeks either, I wouldn't worry too much they aren't a constant thing. Mine aren't by any stretch of the imagination. You might start to feel a lot better in the next few weeks as well. Don't worry, it's around this time that the placenta takes over from your body making the hormones and for the majority of people their pregnancy symptons ease. Tis called blooming apparently.

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bunnygirl80 · 22/06/2010 04:26

fudge I'm still thinking of you. It seems like Splodge is really fighting - I'm keeping my fingers crossed that if there's any chance of a happy outcome it will happen for you.

hermya glad your boss is being so understanding.

oneof8 try not to worry too much about the lack of growing pains- I had lots in the first couple of weeks and then nothing until around 14 weeks when they got bad again.

I have my 19 week scan on Friday - I'm excited and anxious in equal measures at the moment. We're hoping to find out the sex but as long as we see a healthy baby in there I'll be happy.

fudgecat · 22/06/2010 07:18

morning all

Not much news from me - still in the hospital. Did not see a doctor yesterday but hopefully will see one today.

worrisome it is good that the heartbeat is still ok but they have said that because of the lack of fluid the baby wont be able to develop its lungs

hermya you take it easy at work ok. Any more caterpillas?

The food in this place is dire...

Anyway, thanks again for all your support - it means a lot to know you are thinking of us.

Take care
x

fudgecat · 22/06/2010 07:21

oh - there was a big hairy moth in the bathroom this morning, think i may keep it as a pet while im in here

luckyseven · 22/06/2010 08:25

fudge just popping in to say hello and let you know i am thinking about you. Hope today passes quickly and you get to see a doctor. Thanks again for posting updates. I read this post every day on my phone before i get up just to check in on how everyone is doing.

Spirael · 22/06/2010 11:11

Morning all! Been really busy over the weekend (parents visiting and various events) so not had a chance to post recently, sorry.

fudgecat I'm really sorry to hear what you and your family are going through. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that everything will work out ok! Far as I'm aware, amniotic fluid levels can build up again, and doctors can do amazing things now even with really premature babies. As long as there's a heartbeat, there's still hope.

As for the moth, if it's there for a while you should give it a name. And maybe a collar and leash so you could take it for walks around the ward!

So much to do today, so not had a chance to go back and read over everything everyone has said, sorry. Will try and catch up later if I get a chance!

Nothing particularly exciting happening for me at present. Got a doctor's appointment this afternoon to get the prescription for the pain relief drugs to keep at home for the birth, and I don't see the MW again until Friday so won't know until then whether or not Gadget has shifted into the right position.

I thought Gadget had moved, a few days ago, but now I'm not so sure. Maybe Gadget was engaged and then popped out again? Oh well, I'm sure the MW will be able to tell me on Friday!

Just a month today until my 'official' due date, according to the NHS. It's all getting scarily close now. Gadget is considered fully cooked in just eight days, after which they will not attempt to delay labour when it happens or consider Gadget premature. Eek!

If anyone wants me, I'll be hiding behind the sofa for the next few hours.

WhiteRoses · 22/06/2010 15:32

Hi everyone,

Hope you're all doing okay? I'm just having a quick catch up.

Hermya - did you get your changing bag? Which cot did you go for? I remember you wanted a white one like me, and I can't decide. REALLY don't know which mattress is best either... As for the SPD... It's really horrible being sore like that, isn't it? Have you been to see the physio? Mine helped a bit, though there was only so much she could do. Seeing her again tomorrow and hoping she'll have some amazing cure up her sleeve for me... If she does, I'll let you know what it is!

Worrisome - yay for DH feeling movement! Was he excited/emotional?

OneOf8 - I'm so sorry to hear about your friend... I agree, knowing doesn't make it any better. Just you make sure and don't be too strong though. You need to look after yourself as well as others, and take the time you need to grieve. x

Chalky - what brilliant news from you! Here's really hoping now. When's your scan? x

Fudge - how awful for you to be going through all this. You really MUSTN'T blame yourself though. Just think how much you want this baby, how much effort you put into creating him/her, the sacrifices you've made since being pregnant, doing all you can. You had the amnio based on the advice of professionals. Just think of all the silly women out there, drinking, smoking, maybe worse, getting knocked up by someone they barely know, continue drinking, smoking and taking all sorts of other risks throughout their pregnancies, and they're fine, purely through chance. You KNOW you've given your LO the best shot possible, and if anything happens, it's because life is unfair and you've had some really crap luck, no other reason. As for the termination, for what it's worth, I think you've done the right thing. If little Splodge is still willing to fight, I don't see what harm it can do to let him/her.

Hermya - sorry to hear that work's been getting on top of you again. Can you not get signed off by the GP for a couple of weeks? Seems to me like you could use a few "you" days. ???

Salty - not the best of welcomes to thread for you - sorry about that! About going to the doctor, I went straight away (figured it did no harm) and he referred me to the midwife, who I saw within a week. Still say the same - does no harm going along asap, but it's up to you. I know I went earlier than some others on here...

Bunny - brilliant news about the outside kicks! Have you tried watching your belly? Mine bounces about - it's so funny. (And that's with an anterior placenta.) You can even see little movements that don't feel especially strong - it's great! Like you, I read the same about babies' sleep/wake time patterns... I wonder how that works though? Surely the birth knocks everything out? It's not like they're going by how light it is outside or that, is it? Am I just being stupid?

Pixie - isn't your placenta anterior too? Cause maybe that's why you're getting kicks at the side... During my 4D scan, I was amazed to see that while LO was battering the front of my belly (where the placenta is), the strongest movements I could feel were either side. Just shows what a big cushion the placenta is!

Oh, Fudge, I'm so sorry to hear that things have taken a turn for the worse. How far from 24wks are you anyway? It's good that you have a private room - is DH able to stay with you a lot? Great having internet access too - must be keeping you sane! It's amazing that Splodge is still fighting away in there - what a baby!

Hermya - great news about your shift at work. x

OneOf8 - glad you're getting another scan. Try not to worry though. There really is no point - it won't do any good. About growing pains, everyone's different, but mine stopped round about scan-time too. I don't think you'd be normal if you weren't nervous but bear in mind that the odds are in your favour - I'm sure everything'll be fine, and this day next week, you'll be sorry your scan's behind you, and wishing you could see your LO wriggle about on that screen all over again! x

Oohh, Bunny - how exciting about your scan - love when people find out the sex! Are you planning on telling us? Have you any inkling at the moment?

Aww, Fudge - I totally sympathise with you over the boredom of it all... Can DH not bring in some "real" food for you? Or maybe your moth-friend could fly out and grab you something?! Hope you do get/have gotten to see the doctor today. Keep us posted. x

Spireal - wouldn't it be lovely if we had a little screen to peak in at our LOs and see exactly what they're up to, instead of trying to guess all the time?! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you for Friday! Gosh, you really ARE getting close! Not as close as LadyEmma though - she was due tomorrow - anyone heard from her? Then Desperate, you, Curly and EmsieRo'll all be really hot on her heels - someone'll need to set up a "Graduates & Their Babies" thread soon!

Right, now my news... I've been in hospital yet again... In the first trimester, I had the horrendous morning sickness (which has never gone, just gotten slightly better). In the second trimester, I got all the pelvic trouble (doubtful that that's improved at all really). Then, at the weekend, fresh into the third trimester, I woke up with blood everywhere, absolutely pouring out of me. MUCH heavier than the heaviest period I've ever had. So straight up to hospital, hooked up to a fetal heart monitor, and all with Baby was fine. Had tests, a scan (suppose that was the one upside of it all - lovely seeing Baby yawn, like "what's all this fuss about - have you nothing better to do with your time?!"), an internal examination (cringe!)... No cause found. Am now back home, resting, have had no fresh red blood for 24hrs now, and am feeling plenty of movement, so fingers crossed. It's weird. Everything appeared normal so it could have just been "one of those things", they reckon. Though very, very scary. Particularly brought home to me how scary when I saw it noted by a doctor not long after my admission that "baby [is/was] currently alive". Anyway, I shouldn't go on. All's well, and that's the main thing.

WhiteRoses · 22/06/2010 15:33

"Quick" catch up... Well that WAS my intention!

NovemberAli · 22/06/2010 16:27

So sorry to hear your news Fudge, really hoping for the best outcome for you, Splodge and Mr Fudge.You're in the best place for now, will be thinking about you over the days to come.

WhiteRoses - that sounds so scary! V glad to hear everything is okay with baby Roses - lets hope you have a nice boring pregnancy from now on, you certainly have been through it up till now!

I'm on the four week count down till my next scan and trying to convince my placenta it wants to move, otherwise my due date might get decided for me!

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