DUE SEPTEMBER 2010: SECOND TRIMESTER ALREADY!

[Love2Dance]

Hellooooo? Anyone there? Night ZZZzzz.

Hi all! Scan tomorrow! Please tell me I'm normal! Don't get me wrong, I'm ridiculously excited about having another baby, and its health is all that matters but I'm dreading finding out the sex tomorrow! Or ever really! I always dreamt of having a boy and a girl. I'm really worried that I'll be disappointed if its another boy. I really don't want to feel like that cos I'm so lucky to be pregnant & ds is the most gorgeous baby in the whole world and I really really don't mind if it is another boy cos I daydream about how close my "boys" will be. Its just this stupid niggle at the back of my mind!!!!!

Sorry I'm waffling, really starting to stress about tomorrow then moving on Friday!
I'll go now!!!

Hi everyone, Monstermuncher is just checking in. I see that the September gang just keeps on growing and its fab to hear everyone's updates.

My bump is coming along nicely now - only at the halfway mark but its obvious I'm going to be the size of a small car by the time summer kicks in. The week got off to a bad start as I had an abcess in my tooth and was in horrible pain for a full 24 hours before I could get dental help (not being able to take anything stronger than paracetamol was pretty grim). Ended up having tooth taken out after much fretting re the anaesthetic but I couldn't do anything else.

Got my scan next week and am definitely going to find out the sex if I can. Excited but nervous as well as part of me still thinks something is going to go wrong.

Good luck to all those having scans/tests/dealing with delightful in-laws. Can you believe we are coming up to half way already?

Hello!

Would love to join, pregnancy is just starting to feel real now! First baby, due 22nd Sept. Because I work on a maternity unit ppl expect that I know lots, but feeling a little clueless at times! Had to ask what I couldn't eat in the early days - can say there were a few suprizes there!

Anyway, next scan is in early May and looking forward to it Lovely to hear all your stories so far, thank you for sharing!

I know what you mean bananastew I love my little boy and he's totally Mummy's boy which is great but I was gutted when I found out I was having a boy. This time around I feel like I don't mind, I know boys are great and another one would be lovely but as this is going to by my last I have a little niggle at the back of my mind that if it's not a girl I will feel I have missed out. Just keep thinking the baby is what it is and I will love it no matter what! My mum will be disappointed if we're having a boy though

Still have no bump at all!

20+1

Am starting to feel some definite movements which helps make the pregnancy feel real.
Got no bump as such but am overweight so will be a while before it pushes through.
Got the anatomy scan next week but have decided not to find out the sex. Is our last baby so would like this one to be a surprise.
19+3

Morning Ladies and welcome to all new posters. I am moving between getting on with daily life and work and total anxiety. Hit with a horrible cold on Tues which felt like flu (felt like I had a pair of marbles with spikes on in my throat and so achey I could hardly move - back was particularly bad). Then got paranoid about eating 2 small bits of cheese at a work dinner last Fri that I think were Taleggio (so probably off limits). Started to wonder if I had listeriosis. Silly I know...

Feeling much more human today which is just as well as I'm working "out" tomorrow, not at home. I do know what some of you mean about boys. I kind of liked the idea of a girl with first one (have more female friends and am quite a girly girl), but didn't really mind. now I have a boy and know what they're like, I really don't mind. A girl would be lovely, but another little boy would be too. For those of you who haven't had a boy, it might not be what you imagine. They are terribly affectionate (verging on clingy at times if like my DS) and straightforward to deal with. That is not to say little girls aren;t straightforward, but I wonder if little boys think in a more simple way in the early years.

I was always very wary of the traditional view that boys are better. My granny cheerfully says "I prefer little boys", suggesting that little girls are a bit underhand. Thanks granny, now I know why the boys were sometimes favoured when I was little. FWIW I think that's bo***ks. Hard as it may be for mums of little boys to hear, girls are often more advanced, more sophisitcated, more independent at a young age. They may not be quite so easy to (I hate to use this word) manipulate. But it's so unfair to attribute negative adult characteristics to a small child. Anyway, I digress. I hope that we'll all be happy with what we've got in September, whatever the rest of the family think.

18+1.

Comixminx - My DH was born with a small heart murmer - I only found out recently! I haven't mentioned this to my mw - do you think i need a fetal cardiac scan??

20+4

foxy - I don't know really, because I don't know if it makes any difference according to whether it's the mum or the dad who had the murmur. My GP put me on the list to get my heart scanned to check that it really was ok (which it was) and they also check the baby separately, but that's all I know. I'd certainly mention it to your MW or GP, but I don't know anything about whether it's a real risk or just something to tick off as a possibility.

20 + 5

Hi guys, just checking in! Had another scan today and all looks well - the smaller twin has caught up with the other one so both roughly same size now so that's one less thing to worry about! Asked the sonographer if she could tell the sexes yet and she couldn't get a very clear view. Said she couldn't see "anything definite" between the legs so could be 2 girls but not to rush out and buy anything pink just yet! I will be happy whatever (though definite preference for 2 girls this time, just for a change) but I really want to know for sure so I can start thinking properly about names!

Didn't think i was showing much yet - still more flab than bump but was asked by old man in town when I was due! So must be looking more preggers than I realised

Well! another little boy it is & I completely surprised myself by hardly feeling disappointed at all. When it came down to it I was listening closer to the fact that its heart was ok than what sex!

I'm so excited about 2 boys now.

Congratulations Bananastew. I bet it's lovely knowing what you're having. DH still convinved its a boy but I haven't even got a slight clue Decided defo not finding out, though its going to kills me. I'm rubbish with surprises!!!

congratulations Bananastew... two boys are lovely! Good to hear scan all went well

Bella great news re twins. How far are you now? I take it that wasnt your 20 week scan? Whens your next one...hopefully you can find out the sex then!

Foxy, it wouldnt hurt to mention the murmur to your MW, she will be able to tell you if it needs further assessing i guess.

Lovetodance, my experience with my two boys is a bit different to yours! Niether of mine have been over affectionate and are really boisterous and loud. Always needing to do go one better than the other, and noises... well.... they make all the noises at the loudest setting possible... dinosaurs, bears, lions, grunts, shouts, etc etc!! maybe its because they are not 'the first' child.. i don't know, or perhaps because there is only 11 months between them , i don't know... One of them is definitely slower on the uptake with regards potty training, talking, and generally grasping things, they other, (younger one) has almost overtaken him, in just about everything!
They are all just so different

Welcome to muswellmummy and AMMAG.... and a big hi to everyone else

Hello lovely mums to be! I'm new on here and can't seem to find anyone with the same due date! I can't believe it although there are some due around the same few days. My due date is 14th Sept and we have our 20 wk scan on the 27th April. Think we'll find out the sex but still a little unsure.
Anyone else having a pram dilemma yet? I know it's early but we have a HUGE dog who takes up the whole boot and I can't find one that looks as tho it would fold to fit in behind the passenger seat of a golf. x

Thanks ooosabeauta! I can't believe that there was a Bugaboo Cameleon on ebay in Leeds that went second hand for about £230. My husband stopped me buying it as his sister has offered us her old pram. It is almost 7 years old! I just can't bring myself to want it and the fact it's huge and inconvenient for us.
I'd never use a second hand car seat but would love a Bugaboo for it's ease of pushing. I could tie our horse like dog to it so he can pull it along!

Foxy, I had my fetal cardiac scan this morning and remembered to ask the Doctor about your general situation. She said that it depends on the kind of murmur that your DH has / had. Generally it's less likely to have an effect on the baby if it was the father who had the murmur but it can still be worth checking out. So probably best to a) get the details of his murmur and then b) talk to your MW / GP.

20 + 6

Comixminx - thank you for asking for me I had my 20 week scan today, all is well. I mentioned heart murmur and she said they'd only investigate further if it had required surgery. She seemed to have a good look at heart anyway, so hopefully all will be well.
I was trying to see what sex it was (even though I don't want to know for sure - weird, I know!!) Couldn't see anything definate, so thinking maybe another girl?? I don't know, change my mind every day!! x

20+5

hello, just found all you other september mums to be, and im soooooo excited, just want to fast forward time!!!!! im due on the 17th, and i havent had my scan yet, but i dont think i want to know the sex!

Foxy - glad your scan went well and also that you were able to ask about the murmur. Yes, they do have a fair old look at the heart with the anomaly scan which is good to know.

Hello ladies,

I feel ridiculous for writing this but need a bit of reassurance. This is my first pregnancy and I have been a bit hormonal the last two days. DH is away for the weekend and I am feeling really anxious about our bub. We had our 12 week scan 5 weeks ago and have another 4 weeks until our 20 week scan. I haven't felt the baby move at all, which I know isn't unusual at all for a first (or even subsequent pregnancy) as I am only 17 + 4. I can't help but start to worry that something might be wrong and we wouldn't know it. I know I am being ridiculous as there is absolutely no rational reason to worry but I seem to have left my rational brain lying around somewhere and I can't find it right now...and I certainly don't want to bug my very lovely and caring DH for something so irrational on his boys weekend.

Thanks.

Hi Running,

Don't feel ridiculous - I think this stage is the hardest for feeling anxious because it's normal not to feel movements yet and there's a long gap between scans. I'm 17+2 and still not feeling anything, even though it's not my first pg.

The fact that you're feeling hormonal is a good sign of pregnancy at least. I've been anxious because I've never felt this 'unpregnant' before whilst pregnant, IYSWIM, and went along to midwife appt. pretty sure I wasn't anymore, but then, lo and behold, when she did the doppler there was a lovely heartbeat. You could have knocked me over with a feather. I haven't been sick for a while and all the rest, which I was throughout with my ds, and so I couldn't believe it's still happening. It's a normal time to feel irrational and scared I think. I'm consoling myself with too much mumsnet time while my dh is on hols and spending lots of time with ds. Don't know if it's helping or not!

Do you have a midwife appt. where she could do a doppler to reassure you? Or if you're desperate, like I was a few weeks ago, could you book a private scan? I felt immeasurably better after mine at 14+6, so it was £55 well spent!

Sorry that's a bit of a ramble. I hope you feel better soon and can enjoy the weekend x

Reading that back I realise it sounds a bit negative, as though there's something to worry about. I should add that my midwife said that for most people 13 weeks is the threshold after which you can relax (as you know), but even in people with carrying issues like I've had, if you get to 16 weeks the odds are massively high that you will be fine from then on. I can't remember the percentage, but it is very unlikely apparently to go wrong from 16 weeks on, she said. HTH

Thanks oosabeauta. Not negative at all, just the way thngs are. I already had a private scan at 8 weeks as I couldn't wait till 12 weeks to see if I was really pregnant! I think DH will think I am a real nutter if I have one now!

My next midwife apmt is after the scan so that won't help :-( Oh well, I just need to get my head screwed on straight and not worry. Am starting antenatal yoga on Monday night for three months so I am sure that will be good for helping me to relax.

Thanks again.

RunningGuerita, I too am 17 weeks+2 and have felt no movement yet not even the flutters. I think when it is your first you're not as likely to feel anything too early on so we'll probably gets our kicks in the early 20's. I'm sure all is fine but totally understand how you are feeling. My only feeling of being pg is the discomfort and aching i feel around my belly every morning when i wake up which I'm putting down to round ligament pain. Our next scans will be here before we know it. Mine's on the 10th May, when is yours?

RunningGuerita, you are not being ridiculous at all.

1. It's completely normal to worry. I'm not suggesting you have anything to worry about, but our hormones are playing havoc and as well as feeling weepy at times, the anxiety can be high too (anyone else still having wierd, vivid dreams?).

1. Stage of pregnancy but also baby's possible position mean you may not feel anything for a while.

1. You will feel the flutter one day when you least expect it.

1. If you are still in need of reassurance during the week and can spare the cash, a private scan, whilst not strictly necessary, can help to settle the mind. It depends how much the anixiety is affecting you.

I hope you're not too stressed. It is very natural to feel like this.