Due April 2009: Episode 15 - Barbarellys Babies Break free & BB waits paitiently (LOL not!!)

[SmuttyNuttyTaff]

Sorry BB Love you really xxxx

anyway must get myself to bed

rest up MrsSpringy!! try and get some sleep if you can xx

Night Night & sweet dreams xx

I think the point about an AN group is that you are discussing such personal stuff anyway it is relatively easy to veer into sex territory without it starting to sound like a big porno effort.

Oh God, I nearly just did something so horrific that I can barely type it through my nervous giggles & blushing!

I was posting on my ex A Level teacher's wall (as I frequently do, because we're friends & stuff, like all the cool kids are with their teachers ) & wrote too much to fit in the Facebook box. So cut the bottom bit out so I could edit the middle bit without it messing up.

I then pasted what I'd cut straight onto the bottom & clicked post. Luckily I missed the post button through idiotic touch pad usage & had chance to see that I must have done something similar with copy / pasting here (although I'm not sure why!), as what I had in fact added to the bottom of his wall post was:

"I want orgasms too & don't worry Nutty, I wasn't being eloquent either"

Oh, how mortifying just thinking of how close that was to being plastered all over Facebook for not only my old teacher but everyone to see. Technology is a dangerous thing

I am off to bed too, having just emailed Occupational Therapy very formally to moan about them taking a month to write to me and then having a 10 week waiting list for appointments that is so long I will no longer be pg by the time they can be arsed to see me, and the whole point was for them to come out while I was pg in the first instance. I have threatened them with my MP on this occasion. I think they might just respond, don't you?

People should know not to mess with the Boff by now.

Boffin, you say that but then there are things like the plumber dialogues where there just are no excuses

Night night, ladies xx

& people really should learn not to mess with you, Boff - they can never win & it can potentially get so ugly in the process!

Oh Springy that is priceless.

Ah yes, the plumber thing ... I just have him good online feedback, by the way, and then posted up a job for an electrician (ie wiring up the new heated towel rail) that should take us into a whole new realm of filth to do with sparks and so on.

Boffin, you think that having the girl who left her dildo behind on your Facebook is bad - at least she wasn't posting about her sexual needs to you

If we're honest, 'heated towel rail' doesn't even take that much imagination in the first place. Especially if he's been doing his pelvic floor exercises

(Oh crap, pelvic floor exercises! Keep forgetting! )

I had forgotten about that. I might just be slightly sick if she did that on my wall.

You know my FB profile - guess who she is???

Erm...

Mrs Bolat, perhaps?

Hmm, I really wouldn't like to guess. Not least for fear of offending any good friends of yours

Gwan, tell us - just give initials or whatever so we can giggle stealthily.

Good morning all!

I am awake at this ungodly hour because there was water dripping on my face at 6am... this is an ongoing saga with the landlord upstairs who refuses to get a proper plumber in to fix his leaky bath - he keeps trying to do the job himself! This has left us with three months of damp carpet in the entrance hall, which has now been fixed. He has, however, managed to mess up his TOILET plumbing now so I have dirty water leaking in my bedroom - right above my pillow, niiice - and a sopping bathroom floor!
My house is now strewn with bowls and tupperwares to catch the drips, and I've emailed our agent and landlord again but seem to have no joy being "polite". Anyone know any clever way I can force them to get this fixed before the baby arrives? I'm sure it's really unhealthy to have damp and mould everywhere - even without a newborn around!!!
Boo hoo hoo for rented accommodation... >

Oooooh Kitty - how grim. That is really not on! They really have to sort that out.

(But just think how much you can flood whoever is downstairs from you when you have your water birth).

Just going to try and quickly catch up on the weekends chat.

I see I have been nominated stretch 'n' sweeper in my absence...
And if you REALLY want to know how to do it, will give you a little tutorial when I get back from work girls

Have fun today..xx

Kitty, that is truly horrid.

I think pg tantrum and a few tears might just be in order, don't you?

Did you rent the thing through an agent? If so, you could complain (tearfully) through them and they could put pressure on him to get a professional in. Failing that, I think you'll have to get legal, which is a very blunt instrument indeed, and will take longer than you would probably want it to. Threatening to give notice if he keeps drenching you will mean he risks a letting void, which will hurt his pocket hard in the present climate presumably, so that is a more realistic means of getting your message across.

Honestly, he's only trying to save £60 here so it's really not fair on you at all.

Thanks Boff - you always say the right thing...

I'm going to call the agent later and see what they can do - and I'll deffo pull the pregnant & teary bit... will keep you posted!

Who would I contact re legal route, just out of interest? Solicitor? Citizens Advice Bureau? MP?

Gosh - just been trying to catch up on the weekend. Springy all OK now?

Kitty - CAB are always a good starting point. They could tell you whether you should be consulting a solicitor. But I think Boff is right - threatening him with tenantlessness should motivate your landlord so you shouldn't actually need to get that far.

Morning people

I would say good but I suspect its not for Kitty for one.

Phone these people after 9am perhaps?

You could also visit the Citizens' Advice Bureau. But as you are in a position to ring the agent and make a fuss, that is your best bet IMO. You can demand it's fixed by an emergency plumber by the end of the day.

Personally speaking I reckon if he persistently fails to do this, there might be the possibility of withholding rent as you are not having 'peaceful enjoyment' of the property - however do get this checked out very thoroughly in a legal sense, and flag this up to the agent well in advance, because I am by no means a lawyer and I wouldn't be wanting to get you evicted or anything (although I know to my cost as a landlord that it takes 3 months to evict the most awful and irresponsible tenant)!

Hello everyone

Exciting times here! I have been offline for a while and glued to the Springy saga since I came back.

I had some sad news - an old friend died a few days ago - we are all a little knocked for 6 and his wife looks just obliterated. Counting blessings a lot these days.

Kitty, your landlord might be living in the past in the sense that it used to be much more a letters' market than it is now. If s(he) is an individual rather than an agent, (s)he may not know how much the market has turned in your favour in terms of what is out there for you to rent on what terms. You probably do not want to move right this second but if you did, you would probably get somewhere nicer more cheaply and it might be worth thinking about some relatively low risk ways of pointing this out. Good luck to him getting new tenants into a leaky flat in this climate. But more importantly GGGGGGGRRRR other people's leaky bathroom water GRRRRRRR!

I am about to go to the scarily named Surgical Appliances Department to see if they can make me a robo-ginger, or maybe kit me out in one of those big stompy things Ripley ends up in.

Boffin, how is your AP now?

Cleaning is getting me down.

Hello Ginger my buddy!

Sorry to hear about your friend.

My AP is now virtually perfect. It has indeed been a splendid week on the AP front. She will not let me do a thing, and she has speeded up to normal pace now. My oven was cleaned to the point at which it looked as though it had just come out a showroom. We have apparently limitless supplies of socks and clean pants. The hall is tidy. The meals have been simple, but economical, well planned and very acceptable. She has more time to herself even to socialise and so on, which is important too, and she had a good week at language school and made some new friends. It really is amazing.

SpringySunshine are you trying to start an MN war with me - I do have magical powers you know just look what I did to your cervix!!

Kitty you can pack it in too as I told you last night...

I would like to draw all your attention to the LIST - that clearly specifies, WFH and ME are first in the baby queue!!!
I will forgive Barbarelly and Oddeyes on account of their CS's but the rest of you need to wait your turn - MM that includes you - leave your cervix alone

Kitty, dirty toilet water is unacceptable - Check it out in your contract in terms of what the landlord is required to provide (clean sanitary living conditions etc) but I think you are entitled to withhold rent until he meets that, if it was just water I think you would have less of an issue but dirty toilet water holds the risk of infection and disease which puts you and your unborn / newborn child at risk. Take photos of the water on your ceiling and drips on the bed - email them over to the landlord and ask for immediate action or you will be seeking legal advice - there also must be some sort of landlords association that he has to be part of or something...

Have to say I woke up this morning with even more sympathy for Smutts, Boff and all you SPD suffers had the worst nights sleep (no nookie either which is another issue!!!) anyway had pains in my hips all night and couldn't get comfy and woke up this morning and feel like someone is forcing my hips together - like pushing them really hard from each side where they feel like they are almost crushing, also getting really bad pains in my fanjo / wee area, that make me actually physically stop!!

ALSO, went to Tesco and waitrose this morning and no where does rasberry leaf tea - do you need to order it off the internet!!

On the plus side I have pre-washed all my nappies this morning and they are hanging out on the line (LuLu it says they need to be washed 4 times to become fully absorbent - should I do this or do it a couple of times and then just when the baby is here? My garden is giving me a scary look at my future life tho!!!

I am at home today and tomorrow (yay!!)

Springy how you feeling this morning smell pants? Did you manage to sleep through without too many contractions??

My friend is a premature baby nurse and your mw is talking rubbish - yes ideally the baby would be in there until 37 weeks but 34 weeks wouldn't be the worst scenario! Also, my MW specifically tells me sex is fine in pregnancy so again she should just pipe down!! I would complain if I were you as there job is to support, not blame, it's not like you walked in there off your face on drugs / alcohol at 34 weeks is it (which I have seen first hand!!)

Hi

GingerSarah - sorry to hear about your friend.

BB - I ran my nappies through the wash once before using them. They will be in and out of that machine with SUCH regularity once the baby is born that I'm sure once will do.

Plus with newborns they tend to poo after every feed (in DDs case once an hour during her first week, then gradually to once every 2 hours etc) so that you change their nappy before the full absorbency is actually required. It is only later when they are doing v. few poos and higher volume of wee that you need max absorbency.

OH - and raspberry leaf tea - I bought some in Neal's Yard on Friday (and - oops- also bought some of their wildly expensive Mother's Massage Oil which smells divine and always gets DH a little hot under the collar!)

Neal's yard sell it loose for making by the pot. Have discovered that my mother doesn't own a tea strainer so have been making cafetieres of the stuff. I actually quite like it and perversely find it quite a refreshing cold drink.