Due April 2009 - Chapter 28: Manual Labour Brings on Boring Birthing Labour and we meet Baby BB and Baby Bleu!!!

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Thought i would customise the title a bit

Ok Lets see if we can hit that 9 baby target for tommorow!!!!! Puuuuuuusssshhhhhh

The baby list...
12 Feb: Skiingone: MARIANNA 4lb 4oz
20 Feb: Glaskham: RUBY MARIE 4lb 3oz
04 Mar: Barbarella: ESTELLA, ROSANNA, OTIS
05 Mar: Kazkiss: ISABELLE FLORENCE 4lb 6oz & OLIVER THOMAS 3lb 7oz
15 Mar: Babypringle: OSCAR WILLIAM 7lb 2oz
28 Mar: Claireykitten: VIOLET ROSE 7lb 9oz
29 Mar: WhatFreshHell: BABY FRESHHELL 10lb 5.5oz
31 Mar: Mumblemum: ORSON XERXES
02 Apr: Oddeyes: BABY ODDEYES 9lb 8oz
03 Apr: Bleuravin: MEGAN LILLIAN CONSTANCE
04 Apr: BABY BOLAT: 6lb 5oz

Still yet to hatch...

01 Apr : Rachelinscotland: DD 3 years, and DS 2 years in March
01 Apr : Juwesm: 1st timer
01 Apr : Chickenbalti: DS 4 years DD 17 months
02 Apr : BoffinMum: BOY! dd(21) ds(10) ds(7)
02 Apr : MathsMummy27: GIRL! DD 3 years
03 Apr : purlease: 1 m/c, 1 DD 3 years
03 Apr : Kalikaroo: SURPRISE! (28), 1st timer
04 Apr : phdlife
04 Apr : Bumpalump
06 Apr : ToastnHoney: first timer
06 Apr : Mummyontherun: DD 22 months
06 Apr : pintofstella: DS 5.7
08 Apr : LuLuBai: 1 DD born 02 Apr 07
09 Apr : Minush
10 Apr : hopeful1
10 Apr : mrsfossil: 1 DS 6.5
11 Apr : Bubbaluv: 1 DS 1yo
11 Apr : SpringySunshine: BOY! 1st timer.
12 Apr : Brettgirl, 1st timer
13 Apr : Dungungirl(30): BOY! 1 m/c, DS 4 years
14 Apr : AuldAlliance: DS3.8 BOY!
14 Apr : Woody2shoes: Second DS
15 Apr : electra
15 Apr : Sarahmum: DS 10yrs
16 Apr : tristaleejac(25): 1 ds, 3 years
17 Apr : Surprisenumber3(32): DS1 9 DSS 9 DS2 5 GIRL!
18 Apr : gingersarah: 1st baby
18 Apr : Lauren61
18 Apr : salbysea: (28) 1st timer
19 Apr : Kittycatisgettingfat (29) 1st timer
20 Apr : lou031205 (29) 3rd DC, DD1 3.4, DD2 19 mo
21 Apr : B52s: DS will be 2 and a quarter
21 Apr : Staryeyed
21 Apr : Schulte
22 Apr : PuzzleRocks: DD 22mths GIRL!
22 Apr : soon2befamilyof4 DD 13 months.
23 Apr : FatandFedup DC3
24 Apr : conkertree (27): DS 17 months
24 Apr : Bronze (Gawain) - 4th DC
24 Apr : Frekkles
25 Apr : Swaliswan: DD 17 months
25 Apr : ReallyTired
25 Apr : TarteTatin
27 Apr : Bicnod
27 Apr : Carameli
27 Apr : ilovesummer 3rd dc
27 Apr : purplemonkeydishwasher DS 3yo
28 Apr : Satheresitting
30 Apr : Nutty Taff (27) DD nearly 5 GIRL!

I need a good rant so here goes.
After chucking me off the tv so he can watch his crap he follows me up to bed almost immediately. I'm re reading the baby name book in hope (read desperation)
So he says to me go on then suggest some names
me: I gave you a list of over ten names and you took the piss out of all of them

him: well Elijahs a shit name

me: well I don't particularly like Joel so why don't you suggest some names to me. Here have a look

him: you know I don't read books

me: but I have suggested lots of names and you took the piss why don't you suggest some names or we'll never get anywhere

him: yes but your names are crap

me: but we're never going to get anywhere unless you think of some names, you've suggested two oh and Bobski

him: I was taking the piss with Bobski

me: yeah I know so suggest some names or I'll end up just naming this child myself... its within my rights

him: (turns over away from me and snorts patronisingly) yeah whatever you say

and thats fucking it

I wouldnt mind but if he wants some input he needs to bloody put something in.
Seems pathetic and silly but we're getting nowhere and we don't do looking at a baby and going oooh it looks like a.... so we're stuck with me giving lots of ground by suggesting quite a few names and being willing to listen to his suggestions and his doing fuck all

and thank you I said I needed to rant and I have

Bronze - yargh!!! he's being very teenagery about it!! no wonder you're hacked off ((hugs)) x

thank you

I feel a bit better now

I was in tears before, mainly frustration. I just think this baby deserves better than this. I also get the feeling he would just settle for a name if its was ok to him whereas for me names are really important and I look at contenders from every angle.

oh and if his mum suggested a name Im sure it would go on his list ( I like mil btw) thats how he got the two hes actually come up with

I'm back & no sex. He needs to spend the next hour in the toilet. I've been trying to casually suggest sex since about 5 - I don't like doing it too late because I don't get any sleep, but I don't like it in broad daylight because I feel hideous & don't want to be so visible. & since 5 there have always been other things for him to do. Like spend hours on his Xbox. I can't really deny him that, because I'm being such a pain in the arse. & I've not actually ASKED for sex. But the second I ask the second it becomes really awkward, unsexy sex that's clearly just about the baby. & I was hoping to avoid that.

I'm crying a little bit again now.

OddEyes - Eleanor is a really lovely name - it's a family name for me, & I think it's really pretty. Can't wait to read your birth story

bronze, sorry that your DH is being such an idiot. It's important that he's sensible about this! Do you have any idea why he's not taking it seriously?

Hi ya. Been out at nephews christening today so have missed any news and updates. Too tired to read everything!

Bit annoyed as although me and DH had decided on Talia for our baby girl we agreed we would keep it to ourselves. Seems DH let it slip to his mum a while ago and EVERYBODY knew about it today.

Bit BUT does anybody else get very painful wind? I mean REALLY painful? I have never understood when people suggest tummy pains could be trapped wind as i have never had anything more than being slightly uncomfortable. But the last week r 2 it has been really painful. I mean, sometimes I can't move with the pain and it feels like something a lot worse. But then when I do manage to fart the pain goes so that must be what the problem is.

Names can be such a nightmare. I went through a stage of frustration with Dh not having any thoughts on names - we were so settled on name for first DD that he hasn't been able to move on and thnk of a name for current baby (DD is nearly 4).

I think we have finally settled on a boys name and nearly there on girls name.

Have you any ideas on the types of names DH likes? We're not the sort to look at baby and just know either.

Could you suggest that he writes down a few ideas when he has time nd the see if any match your shortlist?

Bronze - could you not put your names into mils head and get her to sort of persuade your dh?? bit sneaky i know but it may just work especially if you throw a few in that were'nt on your list before??

Springy - aww hunny dont cry ((hugs)) xx

soon2be, I haven't had painful wind recently, but really suffered with it at the beginning - it was fairly crippling! I'm having an issue where I can't poo because LO is constantly blocking my bowels - it's probably a similar type of thing?

& how irritating about him telling his mum the name! I would be furious.

Thanks Nutty. I'm just being stupid. As I say, the last couple of days have been nightmarish with hormones. I think I expected it to be over by now - considering I was admitted to hospital with huge contractions at 34 weeks (a week after it'd all started building!) & now I'm over 39 weeks...

& all of the uncertainty from that as to whether or not my body will be able to do this, as well. It's really scary. & I sort of thought it'd be over by now, but it's really looking like I'm going to be overdue & I'm not mentally prepared for it

Soon2Be - oh no, thats the sort of thing MIL would do (everyone would know, even people we dont know!!! and everything would be personalised and there would be named everything heading to the house!!!) what a nightmare!

Problem is I dont think Mil would be brave enough for the names I like either ( I dont think theye too out there but theyre very conservative)

purlease- I wish I did have any idea but I think the only rule is if its not extremely common/boring/conservative then no way

I just counted my list. there are 20 names 5 of which I underlined as my favourites and Elijah I've been pushing as I don't think its a name that would make people go what on earth. but its too out there for him

I'm just fed up. I might be willing to compromise now but with what? hes not giving me anything

by theyre conservative I mean dh and his parents choices in name
Though niece is Lola and they don't see that as odd (dh does)

There's nothing wrong with Elijah so far as I can see - but I know that names are a personal thing & you can dislike them for no real reason. But that's no good if you won't suggest alternatives! Was he like this with the other kids' names?

Springy - you're not being stupid at all ((hugs)) you're bound to feel let down in many ways as it has built up and up and then just plateaued and sort of left you a bit confused and hanging around in contraction limbo, you're bound to feel grumpy and annoyed, it's frustrating xx try and hold on to the fact that George will have to come out of there soon!!! he can't stay in there forever!! It will all be worth it in the end i promise xxx

ds1 is named after my brother so though its very run of the mill which kept him happy it was also good for me as I wanted to do that in honour of his memory.

ds2 has DHs middle name as his name. Again run of the mill but I was happy as I'm really into names being for a reason etc

dd- I gave dh a list of about ten welsh girls names. Dds names was nearer the bottom and he admits he chose it because it has three letters and he can spell and say it. I was happy to compromise as though it wasnt my favourite it was still a pretty name (girls are sooo much easier)

springy set yourself a date in your mind of 2 weeks over and keep thinking about it. That is the latest it will happen and then you cant be disappointed again

I wouldnt even bother doign the sex thing to get things started. I think that only works if you're ready and its really not worth the pain.

but Elijah is a biblical name so its a classic??? you would have thought he would be fine with it?? sorry no help there really.....

What names are on your list bronze if you dont mind me asking??

exactly how I feel...

but then hes uneducated except in sales and engines and other equally dull things

Ok my top 5 as I understand some of the others are too much

Amos, Elijah, Elias, Gideon and Simeon

oh and hes allowed to dislike them, IF he could come up with bloody alternatives. I think thats whats bugging me.

To be honest bronze, I'd just give him the list of names that you're happy with & tell him to either choose one or accept that you will. You don't need the stress of him being so childish & you're trying desperately to include him, but for whatever reason he's being awkward. That's not your fault & your baby will need a name.

& I know - I keep telling myself that it'll all be over in less than 3 weeks no matter what. & after all this time, 3 weeks isn't much. But I didn't think that I'd go over - I've had a show & everything! Weeks ago! & NOTHING. My body's really fucking about

ALL CLASSICS!!!! whats his problem????

i suppose you could change simeon to simon but its not quite the same .......hmmm

what are the 2 he suggested??

maybe we can figure out which direction hes trying to go in???

Joel and Joseph
(you mean his mum suggested