Heeereee comes June, its the home streeeeetch!

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Here ya go, new thread! We're almost there!!!!!

I also took advantage of of mrsmcJ's code at Tommee Tippee! I got the breastfeeding starter kit and their nappy bin. Very pleased!

bunny they didn't say incompetant to my face, but when I was in the corridor composing myself I heard one say to the other that I was.

erm When I go in tomorrow I will discuss this with mr HR dept as this has been happening since I started.

muminmiddleeast I do work with flexi time so I can go in late thanks for that suggestion.

doris good luck tomorrow with your GTT test

mrsmcjnr like othewrs have said I dont think the scans pose any risk to baby, just a massive hassle for you to go through it all over again esp when you went private first.

I suppose I probably am being over sensitive and I will be going in tomorrow, best thing I keep thinking about is 36 working days left

Congrats on all taking up the Tommy Tippee discount, I bought all mine from Tesco, Breast Pump, Electric Steriliser and Nappy Bin came to around £40

Hi Ladies!

June Enjoy your early night! Rest rest and rest!

Bunny thanks for that tip!

Laura I completely agree with Ermin. You should not let them treat your or refer to you in this way, your line manager or HD dept should do sth about that. But I also agree on the part about not being absent tomorrow... if you do that, you're only feeding the beasts, giving them material to continue with this horrid behaviour. Shame on them! . Please keep us posted.

Muminthemiddle I agree with what you're doing, leaving everything ready so that they understand EVERY single request you may have. No advice on the c-section, unfortunately, as I'm a first-timer, but I'm sure there are other mums who will come to the rescue

laura I'd actually write a letter tonight and hand it in tomorrow to my manager if I were you.

For example point out that you're a professional punctual thorough and honest employee who enjoys her work and being part of a team, and that you think that your treatment today was completely out of order and that you will not tolerate it.
That you expect the manager to pull your colleagues up on it and make sure this kind of behaviour will not happen again or you'llm ake a formal complaint.
It is your manager's duty to make sure that you are not treated unfairly by your colleagues.

There's a leaflet for employers which tells them what they have to do which you can print : www.berr.gov.uk/files/file34286.pdf

Tell your manager that you have been accused of taking extra time off for fake antenatal appointments but that in fact you can show her you maternity notes that should have the dates of all antenatal appointments.

I don't think I'd let it go, I absolutely cannot stand people who try and make me feel like shit so they can feel better about themselves, life is hard enough as it is.

Seriously, from your previous posts, these people are lucky to have you..

Take care, I hope you don't loose sleep over it, we don't get enough already.

Hi all,

thanks for the postive vibes for tomorrow, In my head it really is just another blood test, especially as thank god it's st my doc's with the prectice nurese rather than the hospital and i can get home between bloods. However I'm still horribly aprehensive as I use food to control the nausea.

Soooo that combined with 3 hours sleep last night (dd1 was dramatically sick needed washing, calming etc in the process woke up dd2 who was then awake for the next 2 hours!) meant I had my first ms this morning for a long time. And have felt like crap all day.

Sweetbroody -nice to see you back and pah! to sil and mil

Laura- I think seeing HR is a good idea, don't let them put you off going to work, but conversely don't let it get to the point where your health becomes affected.

For the campers I still haven't decided whether or not we are going yet would love too and may leave it till Aug / Sept time, my dsis came with us last year with a 6 week old but she is mad was in a caravan! Thing is we bought a fab tent last year and I am itchin to get away again. We also live in Devon so would go somewhere local..... I am almost talking myself into it!!!!

Anyway that's all for today

Going for a Very early night in the hope that I at least get some sleep ( the hypnobirthing cd is excelnt as a sedative!)

Dorisx

*Sweetbroody", forgot to say sth before
As some of the girls said, I was also at your SIL's attitude, and your MIL's! Oh my, cooking for sooo many people out of the blue!! But well, you had a good time at the sell-fest and that your DH booked you a photo-shoot! And you had your 3d scan as well . So sweet what your DH said about it all.

Doris there sure are some happy campers around. A friend of mine knows a woman who went camping last May with her 2 yr old DS and her 6-week old twins ALL of whom she was b/feeding, and did all of the cooking for the family for the week. Oddly, I don't find the prospect appealing... .

Great Tommee Tippee discount, but I must resist the urge to bag a bargain and keep repeating I do not need anything...I do not need anything until the feeling goes away . Talking of camping, our night-time-in-the-tent wee bucket is going to be my nappy bucket (that's what it was made for originally, I wanted one with a lid) since I'm using washables - which my sis has given me. I'll use Nature Boy and Girl eco disposables for going out and about though - don't fancy carrying wet bimbles (cute name!) around with me. I have bought a big bottle of tea tree and lavender essential oils so the bucket doesn't stink out the bathroom!

muminmiddleeast sorry if you've already explained this, but are you having a cs for a medical reason or by choice? I thought that for the latter they'd leave it within a week of due date normally but maybe it's different there. Anyway, sounds like you need to give very strict instructions to avoid the babe being whisked away to a nursery like they used to do here - I can't imagine anything more horrendous, having just given birth

lauraloo sounds like you're taking things very sensibly. I really hope people behave and apologise and are more careful before kicking off in future.

doris going camping sounds like a fab idea, esp if it's around the Devon area sounds lovely!

june my DH agrees with you about writing a letter tonight for my manager and a copy to HR. Thank you for the lovely words saying they are lucky to have me makes me feel much better. And there is no way I'll lose sleep over those people

Thanks again everyone x

Thank you for all your reassurance this morning I guess my first thought always is ?what will I do with poor DS? it is so boring for him coming to these places with me and they are really child-unfriendly here (you wouldn?t have thought that would you). In many ways I am pleased to be going though as it lets me see where I am going to have the baby and gets me into the hospital?s system etc ? hey ho.

So how are you all? Off to have a catch up now?

HI there.... so much to catch up on

Was working today and it's wiped me out. To top it off, DH (who is training for the London Marathon) did DS's bath and left for a run while I did the sleepy bedtime reading routine (as per usual - suits both of us - he gets to have fun splashing with DS, and I get the sleepy pyjama cuddles!). Anyway, DS (who is a DREAM to get to sleep usually) decided that he was going to scream for over an hour.... AAAGH! On the rare occasions when this has happened in the past, DH goes in to settle him as he just wants mummy-cuddles all the time.

I've been so achey today. I'm symathising with you all you who have SPD, like me. Got my physio this Friday, so hopefully she'll give me some more advice. It's getting worse though - I'm desperate to not have even the threat of a wheelchair like last PG.

Anyway, DH got in from his run and cooked me dinner so all is well...

Sorry to hear about your work colleagues Laura what a bunch of wankers! I agree about writing the letter....

Doris hope tomorrow goes okay

muminthemiddleeast - I have very low lying placenta at the moment so may have to have a C section too. I'm a bit apprehensive as DS was born at 37 weeks and they tend to give you a C-section at 39 weeks. I'd rather not go into labour if the placenta is low. Not sure what they'd do. Got another scan at 34 weeks to check it all out so I guess I'll find out then...

ermintrude - I'm like you, trying to resist the urge to buy stuff. It's so hard isn't it! I don't need anything either, but you get drawn into it in shops!

Hiya to all you other girlies. Hope all is well with you and your bumps x

laura - sorry to hear about work, how's going/did it go today? did you write letter? tbh I don't think I'd be that brave but hope you are as it seems right thing to do

Doris - go camping its great fun we took ds when he was 4 months and loved it, was bit cold for him at night but if you can go local thats best at least you have option to go home if its hidedous!
and good luck for GTT today

and whoever asked, yes need to find a very thick air bed to borrow, not sharing with dh either so will be more comfortable really looking forward to it, I love camping, fingers crossed for weather

erimtrude - I'm also one who is having to keep out of the shops, I had to pop into mothercare the other day for a present for someone and ended up just gazing an all newborn clothes... going to be hard to resist, think thats why a girl this time would be good so I get to go shopping!

morning all

Well I went into work today and its going alright. I have written the letter but not gave it to manager yet, going to see how today goes. At least I finish today for 2 days its my birthday tomorrow, DH's on Friday and of course my scan is Friday morning too so the thought of my days off should see me throught the day ok

Just wondering is there any certain way of telling whether your doing your pelvic floor exercises right? I have been doing them but I am worried I'm not doing them right I have tried the methods advised my my midwife but worried I'm doing them 'wrong'

Can you tell I'm a first-timer

Laura, glad your day is going well... And you must be excited at the idea of the next 2 days!!! I'm glad you told us about your bday tomorrow

I'm with you on the question, it'd be great to know.

Hope the day continues going fine, keep us posted

Laura - The physio I saw for last pregnancy gave me great advice about pelvic floor.

You need to really set aside some time (only 5 mins so not a huge amount).

• Squeeze your pelvic floor (like you're stopping a wee - if in doubt, try stopping mid-flow next time you're on the loo and you should feel the muscles you need) and keep holding the squeeze for at least 10 secs and then release. Repeat this 10 times and do this 2 - 3 times a day.

then:

• Quickly squeeze and release your pelvic floor over and over until you feel you can't do any more. Do this 2 - 3 times a day as well.

If you associate the exercises with something you do a few times a day (before / after a meal / cup of tea / on the phone ) then you'll remember.

I just wish I could practise what I preach.....

Laura Glad work is going OK and how nice that you can look forward to a few fun days off.

To add to Ineed's very sound pelvic floor advice, it is also possible to concentrate separately on the muscles used to control your anus, your vagina and your urethra - squeeze the front (like stopping yourself weeing), then take the squeeze higher which contracts the vaginal muscles and then finally pull in the 'back passage'. Think of it like a lift going up. Hold for a few seconds then bring the lift down - release the back, the middle and the front. Takes a while to master but does exercise the whole of the pelvic floor.

Best way to check it's working is to insert a finger in your vagina and squeeze the muscles - you should be able to feel them tighten around your finger. For ladies who've already given birth vaginally, insert two or more fingers. . Or a penis. Anything that will be able to confirm the effort you are making is tangible!

laura hope you day is going well

mrsmcjnr, where are you? doen;t sound like the uk but may be wrong (it has been known)

am havong c section for medical reasons, ie had the itchy thing last time, but hasn;t started this time... and my ds was 4.76kg! this time the uk docs said cs as 2nd baby will be bigger - (my mil says this is crap and she is NEVER wrong ) so need cs. the docs here just agree and add it to the bill

am terrified to have normal labour with prospective huge baby but doc here says he will scan and guess -sorry work out- the weight, if over 4.4 kg then its a cs. or you can try...........

Snerk ermintrude how rude!

I think I keep forgetting to say welcome to muminmiddleeast so welcome!

I am still feeling like crap. I think a huge chunk of it is my depression rearing its ugly head. I will be on a close watch for PND since I have clinical depression anyway. Going to see my GP on Friday.

Sorry to hear that Tee. If it make you feel any better, my BF suffers on and off with depression, but didn't suffer PND with either of her DC. I don't think they're necessarily linked. Glad you're going to see the GP to nip it in the bud. Hope you start to feel a bit better soon x

Car is in garage and they've just phoned to say that it'll be 300 quid for a new clutch.... bloody cars!

ermintrude13 Its a tough one... MIL can be really manipulative at the best of times and always manages to come up smelling of roses... just fed up with all the in laws to be honest.

Tried speaking to FIL about writing wills yesterday and he made me feel stupid and negative. I just wanted in writing what would happen to kids if anything happened to me and DH and FIl was like oh you are so negative.. all this negative thinking somehting will surely happen to you! I was like I think its practical to think about these things.. now I just feel stupid..

DorisIsAPinkDragon Hope your bloods go wella nd its good to be back!

Naat welcome and thank you - DH is a godsend I must admit.. its interesting hearing about all the DH's that are a handful. The only problem I have with him is excessive game playing on the XBOX!

Laura try and enjoy your time off and dont worry about it over your break... its their loss at the end of the day if they dont recognise how hard you work!

Ineedmorechocolatenow I know what you mean - I havent even started physio yet and its excruiciating pain! someone said its worse then labour would you agree?

Tee sorry your having such a rough time of it Is the depression linked to the diabetes?

sweetbroody I've been a depressive for over 20 years...only diabetic for 2.5! Not linked at all!

You should definitely have a will, its silly to not have one. Don't feel stupid. How much stupider would you feel if something did happen?

Also, I think you and I have the same DH! Only problem is the amount of time he spends on XBox...and that's not even a problem!

That's good to know, thanks Ineed.

tee sorry to hear that your feeling low did you take another day off today? I hope you feel better soon x

Hi All!

Ineed and Ermin, thanks a lot for that advice on pelvic floor exercises . Ineed, sorry about the news on the new clutch!!! Grrrr...

Muminthe wow! That was a big baby... Fingers crossed for a smaller this time around

Tee, sorry to hear you're not feeling well. HOpe you get some answers/advice tomorrow when you see your GP.

Sweet, yes, men can be veeeeeeery addictive to videogames hahaha. My DH always tells me never to buy him a games console as I wouldn't see him anymore hahahaha... Also, at your FIL's attitude! You're not being negative or tragic, you're just thinking ahead and being practical. I know we're young, but it's not wrong to think about those things.

As for me, my parents (who are veeeery far away) made me feel stupid/

sorry, pressed the "post" button by mistake. I'll complete the message now.

Tee sometimes I think we have the same life! I have had bouts of depression myself but tend not to think about it... DH playing isnt a problem but I do find it frustrating when he doesnt come to bed until late... I miss him you see I have only been diagnosed less then a year myself and have had a tough time accepting it.... Feel like an old woman when I think about all the health issues...

Thats what I thought about the Will scenario as all sorts of things can happen even in the child birth stage. FIl insisted he would get the kids or my much hated SIL if they were not around! in my head i'm thinking NO WAY!