Due November 2009 - second trimester thread part 2

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Hope this works

Ah well, sounds like we just happened to be really unlucky with kiddicare then. Who knows, they may well redeem themselves tomorrow.
Yes, it's the Amby. Can't wait to see it. DH is still a bit suspicious, but I also like the bit about the baby rocking itself back to sleep (also goes with the Baby Whisperer concept) and the fact that it helps with reflux and colic. Kiddicare also sell the jump-jump accessory, so it could get a lot of use! Hammocks seem to be really popular in Scandinavia, but they tend to be either the "hang over door" kind or the type that hang down from the ceiling, neither of which seem very safe to me (especially as our house is 200+ years old...)

I certainly didn't know car seats had expiry dates! Seems... well... how come the same doesn't apply to car seat-belts and such like? I don't get it. BESIDES - don't they do them from 0-4 and 4-12 years? Surely then the 0-4 would be nearly expired and the 4-12 way too old by the end?

Oh gosh, there's so much to keep track of.

Koumak I had no idea. The woman at customer services said it was to do with the plastics too. I'm not sure what to do really as I think DS2 will be ok for a few months then not ok for a few months.

The shopper in me wants to buy a new one but we could do without the expense really.

Oh, and apparently I should give DS2 a new mattress too for the cotbed?

Nope, not cheap. And there was me feeling oh so smug at having kept all the clothes from DS1

Broodzilla my thoughts exactly - if they expire in 5 years then how can you sell a seat that's supposed to last an 8 year age gap?!

I don't know what to do now. Without this information we'd have happily used the seat with no worries. Now, if anything were to happen I'd never forgive myself.

Not sure what DH is going to make of this...

I know what you mean! I think you will be ok to keep the one you've got. But we didn?t have a car at the very beginning with ds so only "borrowed" the very first car seat so will be buying one this time. But will use the second stage car seat Priori XP ds had and the one he is currently in Rodi XR for the baby eventually I think.

There seems to be at least three diffeerent opinions on everything... I never imagined it would be so confusing!! Currently trying to weigh up buying (another) buggie, because its a from birth use, just under 2 years old, very light weight, and I've been offered it for £50 from Mum's workmates sister. I might go have a look at it... But then, we already have one, so is there really a point??

I might be leaving here, as theres been problems on one of the other boards, and some of the responces have really got me down Its all a bit crappy this end right now.

Erika dont leave, we need u here!

Hello all,

scarlotti I had no idea about car seats, we had planned to replace our 2nd stage car seat (britax 1st class) as its been washed so many times and the inner is starting to look worn, its about 5 1/2 years old so I guess that's reasonable, but it is expensive.

Tamlin hope ds is feeling better

Koumak We got the easy rider from the kiddicare store, we tested every pram/pushchair in store and this seemed the best for us. I have heard the mountain buggy is good too though!
Happy Anniversary for Friday

Welcome misssese great news on your girl

lemontop wow your wedding is so close, how exciting, hope you have a great day.

broodzilla sorry you had a bad time with kiddicare, I hope they surprise you and deliver tomorrow!

crossed post erika never take anything to heart that you read on the boards, don't let small minded people scare you away. We don't want you to leave

Thanks, Trikken, tigger. Its a crazy situation - jist would be DP and I both had a rough week last week, I posted on here to get it off my chest, people kinda misinterpretted what I'd said. DP (for some bloody reason) set up a profile and started commenting on the post and now everyone is really really laying into him. I nmean... I know he screwed up, and yes he upset me and worried me last week, but some of the things people have said, to him and to us as parents, are really hurtful. Comments like hoping SS are heavily involved because we're going to be crap parents, someone said "See you on Jeremy Kyle"... Its just reall quite hurtful.

that is hurtful, but from what ive read from your posts I think you will be a great mum. dont think on the crappy stuff others have said any more.

Thanks Trikken. Just... I know that he screwed up last week, HE knows he screwed up. I think people totally got the wrong impression of him. He had a bad turn, and I guess because we're both ill, a bad turn when it happens is pretty bad. I was really scared for him last week, and he did really upset me. But they're acting like he's a bad person, like he's not trying to do what's best for me and our baby. And he does. Tonight he's so upset by it all he's having trouble eating, and he's been doing so well. I just want to cry.

Hello from Harvard!

I am in the US for a week's study at Harvard at the graduate school of education. All very exciting and inspiring...but the jetlag is making BeeBee (and me) go mental. Tired all day anyway before that comes into account.

missesse I(normally) work in Hackney and this is my first too Where are you based?

Lovely to hear everyone's news and a big wave from across the pond X

Morning! Not been on for a while. Sorry I can't catch up on all your news! lemontop Have a wonderful day I'm sure all the hard work will be worth it! Erica sorry you've been going through a tough time. Hope you're OK and continue to pop in and see us.

I hope those of you with swine flu are getting better. A few friends have caught it and they've been very poorly.

Welcome missese I'm in South East London, near Crystal Palace.

I've got the NHS pregnancy desktop that pops up on my screen each morning. It's weird it works a week ahead. Can't believe I have 14 weeks to go (i'm sure most of us are around that now) Finish up work (self emp) in a few weeks, I've worked out I've got 12 working days left. I would have liked to of held out until mid Sept but it's not worked out that way. I'm taking 39 weeks off.

Scarlotti I guess it makes sense that carseats need to be replaced withing a certain amount of time, but I wouldn't of even thought about it! We are buying the maxi cosi cabrio with the isofix.

I'm sure there is loads I've missed out on. Hope you are all keeping well.

Fruitpastels I am going for the same but with the easybase (I think) as our car is not new therefore not equipped for the in car clicking fix thing? Has anyone seen the new Maxicosi car seats to be sold from Sept/Oct? Two new ranges. Look quite cool but so much more expensive! I saw them in the new Mothercare catalogue few days ago.

Pavlov are you around? Just wondering if you could email me the document?

Raggie Harvard?! Am very have a wonderful week over there.

Fruit good to see you again, and glad you're well. 12 days?! You lucky girl! I have 52 left according to my spreadsheet [pouting emoticon]

Erika sorry to hear things have been rough. I read through your other post to see what's been going on. I have posted on mn previously (under another name though) when I've been having troubles in my relationship/life - I was in a bad place for a while after my m/c's which will have tainted what I wrote as I was only focussing on the negative side of things. That meant that the responses I got weren't as supportive as I'd have liked, or said what I wanted to hear.
Can I suggest that you namechange for the times that you feel the need to offload? That way you don't carry around the baggage on mn unless you choose to.
Also, remember that people can only respond to what they see written, which is always coloured by how we feel when we write it. It's not personal as they don't really know you. Try not to take it to heart and remember that for everyone person that agrees with you about something, there will be someone that doesn't. On mn you just have access to far more 'someones' than you would in RL.

Hope that hasn't come across as preachy and hope you still pop in and post as I think the benefits of the advice avaiable here far outweighs any negative posts you might get.

Heartburn seems to be my constant companion these days Have been trying to keep it under wraps with milk but think I'm going to have to move on to the gaviscon. Must remember to ask the mw for a prescription at the next appointment otherwise I'll end up with shares in the company the amount I'll get through!!

Koumak On the maxi cosi site there is a function you can use to check if the isofix is compatible with your car. My car is a couple of years old. My rear car seats have a small isofix label. I'll have to take a look at the new maxi cosi seats. We're not having to buy much for this baby as have loads of stuff from DS in good condition. I'm really wanting to go out and spend!! If I knew the sex of the baby then I would be in trouble as I would't be able to contain myself buying up all of Mothercare!

Scarlotti I think your words to Erica are very sensible and supportive. Sorry you've got bad heartburn. I'm getting it on/off but had it bad near the end of pg with ds, so gaviscon was my companion for many weeks. I remember getting up at all hours of the night feeling terrible. My ds came out with a mass of black thick hair - you might have a hairy baby in there!! To be honest, I wish I could work a bit longer as I find work gives me a focus, but I'm sure I will find things to do, and ds will keep me busy.

I have 10 working weeks left + 2 weeks of summer holidays and 1 week off that I am going to take as the odd day and there. It does seem like a lot! I hope I survive.

Mornining, Lucky you raggie enjoy

koumak I was thinking of the maxi cosi too,as it fits onto our pram chassis, but having spent £140 more than planned on a pram/pushchair I think I will have to make do with my sisters ventura. (still a good car seat but not able to fit onto out system).

erika I think what scarlotti said makes alot of sense, I too have read through your other thread and although alot of things said could have upset you, I think most of the posters were actually on your side and genuinely worried for you. Try and put it behind you if you can and focus on keeping fit, healthy and happy for your baby. Oh and for what its worth I am pretty certain that you will be a great mum.

scarlotti I don't envy you with the heartburn, I had it with ds1 and its not nice!

raggie lucky you! If you are a meateater go to Redbones. mmmmm

fruitpastels I didn't realise you were so close. I'm in Gipsy Hill. Do you find the hills round here are wearing you out? I'm in an NCT dilemma as there's nothing really available round here. It's either Brixton or Croydon, neither of which are that close.

Got my family travelling down today from Middlesbrough (where I'm from originally). They've booked a hotel thank goodness so I won't be on call all day but they haven't spent a lot of time in London so I'll be playing tour guide for the next few days.

Erika don't you dare leave us!!!!! All the advice above is very good and I echo everything everyone has said.

I've been manic with work again School hols and freelancing do not mix well.

Erika I, too, had a scan on the other thread. I agree with Scarlotti. People will unfortunately only judge a person / situation by what they "see", which is only ever going to be a snapshot of the situation. In a way (under different circumstances) that's sometimes the beauty of the interweb, because you can get advice on just the issue you raise rather than the rest of your life IYSWIM. It does mean that sometimes people are harsh, as they only see the rough and not the smooth. Please don't leave, just take a deep breath and hold your virtual head up high!

Ninja I keep forgetting to say CONGRATULATIONS ON THE ENGAGEMENT!!

Raggie oooh, Cambridge. If you've ventured along the Charles there's a bridge by the Cambridgeside Galleria that I walked along in February when I suddenly had a funny feeling... I found out I was pregnant the next morning.

Hello to everyone. Erika - don't leave us! I like reading some of the boards on Mumsnet but I do feel that outside of the TTC / antenatal type threads the tone is quite different. I am quite a polite person and I would find it difficult to write some of the very strident posts that I have seen on the other boards. I think on this group everyone tries to be supportive and polite and that's why I like it!
So, here is a very uncontroversial but rather silly story about my life for you. I am feeling very happy today. I have a strange pyjama obsession - I am always happiest when in my pj's. I don't like nighties as I like the cosy feeling of pj bottoms. Anyway, as I've got bigger I've grown out of my pjs and so in desperation I bought a really nasty looking pair from Jojo Maman Bebe in the sale. They fitted really badly, were a disgusting colour and I looked totally grim in them. Anyway, I finally decided that I just could not make myself look that ugly on a daily basis, so despite the previous purchase I went out to Mamas and Papas which is near where I work. Now I have the most lovely checked pj bottoms! They are really flattering and I don't look like a puce-coloured pyjama beast in bed anymore. Hurrah!! It is the little things in life which can really cheer you up, I think...

Thanks ladies, had heartburn with DS and he had a whole head full of black hair. Funnily enough though, it all ended up falling out and he's now quite blonde!!
The milk fetish is helping but my trusty gaviscon will now be by my side...

Ninja my gosh, yes, congratulations on your engagement

Broodzilla hooray for the hammock!! Am pleased to hear it's not huge as have been worried about that. Am hoping to get mine out at the weekend and put it together to see what it's like. Have resisted so far as will be another thing to avoid banging into in the bedroom!!
We still have some decluttering to do in the spare room before there's room for lo in there!

Eeyore lovely pj's, am tempted myself actually. I tend to get changed of an evening out of work stuff and all my pj bottoms sit uncomfortably tight under my bump. Plus I keep thinking that as we get nearer to November it will get chillier so will need some nice bottoms to wear.

Think I might have just convinced myself!!

Thanks ladies... I did try and namechange to post it, but for some reason I can't I know that originally people were trying to help, but then it just turned into a bit of a verbal blood bath!! Bit concerned about DP as he's not been responding to my texts since early yesterday evening, and isn't online today... Not like him. I might take the spare key and pop in after my meeting today if I still haven't heard anything. I'm just upset at how vicious it got - he's ill too, and now can't eat because what they'd said to him was at times exactly what his little (anorexic) voice has been saying, and he's been trying to suppress sighs

Anyway -

Raggie - I'm soooo jealous Before I got ill, I was in negotiations with them, and it just looked SO amazing. I hope you have a fantastic time - send us all a virtual postcard!

Scarlotti - Poor you with the heartburn I've escaped that delight so far, but am sending you Gavescon-shaped hugs!!

Lemontop - Take it easy in town, I hope there's a breeze at least. Must confess I don't envy you that job today! But I hope you have a nice time

Broodzilla - Sounds very comfortable... I second the suggestion for adult sizes!

Eeyore - Ohhh they're so pretty... Don't tempt me!!! But they are SO very nice. I like being in my PJs too - it is one of the few advantages of being home every day, much as it drives me bonkers, at least I get to stay snuggled up!!

Ninja - I don't think I've yet wished you Congratulations My apologises. CONGRATULATIONS

Misssese welcome to the thread..Antenatal classes start around 28-30 weeks depending on where you do them..Have you registered with the NCT? I found them really goo.

eeyore2 love your pj story....LOVE IT...its too hot here for PJs..but will keep M&P in mind...

Scarlotti and Broodzilla.. we are also thinking Amby but think it may be a it expensive for our last baby..with DD we used an old (100 years old) swinging metal cot..it was great..but alas we don't want to get it delivered to Geneve from the UK in case it falls apart.

erika sorry to hear about your stress...just ignore harsh comments and take a break and come back with a fresh outlook.