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Due April 2009 - Chapter 32: Shake your pom poms, Shake your pom poms, Shake your pom poms!!!

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BabyBolat · 27/04/2009 18:22

Hope no one minds I gave Nutty the vote after her epic birth!

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conkertree · 30/04/2009 20:48

lol bleu - I have decided that 1st May would be a really nice birthday so am hoping that these cx continue but dont get worse for a few hours (every 10 mins or so roughly just now) and not very painful, then it comes quickly and easily at some point tomorrow

If only you could put your order in and it came along just as you requested.

the only thing not making me go mad (as my first contractions that i recorded were almost two weeks ago) is that i keep in mind that springy was in early labour for much longer, so i dont have anything to complain about. mn definitely helps keep things in perspective

WhatFreshHellIsThis · 30/04/2009 20:53

conker when I was pregnant with DS1 I was due at the very end of the month and then he was 17 days late so I was the very last one out of my antenatal class to give birth, by some considerable time. I totally know how you feel! It's very frustrating but we're all here for you

We have been busy with the Poolympics at the FreshHell house - check them out here - Juwesm is volunteering to be our independent adjudicator, aren't you Juwesm?

Apart from that Orbit is showing signs of colic so have cracked and gone out to buy Infacol and some dummies.....oh darn he's just woken up again. Later!

Juwesm · 30/04/2009 20:57

No woman left behind! We're all antenatal until we're all postnatal!

I can't possibly think about creche places now. Far too early! Aargh!! Not sure exactly when I'll be going back, esp having used up 6/52 mat leave before Hugo even arrived! What do people think about using a CM for one so small? Good or bad? Really would love not to go back.

FIL came round at weekend and asked me if I was still planning to go back to work. Get the feeling he disapproves of the working mum thing . I suggested that if he wanted to give us several thousand pounds a year to pay the mortgage I would happily not go back to work!

Stick with it Conker - nearly there!

Juwesm · 30/04/2009 21:00

WFH - I shall be classifying according to the Bristol Stool Chart - more points for good poos!

kazkiss · 30/04/2009 21:08

I was considering a cm for a bit cos i couldnt find a nursery that fitted in with DH shift pattern as i worked out that that twinkies only needed to go to nursery for 5 full days every 3 weeks. I think what put me off is the emotional attachment i would imagine that they would get with cm(does that make me sound selfish... ) i also prefer the social aspect i imagine they would get with nursery.

I have to back financially although i think boss probably wants me back earlier than i am gonna go! .....

oooh gosh ju bristol stool chart lovely!

i wonder how they are coping at work with the swine flu thing.

kazkiss · 30/04/2009 21:10

I feel a bit of a fraud with all those who are/were overdue being so early... so all i can do is sympathise/empathise.

kazkiss · 30/04/2009 21:13

am i sad in not liking watching crimewatch on my own !
When i was little i used to think the police were stupid in not arresting the criminals when they were filming them for the reconstructions! ( i know, i know...)

Also the photofits used to scare me...

i have strange phobias..

kazkiss · 30/04/2009 21:33

oooh i killed the thread lol

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soon2befamilyof4 · 30/04/2009 22:04

WIth regards to childcare, having worked myself as a nursery nurse, Nanny and now a childminder I can share with you what I would do. In order of preference to what I would use if I were choosing childcare:

Nanny would always be first preference, but they work out a lot more expensive if you only have one child. My reason for wanting a Nanny is that you are in charge the whole time, they are employed by you, you set your own rules, they can do the kids washing etc, and your child gets their attention rather than sharing with other children.

Childminder would then be my second choice but it is hard for me to say as I am a childminder myself so I guess I am biast. But I think as long as you are careful choosing then it is a better option than a nursery. I know that I personally give good childcare and do as much as I can for the children and their parents. I treat the children who I would want somebody else to treat mine. I do have downsides I am sure and some people might not agree with everything I do, but I am 100% open and honest with the parents so they know where they stand.

Nurseries - I personally wouldn't use one for a child under 2 or so. Yes it is nice and social but a baby doesn't need that. A Nanny or childminder should go to toddler groups etc which is enough for a young baby. They (IMO) just don't get the same sort of care as they would if they are cared for by one person. Ie, if your child won't sleep, there is nobody to sit and comfort them, they will more than likely to be left to cry, even if the staff don't tell you that. They simply can't sit by cots comforting more babies then they have hands for. Babies Ratio is 1:3. So you have a fire - how does one adult get 3 non walking babies out by themselves? And then during Lunch/sleep, more than likely there will be 1or2 staff with 6-12 babies while the other staff have their lunch. This situation actually arrised when I was on my own with 9 babies. Luckily it was a fire drill but had it been real, there wouldn't be much chance of me getting all 9 out .

Anyway, I know there are very good nurseries around, but I am yet to work in one where I would be comfortable putting my own DC in as babies. For older children, I do think nurseries are ok as they do really enjoy the social side and don't need the same sort of hands on attention that a baby would.

AND Baby rooms at nurseries are pretty much forced into doing proper activities with the children and I used to feel sorry for the young ones TBH. I am not saying they shouldn't do activities but most of the time the younger babies weren't interested, but had to do it anyway for something to show the parents iyswim?

kazkiss · 30/04/2009 22:11

soon and nutty thanks for the info re: childcare it is all interesting to know..., makes you think...

my boobs took about two and half weeks to stop producing milk i am not sure if they have gone down much(but i am naturally fairly well endowed so cant really tell)

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BabyBolat · 30/04/2009 22:42

Conker, yes a lot of people used to do it - the system has changed a bit now so it's harder to do but I think most people would if they could - you have to have done MS by the time you are 25 and they can call you up at any time from 16 and DH's dad (I agree) thought 16 was too early to have to cope with things like that.

Yes DH did his military service just after we got together - you can pay not to do it but he wanted to do it as it was his duty (he is a very proud Turkish man!) . It was 15 months - very hard being apart but also amazingly good for us as we got to know each other better than you would in a normal relationship - we spoke on the phone for 1 hour (minimum) everyday so we became best friends as well as partners

He moved over here because I asked him too - when we decided that this was it / forever (after probably the most romantic / magical holiday in Istanbul) we needed to decide where we would live as we obviously couldn't continue to be together but in two different countries and I knew I just couldn't leave my family, friends and career here as much as I loved him so he came here - It was hard for him as he really didn't want to move over here and is very hard being away from his family and friends - he still doesn't love it but it gets easier especially now we have Karahan.

So that long story was the answer to your questions

Nutty, don't worry - seriously everyone laughs at the situation and my cradle snatching ways!!!

Re childcare - my sister is a nanny and will have Karahan until he is about 3 or 4 and then I would like him to go to nursery before infants school to help increase the socialisation etc.

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BabyBolat · 30/04/2009 22:44

LADIES - you will all be glad to know I found the Lansinoh Cream - all is right with the world! - twas trapped between my mattress and bed frame must have put some on whilst sleepy and it fell down there!

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soon2befamilyof4 · 30/04/2009 22:52

Awww, that is really sweet BB!

And I think you stole my Lansinoh - I can't find it.

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conkertree · 01/05/2009 01:57

thats lovely bb - so did it start off as a holiday romance? its all very romantic anyway.

soontobe - interesting to see an insider's take on cm/nanny etc question. we've been \lucky that dh's job is flexible and he has been home 2 days a week with ds, and pil have had him one day so the question hasnt arisen but sometimes i've wondered whether ds is missing out on some aspects of nursery.

maybe there is only one tube of lansinoh for all april ladies - and it travels between us all by mattress. if so, you'd better put it back down there when you are finished bb so it's free to travel.

nutty - the snuggling sounds great. cant wait to be doing the same.

BabyBolat · 01/05/2009 02:10

Will write the meeting story tomorrow but think we should all share - how did we all meet our DP's / DH's?

Kara will not go back to sleep and my eyes are burning!!!!

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BabyBolat · 01/05/2009 02:12

HOw you feeling conker - are you contracting?

Yes completely - we both thought it would be a holiday fling and then we couldn't stop emailing / calling each other once we both left!

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Juwesm · 01/05/2009 02:36

I am bored of breastfeeding today.

conkertree · 01/05/2009 07:39

wow BB so it must have been pretty much love at first sight - or pretty close to it.

lol juw - thats right no hogging the cream

cant believe the cx have slowed down again - this cant go on forever - i was 3cm on tuesday, had loads of show yesterday - come on cx get a move on [shakes own pom poms]