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The PESH deli - where the goal is to get a nice holiday/back in the saddle

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skihorse · 12/02/2010 09:37

I haz made new fred.

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Cosmosis · 08/03/2010 17:36

wonder what faces she'll be able to pull while giving birth, what with all that botox.

iggypiggy · 08/03/2010 18:03

I shall go on mastermind and I shall talk about dog shit - it will happen

grumps sniggering at thought of monster - surely you has not grown that much since I saw you?!

cos she'll maintain a fixed grin throughout

Forgot to say hi to pandy - so hello!

VAG will report back on fat lady yoga. is currently T - 30 mins...

rollerbaby · 08/03/2010 18:31

Well hello ladies of the deli.

I am back from C&W consultant appointment numero uno. I like him very much. In no particular order:

Told me that having seen a heart beat was 95% likely to have this baby!! Best news ever.

he is very pro whatever I like pain relief wise, and was also pro ECS but said we have all the time in the world to decide which way things will go and not to worry.

He bumped the woman who was supposed to be before me and let me take her appointment! Ha! Suppose I wouldn;t be so happy if that were me.

Listened to all my questions and also weirdly had an answer for a very long standing problem I have had and said we could get it sorted.

Told me about his wife's births and daughters brownies!

generally an all round good guy and someone I would trust to look after me.

Also the Kensington Wing was v nice, clean and VERY quiet!!!

So Skater would highly recommend from a first impression anyway.

Feel very official now.

In other news nearly yakked this morning and had a cold bacon sandwich which actually worked.

Yay for your little boy Ski!!

Welcome to the thread Twitter am glad you have finally made the big leap!

givecarrotsachance · 08/03/2010 19:47

Fantastic news honey I remember getting that stat myself at 7 weeks, after a threatened MC. Amazing isn't it!

Hang around this thread too much though and we'll have you delivering your baybee with just you and your OH, in a field full of butterflies with lavender oil and homeopathy to relax you so you don't need DRUGS.

In all seriousness, your choice is entirely yours but ensure that you are completely up to speed with the pros and cons of pain relief. While the idea of giving birth without pain sounds great, actually we have yet to invent pain relief which doesn't have side effects - sometimes not a problem, sometimes leading to proper problems. Be aware of your options and make an informed decision.

There's no merit or martyrdom in pain as such. But there is merit in doing your best to ensure that both you and your baby are both physically and mentally healthy after the birth - contrary to what you'll get a lot of on MN, it's not all just about having a healthy baby - a healthy baby and a damaged mum (mentally or physically) is really bad news. Obviously. Pain relief which leads to forceps for instance could leave you with damage and in physical pain for months or more.

I have my personal opinions on what is right for me, however I have the added advantage of having already given birth without intervention or pain relief (other than a TENS which was fantastic). I am NOT telling you that you need to give birth without anything or that I am better than someone who chooses drugs. I happened to have a number of advantages. The main ones were my mum as a doula (retired midwife) through the whole labour, so I was always able to be relaxed and leave the decisions to someone else I trusted, and contractions which happened to be in the cycle of one strong, one weak, giving me the chance to recover. Despite my labour being back to back which usually leads to long and painful labours, my mum encouraged me to get into the right positions to get him turned properly. Being left in a hospital bed, not being able to move, strapped to an epidural and without someone with me all the time (as is typical in a hospital birth) he would never had turned and I'd have either been Em CS or forceps.

A friend of mine was determined to go for an El CS but in the end decided not to, and it all went wrong - it clearly showed that an absolute embargo on interventions is not the right thing to do. I'm just trying to say, don't be afraid to go drug-free, it really is ok, or at least keep your options open, and at the VERY least be totally informed on what different drugs will do to you and your baby and make a decision based on what you feel you're happy with.

After all, many women swear by epidurals and have had straightforward and relatively pain-free labours with them, with no subsequent problems... so who am I to say that's not the way to go.

givecarrotsachance · 08/03/2010 19:50

boy thing

Again, I'll say that I am DELIGHTED to be having a baby boy. Boys are gorgeous. And obviously I am relieved that he's safe and healthy. I'm also very lucky to have been able to conceive quickly.

My problem is that I feel I'd so much like to have a girl in my life and each boy reduces the chance of that ever happening. YOB has always said he wants no more, but hopefully I can change his mind! I think I'd really like 3!

I think a lot of it's hormones. I've been relatively lucky with them in general, and now they're being a PITA.

That's all.

Cosmosis · 08/03/2010 20:45

oooh 4mins left on my ebay bid for a lovely m&p cot, currently I'm winning at £26.

Cosmosis · 08/03/2010 20:50

sniped at the last minute, the bastards.

Cokie · 08/03/2010 21:14

can I come in? I am newly updiffed and I think I will be chucked out of Gin Palace so I need a new home. Can I come in, can I can I? I bring Booja Booja Chocs and a good does of paranoia and obsessed lunacy about pregnant state..

CUNextTuesday · 08/03/2010 21:41

Nobody ever gets chucked out of the Gin Palace - once in you can never leave mwoohahahahahaha etc.

Ponymum · 08/03/2010 22:09

Has the dog shit discussion finally finished? Is it safe to come out now?

cossy Comiserations over ebay bastardry.

Welcome cokie.

Could it be that this baby is kicking me in the cervix? I feel like I am having a reverse smear test 200 times a day. It is not a nice feeling!

As everyone is talking about sex of babies I feel I can no longer keep schtum. (But I preface this announcement by saying that I still don't accept 100% that we are having what they said, as I have heard lots of stories of surprise gender reversal on birth.)

So anyway, apparently we are having a boy. I did ask, 'How certain are you?' She said 'Well, you're either having a boy, or you're having a girl with a penis.' So just as I said, it's obviously not 100%.

CUNextTuesday · 08/03/2010 22:18

@ reverse smear - I'm having the self same thing as I type!!

CUNextTuesday · 08/03/2010 22:19

Does this mean then that I'm having a girl to balance things out??

Ponymum · 08/03/2010 22:37

cunty Of course. Because it's just that logical, dontcha know.

So if we can check out of the deli any time we like, but can never leave, does that make it the Hotel PESH-ifornia?

CUNextTuesday · 08/03/2010 22:48

I thought so

givecarrotsachance · 08/03/2010 23:20

Fantastic pony!!! LOL @ penis comment. I really need to scan my Friday scan photo. It's totally obscene (def not for FB viewing) and that's without it intending to be a photo of willies as ski specifically asked for from her sonographer.

YOB and I had "a good chat" tonight. Told him I have been feeling resentful that he's said no more after this, even though I am not ready to give up on the girl thing yet. Anyway, during chat he said that he can't commit to anything but actually what he meant was, he really wants to get through the next year without thinking about it and go from there. So not closed off entirely which of course immediately made me feel panicky about the idea of number 3, and I am happy to stick with two, and all is fine.

Which all goes to prove that a) I'm not quite in a Vulcan state of mind and b) my hormones are going mad.

All in all feeling mucho happy about everything now, and back to really excited about little boy! Just got to persuade YOB into name. Who is going first on the name front then? Obviously Englebert is on my list (well why wouldn't it be?).

inverted smear oooh I remember that. Not quite there yet - a few more weeks I guess.

cokie congrats and welcome!!

VAG nice to see you briefly!

iggs ignore Pony. If you want to talk dog poo, I'm listening.

ski thanks for t'other place support stuff. Made me feel much better actually.

cunty hope you're ok tonight. It is shit, and nothing can be said. But it doesn't stop us thinking about you. I hope that the rest of your family is bearing up ok.

skihorse · 09/03/2010 01:53

rots Baby names? Well Julian was doing quite the "Rodin" yesterday so that's a possibility. Although I was thinking Miles due to the whole jazz-hands thing.

ponymum Yay for a boy! As for the sex-reversal (no, not what rots is going to do) - jailbait's mum is absolutely not buying this whole "it's got a winky" shtick because scans can't tell you much apparently. I think once she sees the DVD she'll come around. I mean ffs if they can see a vein 1mm thick going through the brain they can find a winky. THREE times on the DVD she said "aaah, dare is der penis again" haha.

cunty I haz had feeling you are having a girl - I decided yesterday morning actually. So far we have a 100% correct call rate on the PESH baybees so I'm sticking my head above the parapet to say cunty-girl.

Support for rots was basically that I told her if she can't come to terms with the whole winky thing then she need look no further than Lauren Haries for inspiration, what could possibly go wrong?

pony As for early check-out, we've not heard from cheggers for a while and I thought she'd be on maternity leave by now...

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givecarrotsachance · 09/03/2010 07:58

Interestingly, my mum's next doors neighbour's daughter in law ('s dog's sister's best friend's pony's rider - ok exaggeration but it sounded like it was going that way) had a scan at 38 weeks (dunno why) and was reliably informed it was a girl. Poor little lad went home from hospital 2 weeks later dressed in pink frills.

BUT as ski and pony says, it's fairly clear to me that if we're having a girl, it's a girl with testicles and a willy...

GrumpyGasper · 09/03/2010 08:33

yeay for a boy pony.
Hope you do even the score cunts (picturing these PESH children being raised together for some reason and hoping my girl does not become the spoilt for choice slut among all these boys

On the name front, I think we have agreed a first name, which is a family name and very far from what I originally thought I wanted. But I would prefer to have a few for when she is born. I don't think you can really decide till you see them. However, SFF only really likes one of the three first names on our list, so it's been agreed that if we stick with that, I get to choose the middle name and can make it Celtic/Gaelic if I want. who knows what changes the next few months with bring. (tho he has started calling baby by the agreed name, despite my protests)

cos sorry the cot got snaffled. Ebay - the casino for differs

piggy i didn't think I was that big, but the gasps and stares were convincing me otherwise...

Welcome and congrats to the newbs

Cosmosis · 09/03/2010 09:12

it happened to a friend of mine, she was told she was having a girl. He's deffo a boy.

so I must be also having a girl to even it out some more, no?

Hello cokiedokie and congrats!

skihorse · 09/03/2010 09:20

Cossie I haven't received any cosmic messages yet wrt the sex of your baybee. I think artichokes cross-pollinate but I need to google it...

I can understand a girl having a surprise winky come the day, but if it's not a winky I've got in my tummy - what the hell is wrong with this little girl's clitoris? Speaking of which, sonographer pointed something out to us and said "do you know what this is?" - we both wanted to scream WINKY but at the same time you daren't... just in case she says "no, it's a vagina" and you're forever branded a sex-dunce.

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iggypiggy · 09/03/2010 09:28

pone we could talk horse shit if you like

cunty has to haz a girl - can't let poor babygaspy be the deli slut

I am reporting back on yoga - which was good - but far harder than imagined... no lying down and lots of holding positions... really quite alot more effort than expected

Yoga teacher was stereotypical - which is always pleasing

Cosmosis · 09/03/2010 09:29

No lying down?? I was only planning on going for a rest!

skihorse · 09/03/2010 09:38

haha iggy My yoga teacher was a very fey late-20s man who had all the blue-rinse brigade in a froth... totally barking up the wrong tree of course. He probably finished up his night with a glass of green tea and a wank re-alignment of his chakras.

Sorry cokie, I kept missing you. Hello and welcome.

Cossie I've got you down for a boy I'm afraid.

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skihorse · 09/03/2010 09:41

Btw... if curly's daughter is going to be the PESH-village bike do I have to be the first to make the genetic link?

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GrumpyGasper · 09/03/2010 09:52

Fanks ski! iggy your yoga sounds much more strenous than mine! I'm off tonight for another chillout sesh

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