Due November 2009 - we just can't stop chatting!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

A new thread!

I really don't get this whole 'blooming' business! I've never really known anyone who really 'blooms' when pregnant! I certainly don't do pregnancy well. I love being pregnant for the fact that I'm having a baby, but don't enjoy actually being pregnant for all the aches and pains it brings me!

Afternoon all

This talk of big babies reminded me of something I'd seen on a pregnancy programme a while ago. They had mum-to-be's learning about the birth and they were told your cervix needs to dilate to 10cm before baby can be delivered. They likened this to the size of a Dairylea cheese packet. Everytime I see a packet of cheese triangles I wince. Although I guess women have been having babies since time began, it can't be that bad surely?!

On the subject of DPs/DHs, I had an argument with mine last night as well! I'm full of plans to have our 2bed flat sorted and organised before baby arrives but DP doesn't see the urgency. I'm just keen to do it now while I have the energy and I'm still reasonably mobile and able to do things like decorating. Maybe the Dads take a while longer to realise they will be dads shortly and we don't have much time left to prepare! The end of the world is nigh!

For anyone struggling to get comfortable in bed, I found a tip to put another duvet under your sheet and this definitely has helped me, not waking up with sore, stiff joints (not just hips but shoulders were affected as well) and PGP has definitely calmed down a bit. Worth a try.

Hope everyone is keeping well x

Hi all,

Really tired today, ds has been waking up early this week and what with that and the humidity I feel really grumpy! Also, just got an email from dh saying he is going to Denmark for 3 days next week, I hate being in the house on my own overnight. I know it sounds a bit woosy but I normally get my sil to stay over to keep me company but she is on holiday so will be on my own with ds, really not looking forward to it.

Oh well, off to Bath for the weekend to see my best friends new baby, can't wait! Hope everyone has a nice weekend too...

laugs i would def like your book if you still have it, dd wasn't a good sleeper so want to make sure new one is! do u have paypal i can transfer money for postage etc, cheers

I'm less worried about a big baby than I am about a malpositioned baby - babies who want to high-five the world on the way out apparently require MORE than 10 cm, and you wind up with tears in interesting locations. Am intending to give mine stern pep talks in the final weeks - back to my tummy, chin tucked down, and hands by your side, mister!

I mostly feel tired, achy and grumpy, but I've got to say, my hair and skin are finally doing the traditional pregnancy glowing thing. I usually have quite fine hair which goes limp very quickly, but at the moment, it seems very thick and glossy. I'm going to enjoy it until it all falls out after the baby's here!

helips I know what you mean. I used to hate it when dh went away for the night. I have to admit to having got used to it now as he is away nearly all week - he has been away since Monday this week. Was supposed to be only 2 nights, but instead ended up being all week and he is coming back tonight.

We have just made cakes. Its the birthday next week of one of the little girls I look after and I am on holiday so thought we would do it today! Its been lovely and all, but I am so incredibly hot and sticky now! Nice!

Scarlotti being expert on freecycle - do you have to have yahoo email account or can you offer things with your existing email account? I have looked into this briefly once before but I really don?t need yet another email account. I have a lot of stuff I want to get rid off since we moved so it would be helpful to have the house cleared out before the baby comes. Or should I rather put everything on ebay? I am not sure how to go about that either?
I would be happy if things went for a pound or two but do people collect things or does everything have to be posted? That bit seems like a great effort...

Broodzilla mine does the same!! He'll be kicking away with all his might, and then DP will put his hand on my tummy and he freezes. I think he's felt him move a maximum of three times... I think the baby is a little teaser

Koumak - I don't know about your area, but the Brighton one is a Yahoo group, so you have to have a Yahoo address. The site is messing around at the moment though, just to warn you.

Antenatal class was great! There were onl three of us, and the speaker didn't turn up, but we had a giggle. The postnatal group is run right next door, which is nice. The two other girls were each a year either side of me, which was nice - wasn't the oldest or the youngest The elder one (who's due in four weeks and looks about ready to pop!!) said her her DP is about the same age as mine, so think that will be of some comfort, as he was kinda concerned about being in a room full of pregnant teenagers

So instead of having someone chat to us about finances, we bitched about social services and CAMHS Was quite releaved to hear that one of the girls has been on Prozac throughout, it was a comfort. We had a bit of a giggle, then got very childish and decorated some baby grows with fabric pens. I figured, hey, free clothes!!!

Got a letter from the finance company when I got in saying that if I don't pay them immediately they will demand full payment. gulps Going to get my Dad to help me write a letter later, I think.

Very proud of myself - saw the woman who attacked me in the shop just now. I usually freak out, majorly, panic attacks, running away, you get the jist. But had to stay calm because of the little one, so managed to stay reasonable, and even carry on talking Go me!!!

Erika glad you had a good time, even if the speaker didn't turn up at least you got to make some new friends in the same situation!

Southernbelle oooh, cake... I couldn't live with having one in the house, I'd just HAVE to eat it.

All this talk about dilation and tears makes me want to stick my head in the sand and go lalalalaaaaa. Have you all started your pelvic floor exercises? I only remember them a couple of times a day...
If the bean doesn't turn over the next few weeks I'm headed for a CS as he's transverse. I keep thinking it's a good thing as I'm mostly being kicked in my sides rather than upwards or downwards...

I've finally ordered the carseat. Went for the size 0 in the end... (I may be the most indecisive person in the universe... and with DH's input being "I'm sure whatever you choose is fine"...) I think what finally swung it was the realisation that you need two hands to carry a new-born, and the parking on our road is a nightmare, so most of the time we've got quite a way to walk to the car. Doesn't usually bother me one bit, but if I have anything but the baby to get to/from the car it would be difficult without a carseat that I can pop the baby in and then carry with one hand.
One more thing off the to-do list.

DH has nearly finished putting up the new shed. Can't wait for all the bike paraphenalia to move out of the house!

Just put a banana cake in the oven. mmm

Off to Devon with the inlaws for the w/e (no dp as he is at Big Chill). Must be mad but fancied a bit of countryside and hey, it's free.

I'm realising I've not really got to grips with the fact I'm pregnant yet let alone made any steps towards planning or buying. We were given a car seat but now I wonder if it might be too old? Not sure when to stop work either. At the moment I think I'll just keep going until I can go no further. It all feels very surreal.

Erika Sorry to hear about the credit company. if it's any consolation (in a your not alone way) I came home to anouther nasty solicitor letter saying I was "putting words in my son's mouth". I know that sinking feeling when you see the envelope but at least you opened it and are dealing with it. Lots of people would just ignore it and hope it went away.

I have short red hair today and I'm loving it. A little pampering goes a long way

Koumak you do need a yahoo account for freecycle as it's a yahoo user group, BUT you can tell it another email address to use as your primary email. I set up a yahoo one purely to log in, but never use it for email.
Freecycle has to be free, that's the only rule, so if you're wanting any money for your things then it's the wrong place.
Check out eBay and see if people are buying what you have, as then you can see if it's worthwhile trying to sell it.
I use freecycle as it saves me a trip to the tip and people come and collect. I tend to charity shop other stuff too - people who post their bags to fill through my door are much more likely to get old clothes!
Can you tell I'm lazy yet?!!

Def feeling grumpier here too - the weather doesn't help as it makes my feet swell, and the constipation is making me feel really bloated and yuk. Was feeling quite good up until about a week ago. Go to bed tired, then find I can't actually sleep

Hello all!

We've had the BEST day ever. It was the Borth carnival today and DH surprised us by taking a day off work and coming down for the last day. So he's here now getting the DSs ready for bed. We've just had fish and chips on the beach watching the sun start to set. DS2 got cold so I put my cardigan on him and he cuddled on my knee and I seriously did not want that moment to end - just me and him watching the waves in the fading light. It was lovely.

You dod need a yahoo account for freecycle. DH has just got rid of our old TV on freecycle.

Erika I hope your DP is better - poor thing.

I've had fairly big babies but there is always someone who has had bigger. A friend of mine had a 12lber for her first baby. Ouch.

Anyway, better go, really tired. DH and I are going to watch a film then early to bed I think. Home tomorrow and I hate to sound cynical but I bet the house is a total tip (DH has been left to his own devises for a week). I don't want to go home to a messy house Also I hate the 'going home' bit and the unpacking. It means the end of the holiday...

tamlin yes..mine falls out terribly...especially in the front and on the first few months i just put the hair into a bun so the front really shows!

helips I hate being on my own too...call me a woos too!... I have a whole week to look forward to in Sept when DH goes to the US for work..dreading it. I love going to bed early tho but its those long ole days and no one to chat to in the evening about what a mare DD has been...

today i was so distracted by her screaming that I hit a car...I'm the worlds most careful driver..but the heat the screaming and the fact that someone took my parking..I hit the parked car whilst reversing..no damage thank god but I still feel like poo...cried for about an hour after.silly ole me!

laugs I liked reading Baby Whisperer but it didn't work with DD..she was a nightmare colicky thing with reflux.. Somethings were helpful...but the whole 4 hour thing didn't work for me..

broodzilla our new carseat arrived today too...so now we have collected a 0-6 months MAxi cosi and a Maxi cosi Priori till 4 years and now a Recaro till 36kgs..!!! babies..what an expense..

Hi everyone,
Well, I'm back from Munich. I'd love to tell you that it all went swimmingly and was a lovely last fling before I hang up my frequent flyer card, but sadly that would be a total lie. I left yesterday afternoon and arrived in Germany last night, nice and early so that I could have a good night's sleep and not get too tired. All good so far. Then this morning I got up, washed my hair, got nicely dressed up and met my clients for breakfast at 8am, in time for our first meeting at 9am. Something must have gone slightly wrong at that point because halfway through the first meeting, I started to feel distinctly strange. Sort of dizzy and sick. I excused myself, found a bathroom and then found myself being violently, violently sick. Not nice. But I washed my face, took a deep breath and went back to finish the meeting, feeling pretty much fine but a bit tired. I didn't tell anyone, put on my professional smile and moved on. Then we drove to the second meeting. We had been in the car for about 3 minutes when suddenly I started coughing and choking and then, horror of all horrors, I was uncontrollably sick ALL OVER MYSELF and a bit on the car . (Really sorry if this is TMI but I'm just so upset I need to get it off my chest). It was literally completely out of the blue. Nothing like this has EVER happened to me before. I like to pride myself on my professional demeanor and had really enjoyed getting dressed in my nice maternity dress, doing my hair and make-up for the day etc, and suddenly, this! I did my best to cover myself up with tissues, and apologised about ten million times to the clients, who were lovely about it, but still... Thank heavens I had a change of clothes with me - my dress was completely covered and I had to get changed in the back of the car while I sent the clients off to the second meeting alone. The whole thing was just so mortifying and upsetting . I got home this afternoon and took myself off to bed. I don't have a temperature or any other symptoms so it's definitely not swine flu, I think more likely something I ate. I got home this afternoon and took myself off to bed hoping that when I woke up it would all have been a dream, but sadly it definitely really did happen . So no more business trips for me (probably ever again, to be honest).
Anyway, enough about me. Erika - I'm sure I speak for everyone here when I say I am so impressed with how you seem to have faced up to and made the absolute best of your difficult situation. You need to take lots of pride in that, and use your new inner strength to withstand any new problems that life throws at you, like this credit issue. Just remember, you are going to be a mummy soon and you need to stay in tip-top condition for Bryn's sake, and not let anything get in your way!
And wook, you got me thinking, mmmmm Gene Hunt!

I have had the most stressful day so far this pregnancy, and I have avoided being sick .

I am having a manhattan. I feel vaguely guilty. In fact no I bloody well do not. I have been good all pregnancy, have been sick and so restricted as to what I can eat and drink, have stopped smoking, given up alcohol for the most part, and cofffee and cheese and chocolate and today I have been so stressed that I am having what I am equating to 2 glasses of wine. And I am going to bloody well enjoy it.

Sorry. I shall read and catch up posts and when I have some energy that is not simmering rage/fear/anxiety/stress I will post something positive.

xx

Oh eeyore that must have been so awful for you you poor poor thing . I have been very sick this pg, but not in front of anyone, luckily, does sound like something food related. Especially if you felt odd just before.

eeyore poor you, hope you're starting to feel better now and try and let go of the embarrassment.

Thanks, Broodzilla, and Eeyore - your words are so touching, means a lot. Thankyou. x

Becky, thanks, me too. He doesn't generally do the whole "ill" thing, so he must be feeling pretty rough... I'm glad you had such a good day Though I am ignoring your comment about the size of your friends baby

Ninja Poor you. From what you've said its really obvious that your DS knows his own mind. And yes, that's EXACTLY how it feels - every time the post comes I start shaking. Ugh. And may I have some cake, please? I LOVE bananna cake

Pavlov, sit back and bloody enjoy it. I hope it makes your evening a bit better. Sorry you're so stressed right now. x

Scarlotti, me too. Finally drifted off about three this morning, and then my neighbour decided to start drilling at 7.30. Was NOT impressed. Hope you get to sleep better tonight.

Sleepless poor you. At least no one was hurt, don't feel bad about it, these things happen - you should see the damage I can cause in a wheelchair; there's a very good reason I'M not allowed to drive

Eeyore, oh bless you! I hope you're feeling better now, that sounds so horrible. I'm glad your clients were nice about it, though. Take things easy... There are a lot of things going around at the moment.

5 and a half squares done now! I'm speeding!!!

eeyore you poor thing. Hope you've managed to rest this afternoon. I'm not sure if there is a bug going round, but a couple of weeks ago I was sick like that - very very out of the blue and very very violently. Sick twice and then nothing else. Hopefully that will be it for you too.

weston I don't want any money for postage, just send me your address. My email is laurafraineAThotmail.com

koumak you do need to register with yahoo for freecycle, but I'm sure you can register your own email address - I don't have a yahoo email account as far as I'm aware. I'm like scarlotti - I normally take clothes and books to charity shops, then freecycle electrical items (which charities won't take) and furniture (which we have no way of transporting). If anything is likely to have retained its value, ebay is probably worth a go. You can list it for collection only, but that's normally only for bulky items that would cost too much to post. You'll find a lot of sellers add a couple of quid on the postage to make it worth their while. The problem with freecycle is sometimes people say they want something, you wait in all afternoon and they don't turn up, but all in all it's normally great.

becky your day sounds lovely! Thanks for reminding all of us grumps with difficult toddlers what it's all about!

pavlov I am having a beer and not feeling guilty either. Why was your day so bad?

I am exhausted yet again. I can't believe I am so worn out minding DD and I am not even 6 months pregnant yet. I keep asking myself if I found it so hard last time and I'm sure I didn't. She is such a live wire, I don't know how I'm going to manage the next 3 months.

Morning all! Sorry to hear that so many of you had bad days, especially eeyore, such a shame especially as you have been looking forward to that trip. I hope you are feeling better now.
Broodzilla, I think mine is most of the time transverse too, as I get my kicks mostly in the sides. She seems to turn a lot, as my belly is moving in waves then. But I think, we still have plenty of time to get them in the right position.
BBL, thanks for sharing your nice day with us. I had a nice evening too. We went to a very nice restaurant to celebrate our 6 month wedding anniversary. (As we will never have a wedding anniversary with just the two of us My husband wanted it to be a surprise in the first place but then he thought with me being pregnant it was better to ask me first if I was in the mood... and I thought I was a rather balanced and easy pregnant woman )
Today, we are finally starting to do the babyshopping. I guess we won't buy anything yet but at least get some ideas of what we need/want. I'm really looking forward to it (might change my mind though in a couple of hours)

sleepless aw poor you, I just read about your accident. Don't worry about it, reversing is a spacial awareness skill and I would not be surprised if that goes out the window when we are pregnant, given how our brains are, so with the heat and a crying LO I expect this would not be 100%. You should see the dings DH has had! We live on a road which is full of parked cars, although quiet. People park right on the corners and it makes visibility around them impossible. We have two corners close together to navigate, and DH turned into one, went to go around the other and car was coming, really really fast around the corner at him so he reversed back up the short bit of road towards the previous corner, straight into a car coming straight across . He was not going slowly as the other car was driving at speed, and there was no visibility so it appeared no car coming, he thought it was parked. Unfortunately we were about to buy a new car, with new insurance and it would have got messy to claim (and expensive with lost no claims) so we paid the money direct to him (£400 in the end!!!) AND he has had 2 reversing accidents in one day costing £200 in total! So you are not bad at all!

usi oh did you have a nice time at dinner? Its a good idea to have time out just you two while you can.

For those working, - does anyone have any ideas when they are planning on taking maternity leave? I am ready now! I am 25 wks, almost (is that right?). I am planning on taking ALL my annual leave, which is hefty due to not taking much as a result of sickness, so therefore I currently have around 6 weeks to take. I am going to take it all then a week maternity leave, mainly as if I take it all and no maternity and baby arrives early, I will lose whatever annual leave I had booked, where if its maternity it will start on baby's arrival date - make sense? DD was 10 days early so its a possibility. That means I have around 9 weeks to go at work, and I just cannot wait to leave. We have so much to do and once the builders are gone, I can get on with it, and maybe even rest.

DD starts nursery again in Sept for 2 days a week so I should get a little time to myself!

erica sounds like your antenatal class was a good laugh! I am not going to do one this time around I don't think. I had considered the NCT ones but we just cannot justify the money really, not when we have been here before. If it was first time, I would do it. The NHS one, which we did the saturday one of was shite, really shite. I saw the maternity ward, seen it now! I had a shite day yesterday largely due to builders doing my head in, screwing up really really really badly (or rather the architect? who bloody knows), DH not getting a job we needed him to get, and just general feeling of angriness! But I am ok, so far, today

Agree, arguments with DH are more likely to occur at night, sometimes, during the night if I can't sleep .

im taking maternity leave from the 5th of sept, technically its the sunday before that tho cos the 5th is a sat. but then i only work one day a week.

trikken - when are you due again? ( We have lost our list! )

Are you planning on returning to work after maternity leave? Is anyone planning on leaving their employment, or reducing hours considerably? I am seriously contemplating saying sod the money, lets be financially poor and emotionally rich and cut my hours down from 32 to 16. I would love to do that, although it will be a hefty pay cut. Right now, I just want to be a homebody. Maybe that will change

Thanks pavlov and erika..am mortified still..always pride myself as the careful and better driver but a crying LO has been my undoing! Cars are expensive businesses...i was so scared about the damage! but luckily the gods were smiling down..

eeyore oh my goodness..you poor thing. I know what you mean about getting all prepped for a good day's work only to be sick all over your lovely outfit..been there... I used to hate sitting in meetings when the alien prodded and poked and i'd have to shift a million times..not very prof in front of CEOs... after a while i hung up my meeting boots and only went if in house..how are you feeling now???better? did you eat something funny?

DH rang from the BIG Chill..sounds like he's having fun..not my idea of fun at all..there have been 200 robberies so far and one punter got his wallet nicked from under his pillow whilst asleep!!