Due may 2010: the second thread

[suey2]

Hello

Viv - YAdefinitelyNBU. I'd be upset too, good on you for saying something!

LuckyC - so sorry to hear that. I guess I would worry that if I told them, it might negatively impact but then if they're nice women and you get on well with them it might be motivation for them to find you something else quickly? That's awful news though, look after yourself - is there any way you can take a quick break/go home early to relax?

Pigley - sorry you're feeling rough I've been feeling awful all day today, think I'm on the verge of throwing up constantly. Are you thinking that you may be having twins?

Tiggsy - nappies are pretty unpleasant atm here too, it's a pain. DD too young for potty train so trying to breathe through it!

Jennylee and SK - sorry about your SPD, that sounds miserable.

Heffa- Not really thinking it might be twins, just curious really.
Everyone seems so suprised by the size of my bump already and keeps mentioning twins, plus my mum is a twin so I suppose its in the back of my mind.

Just curious to wether the twin mummies here feel with regards to my drs theory.
Ive always had abit of an interest in twins.

Sorry to hear your not feeling great either

Viv- I too would make it clear you thought she was abit unsensitive! Some people have no tact do they!

Hi Ladies,hope everyone is okay? (Aside from sickness, exhaustion, painful boobs and all the rest!) Im 8 weeks today, and just wondering if time is standing still for anyone else too? Had a scan at 6+4 and got booking appointment at 9+3, but just feels like a million miles away. Roll on May!!

sorry to hear that a lot of you are suffering the effects of MS..(who named it morning sickness!)

I had a really bad day yesterday..and feel exhausted today...EPU have phoned me up and told me that I have a follow up scan on weds because of the blood clot..I explained Id had a private scan but they said they have to scan me themselves..but scared now..hope everything is ok.

Hiya viv - I reckon that your friend was being really insensitive, but I think now I'd fess up to her - just because otherwise it might get a bit awkward when you do tell her? Only a thought!

Hello all the new people!

viv, that would have pissed me RIGHT off! It's all well and good noticing, but bringing it up is so insensitive!

luckyc i would say nothing for now. you haven't many rights as a self employed person and you don't want to give them a reason not to give you work if it comes up.

Just had a big fat baked potato and beans/ cheese. Could i persuade myself to have a nice healthy apple after? no. Cheesy wotsits, and maaannn they were good

Thanks twentiethcenturyheffa and suey2. Sounding like people in general think I should keep my mouth shut for now.

Guess I better start writing that CV...

memorylapse you have had such a tough time with this. Hang in there.

Pigleychez with carrying twins i do feel rather sick, but just thankful i've not actually been sick yet. I feel a little worse than i did with DD, but it has come much earlier. The tiredness is much worse, although last time didn't have to run around after a 14 month old! lol

DH doesn't seem to really understand how sick and tired i feel, sometimes i think he thinks i am making it up, so maybe i would be better off chucking my guts up just to say to him see, i do feel sick.

Finally got some food in me this morning, with having a cold also not been able to eat much and lost a bit of weight, but the belly still grows.

luckyc from personal experience i've found it best to say nothing until you can't hide it anymore. even if you do get on fantastically with current employers at the end of they day they're running a business so that will be there main interest.
decided to eat a proper lunch today, first time in about two weeks and was such a bad idea!

Sophie2008 Congratulations on the twins

I'm feeling a bit weird as I have lost most of my symptoms, had such sore boobs and nipples last few weeks, now they feel fine and haven't grown any more? Still getting occasional cramping at night time just every now and again and slight nausea, but nothing to really make me think I am preg!

Oh and I'm starting to apply for jobs, wow worst timing ever haha and interview clothes could be interesting...

oh and LuckyC I agree with tiggsy above, keep it quiet as long as possible.

Oh no, just had a phone call from DB to say that other DB and SIL have just had a m/c, she was booked for her 12wk scan on Thurs
It must be doubly gutting, when you're that close don't you feel safer?
How can I tell them our news now? makes me more than ever want to wait till after the scan to go public

oh no headinawhirl: how awful. I guess you just have to wait until the scan and then be sensitive about it: i would arrange to see your DB for a cup of tea if he lives closeby and let him tell your SIL when he thinks she's ready to hear it.

My symptoms have been on and off- so whoever was worrying, please don't! I kind of think that as long as I haven't started bleeding maasively with bigs cramps that i am still PG for now. THe exhaustion has definitely kicked in big time, but i'm not sick. But even the exhaustion is better if i take it easy....

hi suey2 it was me who was worrying, thanks for reply! Going to docs at 8 pm as have had some spotting and backache for 24 hours am sure its nothing but just want to be sure! I thought I would be more relaxed second time round but for some reason much more anxious than I was with DS

headinawhirl that is awful news, I had a close friend who mc recently and I am also dreading telling her the news, I know she will be pleased but it will be hard x

headinawhirl sorry to hear that sad news, I agree with suey and tell you db who can then break it to sil when shes ready. Hope it doesn't cast too big a shadow over your pregnancy.

Hello to all the new people, and congrats on the scans.

A few people have been talking about back ache etc - is this a cause to worry? As i posted ast eh end of last week, most of my symptoms have disappeared now as well, though i am still sick from time to time i dont really feel that bad unless i get tired, adn becasue i work from home alot i think i have it quite easy at the moment. However, i have been getting really sore lower back / hip pain for the last few days - i had just put this down to ligament stretching and i have a minor bad back / loose hips anyway.

Should i be worried about this? Or only if it is in combination with spotting / cramps?

Sorry to be sucha worrier - its just such a minefield out there!

Hi girls.
Angel I have actually had past problems that's why I wanted early scan.. had a mc in March- 3 v traumatic scans and then horrible medical management, so wanted some reassurance this time but doc and mw have just brushed aside my worries baby died between 7 and 8 weeks last time which is where I am right now so quite anxious. Gonna call my epu this week and see what they say.I think every woman who's mc'd should be offered an early scan.

Sophie yay, another set of twins, congratulations!

Lotus I have been getting v painful lower back and hips too; I wouldn't be too worried yet, I think it's only if the pain is v sharp and in your pelvis (and obv if bleeding too) that you should be concerned.

i am really going to have to read this thread more often! lol

congrats sophie!! more twins!! wow!

supcake, sorry I hope i didn't come across insensitive about the early scan. I am so sorry for your past experiences, if i was you, I would demand a scan !!

Scan day for me tomorrow. Very nervous. Kinda convincing myself that there will be nothing there, and that my feeling sick its just this bug I've had (that dd2 has now come down with this evening...gah....

Lotus try not to worry too much. It is probably ligaments loosening. I can't even stand up without being doubled over with a 'stitch' in my stomach lately!

Headinawhirl, how awful, it really is hard when all you want is to be happy yourself and tell people, but then you feel guilty for it. Bless ya.

Growingbump2, good luck at docs, let us know how you get on.

memorylapse, at least they are follwing it up! Hope you get on ok

aaarghhh!! anyone else having issues with the in laws about where to spend christmas?? lapland is sounding tempting right now...

headinawhirl- Im so sorry to hear about your SIL's news..I would agree with whats been said, wait until your scan, then gently break the news to your DB..

EPU phoned back and said they have a cancellation for tomorrow at 10.30..I feel really anxious about it now.
Angel- good luck with your scan tomorrow

Viv- good luck with your scan asa well

Oo good luck ml!
I had a bit of bleeding today, but my own silly fault. Shall we say I get a bit blocked up

Good luck for tomorrow ML,
Thanks for the nice things you've said about SIL, just feeling a bit glad we don't see much of them, but I'll be fattening up nicely at Christmas which won't help her.
I want to be happy about this baby, and I am massively, but DSs Godmum has had loads of problems TTC and I'm scared of telling her. Thats why I name changed to come on here

Hello, I'm due on 28th May, and looks like I'm the oldest one of us so far (assuming the numbers next to people's names are their ages?) - I'm 42 and already had the most dismal introductory chat from my GP about the associated risks. I've got one DS, nearly 3, who was big at birth, 9lbs 10 at 39 weeks, so GP then moved on to all the risks associated with that too. Came home feeling not at all cheeful and with my expectations well and truly managed. At the moment I am enjoying a brief spell of not feeling sick, so better go and eat while the going's good. V nice to meet you all.

HeadinaWhirl - sorry about your SIL She must have been so excited about the scan.

WhenwillIsleepagain - welcome to the thread! Shame about your GP's appointment, that sounds really miserable. Surely not the best time to talk about all the risks?

Memorylapse Viv and Angel - good luck with scans.

Lotuspalm - I have a bit of a bad back too, I think it's just ligaments stretching and me needing to take more care with posture.

Hi and welcome to all the newbies!

Had booking in appt today - very underwhelming, just rushed through all standard info on past med history, and then said "well you've done it once so it'll all come back to you eventually" and that was it! Don't know what I was expecting, but a sense that this pg is as special as the first one would have been nice.

One good thing is that we apparently have a specialist pg physio service, so they said if my back gets bad (I get spells of v bad backache if I overdo things even when not pg) I can get referred for advice through them - didn't have this first time round so pleased to hear about that.

LuckyC- was it you who asked about telling work? As a self-employed your contractors don't have as many duties towards you as if you were employer/employees so I don't think it will make any difference if you tell them you're pg or not sadly. If there is no work or they're cutting back for financial reasons then you have no comeback on them pg or not.

Viv - I can't believe your friend. Even if they suspect you're pg you don't broadcast it to everyone, you wait until your friend wants to tell you their news. YAdefNBU!

Headinawhirl - so sorry to hear about your SIL. I guess when you are so close to 12 weeks you do start to think more about the future so it must be so traumatic for them. Good luck to them, and I agree with whoever it was that said to tell your DB first and let him tell SIL. I'm sure she will be pleased for you but she will need to grieve first.

Memory and all the rest with scans - good luck. I have to ring for scan date at 10 weeks which is 3 loooooong weeks away.....will have to stop counting to see if it makes the days go faster!