June-ior middleweights - fighting on through the second trimester (Due June 2010)

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Here we go ladies - I'll C&P the stats in a tick. Don't forget to add the gender on if you find out at your scan

monkeymargot Have a fab holiday I think moving back to the Midlands sounds like a good idea,especially if its beneficial financially too.

Oh Gizmo you do make me laugh,you should have your own column!

I've just got back from aquanatal,i really love it,but it took maximum effort to haul myself off the sofa to go tonight,felt invigorated after though,but now just knackered,and undone any good by sinking half a pack of jammie dodgers into my tea just now

CSWS i share your concern about Gina i really hope everything is ok.

I've been wondering about Gina too. She saw GP yesterday and was supposed to be going to the hospital today to get checked out (she had another thread about it). Hope all was ok at the hospital Gina

I'm also concerned I seem to have missed out on chocolate cake day, although I have managed to make a big dent on a bar of dairy milk today

oops, getting my days mixed up - gina was supposed to be seen at the hospital yesterday. Really hope everything's ok.

Evening all, hope everyone has had a good day. It was my non working day today so I was at home with both my DS's. They both woke up in grotty moods (they had the SF Jab on Sat and I think it's the side effects of that) so the morning was a nightmare. It took me well over half an hour to get them out the house! I was knackered before I had even gone anywhere.
Had a good afternoon though, it was DS1's 3rd birthday so we met Daddy for lunch then I took the boys to the "Steam" museum which they really enjoyed.
They were both in grotty moods again in the evening and DS1 didn't settle till 10.20 which is really unlike him.
Gizmo No I'm not good at feeling like this so yes it probably does add to the stress. Re the micro managing the Nanny and Fiance, it's silly things that I can usually let slide but during pregnancy appear 1000 magnified. Stupid thing like Nanny asking where wellies and waterproofs are- "in the cupboard with the shoes where they have been since you started working with us"
Fiance: Where's the Coffee? Me " I don't know I don't drink coffee, have you finshed it all?" I get the reply yes, but haven't you brought any more? Me "No, if you haven't written it on the chalk board, how am I supposed to know, I don't drink the stuff and an not a mind reader" (rant over)
I just have to keep in mind I will be finishing mid may and I will be in charge of home life again and feel more in control- but I will be getting in a Mothers help until the bub arrives.
I actually work in an office in my fulltime job so can't really escape.
Filly love the sound of the new thread
Bobolana Have resorted to copious ammounts of chocolate today and am now just supping a small glass of red! I'm actually off out for a Pizza with a friend tomorrow and then out with DF and friends on Friday. I never go out anymore now two nights in one week!
Sorry that's a rather long post , feel more in control today

Morning all.

I am having one of those days (already), I've been awake since 3am and feel like I have got the weight of the world on my shoulders. I tend to do a lot of thinking in the middle of the night.

Something that has really upset me is a comment my brother made about me on Facebook. He had put something on his status about the situation in Haiti, along the lines of take a look at the situation and think yourself lucky. I made a comment like 'wouldn't it be nice if our government could suddenly stump up cash for those who really need it in our own country too'. Now he has compared me to the BNP party. I wasn't being derogatory about the situation in Haiti, I was having a dig at our Government. He has really upset me with his comments as I in no way support the policies of the BNP party.

Oh anyway I was just having a rant and being silly. Like I said it's one of those (tired) days!

Hope all is well with everyone else and that Gina is ok? Don't know what is wrong with her as I didn't read her thread but sending her warm wishes.

hi ladies

seems like we are a hormonal bunch at the moment! Just wanted to let you all know I have just had my scan, baby is looking perfect and is.....a girl!!!!!

Let the pink shopping commence!....

Congratulations chestnut on your baby girl. Have you thought of any names?

Monkeymargot - have a great trip, hope your DD is ok

Wheredidmyfeetgo - you almost managed to make me feel better about having to work on my 'at home' day yesterday! Except it was a nightmare work day...had to get my MIL over to put kids to bed as even though I had got home I was still on calls. Finally finished at 8.30 and had to go straight to Tesco to buy the makings of DD's birthday cake...which of course there was no time to actually bake last night so will have to be squeezed into this evening....aargh...! I know what you mean about no escape!!

LittleRobbo - well done on making it to class. Remember, its not about calorie burning, its about keeping moving and mobile...so the biscuits are ok I must start doing something soon...

mampam...and breathe....I'm sure your brother didn't mean to upset you so much - that can be the trouble with communicating via fb! Let it go...

madamefreckle - I had convinced myself that dc2 would be allowed to stay longer (at least 6 weeks!) than ds (4 weeks). In the end we booted her out about 3.5 weeks ...but it has to be what works for you and I try not to get too fixated about 'having' to do anything (bfing, sleeping etc etc) in an effort to avoid setting myself up for failure. But dd (dc2) was soooo much easier than ds, not because she was an easier baby (she wasn't!) but because I was so much more relaxed...just not in the middle of the night when she was next to my bed !

Gizmo - glad to see you haven't lost your sense of humour...am still giggling at the image of you sleeping with your legs bound together with a pair of tights

Playftse - hope today has gone better with dh?

Oh dear Wheredidmyfeetgo, that's not you micromanaging, that's people being a bit crap. I get this a fair amount at work: people asking me when something is/where something is when all they have to do is look in the f8cking diary, do they think I have psychic powers/a photographic memory/a wierd compulsion to priotise their idle questions over my deadlines?

My solution? Stamp hard on any instinct to be helpful and (tactfully) point out to them how to help themselves. 'Where are the boots?' 'I'm not sure, I'm afraid' - said over shoulder as you walk away. 'Is there any more coffee?' 'I don't know, but if there isn't, could you buy some more?'. I'm not saying this is an instantaneous cure but after a few weeks it does seem to have an effect. It's a matter of training people to think before they ask, if it can be done .

gizmo Thanks your post made me laugh, I will start to use those tips right away!

Filly Your day sounds like one of mine, but I feel like I am on call for home when I'm at work???
I shall be baking this evening too, DS1 is having his 3rd birthday party on Sunday. I shall do it with a smile on my face knowing I'm not the only one

Mampam Poor you having a rubbish start to the day, try and put what your Brother said out of your mind. Family!

Chestnut Congratulations on team pink! I'm trying to work out if I have a preference this time round and if we should find out like we did with both the others.

Ah yes, wheredidmyfeetgo, the on-call thing works both ways (having just got off the phone from nanny who wanted to discuss dcs dinner plans...)

Gizmo - some time ago I chaired a team running the 'families' stuff for a small festival (the whole thing was run by volunteers like me). The best advice I got was to enable the participants to solve their own problems...eg "there's no toilet paper in the loos" "I think you'll find some in the office - and please make sure you get enough for all the other ones at the same time!"...all said with a nice and no element of 'of course I'll hold your hand and do it all for you'. Empowering people to help themselves is the official description

monkeymargot I agree that moving to the Midlands sounds like a great idea, I know it would be hell inconvenient to make the move but it sounds like it makes perfect sense in the long run. I live 5-10 mins away from my parents and sister and it's so great to think my DC will grow up having them as a big part of their lives and having cousins that he/she can be close to.

playftse How irritating and yet typical that dh's return has been a bit of a let down. Gizmo is spot on, it's exactly like that whenever DH goes away too. Does your DH spend a lot of time away? Enjoy your meal tomorrow night .

TMI alert but I am traumatised so please bear with me... the other day I was watching TV and holding in a wee until my programme finished and I think the baby might have been crushing my bladder a bit. A sneeze came out of nowhere and a bit of wee came out for the first time ever . I had been doing my pelvic floor exercises semi-regularly but have now gone into overdrive as I'm scared this might become a regular thing and I haven't even had a baby yet! I have been talking about going to pg yoga for weeks now and this has convinced me that this needs to happen urgently. Is this normal or what?

Can we make it 'June-ior middleweights Official Chocolate Cake Day' today please? I missed out yesterday and could murder a wedge slice .

Gosh - quite a few of us baking at the moment... it is my DS1's 3rd birthday party on Saturday, so I had to get the ingredients in to make start today. I'm really not good at baking - so any tips on recipes would be most welcome.
filly and "wheredidmyfeetgo* does this mean you will also have 3 under 4, come June?

chestnut so pleased that the scan went well and you can now start shopping for pink things

mampam just put the facebook incident out of your mind. I'm sure your brother was just trying to be funny and didn't mean to offend you. Don't fret - I hope you have a good day today.

Our landlord is selling our place and our lease ends in May, so we have been looking for another rental. Have found a perfect one in the same building, and we can move in March so that we are settled in time for the baby, but this landlord is also looking to sell. We'll be safe for our 12mth contract, but it does mean he'll be showing people around, and I find it so stressful having the place presentable for these viewings. I was awake last night thinking about it... but have decided to let it fly and stop fretting about these things...

Has just started snowing again here (New York)...ugh...

meggymegs I have been borderline Tenna Lady for quite a while now so i no exactly how you feel! Just keep up with those pelvic floor exercises and you'll be fine

Chestnut yay many congrats to you,my pink drawer is half full already

Could we possibly have a chocolate cake day once a week? Saaay,every Thursday.......

Congrats chestnut on your baby girl.

im not a big baker so i cant imagine even trying in my state(still suffering mild MS when i can smell food cooking) to bake..but good luck to those baking this weekend for the b'day parties.
my ds will be 4 in april when im around the 30/31 week mark ive no idea how ill cope with entertaining the GP's.
we usually have a family only party with only a few kids that are related even then i usually have to escape for a few mins and hide when i have a full house.
This time i think i will be hiding from the whole thing and have a small tea party with just dh and ds's

My poor ds3 isnt himself today keeps crying when he goes to toilet think he has an infection hate to see him hurting esp when he doesnt want mummy looking

dimb - hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if you have a 12 month rental contract then the landlord can actually chuck you out with 2 months notice at any point. If you have a 6 month contract then he can't.

I will have 3 under 4.5 dimb!

Back later - got animal noises to make for ds!

Dinosaur A friend of mine is in the exact same situation as you. Her landlord is selling the house she lives in so desperately needs to find somewhere else to live before her baby is born. She's due in June.

LittleRobbo I've been considering Tenna Lady lately. Even before this pregnancy I was wearing panty liners everyday but since being pg it's horrendous. And I find it quite embarrassing as DH does the washing and obviously see my knickers . Consultant did say that if I give birth naturally this problem will get worse.

Dinosaur Yes that will make 3 under 4 me come June. There is just 14 months between DS1 and DS2, I look back now and think "what was I thinking" and "how did I cope" Fingers crossed this time will be easier as DS's will be 3.5 and 2.3. Surely that's got to be easier than 14 month and newborn.
Also v jealous of the snow and being in New York!
Littlerobbo Hmmm I was thinking cake day every day
MrsDmamme Poor you still suffering with MS. I hope DS3 gets better soon
Meggymegmegs Pelvic floor exercises? What are those I never really did mine properly, but things seem to be OK. However I have felt close when I have sneezed this time round.

Ah Meggymeg what can I say? Welcome to the wonderful world of motherhood. The chances are good that it won't be a big problem but yes, unfortunately you're likely to need some form of knicker reinforcement for a while if you want to feel 'confident' as the adverts coyly put it. Keep doing your pelvic floor exercises and you should find that things will gradually return to normal over the months after the baby returns.

Mampam I'm sorry to hear about your brother - I would be very hurt by that sort of response too. Maybe talking face to face might clear the air a bit?

LOL at all the talk about chocolate cake: strikes me there is a good balance between creation and consumption on this thread. Now if only we could organise some sort of exchange I think that would truly be 'empowering people to help themselves (to the cake)' Filly.

I'm debating whether to join in the cake-fest: DS1 is having a cinema party, followed by a trip to Pizza Express on Saturday. I could bake a cake to take in and they'll put candles on it for pudding. However, I have already done one birthday cake this week for our small family party on Tuesday. It's half eaten and I'm not keen to add another half eaten cake to the labour pile. Shall I just buy one? Or is that a heresy against the cause of motherhood?

wheredidmyfeetgo OK, 3 under 4? look of wary respect that's some organisational skills you've got there, lady.

I'm facing 3 under 9 and that feels like more than enough!

thanks wheredidmyfeetgo

i should have typed DS who is 3. im only pg with DC3 waiting til delivery day to find out if it will indeed be a DS3 OR DD1.

Hope he does get better as im sort of housebound with SPD and stupid lingering MS, cant bear the smell of eggs at all and its the only thing ds wants to eat for lunch

DIMB I think wheredidmyfeetgo wins the 'crazee lady having lots of babies in short time' award on this thread, but only just.

Closely followed by whenwillisleep with 3 under 4.5 and with me in 3rd place with (hopefully) 3 under 5 but only for about 2 months until ds' birthday mid-august. Phew! 3 under 5 sounds so much more manageable...

Gizmo, cake freezes dontcha know? Might be too late for the first one, depending on how long its been out for but I would bake another and just chuck the leftovers straight into the freezer afterwards. Although of course store bought cakes are fine...(except I'm too 'nigella-y' to do that, but its my own ishoo and dh takes the piss....)

I like the idea of trading baking against consumption...I would always rather bake than eat the stuff On Saturday I will be making chocolate chip cookies, strudel biscuits, mini chocolate cupcakes and mini fruit scones with the dcs, then icing the choc cake once the kids are in bed....anyone want to come over?! I've decided to make a teddy bear cake for dd's birthday this year...in theory it should be less complicated than the last 2 i have made for ds but I'm beginning to worry slightly...

Gizmo I am organised and that's why I find the Nanny and Df so frustrating all the bloody at times! I am a project manager btw!
If I were you I would make life easy on myself- buy the cake, you have already made one! We had shop cake yesterday and am making one for the party- however I'm now wishing I had done it the other way round- doh!

MrsDmammee Sorry, I may well have read that wrong. It sounds like we are in the same boat I have two DS's and we don't yet know what DC3 is, our scan is on the 12th. Have/ are you going to find out?

wheredidmyfeetgo we are leaving it as a surprise this time. DH needed to know last time, and left the decision to me this time.

we have had a rough few weeks with my MS and SPD and bleeding on and off and low lying placenta we both realise having a healthy baby handed to us is all that matters now.

MIL is dying to know and asks everytime we see her are we finding out even though she has heard the NO!!! answer for well over 18 weeks now lol. even when i told her id need extra scans to check placenta site she asked "oh could you find out what baby is then?"

i think the only reason she needs to know is bcos she has 4 DGS( #4 was born this week) and is awaiting a girl to go overboard on the pink and frilly stuff.

'cake freezes dontcha know' ROFL

Am vastly impressed by your baking Filly and other bakers. I have baking envy as my oven is a pig. It's fan assissted. I've never had one before this one so I don't know if it is due to its being fan assissted but it seems to heat to a different temperature every time I put it on (and I did a lot of dry runs for DD's birthday cake - a failure in the end). I'd love to make a cake.