Due April 2009: Episode 21 - RLT officials have stern words with the April mums after stocks plummet!!

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Thanks to Nutty for all the thread suggestions including this one. I hope no one minds but I picked this one in honour of the brilliant race commentary we had from Nuts and Frekkles the other night. Hopefully we will get some more.

Morning all!
Feel loads better today, and had a great sleep.
Boffin - sorry to hear about your friend. I had a friend who died 2 years ago leaving 3 kids, the oldest one being 16. He's in and out of mental hospital now he just couldn't cope. I personally blame his family for not supporting him through such a devastating time. Poor guy just got passed from family member to family member every time he broke down.
Also boff - please wear a helmet when you're on your bike!!! My dad has been cycling to work for years, but last year a lorry sent him flying across the road. He broke his hip quite badly. The thing that brought me to tears was the state of his helmet. It had a huge split in it. Imagine he hadn't been wearing it. Just doesn't bear thinking about.
Nutty - sorry about your mum. It must be hard for you, especially when you have such a special time ahead of you.
Glaskam - Ruby is so gorgeous. I love the 1st pic it's like she's having a wee sleepy stretch after waking up. So cute!
brettgirl - am very jealous of your horseriding. I miss it so much. I was a riding instructor in Ireland until I found out I was pg with DS and have only been riding once since.

Just got a letter .....my fate is sealed!

Dear Mrs SmuttyNutty

I hope you are managing at home after your recent admission. I was able to speak to Mr BackConsultant who has confirmed that there is no reason why you should not have a VD with the disc prolapse. He tells me there is a small bulge (i love that word bulge ) at the lower end of your spine which will not get any worse during labour. Mr BackConsultant feels that a VD would be better in terms of recovery after delivery rather than CS. I understand Dr Scrottum (seriously thats the name prob should not have typed the name on here but tis funny ) also saw you and again felt thet there was no reason why you would not be able to have an epidural and again feels that a VD would be better for you in the long run.

I have arranged to see you again at about 38 weeks when i will examine the neck of the womb and if we feel it would be relitively straightforward to do so, may consider induction of labour at this stage if your back and pelvis are causing particular problems. However, if the neck of the womb is tightly closed and the baby's head is high at this stage then it would be safer for labour to start naturally. I will see you as planned in clinic.

love and kisses
Dr Obstetrician

CC : your MW

Pah!!! not a chance that you will be inducing me my friend!!! if you want to let me go full term then thats what i will be doing!!! (though i might be very tempted [grin))

Oh Nutty that sucks. How are you feeling now about having a VD?

Morning!

Woo hoo! Just phoned my MW and everything is fine with my pelvic measurements, in fact, she said it's a good size! Knew that doctor was a nutter....

Pretty p**sed off that my baby and ovaries got an extra dose of unnecessary radiation though...grrr

I posted about the x-ray on the childbirth threads and a MW replied saying that in the UK they don't do x-rays because they're inaccurate and old fashioned!

So at my next MW appt. I'm going to be asking lots of questions about positions to open my pelvis up as much as possible (especially since this baby is a biggie).

Speaking of bikes - my DH bought a new bike last summer and insists on keeping it in our living room over winter because he thinks t will get nicked otherwise. When the weather improves it's definitely going on the balcony instead! Also agree about wearing cycling helmets though - can't believe the number of people here that cycle along busy roads with a child on the back NOT wearing helmets...crazy! Though I have read somewhere that drivers might act more riskily towards cyclists with helmets...probably better to be safe than sorry. I have a bike and cycle to work quite often, but I'm too scared to have a child seat on the back. I don't think I'm confident enough about it.

Ruby is such a cutie! Gets me all impatient about meeting my little one. Looks like it might still be a while though since my cervix is tightly closed (am I the first to mention cervices(?) today?????)

Nutty, seriously, that guy is called Mr Scrottum??????

There is a consultant at my ANC called Mr C Patient, which I thought was good, but this absolutely takes the biscuit.

Oh Nutty! How do you feel about it? (Can't get over that doctor's name.... )

Dr Scrottum! ROFL Is his first name richard?

Kalikaroo - yay for your fine pelvis what a relief for you!!

seriously!! Mr Scrottum thats what it says its the only good thing in that letter

i'm kinda ok with the VD now, i dont really have any choice. so just gonna go with it but if i'm in a worse state post baby there will be hell to pay!! i'm not being induced though if they want to let me go, i will be doing it my way, its gotta be the best way really as they are quite happy with everything else.

anyway gotta run, hydro time see you later xxxxx

I would just like to say congratulations to Dr Scrottum for advancing to consultant level despite the obvious disadvantages with which he had to contend! Well done him!

My TENS machine has just turned up in post, and my new wrap sling, though I can't be bothered to experiment with either at the moment.

Today, I shall be mostly reading in bed. Glad I made a special effort to be dressed already though, in view of not only visit from friendly postie, but also man to read gas and electric meters!

Hope hydro is helpful Nutty. Hooray for normal pelvis Kali. Errrm....hooray and boooo for everything else, as relevant. Played catch-up on thread earlier, but have since forgotten everything due to not posting instantaneously.

Now tea and cake, and back to the little nest I have made myself in bed (does that count as nesting?).

Very quiet today.

I have a MW appointment this afternoon and I can feel my BP starting to rise in anticipation arrgghhhh!!!!

Dr Srotum, lol.

Boo!

Juw that totally counts as nesting!

Can I just say woohoo wahey and yippee. Mil (without it being insulting) has just offered to pay for us to have one o those companies to do a deep clean. Coinincides nicely with getting the house on the market and before baby is born. Means I can concentrate on tidying an decorating and I might actually do this and it be done happy bronky

Hello all,

Boffin sorry to hear you knew Natasha Richardson, it's always sad when someone dies young but when they leave children it's an extra sad piece of news

Kalikaroo - good news about your pelvis!

Smutty - where on earth does Mr Scrottum practice? I want this consultant!

So I just got back from a reflexology session, which was bliss. The wriggler is wriggling away and I'm getting a bit of backache, but nothing to write home about. Going to plant some bulbs and herbs in a minute, then lunch and a nap. What a packed schedule!

oh my goodness, I can't believe how much you lot have all been writing again

Am having a really bad day today. Am totally fed up, exhausted, emotional and tearful. I also have an upset tummy and baby is hardly moving.

Have loads of work to do but had to lie down cos my back was hurting and then I fell asleep. Woke up with a start and put washing out, tidied round, and then back to office work. Had two pregnant friends called saying how they were on ML at 29 weeks and 25 weeks and DH doing everything for them, not letting them lift a finger etc. Baths run for them, magazines, brekkie in bed, DC's sorted for them etc etc etc.

There's me running round, probably actually doing more than usual. Struggling to wash windows while DH watches, doing office work til 10 pm and DH asking me what's wrong when I'm dropping off to sleep while he's still talking. DC's have a million hobbies, all of which I am responsible for. I have spent so much money on bunk beds, new wardrobes, cot, all the baby stuff, DH hasn't spent a penny, he works full-time, I work 8 hours a week. We haven't got a pram or car seat yet, he hasn't mentioned it, I'm too tired to look for one. We have nothing in for tea tonight for him. There is stuff for me and the kids but he is fussy, so I feel like just cooking for me and the boys. When my back is agonising he just looks at me. If I ask him to massage it, he gets bored after two minutes. If I ask him to do anything I'm apparently nagging.

So, basically, I am just pig sick of all my friends who are getting everything done for them. Today I am swollen up like a balloon, can hardly type. I have had severe PE before so I know I need to be careful.

Don't get me wrong, DH works hard but at the moment he should be working a little harder I think.

He has just called me and asked what is wrong. I started to explain how I feel then burst into tears and put the phone down. I'm not an openly emotional person and he never sees me cry so goodness knows what he's thinking now.

Sorry to moan, just needed to.

surprise - dont apologise for moaning, we're all in this together.
Sorry to hear you're having a horrible time just now. You must be exhausted. Your DH sounds like he possibly doesn't quite understand just how much you need help and rest just now. Men are so clueless when it comes to this kind of thing, you really have to spell it out for them just exactly what you need them to do for you.
I find if I don't explain exactly what I'm feeling and needing to my DP, he just gets totally baffled when I have a strop because he's not done something and I get emotional.

oh surprise you do sound at the end of your tether! You need to get across to your DH how much more help you need, you can't be doing all this. Does he need you to tell him what needs doing? Men are sometimes rubbish at seeing where they can help.

Is there anything that can be left to slide for now? Sometimes we look at these lists of things that need doing and some of them really can wait if pushed, your health is much more important. Can the DCs watch a bit more telly than usual so you can have a break?

Poor you, am sending you lots of sympathy and hugs {}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}

And surprise - DON'T wash the windows. Clean windows are not essential, naps for pregnant ladies ARE.

second that! no washing windows!
Do juwesm's version of nesting

thank you

I did ask him to do the windows. What I actually said was 'I'm not nagging but can you at least clean the patio windows in the next couple of days'. He nodded. I waited. A week later I got the stuff and did them myself while he watched. Nothing was mentioned about it.

I am desperately trying to get all my office stuff done (I work from home) before I leave on 3rd April as I am passing it all over to someone else for 3 months and want it all up to date and sorted.

So I am getting DC's to bed, then asking DH if he will listen out for them (DS2 finds it hard to settle) so I can work. I end up having to keep stop working and go into DS2 because DH hasn't been bothered to go and see. So I am working really late, then he wonders why I won't go and watch telly with him at 11 pm!!

Just having a bad day really

Oh Surprise, that really doesn't sound good, poor you It's not right, your DH must help. I would be crying and shouting and throwing things but realise that's not your style. Please sit him down and explain. x

Maybe it will cheer you up to think though that those friends who've started their ML so early will be bored silly in a few weeks time when you have your lovely baby to cuddle!

That does cheer me up actually Schulte

I went for a rare night out on Tues with my neighbour (we were only out 6-9.30) and I asked DH to load dishwasher, vaccuum the stairs as I find it difficult now and put DS's to bed. When I came back and it was done I nearly fell over, I was SO grateful, but that's not right is it!!

I feel bad moaning to be honest because he is hard worker, but so am I, and right now I need a little extra help. Or at least a little TLC but he just doesn't seem to get it. I literally sort out everything in the household, finances, DC's school and hobbies etc, housekeeping, and I really don't mind as I do usually have loads more time to do it than him but am really struggling at the moment. I think I would be able to cope with all the day to day stuff if only he would occasionally run me a bath, rub my back without me asking, just ask if I'm okay and genuinely be interested in the reply....does that sound crazy?!

I'm just catching up - I see that BB was up last night with period pain. If I don't get to the end & find that she's having this baby, I won't be impressed

Similarly, haha at Boff 'giving up on being in labour' & I don't know what you're talking about with your 'oh no, I look horrible ' nonsense - you look great! & I love the hair!

Puzzle, your DD is gorgeous Where's my baby?!

Well this is as far as I got before a really depressing 2 hour phonecall from my best friend in which she's announced that she's having an abortion. I didn't even know she was pregnant. It's really difficult to give advice when I'm about to pop a baby out myself - & it's not like I could even offer to go with her, because who wants a hugely pregnant woman sitting in the waiting room of an abortion clinic? I feel really weird about it for a few reasons & now my brain feels like it's dribbling out of my ear

I shall carry on reading & hope that there'll be funny stuff / happier news to distract me. I can always count on you lot

Trista, your DS sounds so cute - trying to see the baby through your bellybutton! Bless.

glaskham, bless little Ruby It must be so nice to have her home. She's gorgeous xx

brettgirl, about your DH's collision with the Russian tourists! & naughty boy, lying about it - like you wouldn't notice the damage to the bike at that speed! Men are so silly.

LuLu, I love the idea of you & DH eating breakfast in your cycling helmets

Nutty - hahaha at '{groin]'

Oh God. Scrottum? Doctor Scrottum? Seriously? They assigned you a Dr Scrottum? Amazing

Well I suppose now you know what's happening... & it sounds like they've really thought about it (for a change!) so it should be the best thing in the long run.

Kali, so pleased that your pelvis is fine - your doctor was clearly just loopy. Must be such a relief for you

surprise You sound really low. Your DH needs to understand that you need more help - perhaps seeing you cry wouldn't be a bad thing at this point. I'm sure he does work hard, but you're working a hell of a lot harder at the moment & he seems oblivious. It must be so difficult for you xx

Not in ths slightest bit crazy, surprise.
Honestly though, they do need you to spell it out for them. Men think when you need something you'll ask and they are quite happy to ignore things until that point, thinking they'll miraculously get done.
Please talk to him, before it gets too much for you, because if you leave it too long, it will all come out in a big burst of emotion which he'll probably shy away from. They are very good at feeling like victims!

No Surprise it doesn't sound crazy at all. My DH seemed completely oblivious to the fact that I am now 8 months pregnant until a couple of days ago. He'd never asked me how I felt or how the LO was. He'd even suggested I carry some heavy stuff around at the weekend - we were clearing out the attic and taking things to the tip. He'd never really taken an interest in the bump and whenever I said we needed to get things ready for the baby (such as installing the car seat) he said it was far too early. Then I had a bit of a crying fit on Tuesday evening and he's completely changed since, telling me to rest and only do one job each day. I guess they just don't UNDERSTAND what it's like and how you need their support, even if it's only emotionally.