Due April 2009: Episode 15 - Barbarellys Babies Break free & BB waits paitiently (LOL not!!)

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Sorry BB Love you really xxxx

i think we did ok doula-ing by text tbh

I think I would hate a doula - don't get me wrong am sure they are fantastic but I am so funny around people I don't know really well and I hate being 'looked after' that I think I would just end up getting frustrated (wish I wouldn't tho as sure they would be a major asset!!)

Oh yay that she is being discharged - does she seem to be a bit more comfortable and stable now?

she played down the pain so she could get discharged, which is fair enough i would do the same. the hospital was obviously making things worse. she seems happier but i think the pain is roughly the same?? she will be able to fill us in more later

Bronze, this is indeed my cunning plan. She is a bit of a Boff clone, being imported to sort them all out in one fell swoop.

BB I see your point but I think in Springy's case some kind of informed advocate last night would have made a lot of difference. Trace would have been found, doctors hunted down, bitchy mw neutralised, and so on. Don't forget Springy's age is bound to be a bit of a factor here - they think they can get away with stuff. I speak as someone who did this at 19.

Go on then bets on how long it is before Springys back posting

If 15 of us put a tenner in the pot each, we could probably raise enough for a trainee doula for her quite easily. I would certainly be happy to contribute. Of course, it depends if one is free (I have a feeling she looked into this previously without much luck).

If she has any sense she will not post for a little while and relax with DH at home for a bit and get her stress levels down...but it is likely to be fairly soon I think!

she will be on sometime tonight definately.

Oh my god! Just been catching up on Springy's situation! Are they saying she has to be on bed rest until 40 weeks or have I misunderstood? I'm glad she's had the steroids as that means George's lungs will be stronger and he'll produce surfectant which would be the biggest worry at 34 weeks. Poor Springy! I hope they've given her some good painkillers.

Boffin So glad you're back! It would be too much of a shame if those silly, jealous bitches stopped you from talking to us - we need you! Speaking of your dh's roast looking like roadkill from Carl Hiaasen novel,I love him! (CH not your dh, although I'm sure he's lovely DO NOT go back and read that thread - their comments stem from ignorance and insecurity.

BB I know what you mean about wanting to be insular - I've had lots of people wanting to visit in the last few days to 'see the freaky belly' before the babies come and, with a few exceptions, I too would rather be with dh. I find it very tiring too.

How is everyone this evening?

XX

Just nipping back to catch up on springy's situation - what a nightmare! Failing other advocate options I think she needs to have a phone conversation with her community midwife and get her to push for clarity and a plan. Baby is better in then out at the moment - but a stressed, upset and confused mother is good for nobody!

Anyway - good luck to you all - keep swinging from those light fittings (you may want to reinforce the bolts first though )

Thanks for message of support, Barb.

Re: Belly, it is truly a miracle of nature that a woman can have not one but three people in there, so you can't really blame people for wanting to gawp a bit. They even come around to gawp at mine and I am only having a singleton . But I do understand about wanting to make the most of your last days of peace and quiet with DH.

I am currently reading Double Whammy btw - have you read it yet?

Hiya everyone
Just a quick hello, waiting on a takeaway coming, yum yum. I'm up at my dad's for a few days with DS, so I'll just be nipping in and out when I can. Have been keeping an eye out for springy coming back.
Springy whenever you do come back ((hugs))
Hope you're ok you must be exhausted. I'm thinking of you and I'll keep checking in to see how you are.
Barbarelly - nice to hear from you, you must be getting pretty excited now. All the luck in the world for when you're babies come out, enjoy every minute.
Here's takeaway! Speak soon x

No, have read 'Skin Deep', 'Nature Girl' and my favourite so far, 'Skinny Dip'. Read a great interview with him in the Times a wee while ago and I loved his attitude!
Did dh put up your towel rail and paint the bathroom? x

just popping on too for a spirngy update - glad to see he's stayed put for now but sounds very frustrating all the lack of info/clarity for her. hope she can take it easy for a while and relax.

babybolat - i remember being quite clingy with dh before ds and i have felt similar recently although we were fighting a wee bit yesterday (but still feel a bit clingy even when i'm cross with him). think for me its to do with realising how much i need him just now.

went to see slumdog millionaire on thurs and cried for most of the first half - felt very hormonal and emotional.

dh's granny died on Saturday and so this week will be full of family visits etc - his brother and girlfriend are coming back from hong kong for the funeral etc and will be great to see them, but a busy week ahead just before we are off on holiday for a week. think dh is more saddened by it than he normally is by death cause although most of his family complained about her a lot as she got older, i think he really quite liked spending time with her - she had quite a naughty side to her, which is always funny to discover as an adult when you ahve one view of a granny, to discover a whole other side to a person.

sorry going on a bit - anyway good luck on Tuesday (hope thats right?) barbarelly and look forward to hearing all about the new arrivals when they come.

hi everyone!
just popped in to see how springy is. she must be sooo frustrated!

i am in A LOT of pain today. Physio tomorrow at 11:30 so I'll let you all know how broken her --nose- is it goes!

I have returned! Will do a catch up, but huge thanks to Nutty for relaying vast amounts of information & good will to me over the last 12 hours & to everyone who's been so lovely about it all & added their knowledge / wisdom to the mix!

I'm still babyless, but I am home & trying to sit still so as to not contract myself to death until I find a way of getting my cervix to cooperate. This baby wants out & I don't think it'll make much difference what I do - he's going to keep trying until he is. So now I just have to find a safe way of managing it without ending up on a pointless hospital visit again.

BB could always lift her witchcraft?

Yay, Springy! You're back!

Just a thought, have you started taking raspberry leaf capsules to help ripen your cervix? You can start taking them from 32 weeks. I would maybe wait until you are 35/36 weeks to decrease any chance of having a premmie.

Hi everyone, does anyone know if you can ask for painkillers before you leave the hospital for after pains. I had horrendous pains last time and want to be prepared.

Good luck with your physio apt purple.

staryeyed - i got paracetamol and ibuprofen in the hospital last time but i dont know if you mean something stronger?

springy - good to see you back. do try and relax and just sit yourself on the sofa and do nothing for a few days with dp bringing you things - we are all willing little george to stay in there for a few more weeks.

on the rapsberry leaf tea - i am no expert but does it not tone the uterus and certainly when i took it, it cause me to have a lot of BH so maybe it wouldnt be a great thing to take if you are already having lots of strong bh.

Springy - Conkertree is right, put your feet up and try to make the contractions stop. And stay well away from the Raspberry leaf tea. George could do with another 2-3 weeks in there. Good luck xxx

Barbarelly & BB - i had my friend over on friday and all day i was dreading it and couldnt wait for her to go!! so i know where you are coming from, stupid thing is i love her to bits she's one of my best mates and i love spending time with her but i really just want to be alone right now, i cant seem to deal with face to face human contact?!? tis crazy. I thought it was just me lol

Barbarelly - sooo excited for you

Trista - enjoy your takeaway and have fun at your dads

Conker - love to you and your dh, sorry for his loss

Purple - good luck with the physio and the nose bashing!!!

Springy - yay for you being plugged back into the mainframe xx

Stary - yes you can, but if your hospital is anything like mine they take ages to get them for you, probably better to ask your doctor if you can.

Springy please please please do everything you can to keep him in there. I know its frustrating and painful but everyday counts for him and hes only wee still. I guess parental sacrifice starts early.
Lots of baths, lying around and being fanned and fed grapes.

as boff would say "recline like a goddess"

Yay for Boffin staying!

Haha at you picking up on my wonderful hospital services within half an hour or so We have midwifery triage - it's where they dump you whatever the problem. It's where we waited when I was bleeding a few weeks ago & where all the labouring women go, too. Last night there was me & another woman in opposite corners of the room contracting in turns - we had about 80% of time covered with huffing & puffing whilst a family of hillbillies looked on

Hurrah for sex for BB! Hopefully it'll have a similar effect on you as it did on me - but with added effacement

It's so cute reading you all being excited / interested about it all - I feel like I've let everyone down now

Boffin, worrying that I was being neglected with steroid injections at 9.44? I didn't get the first one until about 1am!

Swaliswan, the MW really was just a bitch. Really. She said that I shouldn't be having sex because I was risking my baby's life, blah blah blah. & kept telling me that 34 was too early & he didn't stand a very good chance. I don't know what the point was - not only is it clearly rubbish, why would you want to try to scare someone like that?!

Haha, even Northernlurker was getting in on the action Bless

To clarify, I was taken off the monitor so I could wee. Whilst I was in the toilet, the 'clerical assistant' who unhooked me came & took the trace (which was huge & dragging along the floor before anyone came at all to check it) to show to a MW. Then promptly lost it. Oh yes. I did some serious swearing when I came out after my wee & she'd disappeared with it.

I've been known to MN on the loo as well, as a side point. DH & I each take the laptop if we're expecting to be a long time. We're well classy. I have also used my laptop in the bath a few times, with the same procedure as BB - laptop on the loo seat with a conveniently placed towel.

Boffin, you joke about the not being able to check FB, but I was not happy to find that internet & email were 'not available at this site' despite being widely advertised. I was wide awake at 6 this morning (after broken sleep) & really wanted to come & talk to you all

Haha at him being strong because he kicks in time to the bonking I'm telling you, he's ready to come out! I know he is. I know he's only 34 weeks, but I'm so sure that he's ready!

"Ah but in Springy's hospital in their last assessment 99% of women using maternity services understood what was being told to them.

That means 68 women left Sheffield Hospital that year wondering WTF was going on."

I'm really surprised it was only 68, to be honest. I imagine it was a lot more, but they were so uninformed of anything that they thought that they knew what was going on.

Is it only me sniggering at 'posh box'?

Puzzle, I'm a teeth person too! (That sounds strange, but I totally know what you mean.) It's a bit of an obsession, in a funny sort of way. I remember people's teeth way more easily than their faces. Especially if they have odd / unpleasant teeth.

Re infections, etc - everything is clear. I've had urine & blood samples taken & tested & there are no problems. Also had a swab last night - dunno if they tested that yet, but haven't heard anything about it.

Boffin, I agree with your post this afternoon - they probably have done the right thing for now. It's what happens in the next 8 weeks that worries me. I can't be on bedrest for 6 - 8 weeks until they can be bothered to induce me (which will quite possibly fail from what they've said - although I'm not sure how they know) on the basis that any movement starts them off again but they don't do anything. Argh, it's so frustrating.

It's also odd that I've heard nothing of the Sheffield MLU! I despair, I really do. What's a birthing chair?

& yes - top doulaing by text! Goodness knows how much I owe you all in doula fees Nutty's texts were the only thing keeping me smiling at times.

It amuses me that everyone (including hospital staff!) assume that I have a community MW to rely on. I have zero consistency with my MWs & just see whoever happens to be at the GP surgery on that Tuesday afternoon. Yet another example of my top-notch care.

Thank you to everyone for your concern & nice thoughts You're all wonderful ladies xx

Hello ladies - I'm back from Wales and have just caught up!

Firstly, thanks to my fabulous buddy BB who let me know via text what was happening... I see she's not online right now so I'm assuming she's having nookie while eating pineapple and curry powder?? XXX

Springy - well done darling you're doing great! Whatever happens you'll be a brill mum so whether he's in or out is OK in the long run!

Boff - so glad you're still with us, it wouldn't be the same without you... Pants to nasty jealous dodgy women!

We had a great time in Wales - what a beautiful place - and had lovely weather, a great BBQ on Sat night, and contractions from 15h00 on Saturday... Yes, that's right - we were also feeling the squeeze!!! Thinks they're just BH - they went away this morning, came back at teatime today but they're not really painful or anything - just uncomfortable and strange, 'cos I haven't had any BH before so am getting used to the idea. It totally freaked DH out though... if they're still there tomorrow I'll call the MW but for now am happily pretending they don't exist!

XXX to everyone... we're off to bed with a paracetamol and a hot water bottle - see you all in the morning!