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princessmel · 04/06/2009 10:18

I have started the new thread

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Cazza28 · 26/08/2009 12:44

Hi All,

Going back to the raspberry leaf tea.. Will any raspberry tea mix you can get from Tesco's work? I had a look this morning and could only see Raspberry & Peach Infusion... it said 1.2% raspberry leaf

Thanks

smallone · 26/08/2009 14:10

Don't know about the technicalitites of raspberry tea, but I got red raspberry leaf tea from a health food shop. It should say that its unsuitable for pregnant women under 36 weeks or something like that if its the right stuff.

I think DH might have antenatal depression. He's very stressed at work and is being forced to work harder longer hours coz the business is struggling so he's not getting home til late. He came home on monday really sad and fed up, but we had a good talk and a cuddle and he decided its time to look for another job. Had a good day off yesterday, went to job centre, saw a job he'd be interested in, had some good time with dd, took her swimming etc. But today he's rung me this morning crying after talking to his boss, not sure what was said on either side as I couldn't get alot of sense out of him. I'm really worried about him. I'm glad that he can talk to me, but not sure what I can do to help him. He was really traumatised by dd's birth and I'm wondering if its the thought of having to go through it again thats triggered this off. He's also worried about money etc and usual new baby stuff.

MrsKitty · 26/08/2009 14:53

Smallone Sorry to hear about your DH - mine has been similar recently - lots of worries about job/new baby etc ...It's good that he feels he can talk to you and expres how he's feeling as mine tends to bottle up completely.

Interesting what you said about your friend with GD whose baby was given formula on birth - It is a real concern that I have. I've read that babies born to mothers with GD should be breastfed within 1/2 hour of birth so I'm really going to try to do that. Good idea re: expressing before birth - will look into it - although what type of container would you use to store the tiny amounts of colostrum you would be able to get before birth?! I'm very keen to BF again - DS was exclusively BF for 6 months and continued to BF alongside solids until he was 13 months. I'd like to be able to do the same with this one.

LittlePea When I had my GD test I was told not to eat or drink anything (except for water) from 10pm the night before the test, the test was then started at 9am.

littlepea (again!) re: your question about buying bottles if you plan to BF, I would say don't bother. Even though I experienced some problems in the early days/weeks of feeding DS if I needed to express to get him to feed I always gave it to hom via a cup or a dropper rather than a bottle. I didn't buy a bottle until he was over 6 wks old, and even then I only ever had 1 bottle as he very rarely went anywhere long enough without me! If/when you do decide to express to feed via bottle occasionally you may find you need to experiment with different types until you find one that suits your baby.

Idreamofbeanie I would suggest buying some very non-structured bras for the first few days/week - try Bravado as they have quite a wide size range which will stretch with you whilst your milk comes in before your size settles down. You can then use them as sleep bras once you're ready for some of the prettier stuff! DO NOT go to Mothercare or M&S for nursing bras or for fittings - they are rubbish! Try to find a local independent shop or your local brnach of NCT (they often have a qualified fitter who will even come to your house sometimes) If you're near a Leia or Bravissimo store they are great for fittings, and then once you know your size you can buy & try all sort of stuff from places like the link I posted previously, or figleaves. The Freya brand or Hotmilk are good for good looking, well fitting nursing bras.

Idreamofbeanie (again) Re: nursing tops, I wouldn't bother - I found them a bit of a pain, ugly and quite expensive, although if you want to get a few in, H&M are the cheapest and most stylish IMO.

Instead of buying loads of specialist nursing tops, the best thing to do is to buy a load of vest tops (preferably with stretchy straps - M&S are good) then wear the vest under your normal clothes (Loose fitting is easier in the early days) Then when you need to feed you pull the vest down under your boob & the top up, and there you have it - no excess tummy or back on display, very discreet, and a lot more scope for wearing what you want to wear, rather than what you can find in the breastfeeding ranges. La Redoutehave some nice nursing PJ's & nighties for hospital/bedtime.

Well, that was in incredibly long post! Hopefully helpful though ...Shopping is a bit of a specialist subject of mine - can you tell?

littlepea72 · 26/08/2009 15:28

MrsKitty thanks for that info, will hold off the food untill then lol....it shall be hard! I didnt know if i should buy bottles, then you have everything to go with it, so i will give it a miss....thanks again.

Smallone....your poor DH working in a job that you hate is bad, but with a new baby on the way, its not like you can be as carefree with looking for a new one, it must be a worry for him. Its good that he has you with him, just make sure he keeps talking about it. My DH shuts down & doesnt talk, must be a soldier thing, but he gets worse and then we end up fighting, i always feel he would get through things better if he opened up like your hubby does.

LittleMissBliss · 26/08/2009 16:05

IDOB I second what misskitty said about vest tops. I did the same. Got lots of different coloured vest tops and it made my normal clothes more versatile.

Littlepea Must be exciting to have got allot of the baby stuff now, did you manage your trip to Ikea? I hope you enjoyed your visit back home. Faith is a beautiful name!

Cazza Do you use e-bay? I ordered my raspberry leaf tea from there yesterday morning and it arrived today! Here's a link tea. But only got two boxes not three!

The same seller also sells pre-packed hospital bags. She puts in some stuff that i hadn't thought of so will be using her example as check list. Plus, clothes, make-up, camera and towels. link

Smallone sorry to hear about your DH feeling down, it's great that he feels that he can talk to you and you can work through it together. I hope the new job prospect is fruitful.

HumphreysCorner · 26/08/2009 20:48

smallone-sorry to hear about your DH. I understand what it is like to be in a job you hate.

sammysam-I am struggling to function at the moment with feeling dizzy all the time. Even sitting down doesn't help.

MrsKitty-sorry to hear about the GD. Am sure it will disappear after the birth.

Ordered my carseat today and my pram is coming on Tuesday. Just need to pack some clothes for the girls in their suitcases ready for a speedy drop off at Grandma and Grandad's.

Big wave to all!

HC
x

littlepea72 · 27/08/2009 06:23

Hi!!!

Here is a strange question for anyone with cats, is your cat acting a bit weird at this point??? My boy has started to follow me about, sometimes crying etc, but at night, he has to lie down beside me, right beside my bump. It doesnt matter how many times he is put out of the room, he has to come back in & be in touch with my belly! This hasnt happened before, he is always out & about, now is stuck to me like glue.....starting to wonder if im going to go early & he knows ......

rubyslippers · 27/08/2009 08:25

morning all - just marking my place for later

can't answer the question about cats as we are pet free!

smallone - sorry to hear about your DH ... maybe a trip to the GP may help as well

Have an appt with an aneasthetist this afternoon so will see what that brings ... hopefully will bring me a stage closer to getting my birth plan signed off

have good days and will be back later

x

smallone · 27/08/2009 09:01

Hi all, thanks for the kind thoughts. DH seems to be no worse, he's says he feels a bit better now hes made the decision to leave and find something else but "there's something else in his head that needs to come out" I think this is fear about the birth, he's also said he feels like he has a big exam coming up or something like that. I've got mw on tue so might ask her if a debrief on my last birth would be possible for him. Failing that I think the GP might be the way to go. Fortunately we have a really good one so at least I'll feel confident in him going.

We hit a milestone here yesterday, DD had her first night in a big bed! She looked like a little dot at the top but she went straight to sleep and didn't get up at all so fingers crossed she'll take to it well.

Strange about the cat! I've heard of pets becoming clingy when you get pg but not heard of them predicting birth - keep us posted!

Have good days everyone!

idreamofbeanie · 27/08/2009 09:59

Morning,

thanks for the nursing bra/tops advice Mrs Kitty and LMB. I am going to see a lady from NCT this evening who runs a bra fitting service so I might buy one or two from her (she sells bravado bras) then look on line for some others which will probably be cheaper. I'm also going to buy some strappy vests - that idea sounds much better than splahing out on nursing tops. Cheers guys.

Can't help with the cat behavior sorry, we don't have any pets.

Smallone - I'm glad your DH is feeling better now he has decided to leave but GP and/or debrief sounds like a good idea. Poor him worrying so much .

HC - feeling dizzy constantly must be a pain. Thank god we are all nearing the end!

LMB - that link is really useful, I have started packing my hospital bag but there are some good ideas on the list I hadn't thought about.

lixanismapolium · 27/08/2009 10:45

HC - glad I just read your post - I hadn't even considered packing a bag for DD in case we need to do a swift middle of the night drop-off!!

I'll add it to my list of things to do at the weekend!

I don't have a cat myself at the moment, but have heard of them doing strange things like this before. Apparently they know ...

littlepea72 · 27/08/2009 10:54

Hey

Just had my tests down for the GD & she checked me over too. Ive been having mild contractions for 2 days now!!! Going to the hospital now, but i went through this with my DS so i know its not about to happen just yet, but she did say to be careful as i could go any day now....im only 33 weeks lol...Also she said this is a very big baby & she doesnt seem to think i will do it on my own, neither do i as i feel the baby is bigger than DS was. As for the cat, the MW said he sences the contractions and that is why he is clinging to my tummy, she hears this alot....how weird!

Smallone, i really do hope your DH will be ok, i do think he is really worried about you & the baby going through the birth, i wonder if someone has been telling him birth horror stories???? Sounds like he loves you very much...you lucky thing!

Ruby i hope your appointment goes well xx

MrsKitty · 27/08/2009 14:01

Just back from hospital seeing Diabetes Nurse & Antenatal Consultant re: GD. Have to do pin-prick blood tests before & after each meal to monitor glucose levels... Diabetic Doctor & Dietician both on leave so when I asked about what to eat/what to avoid was given a leaflet and told that I'd see them a week monday so wasn't overly impressed by that.

My new consultant seems nice enough though (have been switched to him as he's the GD specialist) although he said that he "aims to deliver mums with GD by 39 weeks" That'll be an induction or a c-section then... Have another appointment with him a week monday too, to discuss in more detail. Also get another scan next week to measure growth.

Had a car accident on my way home from work last night - no injuries but very shaken by it. Other party thinks it was my fault, I think it was theirs - got a witness so I guess it'll come down to what he says to the insurers. Will be gutted if I get the blame as we've got a £300 excess and I'm only 4 months away from 5 years no claims

Working all weekend now (sat/sun/mon) then 2 shifts at the end of next week and I'll be finished! Have got some serious organisation to do - haven't really thought about hospital bags or anything yet

Hope everyone's well - not long to go now

princessmel · 27/08/2009 16:45

Double ARRRRGGGHHHHH!!!!
Had my midwife appointment today and when I got to the doctors I saw the health visitor in the waiting room. She asked how long I had left and I said '8 weeks' and then she made a shocked face in front of the whole room, so after an unhelpful triplet/ you look ready to give birth comment from my dad earlier I was all tearful. (a 'look' may not sound hurtful but it tipped me over the edge)
Then when I went in the midwifes room I burst into tears. I told her why I was upset and she said she could send me to see a consultant and refer me for a growth scan. Then she measured me and said that I am actually measuring a little large for my dates. I am 32 weeks and 35 cm. She said this was not overly worrying but as I am so upset she is sending me for the scan. She also said that she'd have a word with the health visitor.

Plus we have waited in all day for the dc's bunkbeds and I checked online and found out that they are not being delivered for another MONTH!!! We have waited in all day for nothing.

I phoned the Very website helpline and the bunkbed lady's suggestion was to cancel the order and order something else!! How do I know that this wont take 2 months to be delivered aswell. The new date for these is sept 25th. What if they dont come then?????? We ordered them on the 30th july...!
I am not pleased, they didnt email us to tell us the date had changed or anything.

Oh and the HV just phoned to alpologise after seeing me leave the surgery red and puffy eyed..she asked the midwife if I was upset because of her and midwife said yes.
She said she should know better than to say things like that, and that I look lovely...blah blah.

smallone so sorry about how your dh is feeling. Must be hard for both of you x

I know there were other things to mention but I am so arrrrghhghghghghhhh!!!! right now.

Hope you're all ok.

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princessmel · 27/08/2009 16:46

Mrs kitty sorry about your accident

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rubyslippers · 27/08/2009 19:49

littlepea - hope you're ok

princessmel - i can't believe your HV but very pleased she apologised.

mrskitty - sorry to hear about your accident, not surprised you are shaken up

I had my appt - the v nice anaesthetist said i won;t be able to have an epidural which i was expecting her to say anyway.

It is another reason why i am so keen to get onto the birth unit and have a relaxed a time as possible but still have to persuade my consultant

have stupidly miscalculated and still have 3 more weeks at work, not 2

hope everyone is having a nice evening

x

BellaCullen · 28/08/2009 08:25

Smallone hope your DH is feeling a bit better and getting some help.

MrsKitty sorry about your accident,glad youre not hurt and hope youre not getting blame.

princessmel am glad your HV appologised,you always look lovely in your photos and not too big to me.Up to 3cms bigger or smaller is in the norm but at least a scan will give you piece of mind and another glimpse before baby`s here.

I find depending on what I wear I can look massive one day or small and neat the next.I put some bump pictures on profile.Yellow definitely makes me look like a whale.Thank god only 5 weeks to go,having problems sleeping now takes me forever to go to sleep and I wake up in middle of night and can`t go back to sleep.Also having problems breathing when I lie down.Have a good day everyone x

smallone · 28/08/2009 09:15

Mrs Kitty, I hope you've recovered from your accident, have you reported it to the police?

Princessmel, I sympathise about the big bump thing, although it doesn't worry me so much this time coz I know I was huge with dd and she was 8lb5 at 41wks rather than the high 9lbs that were predicted. Its just the way I carry. Try not to worry about it, its not like we can make them any smaller is it? Oh and I too would be livid about bunkbeds, had a similar problem with carseat 2weeks before dd was born, thought we might end up walking home from the hospital!

ruby, why can't you have an epidural? I hope the last few weeks at work go quick!

Hope everyone has a good bank holiday, I've got in-laws coming down so hopefully I wont have blood on my hands by next week

theboob · 28/08/2009 11:05

hi everyone
had midwife apt on wednesday who sent me straight to hospital, I was having strong BH and leaking small amounts of water, I had an internal exam and she said she could not see anything but i'm being sent for another scan to make sure, I'm also measuring 41 weeks and i'm 35 , there was also ++ sugar in my urine but I dont see the consultant now until the 4th when I hope I will get my induction date

Mrskitty hope your ok after your accident

hope everybody else is ok and has a lovely weekend x

HumphreysCorner · 28/08/2009 14:33

Sorry to hear of the troubles of MrsKitty and princessmel-not what either of you need.

theboob-that must have been a scary moment. 41 weeks sounds big for 35-has the MW measured right?

Big wave to all!

HC
x

fidelma · 29/08/2009 05:33

Sorry about the GD, car accident, Health visitor and people measuring large.

I saw the MW today who thought I looked large but measured bang on 35 weeks.Everything was ok,Baby was op as I suspected not much eles to report.

I've had a good week.Everyone was back at school by Thursday.Oh so much kit to organise and name.The house seemed so quite and peaceful,well guess I should enjoy it for the next few weeks.

I have struggled to sleep although exhausted.been up since 4.30am drinking tea and eatting lemon shortbread yummmmmmm.

At last we have a quiet weekend.I think the swimming pool is called for as it is heaven to not feel the weight of the baby for an hour. (will be floating not swimming)

I can't find anyones proflie page can you tell me how to find it please?

Have a great weekend.

fidelma · 29/08/2009 05:56

Have just sussed how to see everyones profile.Click on name !!!!!!Well off to try and get a little more sleep.

princessmel · 29/08/2009 10:01

Hi all

Theboob Wow, I hope everything is ok, what's the latest??

Whoever said about the cats bahaving differently, I will keep an eye out for this with our cat. He was def acting more distant with me when I first got pregnant. I thought he sensed something then.
I hope he doesn;t react badly when the baby arives.

fidelma I have some naming to do aswell. I haven't even bought any names for dd yet...
To see the profiles, you can also click on the little yellow clipboard in the right hand side of the posters name. I have a really good bump pic I could put on here..but I am only in knickers!! Boobs covered though.

bellacullen You are very definatly not a whale! Your bump is a lovely shape.

I am seeing the consultant on the 10th, and then if she thinks it's needed I'll have a scan. My midwife said that 3cm bigger wasn't a worry, I have only been referred because I was so upset in the appointment!! I think she did it to reasure me.

Have a weekend of diy ahead of us. dh will be doing the work though, not me.
Need to finish painting, fit skirting boards, build a wardobe (no bunkbeds ) and put up 2 sets of shelves.

Hope you're all ok x

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rubyslippers · 29/08/2009 10:06

morning everyone

hope everyone is feeling as ok as possible ...

am feeling so tired and sore - 5 more weeks seems impossible

anyway will have a read through everyones' news

DevilsAdvocaat · 29/08/2009 11:04

hello everyone!

i finally have my laptop back, fixed and connected to the real world

tried to skim through everyone's stories.
measuring big girlies! makes you wonder who measures 'right' for their dates doesn't it?! i'm also measuring 2weeks bigger and consultant referred me for a growth scan at 38wks which worried me. however mw says it's because of previous complications, not because they think i'm having a whopper.

have completely decorated the downstairs of our house now. must be some serious nesting. have a massive comfy sofa to lounge on now. hooray, better for me back.

theboob, hope you're ok.

also hc, how's things with dh nowadays? dh and i have been arguing more and more. can't wait to not be preggers anymore.

anyway, sorry have been away so long