Due December 09 - Fluttering Tums and Excited Mums...

[SarahL2]

New Thread before the old one fills up.

Yes I agree Scorps, was just DS and his typically stubborn way of doing things! BUT the thing is if I don't go for an ECS, they can't induce me, so if I go overdue this time (was 14 days late with DS) then I'll have to have a CS at 14 days+ anyway, which will be Boxing Day, and I really don't fancy that much! So seems easier to book in for the ECS at 39 weeks. Does that make sense?

Oh yes that makes sense Can you not book for ECS at 40 weeks, then you may deliver in the 39th week? or 39+few days? just an idea

sparkly - i know what you mean about being scared about being down, i had PND mildly first baby but with 2nd i was very ill, for a long time. It terrifies me and any sign of being down for more than a day i go to the doctors as im so scared of being in 'that' place. He isn't helping you is he. Maybe he expected TTC to take longer, but it sounds like you discussed it etc so he can't say he didn't know! What difference, really, would 6 months make?? Men are very odd. Put some cold water on your face x

Grrr sorry Sparkly, I missed your latest post. I wish he'd realise how lucky you are to have got pregnant the first month of trying. I presume he knows that your ex cheated on you during pregnancy and that you're understandably sensitive about the issue?

Getting PND again is obviously a worry but it might be a self fulfilling prophecy if you're worrying about it so much. I would definitely involve your GP/midwife at the moment just to make sure they're aware of it, then really try hard to put it as far back in your mind as you possibly can. I've had depression (not psychosis though) and was very aware of PND being a major possibility but my midwife and then health visitor were great just checking on me.

I think it's time to sit your DP down and try to CALMLY tell him what you need at the moment. Tell him have made a commitment together for life and a few months of little or no nooky is a very small price to pay. You understand that he has needs but at the moment it is the furthest thing from your mind, and you need him to be patient and supportive so that this doesn't become a major long term issue for you, but just a temporary glitch until you're feeling more like yourself.

That's my opinion anyway! Now try to do something else for half an hour to take your mind off this - have a nice soak in the bath or sit and read a magazine for a while - whatever suits you but just try and break the cycle of worrying about stuff if you can xxxxxxxxxxx

Oh and Scorps that sounds like a good idea - I'll see what the consultant says next week but will ask why it has to be 39 weeks... I'll let you know what he says x

Hey ladies,

Sorry that a few people are feeling so grim, I hope you all feel better soon.

Just got back from midwife. They are now not sure if my anaemia is due to iron deficiency or not. They also think that I may be a carrier of alpha-thalassemia, so I had more blood tests today, which should be back on monday or tuesday, then I will see the consultant. Midwife seemed a lot more positive than the doctor. So no transfusion...yet...

ViktoriaMac, poor you - just googled alpha-thal because I've never heard of it. Have you ever been told of it before or had any other symptoms? x

sparkly - sorry your other half's giving you such a hard time. Dh & I got pregnant with ds really quickly & dh found it hard to come to terms with (mainly because I'd convinced him it was going to take ages)I think men generally can feel a bit neglected but that's no excuse to treat you the way he is when he knows your history.

I was really worried about PND with ds as I've got a history of depression & was absolutely fine. I'm actually worried this time about not worrying as I could still get it this time even though I didn't last time. I'm a bit of a worrier in case you hadn't noticed.

ViktoriaMac - hope you get some good news soon

Sorry that you're having a tough time sparklymummy. Hope that things get better between you and your partner.

I'm worried about PND this time too, I think it's because with dd, summer baby, it was great getting out of the house for long walks every day, even when she was tiny, whereas this time round it's going to be freezing cold/snowy/icy/rainy so much less opportunity to get out in the fresh air and get some excercise.

Having already had a December baby I know what you mean about being worried about going out, but as long as you plan in where you are going on your walk, eg playgroup (even when they're 2 weeks old - mainly for your sanity) or a cafe with friends, and buy a really nice warm snuggle that they can slip in and out off easily and a decent rain cover, it's not too big a deal really. I walked miles every day (once I'd got over the CS and got some confidence) just to get out of the house and see different people every day, and I'm going to be the same this time I'm sure.

I don't think it's a bad thing to be aware of the possibility of PND striking, and tell a few key people in your life to look out for signs that you might miss, (weird behaviour etc) - it's better than burying your head in the sand and pretending it's not going to happen, especially, like it seems for most of us, if you've had a history of depression. Those first few months are very hard and it's easy to get over tired, depressed and desperate but the important thing is to not become isolated I think. So there.

Hi girls, i'm back from a very wet week in devon. Is anyone else still feeling reeeaaally tired around 17wks? I thought that should have passed by now? I've been going to bed at 10pm and could easily sleep in til 11am if it weren't for my 2yo who gets up around 7.30am and has decided he no longer needs a daytime nap. I'm hoping it'll pass soon as DP wants to go out for dinner with friends but I know I'll be yawning come 8pm. Anyone got any tips for staying awake / improving energy levels??

Going to bed at 10pm you dirty stop out! I've only just started staying up past 9.30 and I'm 20 weeks today! Up until last week I Was in bed by 8.30/9 every night, is this possible for you?

Hey everyone.

My DH has swine flu.

Think im getting it too.
My throat is killing me, im just waiting till DS gets it then life will literally be hell...

AmazingBouncingFerret - hope you feel better soon, i worry quite a bit about it, having a 2yo and grandparents and being pregnant but DP tells me not to listen to the scare mongers, easier said than done.

Moosy - DS doesnt go to bed til 9 so 10 is the earliest for me or DP wont get to see me. He thinks I go to bed too early as it is as we never get to sit down together, not for long anyway.

Hello everyone,

I haven't been on this thread for a long time, although I was on it at the beginning, on the old thread. I was suffering from mild depression, and wasn't feeling excited about the baby, but I have received treatment and things are much better now, so here I am, with a noticeable bump!

I felt this baby move - much, much earlier than in my previous pregnancies, and it is amazing how much difference this made to how I was feeling.

Hi ladies - can someone tell me what SPD feels like please? Since yesterday I've felt a real 'pressure', basically every bit of me that touches a seat when I sit down and it's still there when standing up. I've got quite a bony bum and them two nobble bony bits are really noticeable at the mo. I've never had SPD so no idea what it feels like. Has anyone else felt similar? Really uncomfortable today :-(

Millie - SPD hurts me in the inner thighs, kind of inside, you can't open your legs and walking hurts, and getting dressed is very hard. I had it slightly last pg. I also have days of being v tired, i think it depends on how much activity i do in the day.

ABF - hope your DH gets better and that you and DS avoid it....if you think you are getting it you must ask for Relenza, as we are at higher risk cos of being pregnant. Its safe in pg apparently. There is hardly any of it down here, it terrifies me though.

Alexis - glad you are more upbeat, i too am feeling positive now, i was convonced i would lose this baby, but i actually feel i may have it now iyswim

Went out for roast today, was yummy. Was a very heavily pg woman (girl, really) smoking outside alot. made me .

I think my 3 day headache has gone

Hey Alexpolis, welcome back and glad you are feeling better.

Scorps, so far all ive had is a sore throat I keep taking my temp and its always normal so fingers crossed I'll be ok. Glad your headache is better.
I am worried about DS he is only 2 and a half but he seems ok so far. Been keeping out of everyones way, was meant to go to Fairford airshow today but didnt go so there's £70 down the drain

Hi MillieMuffin, I'm 17 weeks too and could sleep for England. DH was at work early this morning so we've both been tired and today has been absolute torture. DS has also decided that he doesn't need naps anymore too - perfect timing

Sorry you're feeling ill Ferrets - am trying to decide whether or not to take DS to toddler group tomorrow morning as it's likely to be full of older kids who are off scholl and there has been swine flu in quite a few of the local schools. I always get every illness going round and am getting a bit scared

T'is SarahL2 by the way - name changed for Harry Potter

Hi girls, quick question - how long did your 16/17wk appt last? Unfortunately no-one is around to look after DS so will probably have to take him with me tomorrow, won't be longer than 10/15 mins will it? Not like the 12wk appt which at my surgery lasts 45mins! DS is really hitting the terrible twos so might tie him to a chair or something

im still tired too, at 20 wks. and still sick!
i think its normal? have heard about this 2nd trimester glow and extra healthy feeling but i think thats only for some lucky people
have many people here had 2nd scan yet and found out gender?
i found out i am having ds2 , so should be nice two boys close in age to play together

mine lasted about 15 minutes, she checked my sample, listened to heartbeat I asked any questions and that was it oh and blood pressure.

millie all they should need to do really is check blood pressure, urine, weight, and listen to heart beat?

My 16 week appt was about 15 mins long, just checked blood pressure, urine, had a feel of my tummy, didnt listen to heartbeat though. I dont see her again till im 24 weeks.
Ive had my 20 week scan but have to go back as she couldnt see kidneys clearly enough and she wants to double check couple of things as i was only just over 19 weeks, sonographer wants me back this Friday when i,ll be 21 weeks. she couldnt tell whst sex baby is as legs were crossed.bt said she,ll check again at my appt on Friday.

Hey everyone,

Devongirl - i'd never heard of the condition before either, but I guess I'm about to find out more about it!

My 16 week app took 45 mins, but they were taking more bloods to try and figure out what's wrong with my blood. Also DH had to have bloodtest too, so not a normal appointment.

MIllie, My 16 week appointment was about 5 minutes - just blood pressure & urine. I was disappointed she didn't listen to the heartbeat or poke my tummy, all she said was "You had an NT scan? Well, you don't look 35 to me!" LOL!