Due Jan 2010 - the final countdown and singing Auld Lang Syne to our bumps

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Last thread nearly full - so here goes - our last hurdle....

congrats Claire - lovely name as well. Hope she and you are doing well.

Wondering about how lottie is doing - guessing she has had the girls by now

and alibobins and Jacob - hope he is through the worst of it now and starting to pick up

Things ok baby wise here - measured 2 cm over my dates when I went yesterday but apparently that's me and baby (a polite way of the MW suggesting that I may have a little fat on my tummy left over from DS!)
Finishing work end this week and it can't come too soon. Have all sorts of hideous meetings and workload to get out of the way first though so I think I will be working hard until the minute that I finish.

Having a bit of a nightmare with DH at the minute. He is being bullied at work by his manager who is also the chief exec of the company where he works and is a bit of a meglomaniac. He could just leave but we can't afford to do without his salary especially while I am on mat leave. I don't see why he should have to go either but actually she can, because of the type
of company, do as she pleases. I have to be practical and think that if the worst comes to the worst I might have to ask about going back full time while he looks after the children. He already looks after DS 3 days a week while I am in work as I am the main wage earner but its the last thing I want to be having to think about right now.
Sorry to vent - I know that people have much bigger issues going on at the mo.

Wow congrats ClaireDB am getting so jealous of all these babies popping out .

Does anyone have the email address for me to add my details please - can't find it the thread is so big .

Lottie - huge congrats!!! welcome to Juliet and Eve! I will text CTFN and let her know. What great weights too! Yay!

Shiny - email [email protected]

Lottie - CTFN sends her love to you. There is still no news from her. She has woken with more pains this morning and is waiting for the doctors to do their rounds.
Bless her - she does sound a little fed up. Have told her you all send your love.

Right - must get dressed and off mnet. Feeling exceptionally lazy today!

Lottie!!! Congratulations!!!!!

Those are amazing weights for twins and for that gestation, well done you. Beautiful names, we want pictures!!!

Hope that you are feeling OK after your CS and please do keep us all updated. xxx

ClaireDB huge congrats to you on the rather swift arrival of baby Mira! How jealous am I of your first labour record time!?

Gosh, all these babies.....!!!

i cant beleive it, three more babies have arrived!
Congrats to Clare and Lottie so jealous that you will be celebrating chrimbo with your new babies. xx
i am having a nightmare coping with my small dog as he is urinating in the house now! i feel terrible as i just dont have the time to train and exercise him especially since other half has gone. have put up a sign for sale in the local shop but still dont think i can rehome him though i think he may be happier elsewhere! i feel terrible and a hypocrite as a dog is for life and i just feel as though i am giving up wiht him. i love him but also resent him for being so disobedient, i know he is young but so far he has managed to force one of my cats out who no longer comes into the house so no idea how he is feeding though he cries on the front doorstep but refuses to come in the house, the dog has torn off wallpaper, torn up the lino in the kitchen, snatches food from the kids, screams like he is being stabbed with a hot poker when he sees other dogs, runs off and never returns, hassles my older dog, chews the kids toys, eats the crotches of my undies! i know it is all my fault!
rant over

sazlocks your DH work situation sounds horrendous. Not what you need just as you're taking maternity leave, don't apologise for venting! vent some more! Someone on here may have some good advice.

I watched a really cheesy program last night with Amanda Holden learning to be a midwife. I figured maybe I'd pick up some tips on breathing during labour if I watched other women give birth... OMG biggest mistake I have made!!! Those births were awful! Have gone from mild panic to extreme anxiety!!

Anyway off to do some work, I don't finish til next week but it's a bit quieter than usual (famous last words) maybe I will go on a biscuit raid !

massive congratulations again lottie

Congrats lottie great weights, hope you and your girls are feeling well.

Thanks mistltoe will email in a minute.

So many babies already - so exciting.

Wow, so many babies being born already! Congratulations to all of you.

AliB I hope that Jacob is getting better.

I hope my baby stays put as I'm off to France for a long weekend this week. It's 3 weeks until the c-section date so should be okay....

Sazlocks - your DH's work situation sounds horrible. Not sure what to advise really.

Bethoo - might be best all round to rehome the dog. You will have a new baby soon and the dog sounds like quite a handful. It would be one less thing to worry about and the dog might be happier in a smaller household. I've been toying with the idea of getting a second dog but might hold off for a bit - I'm not sure I'm up to handling those manic first months with a puppy.

Lottie WOO-HOO!!!! Congratulations. Beautiful names, good weights too, you should be very proud of yourself.

Well, after posting about baby being quiet, she is on the move again, so panic over. I guess it's just getting squishy in there.

saz that sounds like just what you need - NOT!! Hope DH is happier soon and sorts out his work situation.

I need to stop telling DH about all you ladies having early babies, it's scaring him

Morning all and congratulations to ClaireB and Lottie!

Had MW here yesterday for Homebirth booking in appt, OMG what a nightmare. I've spent the entire of this pregnancy being calm and relaxed about the whole thing, researching HB and all the complications and how and what can happen etc, feeling fully informed yet remaining calm and in control and happy. MW turns up with disapproving looks and comments about my birth choices and basically says that I'm going to end up in hospital having this baby (I'm phobic of hospitals and stated that I will ONLY go in if there is an actual medical emergency and that I do not consider 'failure to progress' as a medical emergency). So after implying that not only am I going to go into labour this week (wk 36 so can't HB), that if I didn't and did have a HB that basically it would all go wrong! I should state that I've had the most uneventful pregnancy and there's been no indication that there would be any problem at all, everything's exactly as it should be...Long and short of it I spent the rest of yesterday freaking out! Anyway now she's decided that I should speak to the senior MW, just to put the squeeze on just that little bit more. Not impressed here.

Sorry for rant, but needed to vent somewhere I wasn't going to be judged on the HB choice.

Gonna go breathe and be calm.

somewhathorrified it seems to me from the impression i get is that the mw does not want to attend a HB not you. the mw here encourages HB though i prefer hospital as it is what i know. though apparatnly less chance of infection at home and you feel more confident and comfortable at home. if that is what you want stick by it and just ask for a more supportive midwife. i feel too often that midwives have a greater say in your own birth than you do!

Congratulations Lottie, great weights and beautiful names that compliment each other
Good news Sockmonkey.
My sympathies Sazlocks, definitely what you don't need right now. I don't have any advice I'm afraid, but any form of bullying I would deffo document what is happening. Regardless of the type of company, it is still very difficult to 'get rid' of someone, and his evidence of bullying will help his case if it does come to that i.e. constructive dismissal.
Bethoo, I think jasmeen is quite right about the dog. Is it not about 2 years old? Certainly don't feel bad about it, you are in a unique situation and it would be the best thing to do for you and the dog. I have 2 and know what a handful they can be, but I have another half and no other dependants yet. Good luck xxx
Crumpette - I turned it over out of curiosity just as the woman was in labour, then turned back to police car chases - think I preferred the nice hypnobirthing ones...
Somewhat, that is a shame she has made you feel like that. Why did she think you were going to go into labour this week? Could there be a reason she was trying to talk you out of it? Would it maybe be worth doing some relaxation techniques just in case you have to go into hospital? Fingers crossed that the senior mw is more sympathetic x
Wonder if anyone else has given birth since I've been writing this?

somewhat I think a homebirth is a great idea and would have had one with ds but he never got into position. I heard from a friend that some midwives were being discouraging about homebirths because they were understaffed. But to be honest stick to what you want you home is so much bettter than that filthy hospital I had ds in - where he caught an infection etc...still so angry can you tell

Fraochsmum he is just about a year old adn he is in the office curled up with my other dog right now and i feel bloody awful! maybe i should try to train him more on an evening when kids are in bed. it may just be because he has so much pent up energy, i know there is a lady who does dog walking here so i could get her to walk the dog for me when newborn arrives and there is a field i took him onto at the weekend but he is so lazy he just sniffed around looking ofr things to eat! i was hoping ot start running wiht him once baby born so maybe if ex wants to see baby he would not mind holding the fort while i took himout.

Still a pup then, yeah it's great when they are behaving but easy to forget how bad they can be. It probably is pent up energy - mine get off the leads to run about as they please twice a day, but I realise it must be extremely difficult with other children. Fraoch has now advanced from rabbit poo to rotten crab shells as his food find of choice Good idea about ex looking after baby while you walk them, in an ideal world that's what I intend to do when dh gets back from work - quality time for them, time out and exercise for me

Congtratulatios lottie great weights and names. Take care and type soon.

bethoo good luck with dog, I rehomed mine and it was the best decision I've ever made, even though I absolutely adored her.

Saz Good luck with the work situation, my dh may have to work away for 9 months due to no work up here, not ideal but hey!

crumpete I watched same programme with dd 11yrs, and no most women do not behave like that, but I think it frightened dd a bit.

mistletoe what is this email txt thing about can't find the original email.

Any way, If I've missed anyone, sorry.

Carried on with regular tightening pains last night till about midnight, went to bed, uneventful and have had nothing so far today, so fingers crossed my bubs is staying put for now.

Anyone heard from devotion on driving test.

Sending good vibes to cant hope you are doing well.

Sixmince - this is how it works.

Email me on [email protected]
Email me with your mnet nickname and then as much personal detail as you feel comfortable with.
Email address, real life name, geographical location, mobile number.
This all gets put on a spreadsheet/ word doc and gets emailed out to everyone who has given details.

I sent an email out just now for the 5 people who have emailed details through.
If more keep joining, will update and send out again in a week. The aim being that those local to one another can actually try and do a meet up in RL.

What a stressful morning...

Well I have had a stressful morning, went to the MW for a routine check and she checked my baby's heart beat and it was 180-190. She did the readings 3 times with a break in between and it did not go down, I was then sent to the hospital antenatal clinic for checks... when surprise, surprise my little minx was perfect with a heart rate of 140-150!!! This whole business can be very stressful, am taking the afternoon off to 'relax' but really very relieved.

Congratulations to all the new babies, Lottie, your twins are a fantastic weight - beautiful names too!

Fantastic news lottie - so thrilled for you and your DH. Beautiful names and great weights - well done you. Hope the recovery from your c section is swift.

somewhat we planned a HB with DS and I had a similar experience to you when the senior midwife came out to our house to have the pre homebirth chat (and to check we weren't loons that would harm the attending MWs). The bottom line is that they need to protect their backs and therefore will explain in great detail all of the issues that could happen at home and get you to sign something to show that you are making an informed choice. I was really fed up as I felt that she was overly gloomy about what might happen. I had the same sort of pregnancy as you , was very healthy and had done loads of hypnobirthing training and was sure I was making the best decision for me/us. As you will be aware the other issue for lots of places is the shortage of MWs and the fact that you will need 2 midwives with you when you deliver. Although the NHS knows it needs to offer this choice to women, my experience as an NHS manager working with maternity issues is that staffing issues sometimes (wrongly) gets in the way. You stick to your guns and I really hope it turns out exactly as you plan.

Thanks for sympathies re DH. Its all a bit of a nightmare really but when he gets home later I think I will talk to him about ensuring he documents stuff.

Crumpette after I had written it all down it reminded me of all your work nightmares earlier in this thread. I hope it has all settled down now for you.

frao there's no reason for the MW to think I'd go into labour this week and no reason to think that I wouldn't have a successful HB...not according to my notes or anything she's said previously. She did say there were 'loads' ( she said this b4, last time 'loads' meant 8 in a month ) of HB's booked in on the board this month, but that's not my problem. The thing that bugs me is that she wouldn't be attending me anyway as she said she doesn't really do them. As for the relaxation techniques to prep just in case...er...I already do that, if I didn't I'd pass out before I went through the door!

bethoo I'd love to be able to give you avice on your dog, unfortunately I know cats, not dogs.