Due May 2009 We're Nesting and Napping, Squeezing and Holding

[FiKelly]

here we go

pula Our trick is always to have family dinners and not to force them to eat things they don't like or never had before. However I ALWAYS serve them everything and they HAVE to leave it on their plate, even if they don't eat it. I do always make sure there are at least 1 or 2 ingredients in the meal they do like, so they've got something in their tummy. The theory is that if they see unfamiliar things often enough they'll eventually eat it. And you know what: it works, but it can take a long time. It took my ds about 2 years to eat potato and now it's normal to him. Last week I noticed he ate leek, as if it was the most normal thing in the world, even though only a couple of months ago I used to get moaning. So I suppose patience is the key. They'll start eating a more varied diet as they get older. When my ds was about 18 months he went through a month of surviving on petit filou, melon, dairy lea triangles and bread Now he eats nearly anything and has a weirdly grown up taste compared to his school friends (how many 7yo have Boursin as their favourite cheese?!) As you can see: there's light at the end of the tunnel, as long as you offer a varied diet.

Looby Last time I went to the dietician's diabetic's talk it came down to being very similar to a GI diet: i.e. chose things that are slower to digest: i.e. whole grain and that sort of stuff. If you do want a sweet or something have it after eating something high fibre or when you're going to have exercise. Llareggub can probably tell you a lot more, having lived with the condition for so long now.

re: my mum belgianchocs she has not given me any advice re. pregnancy other than to say she'd never do it again and what a nightmare my birth was for her and she's suffered ever since. She had me when she was 40, I was an accident, she developed pre eclampsia at 35weeks I was born after and emergency csection both she and I nearly died and I spent quite a long time in intensive care.
She blames me for the high bp she's had ever since, and the fact that she married my father cos I came along.

She can be quite nasty - I feel really sorry for my dad

I'm going to bed in a few moments. I've had to take co-codamol for the pains in my tummy - BH I think and the tablets are now making me very drowsy. So i'm going to make the most of this and hit the sack! just put the dishwasher on, lock up and make a cuppa tea then nighty night all. xx

Oh Belgian - you've just reminded me how much I love Boursin cheese... are we allowed it???

And I;ve just developed heartburn too - so away to find the gaviscon...

divedaisy - bugger, Northern Ireland is a bit too far for me!

Polony - you sound a bit like me re the bull in a china shop syndrome, I wouldn't worry.

Looby - I really do hope you get it sorted out soon. They are being complete arses and I am very for you. Have you heard from the diabetes nurse yet re: your appointment? Tbh, it might be on her pile of 'things to sort' - so it might be worth giving her a call.

Grumpy - were you on that other thread just now - the AIBU one about MILs and bum cream!!? I can't do links (can someone tell me how, please?!!), but if people want a giggle, go and have a look! (and talking of which, I thought that link to that joke was v funny, divedaisy!)

I'm so excited, I now have a week off. Going to my parents in Wiltshire, Bath for a day, and then Devon for a few days break by the sea with dp. Siiiiiigh

Looby - moan away - thats what we're here for! And OMG re your Mum - that's such terrible things to say!!! Your poor Dad. Do you and he ever sit there and give each other 'knowing' looks?! Also, might be worth phoning up that team - your appointment being 2 weeks ago is a bit bonkers - if they can't bring it forward, they can at least chat to you over the phone? Maybe you can phone the diabetes nurse (am repeating myself I know) - she should be more than happy to go over things on the phone before your appointment. Well, I would!

Boursin is OK. It's processed pasteurised cheese, that sort of soft cheese is OK. It's the brie type soft cheeses that aren't good and goat's cheese isn't either because that's not pasturised. Though I've been guilty of eating brie, but always cooked on toast I can't help it, it's my favourite cheese in the world and when I had morning sickness the only kind I could stomach. After many weeks of craving I caved in when I was about 13 weeks.

pulapula

Apparently you only have to give a new food 10 times for it to be accepted.

I love the 'only'.

Some foods have taken severe persistence on my part and some are just not eaten by them at home - peppers being one.

The reason I cook so much is that I love cooking and experimenting (and DH is the best and most willing guinea pig), the girls I experiment with a little less but they are both a bit tediously devoted to pasta. I keep dishing up rice/couscous (that went down like a lead balloon) but it's pasta they like the best.

TBH, I started the AIBU thread as a challenge - I wanted to see how many people would be horrified. I mean, it's an occasional thing for me to dish this type of stuff up. We regularly have sausage rolls on a Saturday, but I didn't dare put that in my thread!

sausagenmash

The MIL and bum-cream is my favourite thread ever and it wasn't even the OP's MIL!!

Oh and looby Terrible that your mum said those things. Though it did bring me straight back to uni when we did a session on bonding in psychology. There was something about women not bonding with their children properly if there are complications, the child has been in special care for a period of time or even if the woman has had PND, which could have been the case for your mum if her pregnancy was a shock and problematic on top of it. Maybe something similar is to blame for your mum's behaviour. Not that it's an excuse, she should know that what she's saying is unreasonable and hurtful, but still. It could be an explanation.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/725058-MIL-treats-DH-like-a-baby

is the MIL bum cream thread BTW

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/725058-MIL-treats-DH-like-a-baby

is the MIL bum cream thread BTW

grumpy pula Only 10 times Ha, I don't know who discoverd that, but in my experience it's more like 10000 times! It does work though, the offering regularly thing. Just not quite as fast as 10 times! Look at ds it took 7 years to finally eat leek!

belgianchoc I did think that my mum never really bonded with me when I was little and that she blamed me for being unhappily married to my dad. She has never been very maternal to me or interested in other children - I guess some people just aren't

Just hope I am not the same she made my life very miserable as a teenager.

lol rub cream up his bottom grumpy

the bitty sketches give me the creeps

Looby

I was feeling guilty there, as there were 2 distinct conversations going on - you with your bloody awful mother (I know how lucky I am with my mum, eccentric as she is), and then bum cream/crap food going on in the other conversation. Glad we made you smile.....

Just be the best mum you can, you sound like a lovely, kind and caring person - you will be much loved by your DC(s).

Looby It's not because you're mum is the way she is that you'll be like her. In fact just you worrying about it shows that you're not going to be like her. Like grumpy said. You sound like a kind and caring person, so you'll be fine. Just give your little one all the love and hugs (hugs are important ) you can.

thanks for your support everyone

I wish i had a mum to talk to about things, however I am very lucky to have a great dh he still can't believe that way my mum treats me.

Oh well - enough feeling sorry for myself.

Time for chocolate! Oh bugger not allowed any!

at the bum cream thread. Glad it's not my mil!

looby- i think that the fact you know how parents (specifically mums) can make life miserable for their children, you will be a great mum. You sound great to me - you lost 2 stones in weight to give your baby the best start in life and felt sad when you found you had developed GD but you are determined to get on top of this.

Sometimes I hear echos on my mum when I shout speak to my DCs but at least i recognise it and can make a conscious effort to change. I want them to have a happy childhood- I am still strict in many ways, but i think thats a good thing...

have a lovely week off sausage

am very altho I have just come back from lovely weekend in cornwall and its not long till ML (just feels like it)

divedaisy, just read your link to the joke a page or two back and made me laugh out loud , thanks for that!

looby, your mum -

pula you sound like me. I am also making conscious efforts not to be like my mum in some respects. I try to be more affectionate, compassionate and fun. I don't remember ever getting hugs from my mum, no compassion when I was upset (oh just get over it) and she was always cleaning and never played with us. My house might be a bit untidy, but at least my dcs will have memories of getting plenty of hugs and cuddles and us playing together!

Anyway I'm going to watch 'Sliding Doors' on Film 4 now. It's one of the 1st films dh and I ever saw together. Back in those days he was still romantic and said that would have been us: if we hadn't met at the time we had, then we would have met somewhere else, because we were destined to be together. Aah, wasn't he sweet. Now he denies ever to have said such soppy things

yes divedaisy great joke lol