Due April 2009: Episode 17 - We're off of work and ready to push, time for DH's to attend to that bush!!

[BabyBolat]

Inspired by our Smutty x

I think you're right - he is beginning to worry about the reality of what's happening & what it might mean in terms of risks & whatever. But yes, the body comment was not appreciated by any stretch of the imagination & I made that very clear.

BB, funny you should mention supporting his stuff - he was told earlier this week that he's ready to have a reduced dosage of the meds & stop going to see the anger management lady. I even said to him last night that it felt a bit like he'd been making an effort to be 'normal', but suddenly took that news to mean that he could stop trying & become a complete [insert many sweary words here]... I'm hoping it's just a one off, though - he's not even reduced his meds yet!

& glad to see you've had a nice afternoon MM Did it have a happy finish? It looks possible from that reaction

You lot are very quiet.

je suis ici Boff!

just eating some brownies (ok, a whole baking tray full)

how are you?

come back Boffffffffffffffffffff

Je suis retourne. Il a fallu que je suis allee en bas pour manger un petit morceau quelque chose. Of course I had to finish with a big bowl of ice cream to help my heartburn. Please excuse the lack of accents in this post, I can't be arsed to find the French keyboard function, and like umlauts, accents ought to be abolished anyway in this keyboard age.

Sorry, missed an e off the end of retourne. My French is rubbish these days.

Springy - I think DH's comment warrants a 6 week bj ban, don't you?

Totally agree with Bronze's interpretation that he was just looking for something that would hurt you. Hope you've made up and are having a nice evening together.

Mumblemum, congratulations on your wedding - you must be a respectable Mrs now - hope you're having a fab party and DD is well and celebrating with you!

A massage... hmmmm... I have one booked for Wednesday. A whole hour of pampering. Bliss!

So I thought that maybe we could all share our best survival tips for the first few weeks after the babies have arrived? Mine would be:

To have a bath every night (gives you a break, helps with the healing, lets you reconnect with your body, and helps if your breasts are engorged)

To make an effort to get washed and dressed in the morning even if it means baby has to cry for a few minutes... makes you feel so much more human

To get plenty of fresh air i.e. go out and push the pram through the nearest park every day - really helps with the tiredness

Advice for the first few weeks of babyhood:

I know that this isn't the advice that health professionals give, but definitely co-sleep at least some of the time if you are BFing as it will keep you sane.

If anyone offers to cook a meal for you - accept it!

Don't worry about being superwoman or what other people think of the state of you/your house. You have bigger things to worry about. If it really is killing you, then get a cleaner.

Frankly Schulte that sums it all up. I would probably add:

Eating reliably and well at mealtimes helps the jet lag aspect.

Have a little flask of hot water and a jar of HiLights chocolate drink by the bed at night, and then if you are in the process of facilitating a 3 am bf marathon, you can easily make yourself a nice hot drink without too much fuss or waking DH yet again.

When people come around give them a useful job to do, so they don't think you are just there to facilitate their baby holding and make them tea.

I used to give mine a 'dream feed' at my bedtime, then put them in the crib. When they woke up for their next feed, I would then co-sleep with them after that. It worked quite well.

Hmmm, like the hot water / drink idea, might do that!

When DD was tiny I kept her up with me until about 11pm, then we had a lie-in in the morning as she always went back to sleep for another couple of hours after her early morning feed. It worked quite well really. But now I've got a toddler who gets up very early - should I go to bed at 8pm myself do you think to get the maximum amount of sleep I can get?

Sleeping whenever the kids sleeps gives you the maximum amount of rest, but you lose your social and personal life completely. It's a trade-off.

DH will hate me if I start going to bed at 8pm. He's already grumbling because I go to bed at 9.30 most nights and he says it makes him feel like he doesn't have a life any longer

There is that problem, Schulte. It's all about compromise.

I'm back, and minus some bits of mucus

Have you been examining your cervix again, MM? BB will be most disappointed.

no, it just fell out....

Springy - > words fail me (actually they dont but i'm being good) sheesh he has some serious making up to do after that!! hopefully now you have had a good old rumble though he will go away and think about it and be a bit more sensitive from now on. it does sound defensive though, like he's lashing out cos he realises hes in the wrong. ((hugs)) xx hope things get better soon xx

Mathsmummy - yay for massage sounds like it hit the spot get you're fingers out of there Mrs!! BB will be after you!!! hmmmm fell out indeed, lol bet you had a crochet hook n everything

Swaliswan - sorry you had a disturbed night, hows the mouth now??

Mouth is loads better, thanks Nutty.

MM, when I had DD, I didn't lose my mucus plug until a few hours after my waters broke. I guess they must have gone with such force that the mucus plug just stayed up there I could not believe how much mucus there was. I wonder if it will be different this time.

I loved the massage today, would heartily recommend it. Was a bit to discover it cost £50 though (was a voucher for birthday) !!

I am still inanely grinning for the mucusness. I am pregnant after all!!

well what a busy day.

sofa delivery and erection (dh erecting said sofa not his man meat ) love love love comfy sofa (yep almost as good as mail order groom )

DD's presents are all prepared and wrapped and made up (playhouse for the garden)

Party bags are finished off, cake is here, just need to turn up to the venue tommorow yay

RAC man fixed my car (battery had dodgey cell) so battery was replaced hooray, dh is on the insurance, car is fixed and all ready to go if dh passes his test next friday

new carpet was purchased and is ready to be laid (my lounge is goning to be gorgeous when its finished

and the beauty of it all is i have done wirtually nothing but watch everyone else work and have only had to do fun stuff like wrap, pop stuff in bags and be carted of to carpet store to choose colour of carpet.

hooray

I am most jealous, Nutty. All you have to do now is stay off of your new sofa and carpet just in case your waters break

Right, I'm off to bed now as I'm exhausted. I can't wait for DH to come home tomorrow

Sleep well, Ladies.

lol at man meat Nutty