Becoming bulgy! June-oh what I mean? (June part 2)

[madamefreckle]

Hello everyone! Welcome to the second thread! Hope you are happy enough that I've gone ahead with this title! If not, I won't be mortally offended if you ditch it and start again!

Here is the list - hope it is more or less up-to-date. Apologies if you're missing, please add yourself on. Pogue - we don't have you on here. Scared - are you still around? Perhaps you've moved to the May thread. Let us know how you're doing.

27th-3rd - ScaredofEverything, 33, #2
30/05 GoodName, 31, #1
1st - Washersaurus , 33, #3
1st - ELM, 29, #2
1st - bambino02, 23, #2
1st - mampam, 29 #3
1st - whenwillisleepagain, 42 #2
2nd - scrappydappydoo, #3
2nd - MrsGravy, 33, #3
3rd - nickytwotimes, 35, #2
3rd - RnB, 31, #3
3rd - Tafftaff, 36, #2
4th - minimoonumbertwo, 33, #2
4th - madamefreckle, 33, #2
4th - sunshiney, 34, #2
5th - greensnail, 27, #2
5th - Dizzymac, 35 No.3
6th - AlwaysHopefull, 35, #2
6th - zumm, 37, #1
7th - LittleRobbo, 34, #3
7th - MrsC09, #1
7th - mumandlovingit, 28 #4
8th - Tobermory, #2
8th- Saucepanman, 31, #4
9th - Woofie, 33, #2
10th - charlottew 32, #1
10th - fillybuster 35, #3
10th - upsydaisysexstylist #3
11th - PorridgeBrain, 34, no. 2
12th - UnrequitedSkink, 33, no. 2
12th - Rangemaster 29, #3
11th - Fabi76, #1
13th - ChairmumMiaow, 29, #2
13th - sobloodystupid, 34, #3
14th - Cadmum, 38, #5
14th ? MrsAlwaysRight, 31 #2
15th - MummyWantsANewBag, #2
15th - Ponymum, 41, # 2
17th - Bluesnowfalcon 28 #1
17th - theperfectbaguette 34 #1
17th - muchchocolate #2
18th - Horton 40 #2
19th - Ladyemmalou83, 26 #1
19th - Georgee 37 No 1
21st - Gizmo, 39, #3
22nd - GinaFB, #1
23rd - Sunshineday 39 #5
23rd - GibberingGinger 33 #2
23rd? - Spudthescarecrow #3
24th - imkeepingmum, #1
25th - Ilovemyterrier, 38 no1
25th - readysetgo, #1
26th - Celery, 34 #4
28th - CantSleepWontSleep (HappyAccident),
36, no3
29th - MrsDmamee #3
30th - Monthlymayhem, 34, no. 2

Christ alive, I just made the mistake of reading the "How hard can new babies really be" thread.

Have found secret antisickness food marmite, quess only ok if the thourght of it doesn't make you heave.

Can't remember who asked but am sure of my dates because we thourght we'd missed the boat in september due to teething toddler so quite a limited window to concieve in.

Think we are more tired as cannot get in from work and collapse this time must attend to children

RnB great news and fab pic

RnB - Your baby looks cute already - impressive! I was obviously delighted to see my baby on the screen, but in the photo he/she/it looks like it has an uncannily long neck. Probably a baby giraffe

Upsydaisy - A tiny swipe of marmite on a buttered rice cake......heavenly antidote to nausea!

readysetgo - LOL, that thread does make it all seem pretty daunting but is hilarious just for the fact SO many mums have felt the need to really expand upon the horrors of sleep deprivation etc and burst the poor naivenewbie's bubble. It's mostly fantastic and you'll be fine .

marmite

Hello -

so delighted to find the thread here and would love to join you ladies as we bloom over the next 6 months. My due date is 31May, but I've been overdue with my previous 2 pregnancies, so I'm expecting that it'll be a June date.

I've had quite bad nausea and tiredness this time after having nothing at all with my first 2. Thankfully it is getting better, but I had to take the boys to the doctor this morning and discovered a flat tire on the Phil & Ted on the way out the door. Ended up having to push one in the Maclaren and take the other in a sling - still knackered. We had our scan yesterday and it was so lovely to see the little one and finally hear the heartbeat. Thinking of all of you as you have your scans over the next few weeks - it'll be wonderful.

Look forward to getting to know you all over the next few months. I've added my name to the list below:
27th-3rd - ScaredofEverything, 33, #2
30/05 GoodName, 31, #1
31/05 RnB, 31, #3
31/05 dinosaurinmybelly (DIMB), 37, #3
1st - Washersaurus , 33, #3
1st - ELM, 29, #2
1st - bambino02, 23, #2
1st - mampam, 29 #3
1st - whenwillisleepagain, 42 #2
2nd - scrappydappydoo, #3
2nd - MrsGravy, 33, #3
3rd - nickytwotimes, 35, #2
3rd - Tafftaff, 36, #2
4th - minimoonumbertwo, 33, #2
4th - madamefreckle, 33, #2
4th - sunshiney, 34, #2
5th - greensnail, 27, #2
5th - Dizzymac, 35 No.3
6th - AlwaysHopefull, 35, #2
6th - zumm, 37, #1
7th - LittleRobbo, 34, #3
7th - MrsC09, #1
7th - mumandlovingit, 28 #4
8th - Tobermory, #2
8th- Saucepanman, 31, #4
9th - Woofie, 33, #2
10th - charlottew 32, #1
10th - fillybuster 35, #3
10th - upsydaisysexstylist #3
11th - PorridgeBrain, 34, no. 2
12th - UnrequitedSkink, 33, no. 2
12th - Rangemaster 29, #3
11th - Fabi76, #1
13th - ChairmumMiaow, 29, #2
13th - sobloodystupid, 34, #3
14th - Cadmum, 38, #5
14th ? MrsAlwaysRight, 31 #2
15th - MummyWantsANewBag, #2
15th - Ponymum, 41, # 2
17th - Bluesnowfalcon 28 #1
17th - theperfectbaguette 34 #1
17th - muchchocolate #2
18th - Horton 40 #2
19th - Ladyemmalou83, 26 #1
19th - Georgee 37 No 1
21st - Gizmo, 39, #3
22nd - GinaFB, #1
23rd - Sunshineday 39 #5
23rd - GibberingGinger 33 #2
23rd? - Spudthescarecrow #3
24th - imkeepingmum, #1
25th - Ilovemyterrier, 38 no1
25th - readysetgo, #1
26th - Celery, 34 #4
28th - CantSleepWontSleep (HappyAccident),
36, no3
28th - diznom 32 #1
29th - MrsDmamee #3
30th - Monthlymayhem, 34, no. 2

Hello DIMB. I foresee you're going to have some explaining to do about your name .

Readysetgo, if I sat down & thought, with both hands, for a month, about a thread guaranteed to cause delight on Mumsnet, I could not have come up with a better opener than NaiveNewbies. I think there might be a bit of wagon jumping going on but most of the posts on there ring rather true, I'm afraid. However, I think the book Kathyis6incheshigh recommends is spot on - a lot of the wierd 'time vanishing' thing boils down to the fact you are having to learn a hell of a lot about your baby very fast and with no instruction manual. That's stressful, and particularly so if you don't realise that's what is burning up your time and headspace. Damn, I'm not being very good at the reassuring thing, am I . What I'm trying to say is, the whole thing is going to be much easier to handle if you set your expectations appropriately from the start, so maybe that thread might be helpful for you?

Hi all. I've just noticed my EDD ought to be 12 June, ooh a whole day closer . Anyway, since my own dates have been out -by six weeks before and since I've been feeling movement, I'm happy to leave it till my scan - 2 weeks to wait now!
Went to Docs yesterday due to overwhelming tiredness and dizziness, she told me that I must've had 2 dream pg to date! Happily she found the heartbeat no prob (am 11 weeks + 5), just the one so my twin theory seems to be out the window tg!
Hoping everyone is looking forward to the next trimester and vanishing tiredness, hyperemesis etc...

Hi

I haven't formally added myself to the list but I have a due date of 27th June with my first.

I had my booking in appt with the midwife yesterday and it was awful. She isn't unpleasant but she didnt' seem to listen to me at all. She asked the same question at least 3 times. She didn't mention anythign about the swine flu jab and when I asked she said she'd been off last week (with swine flu!!!) so she hadn't read the latest advice and didn't know what to advise. She had some fairly militant views about breastfeeding saying that children who are breasfed have a higher IQ than those that don't but didn't offer any reassurance if it isn't possible to breastfeed (I'd like to but this is my first so not sure if it is poss yet). Can I complain and get a different one or do I have to put up with her?

Thanks for the advice.

x

If anyone is keeping track of appointments, I have just moved my nuchal scan forward to 7pm next thursday (3rd). It sounds crazy, but pushing it five days earlier has made me very happy! That and the fact that the tiredness and sickness are veeeeerrry gradually receeding.

Hi all, I've got my scan this afternoon and am swinging between excitement and nervousness. Can't wait to see the little bean though. It all still seems a bit unreal at the moment so will be nice to get some confirmation that there is actually a baby (and just one hopefully) in there. My money's still on Cantsleep for the twins, sorry

Am not sure whether to go public after the scan or to wait a bit. Am feeling a bit nervous about telling work (as i've only been back a few days!) but am eager to tell. Can't announce it on facebook until i've told work as i have lots of colleagues on there.

Hi Middledaughter, welcome to the thread.

Sorry to hear you didn't have a good 'first date' with your midwife - that can be very isolating. Was she always distractedly staring at forms and shuffling bits of paper? IME, many midwives these days have so many forms to fill in and boxes to tick they have hardly any time to discuss concerns that are specific to you, it's all:

'I've talked about foodstuffs to avoid' - Tick,
'I've completed the ethnographic survey' - Tick,
'I've told her about what to expect in the next scan' - Tick. And then rush off to the next appointment.

Is she a community midwife, attached to your local GP, or to the hospital? If you find her really difficult you can probably write to the Director of Midwives locally and ask to change midwives - I had a similar problem in my last pregnancy and got some good advice to that effect on a (sadly disappeared) thread. That might feel like a nuclear option based on one meeting, particularly if you don't know what your alternatives are - if she's attached to a surgery, it maybe a quiet word with the surgery about who else is on the rota can achieve the same effect.

In the meantime, you are doing the right thing, reaching out to other sources of knowledge and support like mumsnet. There is such a variety of experience here about what to do if you want to breastfeed, or if you don't/can't. I know the site can come across as overwhelmingly pro-bf, but if you do make the decision not to BF, there are also plenty of people who can help. Hope you get what you are looking for!

Welcome middledaughter and congratulations. Sorry you didn't get off to a great start with your midwife. I don't think its acceptable for her not to know the latest advice on the swine flu jab or at least not to point you in the right direction to get the advice you need as that is obviously something that is worrying most pg ladies at the moment. It is possible to ask for another midwife if you're not happy with her, but if it were me I would be inclined to wait a while and see how you get on at your next appointment - she may have just been having a bad day.

Re the breastfeeding. It is very rare for women to be physically unable to breastfeed, however lots of women find themselves unable to breastfeed due to lack of support, bad advice and/or unrealistic expectations. If you want to breastfeed I would advise finding out as much about it as you can while you're pregnant and finding out what support is available locally. It may be that your midwife if she is very "militant" on her views could be an excellent source of support and advice on this. When i was pg with DD I desperately wanted to breastfeed but had so many friends who had failed to do it that i was convinced I wouldn't be able to either. I read a lot about breastfeeding while pregnant and went to baby cafe for support after DD was born, and i'm still happily feeding her now at 11 months. Mumsnet is also a fantastic source of breastfeeding support.

Hope I have been helpful and not come accross as too militant too!

Hi all. I'm off the twin list. Had my scan last Friday and there's definitely only one baby! Seeing the baby has definitely made all of this horrendous sickness worthwhile although I'm still really suffering. Anti-sickness tablets seem to have stopped the physical vomiting but I feel sick every waking moment. I feel like I'm on the brink of being sick all the time, my mouth watering etc like just before your sick (sorry if tmi).

I'm so fed up, I've barely left the house for the last 5 weeks. Just found out a good friend of mine is pregnant too and is almost as far along as me. Can't help feeling a little pissed off because she doesn't seem to be having trouble with sickness, she has a 14month old baby, has a full time job for which she's a manager and puts in well over 40 hours a week and seems to be coping just fine. I, on the other hand have 2 DC's 10 and 6, have a part time job which I've been off sick for the last 5 weeks and don't seem to be coping at all with this pregnancy. I feel so lame and pathetic compared to my friend. OMG I'm such a bad person aren't I?

Hi Gizmo

thanks for your quick response. Yes it was EXACTLY like that! She filled in forms but didn't listen to the answers, seemed really bored and then answered her mobile in the middle of our meeting!! I thought she might have the sensitivity to recognise it was my first appt and might need some reassurance.

I'd love to breastfeed but from what I've read I understand some people can't. She sort of demonised that group without offering any alternatives. They are a group attached to various surgeries so I think I'll ask not to have her when I have my next appt.

Thanks again for your advice and good luck with your nuchal scan.

Forgot to say Middledaughter I think you need to find a new midwife. When I had my ds I found my midwife to be totally unhelpful and felt she didn't listen to my concerns at all. I stupidly didn't change.

Hello all,

I haven't posted for ages so I'll do a quick run down. Had some bleeding at around 7 weeks so had a scan and all is well. Bleeding stopped after a few days.

Since then I've been knackered and nauseous, and DS and I keep getting ill We've currently got some virus that means neither of us can breathe very well. We've been watching cbeebies all week.

Middledaughter - very few people are physically unable to breastfeed. IME the midwives aren't the best source of help for this. If its something you're worried about, find a local breastfeeding group and go along when you're pregnant and they'll be happy to chat to you. I have found the La Leche League leaders to be the best informed - their training takes a really long time!

We've got our proper 12 week scan on the 3rd as well, but have been telling people slowly since the first scan showed everything was ok.

Greansnail Good luck this afternoon!

Hi there middledaughter I agree, you should get a different midwife - she sounds awful. Poor you

Congrats on your scan Mampam!

Welcome DIMB! We share a duedate

RnB - Congrats, so glad everything is ok with the bean, but honestly....are you sure there was just the one?!

Gizmo - I go the same shape...last time I got away with not telling anyone until 24 weeks (although admittedly working in telecoms, like engineering, is so male dominated that quite frankly they wouldn't notice unless I agressively 'bumped' them ) The drawback is that I spend the first 5-6 months looking fat/shapeless rather than pregnant...always very jealous of the women who get cute 'bumps' and stay slim around them....

Upsydaisy - marmite is magic stuff, especially on granary toast with butter! But then, I'm pretty keen on it all of the time...

Actually, I find that a glass of fizzy water first thing in the morning really helps with the nausea, which is a bit counterintuitive (surely adding bubbles to a dicky tummy can't be a good idea?) but it works

...I'm obviously very suggestible: I decided I had to head off to my staff canteen for marmite toast having typed all that. Obviously my post will now xpost with someone with witter/more interesting views on everything....

Mampam - glad your scan went well, and no, you're not a bad person: you're just fed up and worn out! But try not to blame your friend for feeling better than you...its not really her fault is it?!

Greensnail - good luck...let us know how it goes

Gizmo - so glad we're going on the same day now UCH now take extra bloods immediately before the scan, and test them whilst the scan is taking place - apparently this means they can now give a very definite response on the same day, after the scan, rather than having to wait for a week or so until the results come through. Obviously this is a good thing, but it does make me fractionally more nervous.

Perhaps stupidly, I've also signed up to take part in some Down's research being conducted at UCH. Apart from having to fill in the consent forms in triplicate it really just means giving more blood each time...I don't really mind, but when I had my mw appt this week that resulted in the normal 4 vials for normal checks and another 6 for the research ...what I do in the name of science .

DIMB - welcome, and great name!

Readysetgo - the best (true) advice dh and I were given before we had ds was from some friends who had their dc1 about 6 months ahead of us: the best thing you can do is expect the first 8-10 weeks to be a total black hole from which you will eventually emerge, blinking, into the light...the lower your expectations, the better your (very black) sense of humour and the more you and your dp can work together as a team, the better you will survive it In fact, dh and I went in with such low expectations the whole thing turned out to be (slightly) easier than we had originally expected

Ok, now I really should go and do some work...

Oh blimey Filly, 10 samples? To misquote Tony Hancock, that's nearly an armful!

I thought I had it bad when I got the bloods done on Tuesday and had to hand over 6. I was wondering if my local PCT had been taken over by vampires since my last child. It got to the stage where the phlebotomist was making coaxing noises to my vein, trying to get the last sample out - 'come on little vein, just a bit more...'

Welcome to all the newbies!

Thanks for all the advice ladies. I know it will all be worth it in the end I'm going to finish reading the thread and pray that it can't be any worse than they are saying!

I am currently writing from my death bed. Was sick for the first time since I've been pregnant last night, but it's down to a flu that my lovely OH has passed on. It's meant I've spent all night/morning in and out of the loo (tmi, sorry!) and felt very sorry for myself indeed.

Sorry - I must sound really insensitive to all those of you that have suffered for weeks. xx

Hello, all newbies, and welcome to this very friendly and nice thread!

That thread about new babies has been making me laugh and laugh. I think the crucial point here is that most of those people who are pointing out what hard work it is did go on to have another so there are some pretty good compensations for being knackered!

fillybuster, honestly I'm not blaming my friend. I'm just jealous that she's super mum and I'm lame arse mum!

Have just randomly puked (wtf) and have job interview in 2 hrs, here's hoping I don't puke on them!

Good luck Saucepanman