Due April 2006

[MrsQ]

Hello... Technically I'm due on 30 March, but the March list is already quite long and if DS was anything to go by, we'll be well into April by the time this shrimp makes an appearance (fingers crossed, touch wood, etc etc! - still at the early superstitious stage!!). Shall I start with some stats? I'm 34 (will be 35 just after birth), DH is 33. We've got one DS just turned 2.

Hope to have some thread partners soon, I'm v friendly, honest

FT40 - we've never used a monitor. Could always hear them when they needed me!! by the way, I like Seth

Pacinofan it's my scan on 5th December too and still can't decide whether to find out sex or not...

Hi all, how exciting so many of you have already found out the sex! I've got my 20-week scan on the 1st of December and can't wait!!!

I've actually had a dream which featured a boy's name and a girl's name for my baby, they were "Rebus" and "Juniper" Well, I quite like "Juniper", and DS has a very unusual name already so I feel we have to come up with something creative again this time, but "Rebus"? Is that even a name???

Re baby monitors, we've got a state-of-the-art one which works like a walkie-talkie, and I love it!! But then again, we live in a house with thick walls, and I really can't hear DS from his room if I'm on another floor. If you think you'll need one, then get a good one with a rechargeable battery, cause you can then sit in the garden while your baby is having a nap... very important for spring babies!

hi, i'm new here. i'm 22 and i'm due 27th April with my 2nd but i'll be having the baby around the 20th as i'm having a cs. i have a ds who is nearly 7 months (he was born 08/05) so this pg was a bit of surprise, but a happy one

i get my scan next friday and i'm exited about seeing bubba, but nervous as well. looking forward to chatting with you all

Hello Tongey and Tysmaw.

I would get a baby monitor as if you are paranoid like I was with ds (and I didn't think I would be!) it will save you running up and down the stair checking on baby.

I am still not feeling much movement at all, but when I had my scan he was thrashing around like a dervish! I didn't feel a thing, and I am now 21 weeks with my 2nd baby! Are any other 2nd-timers not feeling much? My midwife doesn't seem concerned at all.

just checking in - we are a quiet thread aren't we? Just posted on another thread complaining about my terrible sicknes which WON'T go away. Is anyone else still suffeing with it (am 21 weeks nearly).

Good luck for your scan tomorrow MrsEvs. Hope you get to find out the sex..??

Morning all, hope everyone ok and coping with winter weather. What is everyone doing about wrapping up? I am bursting out of my jackets and coats and need to buy something warm that fits my bump. Ideas anyone where to buy?

Mrs Evs - enjoy the scan! Is dh able to go too? I have mine next Monday, dh working so mum's coming instead. Can't wait, bit more relaxed now amnio behind us.

Allyco, sorry to hear about your sickness it must be really unpleasant for you. I sympathise, mine has passed but been replaced with indigestion (preferable to sickeness though)! Baby very active now and really feeling her kick, especially in the evenings. Am feeling huge and only half way through - will be the size of a whale by April!

morning, morning. Got to work late cos of snow, went through a blizzard on the motorway. Scary stuff.

I got a really nice warm woolly long cardi thing from Next on Saturday with a hood and big pockets and toggle fasteners. If I burst out of it I will be v upset. I refuse to buy "proper" maternity coats though on principle. The principle of course being they are too expensive.

My scan next Monday too, 2.30pm. Still don't know if I want to know the sex though...!

Big thick wooley jumper under normal coat so you can leave it undone. Will keep bump warm.

Luckily by the time we are all really huge, 1) it will be April and 2) we will be too fat to want to go out anyway!

It's a girl! Had the ultrasound today and all is well, saw 10 fingers and toes, a little yawn and all of that. It's so lovely to see them moving around in there . I would have been delighted either way, but I do think it will be nice for dd to have a little sister so close in age (although I can hear the fights over clothes/make-up/mirrors already !!). I have 2 sisters and a brother and although I am very close to my brother and we get on really well, it's not the same relationship that I have with the sisters, especially now we all have children. Plus I already have all the right stuff - hurrah!

The only downside is that we were much better at agreeing on boys names, we're really going to struggle on girls I think. We'll have to hit the books over the next few weeks and hammer it out!!

Welcome Tysmaw, blimey, I'll bet you were shocked, I think they call that "Irish Twins"!!! Lovely for them though - I have a friend with a sibling that close in age and they are like best friends and always have been.

Happy Birthday FT40. I bought the cheapest monitor (I think it was around 15 quid?) and it works perfectly well. I very rarely use it when I'm at home mind you as I can hear her fine, but I did use it in the summer when she was sleeping and I wanted to sit in the garden. I also use it when I go to my Mum's as she tends to have a house full and I can't always hear her so well above all the noise! I don't think they are an essential (our parents managed without) but nice to have in some circumstances.

Not sure what I'm going to do about a coat - I bought lots of stuggly maternity jumpers that I'm sure I'll be able to wear as not maternity also, so they should keep me warm. I do actually have a maternity coat from last time but it's a thin pink mac that I bought for under a tenner in a sale and isn't really warm enough. Old navy (which is like a cheaper Gap, owned by the same people, I think they have a few stores in the UK now) do some nice maternity ski coats and they are so cheap here I might get one - especially since this weekend it was minus 6 degrees here.

Colditz - one of the Mum's in my playgroup is 20 weeks with her 2nd and has still felt no movement whatsoever, but she's had her ultrasound and she was wriggling away in there, so I'm sure there is absolutely nothing to worry about. I have the opposite problem - this little one never stops! DH can even feel it from the outside and I actually saw one particularly large leap last night!

Homsa, I think Rebus is a cool name - and since Juniper is an important herb in making gin, that can only be a good thing too.

Allyco - sorry you are still feeling sick, how horrible for you. The only thing I can suggest is a glucose tablet every hour on the hour. Worked for me and lots of other people I know, so worth a try. DD has woken up and then been awake for an hour every night for the last 3 weeks, so I feel your pain! I'm pretty sure it's her molars bothering her (3 out of 4 have now come through, so hopefully the end is in sight!), but I'm knackered.

MrsEvs - another girl!! I love girls. That is FANTASTIC. But if it had been a boy that would be fantastic too! Will you let on about names or are you going to keep it a secret?

Welcome tysmaw - wow what an age gap and there's me thinking 19 months is a small one!

Well I haven't thrown up for a whole day now although still got that awful going to be sick feeling, and guess what? I am now worried because I'm NOT throwing up. I have just got so used to it that it seems strange not to be doing it...

how is everyone else doing?

Morning All,

Just a quickie cos I'm supposed to be getting us ready for Tumble Tots but couldn't resist while DS is occupying himself without my help for five mins!

Lovely to hear the results of the 2nd scans coming in, all feels so much closer. Have got mine tomorrow morning - we're taking DS with us so not sure how much we'll manage to see! How categorical can they be about a girl... I mean, how sure are they that they just haven't 'missed' something. Really looking forward to finding out sex - hope the baby obliges with a good position

hi all hope you are all ok, Colditz I have only just started feeling my baby move and then it is only occasionally

I sort of feel a bit torn now about finding out the sex I really want to know, but then I like surprises...

I would let on about names if we could agree on even one! I'm quite into the idea of Matilda at the moment and also Iris since dd 1 is Phoebe (one of the names for the greek god of the moon) and Iris is one of the names for the Greek god of the rainbow I think - so we could stick to the theme!! Don't know if DH will agree though!

Will let you know of we have any breakthroughs! I think we're both quite keen on Scarlett as a 2nd name which is a start I suppose!

morning, it's Wednesday, two more days at work the the weekend Yay!

Love Matilda, love Scarlett too!

Im like you tumblemum I just can't decide about finding out the sex, but I bet I crack and ask when the time comes.

MrsQ hope the scan goes well. I think when it's a girl there is a distinctive "hamburger" shape to the bits, if you see what I mean (at least that's what I was told at one of my scans).

Would anyone admit to being a bit disappointed if the sex turned out to be not what their heart had been set on? I feel I have to say it in case it happens to me and I can't tell anyone in RL ....

I'll admit it... I'm having another boy (80% likely anyway, and I'm sure they just say that to cover themselves) and I have to admit to a little pang when she told me. Its all ended up beign a bit of a stressful / emotional morning - DS was clearly not in the right mood for hanging around hosptials, DH not in the mood to pacify playing up son, I forgot to take my notes to the hospital, my bladder wasn't full enough and baby wasn't in right position so we had to go back. And then my nice quick shopping trip on my own for a change to try and find some maternity jeans and get measured for another bra (since I'm convinced all my existing ones are only adding to the indigestion!), ended up having DH and fidgety fiddling DS in tow. Need I say more about that?!?! And then all the jeans in Mothercare were horrid, either really pale (my legs are chunky enough as it is thanks!) or low waisted with great big jersey panel thing which would mean I can't wear any of my 'normal' t-shirts and tops without great big winnie the pooh stretch of jersied tum sticky out in the middle. All very sorry for myself all in all really. AND there's no chocolate in the house!

Sure I'll adjust to having another boy - until I actually got pregnant, that's what I said I wanted, to make a little gang of boys. Hey ho. Guess that's why I knew it was safer for me to find out now, at least I can get all these emotions out of the way now without them adding to the hormonal overload post-brith.

MrsQ - when you say 80% do you meant they were 80% this baby is a boy or that it was 80% chance you would have a boy anyway seeing as you already have two? (think I remember reading on another thread that if you already have two of the same sex you have a much much higher chance of having a third or more of that sex too, or that could just be old wives' tales crap .

My scan is Monday and right now I do want to find out but feel very very ashamed to say I do have my heart set on which sex I want and if it's the "wrong" one I'm scared I won't love the baby (now that is pathetic isn't it and I wouldn't dare tell anyone in RL but felt I had to get it out into the open.

oh and MrsQ, Next have great jeans without those horrible jersey panel things and I like how they come in different leg lengths too. I am head to foot in Next today and kid myself you could hardly tell I'm PG (yeah, right).

LOL allyco, when I read that about the "hamburger shape" I was about to get a pocket mirror out until I realised you meant the baby Well, I have my scan tomorrow and I admit that I'm hoping for a fast food appearance...

Sorry to hear you were a little bit disappointed MrsQ, I know I will be too if it's a boy, especially since there is still this autism worry hanging over us and boys are more likely to be affected - but like you say, better to get these feelings out of the way now!

Maternity trousers look sooo awful when you see them on hangers in a shop, don't they!!! I always think, no way will those fit me, I'm not THAT big! And then shock horror they do. I finally bought a pair of maternity trousers - found some good-looking ones in a shop in Germany while visiting my parents. Unfortunately, they keep sliding down my bum until the crotch is somewhere near my knees. I'm beginning to see what the point of dungarees is...

MrsEvs, if well call her Juniper her nickname will be "Ginny"

Homsa what time is your scan? I will be waiting with bated breath. I think you are v v honest for admitting you'll be a bit disappointed because I do think nearly everyone has a preference one way or the other and then if it goes against you... I keep asking DH what he would prefer and he keeps saying he doesn't mind, it doesn't matter as long as s/he is okay. I know that's right but I still think he must secretly want either a girl or a boy even if at the end of the day it's not the end of the workd iff he doesn't get his choice. Do you see what I mean.

The hamburger is apparently: the outer lips are the bread bun, and the inner lips are the burger itself. Sorry if TMI .

And what about maternity trousers. You're right you see them hanging up and think no way will they ever fit me they are way too big and then shock horror they do fit (or even worse they are a bit tight...)

It's at 10.20 in the morning, I'll keep you posted! I too believe that most people will have a preference even if they don't admit it, that is just normal. But I do realise it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things... I actually know two people, one of them a close friend, who were told at their 20-week scans that their babies weren't viable, and they chose to terminate the pregnancy. I'm thinking of that friend all the time at the moment, of course I felt terribly sorry for her at the time but even more so now, I can't begin to imagine what she went through

Moving swiftly on... I don't think your body image ever really catches up with the fact that you're pg, does it! The other day I tried on a (non-maternity) winter coat in my normal size and was genuinely shocked when it fitted about half way round my waist!!!

nice and early then. Mine isn't until 2.30pm on Monday. I know what you mean about it not mattering really whether is a boy or girl. I've had miscarriages and I wouldn't have cared a stuff at the time if "it" was a boy or girl as long as I could have kept "it". I'm not saying I don't have a preference though!!

I defo had preference with dd, I was so glad she was a girl, I don't think I would have actually been upset if she was a boy, but if someone had said it was up to me that's what I would have picked. This time I really didn't. I kept swinging from one to another thinking one of each would be lovely one day and then thinking I wanted sisters the next day!

I must be in the minority in maternity clothes, I quite like them!! I think they're really comfy and I like the panel ones too because they are so comfy over the bump and you don't get the pokey out tummy - much smoother lines! I wear whatever I can find that makes me look the most pregnant - I hate the thought of not looking pg when I am (looking pg when I'm not is a different story of course I hated still having to wear the maternity clothes after I'd had the baby for a while). I must just be mad.

By the way allyco, you've said you have a preference but not what it is - are you going to let on?

Congrats to all those who have found out the sex of their baby. It's so exciting! I'll admit it too, Allyco (although it's a hard thing to admit, even to myself). It's exactly the same with me as with Mrs. Q. I have always wanted a girl. DS was so beautiful and lovely that I felt for a while that I really didn't care if I had another boy or a girl but upon hearing at the scan yesterday that we're having another boy, I have to admit I had pangs, too. The pangs were not for what I have (I have a beautiful and healthy baby boy and I'm so happy and excited about that) but for what I don't have, if that makes sense.

DH and I always said we'd stop at two and I feel at the moment that it would be unfair to have another unless I'm happy to have a third boy. Even though those are my feelings, as soon as I found out, thoughts of a third did pop into my mind! Having said all that, the feelings aren't all that strong. they are just there.

We're starting to think about names now. I like the more traditional ones, Harry, Thomas, Elliot, George etc. We have a list of about 20! Reuben is nice, tooDH's favourite is Arthur but It's just not my thing so he keeps winding me up about it! I am coming round slightly to it but not much. He also suggested Ellwood because we already have Jake and the Blues brothers are called Jake and Ellwood!

Apart from that, everything looks fine except baby's growth was slightly too high so they're giving us another scan at 32 weeks. They said it was nothing much to worry about. Also, they found Ketones in my wee and asked me if I'd not been eating or had been sick. The strange thing is that I've been stuffing my face since I stopped feeling sick so I don't understand it! Ah well. Any excuse to eat even more .

Baby monitors - I couldn't do without mine but I know some who don't bother so much. I find it worth it but didn't use them for the first 4 or 5 months so you could always wait until later. Our house is quite small but we close DS's door so that the cat doesn't go in. Also, when we go to stay at other people's houses, it helps. MIL's house is huge and I wouldn't hear him crying from downstairs if he was in his room. I have friends who took the monitors to a small hotel and went downstairs to the bar to drink all night! I also found ours great for BBQs and being in the garden in the summer so batteries as well as plug in is good, as Homsa says.

well, I would say a boy this time but if it's a girl then great (at least I know what I'm doing with those now) I think really what it is is, if I'm honest, is that I want a boy for DH's sake!! The kids want a brother too and I am worried if it's not what they want they will not love it and won't love me for not giving them what they want IYSWIM.

I think so far we are fairly even split on who's having a girl and who a boy? and Homsa finds out very soon (if she hasn't already!!)

How's this - last night the baby got me up at 11.25pm, just after 1.00am and 4.30am. Then she was awake for the day at 6.00am. Then one of the others started coughing at 3.00am which went on for the rest of the night. Then the eldest puked up everywhere so is off school today.

I am at work now and knackered (wonder why!!)