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lynny70 · 26/04/2005 11:00

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welshmum · 05/05/2005 13:21

Anyone planning on staying up late to watch election results come in? I'd really like to but may flake out.
Coop - hope your money comes through.
KVG - glad your dh is ok - just the sort of thing you don't need at our stage. And you and LIppy are right about feeling lost at the thought of something happening to them. I really don't know what I'd do - my family are all pretty useless (but lovely)
Anyone know when we can expect an Uwila debrief?

KVG · 05/05/2005 13:22

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berolina · 05/05/2005 13:31

Hi there everyone. Bank hol here today (Ascension day) so spent most of the morning cuddled up to dh in bed , recovering from yesterday and on the phone to a friend/colleague venting about work .

Charley - my days aren't always that long, it just depends on how much I have to do at any one time and at the moment it's piling up as I'm organising various projects for the students and need to make sure all is done before baby arrives. Yup, taxes are fairly high in Germany, but the main thing is the health system is run on compulsory insurance - contributions are according to your income - if you're in work, you pay half and your employer pays half. Due to the economic miracle etc. Germany has had a very good standard over the years, but it's getting increasingly difficult to maintain now and gradually, very gradually things are starting to be cut back. Sometimes I do think the people here don't know they're born as regards healthcare - there was much wailing last year when a compulsory charge of 10 Euro per quarter was introduced for the doctor's - very little really, considering the standard of service, and if you're really hard up you don't have to pay it. Another thing that happens is that your GP sends you to specialists for the most minor things, even if s/he is perfectly capable of diagnosing and treating. That said, I'm very very glad indeed to have my pregnancy overseen by a gynae - I think that's a different case.

KVG, sorry to hear about dh's accident.

megi, much sympathy - I'm still fairly fit at work, but am begnning to get a bit annoyed that my boss still expects me to do things outside my actual teaching (lecturing in my case) load, e.g. go to fac meetings where I don't have anything to say anyway!

coop, glad everything's OK. Haven't packed my bag yet, hut at 36+1 with a shortened cervix I suppose I'd better .

uwila - hope all goes well.

MrsW - glad I'm not the only hormonal one - last weekend I did the classic pg thing - took out a load of washing, discovered that dh had left a tissue in his bathrobe pocket and the bits were everywhere - when he said it was my fault for not checking the pockets myself (don't get a him, he's actually banned from washing because he puts inappropriate things at inappropriate temps and hangs things up funnily (he does the bulk of the cooking and cleaning though, and does it brilliantly ) - so it is really my responsibility) and then actually dared to find it funny, I screamed at him then sobbed for 10 mins .

Sorry if I've missed any other news!

LipstickMum · 05/05/2005 13:32

I'm not sure whether or not I'll stay up to watch the voting results, although I may not have any choice in the matter I haven't gone yet, I have to stay in to receive a delivery, so I'll go tonight.

By the way, I am employing my friend's cleaner for the day to come and sort the house out once the messy work is finished Could this be the start of a slippery slope I ask myself..?

welshmum · 05/05/2005 13:46

Lippy that is a fine idea. I'm thinking of asking ours to do an extra day - so she can do some of the stuff that she doesn't have time for normally. DH has made me paranoid about climbing on chairs to reach cobwebs! I guess he's right really but I do enjoy a session with a feather duster.

MrsWednesday · 05/05/2005 14:34

I am going to try and stay up as late as I can to watch the election results - I bet tonight I'll be fast asleep by 10 after struggling to drop off for the last few months. I voted this morning, took DS with me and he put the paper in the ballot box for me, so he's had his first taste of democracy.

Berolina, I smiled in recognition at your hormonal meltdown. Had one myself the other day, completely lost it with DH and cried for about an hour. I was sooooooooo angry with him about a really minor misunderstanding.

Lippy, I think that's a great idea about the cleaner. Take your DD out for the day somewhere nice and come home to a lovely clean house. I think before and after photos of your attic would be fab!

KVG - do you permanently have no telly? No wonder your pelvic floor muscles are so toned!

Redheadmum, what's the advantage of a birthing ball? Glad I've found someone to ask that question to.

Cooperoo - potentially great news . Am keeping my fingers crossed for you.

charleypops · 05/05/2005 16:23

Hi all!

Hope you're all getting at least some of this lovely sunshine on your bones!

Bubbs - Charley says "thanks" and asked me if he could meet your pussycats (he was drooling a bit and licking his chops at the time so I just said "I'd see....")

Lippy - I do hope the end is in sight for you with all your upheaval! When I was having my traumas a few days ago, I couldn't sleep at all either. Isn't it great when dp's finally step in and sort stuff out (mine did it with the washing machine in the end). I had come to the end of my tether with the washing machine shop blah blah which had culminated in a heated argument with dp about it all but he is very good at that sort of stuff when he puts his mind to it and has sorted it out and it felt like a real treat not having to keep trying myself . I've just remembered too that when we had our loft converted where we used to live, that caused us to have a really major shouty/teary argument in the middle of Oxford Street, and I wasn't even pg! Actually, I nearly left him!

I like the Maya slings too - they do seem less fiddly don't they. Whilst looking at them, I read loads of stuff about how important "wearing" your baby is for the first few months - closeness, bonding etc which I can understand. But as you know, it's also very important for them to have straight backs and there's no slings/carriers that can achieve this. What's a girl to do???????

Are you going for a waterbirth if poss? I can't remember.

KVG - Thank goodness your dh is ok, poor thing. I hope the insurance stuff is straightforwards for you. Nightmare. Wow - I forgot you don't have a TV - I'm all impressed again

MrsW/KVG - i am definitley trying to cut down on diy, by getting dp to "help" Unfortunately, this has created more work than ever. I let him have a go at fixing our new shower door in my newly created, (and beautifully tiled I might add ), cubicle After a LOT of very "old fashioned" and voricious language, he decided it wouldn't fit I measured - it was only 4mm too wide, so I suggested he remove a column of tiles from one side. After MUCH protesting, acting like it was the worst suggestion in the world, (whilst not offering any solutions himself mind) he did it and removed a strip of the hardened tile adhesive and the door fitted fine. However, he now has to remove the rest of the adhesive from the newly exposed gaps iyswim (they're staggered tiles - a brick type layout) so I can stick new tiles back into it. Anyway as you know, he hates diy, but he's stubborn and won't let me do it because I've been pointing out to him just how pg I am, BUT he's now chipped half the remaining tiles with his low-key furious impatience, so he has even more tiles and adhesive to remove (it's a pretty nasty job) which makes him worse, which causes more tiles to break, which creates more work....so you see, it's best if I do these little jobs myself in the end. Oh when will we be able to take a shower... ??

Welshie - it's beginning to become a bit of a struggle fitting in my dinners I must say. Luckily dp's not getting back home until very late for the next few weeks and I just tend to snack if on my own, so hopefully my thighs won't be getting much bigger. Btw - why don't you attach your duster to a long stick thing to reach those cobwebs? You could do it from the landing then?

Berolina - Oo, your poor old dh with his tissue Dp does that all the time - I've long since given up asking him to check, so blame myself directly for failing to spot one (which I only ever do in a dark wash, of course). As for your healthcare system, it sounds so much better than ours - we pay £60 a month for BUPA which we NEVER use Of course, the moment we cancel, we're going to need it....

Hi Redhead!

Megi - poor old you! Think a few of us are maybe feeling things a bit more keenly than normal and unkind comments like your bosses really aren't good. It might be getting to the stage when it's just not worth the hassle. Even looking at kids that age tires me out btw!

Lynny - I think it's fair enough to exaggerate sometimes with your dp/h's. I know mine certainly doesn't "do" subtlety or have an awful lot of empathy either. Lovely image, thanks of your pelvic floor on the floor. Thanks!

Coop - your bump's hardly going to be a "poor neglected baby" - he's going to love kipping with you and dp for the first few months! Fingers crossed for your private clinic!

bubbaloo · 05/05/2005 16:55

kvg-sorry to hear of your dh.thank god it was only a minor prang-hope he's ok and the car gets sorted out soon
megi-have to agree with everyone else and get yourself signed off.ive still got 5 weeks to go and im so glad ive already finished work-time to slow down now!
coop-i packed the babys bag yesterday but still have mine to do,although i did update my mp3 player im readiness.glad your appointment today went well and fingers crossed you get good news tomorrow.
i had a hospital appointment earlier which went fine but a bit scary to know my next app there is the 16th of june(when i'll be 41 wks!)to discuss induction.its really hitting home now that this baby will be here soon!!!
charley-my cats weren't too impressed i must say, but they're in my bad books at the mo for killing and bringing in a mouse this morning.i bet you dont have these problems with a dog

MrsWednesday · 05/05/2005 17:23

Bubaloo, glad things went well with your appointment.

Charleypops - you have my sympathy. My DH is actually very good at the practicalities of DIY but he has no patience whatsoever, and within minutes is always swearing, shouting and throwing things. So I get stressed, we end up rowing and the job doesn't get done. After a few years of this we've decided, wherever possible, to pay people to do the work for us .

Wish I had the same problem as you small-stomached ladies...I can't fill mine. Went out for lunch, had steak and chips and peppercorn sauce, then profiteroles. Came back into the office, had 3 mini scotch eggs left over from a meeting, one Quality Street chocolate, a satsuma and an apple. And now I'm hungry again . Luckily, I'm off out for tea in half an hour.

Hope everything went well for Uwila today. Have a lovely weekend everyone, catch up with you all on Monday.

LipstickMum · 05/05/2005 19:25

Evening everyone

I've had a pretty goood day today!! Thursday tends to be the day that d goes to her Gma for 5 or so hours, so I get loads, or little done. Today I pottered around getting about 5 tonnes of washing sorted, even put a couple loads on the line to dry

The builders, my dears, have excelled themselves! Real work going on, lots of boarding has gone up ready for plastering tomorrow, which is a messy job. After that, we'll be waiting to find out what kind of soundproofing we need on the large wall up the stairs and hopefully that can get done net week. That will be it then! All the messy stuff finished. Unbelievable!

Charley, I do hope for a waterbirth. It's what I wanted last time but went for the pain relief instead, plus I needed help dilating. But god only knows!! Re the slings, I am going more towards the Maya now! I don't really see how a baby can lie totally flat in these bits of material unless there is something vaguely solid tbh ( I think Trib pointed this out a while back too) I think with the Maya, or any material strip, you can get them into a good position for lying down.

I have to go am in basment and dd is trying to get to sleep

uwila · 05/05/2005 19:58

Hi everyone,
Had the scan and met with the consultant. I got my elective caesarean with few questions about the decision. He asked a little bit just to make sure I really wanted it, but he was easily convinced. My hurdles came when I said I wanted it before 39 weeks because I was afraid of going into labour before the planned event. In the end we agreed on 38 weeks +4, 19 May. Yippee... that's only 2 weeks away. So I am officially crashing this thread. And I will quite likely be FIRST. I won't even be last on the May thread.

Thanks to everyone who asked about my appointment. I love this thread.

lynny70 · 05/05/2005 20:36

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charleypops · 05/05/2005 21:09

OH MY GOD! 2 WEEKS!!!!!!!!!!! [SHOCK][SHOCK][SHOCK] Blimey!!! I'm hyperventilating!!!!!!

charleypops · 05/05/2005 21:09

Oops, I mean

katzguk · 05/05/2005 21:10

uwila - i might still beat you though DD arrived at 37 weeks which would give me an ETA of the 16th of May!!!!!

charleypops · 05/05/2005 21:14

Lippy - good for you! So pleased it's coming together for you! have you seen NoddyHolder's thread about her builder? He took £500, hasn't done any work and is now telling her to f**k off!! So think yourself lucky!

I'm back into the waterbirth thing now after doing the hospital tour the other day. Trying not to get my hopes up too much though...

I like they Maya too, but I'm p'd off because I missed one on Ebay a couple of days ago...

JonahB · 05/05/2005 21:46

Hi All, I'm not even going to attempt to catch up, so sorry if I've missed anything really important.

Uwila - 2 weeks!!!! That's so near!!!! OMG. I'm having to gently breathe in contemplation of that!

I'm a bit stressed at the moment and I need to winge. I've just been on the visit round my maternity ward at the hospital and i'm really worried about visiting hours. DH's/DP's are ONLY allowed to visit between 2pm and 8pm. No exceptions. That really upsets me. My DH is my rock of support and I can't bear the idea that he has to go home at 8pm and I wont see him until 2pm the following day. Is this normal for mat. wards? For the 2nd timers, did any of you have this and was it an issue? I realise that this is probably my hormones going beserk, but this has really upset me. I can't imagine not having him by my side at a time when I really need his support.

Okay, winge over. sorry. As always guys, let me know what you think, i could do with a bit of moral support on this.

uwila · 05/05/2005 21:48

Bugger off, Katz... I am going first!

uwila · 05/05/2005 21:48

Bugger off, Katz... I am going first!

uwila · 05/05/2005 21:48

Bugger off, Katz... I am going first!

teabelly · 05/05/2005 22:11

Sorry Uwila - didn't quite get that...are you going to be first??!!

Hi there, had a great last day yesterday, another fairly longish lunch, and the bosses took the cowards way out and were all away - will definitely miss the boys I sat next to though, although on the positive side a couple of them are looking at a possible new venture and will get me some freelance stuff if it comes off, so a possible silver lining, will wait to see

KVG - I like your kind of pelvic flooring, a girl after my own heart! Sorry to hear about your dh's accident - mine had one earlier in the year and it really does put the wind up you, still the other peoples insurance should pay for it as it's their fault.

Bubb - sorry you asked yesterday and I never got back to you - epidurals - yes mine took all the pain away...it was like having a local anisthetic, you can feel movements but no pain...although I've heard others say it minimised the pain but they could still feel abit of pain...maybe it's mind over matter, or I react very well to drugs!

Charley / Lippy - I too would love a waterbirth, esp after Coop's lovely description of hers last time. Unfortunately I'm not allowed coz of my hole in the heart, so the nearest I'm gonna get to it is a bath again...although this time I'll try not to mysteriously turn on the shower attachment with my toes and flood the bathroom and drown poor dh in the process, he he he!

Lippy - so glad the end is nigh re the builders, will be lovely to live in more than just the basement again I'm sure

Best go - a lovely cup of cocoa awaits...will also try and stay up for the vote announcements but on a good day (pre pg) this is late for me!!

Welshie have a fantastic last day tomorrow, and Uwila glad you got your much wanted cs

See ya...x

charleypops · 05/05/2005 22:25

Jonah are you sure those visiting hours apply to dps/dhs? when i went on my tour on Saturday, some of the ladies on it mistook the normal (non-dh/dp) visiting hours for dh/dps. If so, do they have private amenity rooms you can hire. They do at my hospital - for £110 per night. I'm sure it can't apply for when you're actually in labour and for a good while afterwards????

I'd be really really upset about this too.

Tea - WAYHAYYY Maternity leave! how exciting! Can't believe your bosses not showing up though - pricks/ Lol at you showering dh Must have been your body's attempt at getting it's own back!

Cooperoo · 06/05/2005 05:40

Just a really quick message to say WOWOWOWOW Uwila. I am really pleased you got what you wanted but you will have your baby so soon. So exciting!!!
Jonah - Those hours are ridiculous. Where I was the standard hours were as you described but DH's/DP's were allowed from 0800-2100 I think. My DH was there a lot of the time anyway and I missed him SO much when he had to go home. Hope you have been misinformed. Like Charley says double check it.
I will be ringing the midwives later on but I am out all day (toddlers then our families day on camp) so will post when I can. Fingers crossed. Have good days all.

uwila · 06/05/2005 08:50

sorry about the triple post ^^