Due November 2009 - second trimester thread part 2

[skorpion]

Hope this works

Helips - my 34c bras still fit me, although the wire now digs in, so I am guessing I have gone up from that a little and I have stopped wearing them

BUT, I am wearing my bikini bras at the moment, they are halterneck and my Jasper Conran one is the most comfy bra I have! and necktie is adjustable so I can loosen it. And its a 34a/b but i am thinking as its adjustable, it does not count!!!

With DD, even though I bf, I still never had huge boobs. I have a cleavage now, but not that impressive given some of the pregnancy boobs I have seen. But then, I am still wearing much of my normal clothing as my bump is only just starting to stick out, and its high enough that my hipsters still do up (some of them!)

for different reasons to you, but I have felt/still feel quite depressed this pg. I have had hyperemesis, sort of managed on medication and feel this pg has been so much tougher than my last. And like you, hardly showing (until now) so people just do not think its pg related (only visible bumps seem to get sympathy eh?) I also have a little on (3) and I am sure others will agree, that have children, it is more tiring second time around. And I also think that maternity side of things, midwives etc are less hands on as this our second time, so we are more left to get on with it.

I am attempting to develop a fuck you pro-active attitude and just get myself and running, but sometimes I find myself wanting to crawl into bed and not get up again until my contractions start. So you are not alone, and feel free to offload all your stresses, worries and tension here with us.

Hello all!

Sitting here watching BB with lappy on my lappy.

Pavlov I have only gone from 34B to 34C - they look big to me but then I'm used to fairly average small boobies. They are really veiny though which I hate.

ErikaMaye I was so shocked by what that woman said to you. The balls of some people! Why are some people so miserable and so intent on spreading their misery?

Anyway, last day tomorrow for you teachers! I so will not miss going to school and back three times a day. The DSs are quite happy to have seven weeks off. I need to think of things to do for seven weeks.

Hello Ponkey! Welcome to the mad house! I'm feeliing down too with over work, lack of time to myself, feeling tired lugging this body around (and only 23 weeks!). I do look pregnant now - got quite a bump.

Well better go, DH thinks I am still working and is giving me the wicked evils. He thinks I work too hard.

My boobs have gone up a few cup sizes (From a 32E to a 32G) and I think they're quite possibly more awkward to manouver than my bump - which is huge. I feel HUGE. Though (sorry, I feel really good about this!) I still seem to have my hips. I even still go in at the waist! I'm making the most of it as I know its bound to go bye-bye very soon. Have given up trying to see my feet.

My DP is furious about the woman on the bus. His immediate reaction (Bless them, men are so simple sometimes, its cute) was that she wouldn't have said anything if he'd have been there. He's probably quite right, really. I'm used to people digging at me about my disability - even had the "And just HOW do you think you're going to cope with a child if you can't walk without aid?" - and that doesn't bother me any more. But wow. Should have taken her ankles out with my stick

Sorry you're feeling rough, Ponkey. I'm not surpised you're feeling the strain, you have an awfual lot to deal with right now. I hope your DS feels better soon. I help out and use the mental health boards on here, so if you ever want to talk more, please feel free to tack me down. Have you tried making a list of everything thats bothering you? Sometimes just writting it down can feel like you've removed it all, even just temporarily.

Its nearly the weeked!!! I can't wait to see DP dances I bought him a new chain for his neckless, I do hope he likes it... Am really on a tight budget this month, but he needed a new one as his other one broke last weekend, and he doesn't feel right not wearing his cross, and I knew he'd have to wait until the weekend at the earliest until he had time to get a new one, and only then if I was feeling well enough. Do feel like a bit of an inconvience sometimes... He never makes a fuss about my condition, but I can imagine it must be very frustrating at times.

ponkey I've been feeling depressed recently. It's my first so haven't got anything to compare it to but I think if you're stressed about anything preggy hormones make things seem much worse. I'm also due on 5th November and got a baby update email today saying 'you may feel depressed for a few weeks around this time.! I'm having my baby at the Mayday in Croydon.

Morning all! I'm going to a wedding tomorrow woohoo in my pink ebay Isabella Oliver dress yeah!

Does anyone know anything about Young, Gifted and Talented? DS1 got a letter about it in his bookbag last night but no explanation from the teacher. I need to find out what it is all about.

Last day today woohoo! DS1 is very excited as he doesn't have to wear uniform and can take anything he wants for his snack and it doesn't have to be fruit!!!! Such a treat to a five year old!

Morning! I haven't been on for a couple of days as been feeling sick - lurked a bit though, just haven't had the energy to post!

becky I'm glad the mean boys have stopped picking on DS. Hopefully after some time apart over the summer they may stop picking on anyone. I don't know about gifted and talented, except that my best friend runs the G&T scheme at a university and they run sessions/ summer schools for bright children to come in. I'm sure there's much more to it than that though!

funtime my DD is just like yours (or is yours a DS?). She is 2.8 and either has no nap at all, in which case I have to deliberately keep her up from about 4pm, or she falls asleep when we're out somewhere and will sleep for at least 2 hours - can't be woken before - and then not go to bed until about 10pm. I feel like I'm housebound every afternoon as I'm so desperate for her not to fall asleep. It's rubbish!

ponkey and lemontop sorry you're feeling stressed/ depressed. I know I feel much less able to cope with any problems than I normally would. The best thing I've found is getting as much sleep as possible. Even when I'm not that tired, I've started going to bed early and it does seem to be helping.

In the absence of wine, I'm finding swimming a good stress relief. erika was it you who said about wanting to take your bump off for a few hours? You should go swimming! That is just what it feels like.

Has anyone ever had rosacea? The doctor reckons that's what the rash on my face is, triggered by a reaction to a virus. I'm not that convinced.

BBL "YG&T ygt.dcsf.gov.uk/Primary/DynamicPage.aspx?pageId=8"
Well done to your boy

I feel rough, sore throat, burning mouth, gurgly tummy, hot/cold, chesty. But no temp.
Just waiting for dr to call back. I turned up to deliver mt weekly workshop yesterday to be told most of the group were off with Swine Flu I really hope they were just skiving but receptionist said it was rife in the school!

Hope everyone else is well.

I have been a bit pre occupied and missed a few birthdays and newbies so apologies, hopefully I will be on better form soon.

I have my hospital appointment today. Don't know if I'll be allowed to go though. Will wait and see if I perk up.

Oh yes and if anyone else cannot cope with anything too emotional at the moment, I've been reading a good book, My Latest Grievance by Elinor Lipman, which is light and fun. This was supposed to be my holiday reading, but I've almost finished it and we don't go on holiday until Monday... have to find something else. I'm struggling to find books which are really well written but not sad.

Sorry, crossed posts with you ninjacat. Sorry you're feeling so rubbish and hope you get some good advice from the doctor soon.

Sorry Laugs cross posted. Good morning.
My step mother had rosacea and was told it was down to stress. Perhaps its a one rash fits all.

Dr just phoned and said I can go in.

Hope the rain stops soon.

Yeah it's miserable here too. Been pouring since yesterday afternoon, and we have a hole in our roof!

Hope the doctors goes well. Is this your second scan?

Miserable here too. But to be honest I am quite relieved!

I am glad there is a break from that hotness, my poor pg body could not cope with the heat .

DD went to the shops with DH, all trussed in waterproof coat, wellies, jeans and her favourite party dress , she loves the rain, and came back soaked to the bone and very happy indeed. Who says you have to stay in when it rains? . I like the rain too so I might get us both dressed appropriately and go for a proper muddy stomp in the local woods, or park at least where she can splash in muddy puddles like peppa pig!

Hope you all feel better soon.

I had such a rough night, only got to sleep about 3am, and my midwife turned up an hour early - at 9.30! I had to talk to her in my PJs, how embarssing. However, she said everything looks good - bump is a little small (!!!!!) as only messures 21cm and I'm 23 weeks on Monday, but is still in the safe range. Said some of her midwives were off with The Swine but that she wouldn't have come here if she had seen them because of my low immune system. Bless her

Also took a major weight off my mind and said that if it did come down to me needing an emergancy CS, then they tend to give a spinal instead of a general. Phew. Thank goodness for that!!! Feel so much better now.

Plus she said that she and some others run teen ante-natal groups in Brighton once a week, so that fab. She did also warn me that the majority of young women there won't be of the same ilke as me, but thats okay - just to meet some others going through the same kinda thing would be nice. So hopefully I can start those in the next two weeks, before it gets too difficult with my ME.

Its not raining here, just blowing a gale. I'm sucking... Pavlov - you HAVE to go jump in puddles, thats what they're for

Laugs crossed posts on crossed postes it's like a transatlantic conversation.

Back from Dr and have poped into work. Dr sais unspecified virus and he cant guarantee it's not Swine Flu but that he needs me to go for hospital appointment [physio/nurological thing] so I'm to attend.

If my temp goes any higher I'm to contact NHS direct as I will need anti virals.

This is not the weather for a hole in the roof however it most deffinatly Pepper Pig puddle sploshing weather

DS is on his way home from school camp today. I think you miss them more the closer they get to being home.

laugs - don't know if it's exactly emotional but I completely broke down yesterday watching an Aviva advert about a brand new dad looking after his brand new daughter while his wife rests after labour. Can't even think about it now

Emotional item on telly I meant. Me. I was deffinitely emotional. Good job DH was out, poor bloke gets scared by tears if there is a reason for them, what would he have said to that, I wonder...

Hello ladies

Ninja sorry to hear you're feeling rough, hope you're better soon

Ponkey welcome! I can completely understand how you feel too - I work full time and have 2 dc's already so am running around most of the time stressed. Looking forward to a break when mat leave comes along, but am sure the new baby will put paid to much rest! Seems worse for me at the moment as we've just come back from our hols which was really relaxing - now if I could just recreate that feeling of calm, maybe the constant heartburn might go away again

pavlov my boobs have grown but not as much as in previous pg's so maybe that's got something to do with it. Also, your sizings won't be as accurate as they're bikini tops. I say if you're comfy then don't worry!

BBL congrats on your son and the G&T. My daughter has been in that since primary - the amount of impact it will have on him will depend on what the school does. There will also be chances for him to go to extra classes/camps etc. as he gets older if he chooses.

Koumak my travel insurance was from the internet and pretty cheap, bought for cost and pg coverage. Will see if I can find an email later tonight with the details of who it was on it.

As for me, sleeping through seems to have gone out of the window these days so most days I feel a bit jaded. Brings you down I think. Would love to have a weekend of napping but DD has her birthday BBQ this Sat so we'll have about 20 15 yr olds in the garden - joy

Hello all and welcome to plonkey

Sorry some many of you are feeling down, I seem to be able to control my emotions at the minute but they are very up and down! I'm off to meet my new councilor on Tuesday, fingers crossed he/she will be nice.

I can't believe this bad weather, we're going camping this weekend!

Took ds2 to the hospital this morning for an eye check up (we go every 3 months due to a squint)we had to see the consultant today and had to had drops, they have decided that he needs glasses and has to wear them all waking hours poor little man, I wanted to cry when they told me. Anyway he has been fitted with some lovely glasses which we pick up next week!

ninjacat hope you feel better soon

BBL well done to your little boy

Meant to say BBL - well done the little star! Just pointed at the screen and said to the bump: pay attention!

Oh, and warm welcome to Ponkey, hope the mood lifts soon.

tigger - pack some wellies and enjoy your camping trip

Hello everyone

Big hello to Ponkey, glad you found us! I've had a real up and down pregnancy and am a bit worried that I'll have post natal depression again but am seeing a counsellor due to needle phobia, who's also helping me with any low feelings. The most important thing is to talk about how you're feeling, don't bottle it up.

Katster My boob wasn't itching so much as aching with the odd sharp pain before the leaky incident. It hasn't happened since, thank goodness...

Koumak Belated happy birthday wishes! My bump has also suddenly ballooned this week. A friend said yesterday that she didn't think I'd make it to November (but she said the same thing about DD, who was over 2 weeks late..)

Lemontop I'm sorry you've been feeling so low recently. Don't be too hard on yourself though - you've had a lot to deal with this pregnancy and you're coping amazingly well with the wedding plans, especially given all the hormones that are rushing around your body. As for your friends, I'm sure they'll understand when they think about your situation. Keep your chin up and if you need to get something out of your system that you don't want to vent in the direction of DHto-be, tell it to us instead xx

Tamlin Your posts always make me smile and I completely sympathise with the toddler tantrum. This morning I thought DD was possessed by the devil and fully expected her to turn her head completely round and vomit on me like in The Exorcist! The tantrum this morning was because we'd run out of a cereal that she doesn't usually like - go figure! And I admit to thinking, "why the hell am I putting myself through this again" Five minutes later and she looked like butter wouldn't melt and seemed to have completely have forgotten the whole incident

Erica What a nasty a few unrepeatable rude words!! How bloody well dare she???? Just think that what goes around comes around. With any luck, she'll be bitten in the arse by a crazed, rabid hamster this weekend!

Pavlov Ah, the boobs! Mine didn't change after DD was born at all so at the beginning of this week when they suddenly ballooned, I did a happy waddle dance! Alas, it was not to be, as they have deflated once more now. So I am with you - WTF are they playing at?? And helips I'm jealous!

Skorpion I know exactly the ad you cried at, it's the same one that got me in tears the other night too (I think I wrote that it was Norwich Union - my bump also needs to pay attention)!!

And now a question: For those with other DC's, did you put them in a cot bed before a single bed or just go from cot to single? I've been given a cot bed by a friend but there seems to be limited bedding on the market for them and it all seems to be more expensive... Wondering whether to just buy a single bed and get a guard rail instead?

Hope you've all got nice things planned this weekend. TTFN xx

Wizzy - You do make me giggle. Rabid hamster...!!! I think I might set my fluffy little one to work, though she's probably too tame, bless her.

Is anyone else like... Crazily angry? I keep having these moment where I honestly want to break things. Bit concerning. Think its stress and hormones, and having a 12 year old brother. I've never been a violent person, even when I've had flare ups with my condition.

Did anyone hear that man (I've forgotten his name) with Jeremy Vine on Radio Two talking about The Swine earlier? Said that some of the people most at risk were young people, and those in the third tirmester of pregnancy. Thanks for that, guv. Just what I wanted to hear!!! Ah well. Is it irational that I'm annoyed at the NHS for not attempting to contain it any more?

I made coffee cake earlier - went horribly wrong for some reason! The spounge is crumbly. I'm sure I messured everything correctly. I'm aagin being irrational, and burst into tears because it didn't turn out perfectly. Still tastes quite nice, but still...

My DP has been weird with me the past 24hrs, and I don't know why. sighs I asked him if he wanted me round tonight, and he said, "If you want." Then I informed him that my Aunt is pregnant (They've been trying for years) and he just said, "Cool." I've litterally had ten words from him today. I don't know what I've done wrong!!!

And talking of my Aunts pregnancy... I feel really guilty. We weren't trying to get pregnant, and we (well he) considered terminating when we found out. They've been trying for so long, and have finally had some success with IVF. But its early stages, theres no garantee that her body won't reject it (Think she's only six weeks, but her and my Mum talk a lot). And heres me, coming up to six months, having such horrible thoughts about being pregnant at times...

Anyway, sorry, I am ranting again... But think I've mentioned before that DP is on facebook and tends to see what I've been doing (even if I delete, sneaky git...) so can't really talk on there, even on the support groups.

Wizzy DS is in a cot bed, we went for one as it lasts longer than a cot so he went from moses basket to cot bed. The sheets aren't too bad cost wise, we just use a fitted sheet for the bottom. I use a single quilt (and cover) and just tuck the extra underneath the bottom of the mattress. Figured it was cheaper than buying a cot bed one!

Blimey, I really can't keep track of all the news on this thread !

Don't talk to me about norks though . I've gone from a FF cup to a 30H and I'm only 20 weeks. Bearing in mind that I'm only 5ft and a size 10 on the bottom, getting clothes is a worse nightmare than usual. In order that the world can't see down my top (my boobs look like a 1950's secretary in a girdle!) I have to get size 16 or 18 tops. They're huge on my shoulders and I look like a tent on a lolly stick .

Awww Sorry to hear about you experience Plonky I hope it turns into a beeter time for you using UCLH

I know what you mean with not showing much - there is a girl in my department who is showing a lot more than me as she isnt as far gone so get a lot of 'Pregnant??? Really?? Where is it??' lol So when i'm feeling tired and run down they forget and think i'm needing a duvet day lol

LOL Pavlov I was reading on here about the muddy walks etc and got very excited! only problem is my this is my first so have no child as excuse to get dressed up and party in the rain - think my 19 yr old nephews would commit me if I tried to drag them out for some puddle jumping

Gosh more tired with each pregnancy!! Eek I think if I got more tired and slept anymore I would have to stop worp at 8 weeks and not wake up until delivery - hmmm sounds bliss actually

Sorry went on a bit!