Due November 2009 - second trimester thread part 2

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My eyes are constantly welling up at the smallest things now. Feel like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster so you're not alone.

Although to be honest Trikken if my DH put marmite on my toast I'd cry to! Can't abide the stuff

Trikken and mumsiebumsieI am so glad that I am not the only one prone to getting emotional or irritable over trivial things at the moment!
I think it is because the big things I'm worried about at the moment are quite overwhelming- how will I cope with two? How will we get the house sorted out? How are we going to pay the mortgage?- so it is easier to not think about those and go into meltdown about not being able to find the lid to the food processor instead! Or weep over some soppy advert!
One thing I am feeling quite happy/sad about is that Friday is the anniversary of my first miscarriage last year. Feel sad for obvious reasons, but also so thankful that I can feel this little girl alive and kicking (ALL the time!!!). If you'd told me around this time last year that a year on I'd be fine, all was not lost, and that everything would work out just fine I wouldn't have believed it- but it's true!

becky an Amby is a Baby Hammock which they sleep in instead of a crib or a cot. Put ours together last night and then very reluctantly put it away is it's not time yet... Have a look at amby.co.uk

erika Glad you're able to see it that way - and remember, that you'll be able to do whatever your friends have planned now, in a few years. I mean, by the time you're as old the same age as most of us on this thread your baby will be nearly a teenager and you'll have your whole life ahead of you!
Also, my bean was so busy a couple of days ago that I nearly called the MW. He was moving CONSTANTLY, all day. Now he's back to his usual routine where he's got clear cycles of movement and sleep (or whatever it is they get up to!)

Re: being overly emotional. I ended up in tears yesterday because the trolley in Tesco had a wonky wheel...

Thanks beepbeep and broodzilla, makes me feel a little better hearing its not just mine! I was really scared I'd hurt him at water aerobics or something but this morning he woke me up kicking away for feel happier We played "Poke me and I'll poke you back" for a bit, which I'm sure you're not really supposed to do, but I love it

About being overly emotional... I burst into tears last week when DP told Bryn he loved him. Which is guess is mildly acceptable. But then I cried in Tesco's because I saw Pate and miss it so much. There was a lovely woman pushing a new born who patted me on the shoulder and reassured me, "Just a few months, and you can eat what you want."

Dad's making bacon sandwiches this morning - SCORE!!! That's always a good start to the day... (Sorry to any Veggies out there!) Therapy has been cancelled today because she's ill, and I totally jumped on the bandwagon by presuming that it MUST be Swine Flu. Wow, the media have this one sussed.

wook - you have real reasons to get emotional. Friday is a real landmark for you, I feel I should be congratulating you as well as commiserating. So pleased how things are looking up for you 1 year on

Erika Pate is the one thing i miss most of all. told marty thats what i want to have the first morning home with the baby.
we also play poke me and i'll poke you back,(she seems to respond to daddys hand more than me for some reason.) did with ds too and it did no harm, i think you would be hurting yourself too if you were doing it hard enough to hurt him.

I've read that interacting with your baby whilst inside is a good thing, and strengthens the bond for both mum and baby. The baby will obviously feel the pokes, but will also feel the pleasure hormones from the Mum from the interaction and so will pick up on it being a lovely thing iyswim.

I tend to chat away to him at night if he's kicking/moving - works for me!

wook will be thinking of you Friday. We had our day a few weeks back as it was the due date of the baby we lost. Nothing wrong with marking the memory of a lost one, and it bears no relation to the happiness you feel for this one so just go with how you feel.

I've had a few bits of pate along the way

www.lifeinmotionphotography.com/slideshows/amerlyn/

cried and cried and cried....hormones eh!
thanks for that it was lovely

Happy wedding day lemontop and remember to enjoy yourself

Wook, my due date for the baby I miscarried at the New Year would have been this Friday. Without sounding hugely ungrateful for this current pregnancy, I feel as if I've been pregnant forever - since last October?! I had a four week break in the middle, but I think I rather wasted it by crying a lot and not drinking nearly enough red wine.

Am also getting emotional at little stuff, but I think that's because if I think about the big stuff - have I mentioned DH's company are transferring us to the US this February so I'm going to be on my own in snowbound Virginia with a three month old and a toddler?! - my head will implode. It's easier to fret about DS's newfound ability to climb out of his cot.

Wow, just watched the life in motion, amazing! Cried pretty much from start to finish. I might get dh to take pictures when I am in labour, he is really good at photography and I regret not doing it for ds, what a lovely way to remember such a special day.

Trikken, yours showing favoritisum too?? He always kicks more for DP DP doesn't even have to poke him, just say, "Daddy's here, Bryn!" and he goes crazy! I would sulk about it but DP gets so happy about it its hard to feel resentful

Scarlotti - I've started reading to him if he's awake when I'm reading. He seems to enjoy it. I tried the old classical music thing but got no responce, he seems to enjoy DPs rock more haha!!

Tamlin, I'm not surpised you're stressing, I definately would be! Poor you... All sounds very hectic to even contemplate. Though I'm sure it will be the best thing ever when you get over there

The baby I lost would have been due just two weeks before this one. I was in Australia teaching on my due date, away from friends and family, and it was the hardest day. I'll be thinking of you, Wook. x

Ohhh yes, Lemontop, have a fantastic day!!!

DP still being very distant, I know he's relapsed Don't think I could stand it if he started to push me away again. Vere tempted to just turn up there later - I'm sure I could find an excuse - just to make sure he's okay... The longer you leave a relapse without catching it, the harder it is to get back out. Maybe its because of that but I'm getting irrationally angry each time I see an advert about weight loss or something related to it online or on TV. GAH.

I gave myself a French manicure earlier, and if I do say so myself it looks reasonably tidy! My hands are getting steadier

Thanks for wedding wishes. Can't wait for the day to come to be honest. Stress levels have gone up since relatives arrived. I thought everything was sorted but yesterday I had my mam crying about who is going in the wedding car! Honestly when relatives say 'we'll so whatever you like' it's just not true and not worth the hassle. grrrrrr

The heavy rain forecast also doesn't make our bbq plans sound too great either.

Roll on honeymoon on Sunday!

Congratulations on the engagement ninja koumak hope you are feeling better today

wook and tamlin so sorry that friday will be difficult for you both, it is perfectly acceptable to be upset, so please don't feel like you are being ungrateful, take some time out to think about your lost baby if you feel you want to.

erika good to see you back

mumsiebumsie Congratulations on the scan, I saw a thread on the pregnancy topic about 2/3 vessels, it seems quite common and it looks as though you will be monitored closely. As for the placenta previa that too is common and usually corrects itself, they should have given you a measurement of how far it is covering your cervix, this is normally a good guide as to whether or not it can move.

What a nightmare day I had yesterday!
A few weeks ago I moved hospitals, I got a letter a week later asking me to go to the new hospital for a scan, I phoned them and explained I'd already had a 20 week scan so they cancelled it. Last Monday a letter came saying I had missed my scan and here is a new date Once again I phoned the hospital, this time I was told it wasn't for scan but to see a midwife and that if I didn't go I couldn't give birth there (I am hoping to birth at a local midwife centre but need a consultant hospital just in case)So I agreed to go...
This is where the pain started the hospital is an hour away in the city, luckily I have a friend who lives about 20 mins from the hospital, so I dropped boys off with her and fought my way through city traffic to the hospital,
On arriving the car park has moved to a 10 minute walk from the hospital , finally park up to find its pay and display not pay on leaving, I only have a £10 note! The ticket man wouldn't give me change so I had to walk 10 mins to hospital, buy a bottle of water walk 10 mins back and que for 5 mins at the only ticket machine!
I had to call to say I would be late

Finally get to the hospital and because I've come from a different way I have no idea where I am, luckily there is a lady who directs you, she said oh dear its at least 15 minutes from here to maternity!
So... I finally arrive at maternity and get sent through to the midwife desk who... have no record of me after lots of messing around they agree I can see a doctor for an antenatal check (i was close to tears by now) half an hour later I'm seen by a lovely lady doctor. However she looks at all my previous scans and decides she is not happy, she sends me off to be rescanned, luckily all is fine and she finally agrees its ok for me to be referred back to the midwife centre for the rest of my care.
After picking the boys up from my friend's house I finally arrived home at 6.30pm last n night feeling shattered and emotionally drained.
So sorry to have ranted on and thanks if you've read any of it!

Christ, Tigger, that sounds like a nightmare! You poor thing... It always suprises me how little thought goes into the logistical planning of hospital layouts. But I'm glad everything is okay, and they gave you the all clear for the centre

Tigger32 do you think a lot of people give birth there in car park or the corridors then? Sounds like a long journey. Maybe they are after proactive labours and just catch the babies on arrival?

I am a bit better energy wise. But feel a bit like getting food poisoning (not sure from what though) or swine flu? - Warning TMI and cant decide which end its going to come out IYKWIM

Should be working but getting all the paperwork ready to start suing my landlord. Also, wearing my black wrap Isabella Oliver dress. Had loads of comments already. But they don?t know I am wearing pregnancy spanx underneath I found on figleaves.com. And do I need them!

Does anybody get difficulty breathing? Any fast movement and my lungs go to override. But funny thing is I get it when I lay down at night as well. I fall asleep sitting up now!

Trying to get tomorrow and Friday off. Wish me luck!

wow haven;t looked on this for ages & everyone being very busy

I have active bump at teh moment kicking away all the time.. haven;t found out the sex ..

Koumak - i just bought the green Isabella Oliver empire wrap dress in sale - is that the same as yours?

Was hoping to get it today so could wear it to lunch meeting tomorrow but hasn't come yet. Am debating getting one of the other s before sale ends on sunday... such pretty stuff altho kinda pricey

Just checked out those dresses, aren't they goregous?? I'm jealous of you having an excuse to wear then Though I'm loving my MotherCare trousers, so damn comfortable.

I can't decide whether to rant and rave or cry right now. The fact I'm worrying about DP is not his problem, apparently, and he doesn't want to spend his life reassuring me if I'm not willing to believe him. That doesn't seem fair. Gah.

My brother is driving me bonkers - he went to a sleep over last night, so has had about three hours sleep, its raining, and like any younger sibling he's determind to make my life as awkward as possible. Might have to smoother him in the night.

Sorry to those who lost a baby on Fri..Do think of them and be happy you have bubbas who can't wait to see their mummies.

tigger sorry for your rather hard day..are you better?

Going to my spanish wedding this weekend and wearing my IO Jessica whatsername dress. I still look like a whale!

Tamlin I too feel as though I've been pg forever. Fell pg at the beginning of last August, m/c early Sept, pg again with no period then m/c xmas eve. Got thoroughly rat-arsed over Xmas which did make me feel much better, then pg again early Feb.
The cocktail of hormones I've been living with is immense.

Didn't realise you were off to the US - hope it's not too much hassle for you and you enjoy it when you're settled there.

Just watched the photo film, how beautiful.

tigger hope you've recovered from your hectic day

Scarlotti, you'll have been pregnant or recovering from pregnancy for well over a year then! I hope you're taking really good care to eat well.

Tigger, I'm glad you had a chance to do a 'dry run' - can you imagine trying to find the maternity suite while in labour? And do you have to do the ten minute walk while in labour, or is there a special delivery carpark? I've been warned that apparently the hospital I've now decided to deliver at is a bit labyrinthine and higgledy-piggledy in its layout, so we'll have to go exploring ahead of time.

We just had our first official appointment with our doula, and she was lovely. I think I'll be very comfortable throwing up all over her. I did warn her to bring an extra shirt in case of projectile splatter, and she seemed very unfazed - hurray! She did say that apparently both local hospitals are worrying about staff shortages this autumn with not enough midwives to go around when the flu really hits, so I am privately very glad that DH agreed to a doula - I didn't say this to her, but if push comes to shove (hah), she may wind up catching the baby because DH won't want to do it!

Lemontop, I hope that all your family keep any angst out of your earshot on the day so you and DP can just enjoy yourselves...

Boo! Just saying hello everyone after finishing work for the day and before shutting lappy down.

Someone has just started to kick me as I type this from the inside, of course!

im quite worried about the lack of parking at the hospital, it is quite big but always full. both scans we had to park 10 mins away and walk up through town. last time we were lucky and there was one space free. hopefully we will be lucky again.

Morning,
Thanks for the messages of support, I feel much better today.
Got a busy 2 days now as we go away on Saturday for 2 weeks weather is looking terrible though!

tamlin glad you got on well with your doula, that must be a huge relief!

scarlotti that's a long time pregnant and a lot of hormones, it will be worth it come November though

sleepless hope you enjoy the wedding, I'm sure you'll look great in your new dress.

erika hope your brother is in a better mood after a good nights sleep!

Right better get on.

Yeah, I'm starting to feel like an elephant - although aren't they pregnant for 2 years?!

Our hospital will allow you to park temporarily in A&E whilst Dad gets Mum up to the maternity unit. Then he has to go back and park the car. DH doesn't drive so we used a taxi with DS - by far the easiest option. I'd recommend if it's feasible cost wise for you.

Do we think that staffing levels might be a problem come November then? I hadn't really started to think about that.

Yeah! I feel like celebrating. Last night was the first night in ages I didn't need any gaviscon in the middle of the night. (Sad the things that make us happy!)

Scarlotti I know how you feel. I've had two MCs so have had the 'horrible bit' (ie MS, tiredness, etc) five times now in six years. I spent the best part of 2002 being pregnant as had MC at 12 weeks, had a month off then got pregnant with DS2. It is worth it though!