Due November 2009: Second trimester thread!

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New thread for you as it was geting a bit big...

Claired, heh. Still, I bet they've seen a lot in those records - previous terminations, positive tests for syphilis and the like... Not to mention the question that always cracks DH up - if you and your partner are closely related...

Brood, the plural of cervix is cervices (from the Latin) or cervixes (more modern usage, I think). I once successfully turned 'vice' into 'cervices' in a Scrabble game (oh, the triumphs of years past before DS's arrival scrambled my brain.)

Went for my usual long walk with DS today out to the canal, and had to dive into the woods for a quick wee because my crummy pregnant bladder couldn't last an hour... Honestly, I thought that the second trimester was supposed to offer some respite from constantly wanting to wee, but I'm still up four times a night!

Hello everyone,

Claired poor you, at your 'post-coital' bleeding!! And also the jab... Am also Rh- and tryng to persuade DH to get his blood group tested by giving blood..... And he is also being resilient! Didn't realise you were jabbed in the bum, oh no!

Erika I don't really have any words of wisdom but just wanted to echo others in saying that babies really do not need much, especially at first, and would it help to break things down a bit? In a way, there's no point worrying in things that are far in the future and, at the minute, out of your control? I hope that doesn't sound patronising. I am only saying it as my CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy - fantastic help for anxiety, btw) therapist always gets me to try and think this way. But it is difficult, especially when you have so much going on and you just want to try and work out a plan as to how you will cope with it all. But you will cope with it, as it comes, and you don't need to cope with it all today. Also, I too suffered from anorexia for a number of years and think pregnancy can be particularly challenging if you have... Your body is going through so many changes and it is easy to feel out of control. I hope you are getting some support with this? And also your DP - I have met many men in the past with anorexia and know it can be really difficult for them to get the necessary support...

Thanks everyone... Guess last night was a major freak out!!! Feeling calmer, although not brighter, today. Started looking at going back to work - did something irrational and called a care home to apply for their vacancy. They offered me an interview on Wednesday. Not a bloody chance of getting it, damn the stupid irrational moments!!! Now I need to balance up the embarssment of turning up and being rejected, or calling them and backing out. Might just call in sick on the morning and thank them for the oppotunity... On the other hand, there are a couple of companies offering the whole "We'll pay you to post our stuff" kind of thing, so might send off for some infomation packs.

I went on a cleaning spree last night because I was so worked up - got two bags of things for the charity shop! - then collapsed into bed about 3am.

In responce to council housing suggestions - I think I'd have to check how social services would feel about it. They seem pretty keen for me to stay here. Would they consider me even though my partner owns his flat?

On the boob front - I'm this close to chopping the bloody things off, they're driving me mental today. Am a 32G, and even the expensive bras I bought are now painful... Back to Primark for some cheap bikini tops, me thinks!!!

So according to my new friend, "The Rough Guide to Pregnancy and Birth" - Kaz Cooke, at 18 weeks the baby is 14cm head to bum length and starts making facial expression. Aw, cute.

Just wondering if anyone had had contact with the maternal mental health team? I have a meeting with the PRH lot on Friday and am not quite sure what to expect!

Tamlin - If your bladder is supposed to behave itself better in the second trimester, I missed the memo. I think I've been in every set toilet in Brighton three times.

"But you will cope with it, as it comes, and you don't need to cope with it all today."

Just to say what great advice. I could do with that sentence stuck to my PC monitor! Or my laundry basket, come to think of it...

When I had the anti D this time it was in my arm, but I did have it in my bum after I delivered DD. I wonder how they decide?? I still also have a huge purple bruise on my arm from where they botched one of my blood tests last weekend. I feel quite embarrassed by it, I look like I've been in a fight!

That 'are you and your partner closely related' question always gets me. I start thinking 'hmm, well, we are married.... O-hh.' I'm a bit slow at times

I'm terrible with blood tests. I turn into a complete woss. I hope your arm is better now, Laugs!!

Oh I loved that Kaz Cooke book! I lent mine to an ex-colleague and never got it back. I used to savour each chapter... then skip a few ahead anyway.

Considering your partner's flat isn't fit for you and the baby, I don't think that would be a problem at all. Especially as you haven't lived with him previously. Actually the council don't 'refuse' anyone (or ours don't), it's just that certain situations get higher up the list than others. I guess it would be worth discussing with SS anyway though. The ideal situation would probably be to stay with your parents until you really feel like you need more space. That way you can get help on tap! I live really far from mine and would have loved to have them around more in the early days.

What companies pay you to post stuff? I really need to make some money at the moment! I have been devising hare-brained schemes all weekend, all of which fall at the 'but is this something you're actually good at?' hurdle.

Just popping in quickly to say hello,

Ericka I hope you are feeling much better today, you seemed to have been given some great advice from the ladies on here, I hope some of it helps. Please just live for now and not the future, a lot can happen in the next 2 years, and forget what others say, they don't matter. You sound to me as though you are going to be a great mum by the way!

Hello and welcome to all new comers.

Got my results from bloods today 1 in 1800 chance of downs, so am happy with that. Thats one less thing on my mind now!

Wow to all those organised people, all I have managed is to sort toys and clothes out in ds1's room to try and fit ds2 in with him!
Keep telling myself I have plenty of time
right off to do bath and bed

Thanks tigger32, that really means a lot. I'm glad the results came back so good

Laugs - Its absolute genius, I think its by far one of the best books I've bought. I'm loving the advice on how to deal with busy-bodies. Just need to start putting it into action!!!

As for the work - They're mainly SAEs to PO Box addresses, it might be easier if I email them to you. I can give you my email address if you'd like them.

Laugs - the 'are you closely related' always makes me snigger a bit too... Although I did know a girl who married her cousin....
Erika why don't you go for the interview? It could be just what you need? Did you tell them you are pregnant? Even if it's just a few hours a week? Good luck with what you decide, anyway.
Oh, and can I just say to everyone who thinks I am organised the lady whose stuff we bought is moving to New York and it was either we buy it now, or it goes to the charity shop... Consequently, it is all consuming our flat , being sniffed at by the cat!! We are not remotely organised, I promise!!!

katster37, it kinda... Slipped my mind to tell them!! Oops. So I'm going to walk in, with a stick, and a bump, and then mention I was in a physc. unit for 6 months... I could just go to scare them!! Its a local care home... It caught my eye because the offer NVQ training free as well... I dunno. Probably totally impractical, but maybe you're right

Hi all, thank's for the lovely reasurring messages last week when I was a complete mess. I went for my 20 week scan today, I took my friend and my DS along with me, the scan man told me he couldn't tell me what sex the baby is but could say that the baby is not a boy, so it looks like we're having a girl. Dh and I are very happy but just need to find a name at some point. I'm off to the UK on Wednesday night for a couple of weeks so I get to see family I haven't seen in 14 months, and I get to see my DH who I haven't seen in 10 days (but it feels a lot longer).

Ladies - Burp, burp, burp and burp... I have been burping all evening without respite. Any tips to ease acid reflux and heartburn will be much appreciated.

ErikaMaye - hope you get to rest up tonight and catch some zzz's take care.

Home in the sun so excited for you!

Strawberry milk did the job for me

pinkfizzle milk works for me - any flavour. Have been suffering all evening too - might have been all the bending and exertion putting together a flat pack chest of drawers mind

homeinthesun congratulations on your little girl!!

Homeinthesun - Congratulations!!! I have my scan in three weeks, am counting down :D

Thanks pinkpizzle, I intend to. Am shattered. Going to call my better half, if he's still awake, then sleeeeep. I've been doing the same thing - might try the strawberry milk!

Morning, another bad night with DD. I think she has croup - someone on here said their DS gets it but I'm not sure who - Tamlin? She does seem a bit better this morning, but since I was seriously considering A&E at about 5am, I am taking her to the doctor anyway. Typically, I am also on a deadline for tomorrow morning and I'm keeping her off nursery. Isn't it always the way?

That was all about me... I'll be back later to catch up with everyone else's posts.

Woah!!! don't log on for a few days and there is SO MUCH NEWS!!!

Erika I agree with Tigger you have lots on your plate at the mo but I am sure that given the support and inner strength that somehow appears when we give birth you'll be able to cope just fine..you have to believe it. Please go to your interview..if not for the job then just for some practice..It could change your life in many ways. Well done for coming on here and taking in the advice. You seem level headed for such a young lady and you should be proud.

homeinthesun congratulations on having a dd...hooray..

laugs hope your DS is better! and good luck with the deadline..let us know how it goes.

HAven't even thought about this baby in terms of "stuff' yet...we should have everything I hope!!!

katster you're lucky to have all the things there...plus you'll accumulate lots more! Babies don't need much..just some grows, nappies, lots of muslins for the spit ups and lots and lots of love.

It's slowly sinking in ladies that I'm going to have another little one..MS is so consuming that i'd forgotten that I'm having a baby..now that its in fully kick mode, am getting excited and slightly scared!

I hope your DS is feeling better today, Laugs.

Hi Laugs I hope your DD is better today: my DS has had croup and we stick him in the bathroom with the shower on hot for ten mins. He also has an inhaler which helps. He's only had it a couple of times though. We did end up in A&E once with him but he was fine once they gave him a nebuliser.

I'm drowning in work this week

homeinthesun yeah a girl!

I'm starting to get curious now about the sex but I'm not payiing £50 to find out the sex! I reckon another boy.

becky I heard somewhere that if you already have two of the same sex, it is much more probable that the third is going to be one as well.

erika I hope you're feeling better today, welcome to the thread. So much good advice on here already, chin up and one day at the time. Good luck if you decide to go to the interview, it will certainly be good practice if nothing else.

homeinthesun congratulations on a girl and enjoy your trip. I miss my DH like crazy whenever we're apart.

beepbeep I had my first yoga class yesterday. It was lovely, I was the only one there. I really like the tutor, as I took a couple of non-pregnant yoga classes with her before. I have to say, the affirmations she was saying at the end threw me a little, I still can't get over the mental barrier that it is actually happening to me and not some other skorpion. When she asked me about labour I had to admit that I am still in the fingers in the ears and saying la-la-la loudly stage. I'm not afraid of it, just not ready for what comes after. Does that make sense?

Hi all, hope all is well with everyone, I'm afraid I haven't even attempted to catch up with all the news, you're just too chatty for me

Just popped in to say we had our 20 week scan yesterday and found out DS is getting a little sister! All looks as it should be but have to go back for a 34 week scan as baby is lying transverse and placenta is low anterior. Not too worried about that as odds are I'll wind up with another c-section anyway and any extra chance to see my little girl is a bonus to me!!

Yeah another girl!

I keep thinking how much CHEAPER another boy would be. (I suspect that a daughter will still wind up in a lot of blue onesies, tiny rugby shirts and dungarees...)

So true Tamlin. If we have a girl she's going to be a tom boy whether she likes it or not in the DSs' old osh kosh dungerees and if we have a boy, well he will not want for clothes and toys!

I'm eating a crumpet and it is nice