Fab Feb Thread: 22 on show........33 to go.......!!!!

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Ooo I feel all important now.

Pink and LBB and Coco- sympathies to you on the lack of sleep last night; same here (Danny was awake from 4.30 in the afternoon until around 7.30, which was fine but he was knackered and overtired, then awake 8.30 to 9.30 in the evening and again between 1 and 4 then again from 5.30 - not screaming, as kept cuddling him to calm him down everytime the screams started up as didnt want DS1 (who has been having nightmares over the past few nights) woken up as he was sleeping well, but complaining the whole time). Of course the little monkey is slumbering happily now! Maybe our postnatal thread should be titled "Sleep deprived mums and windy pooey baby bums" Hope you manage to find something to wear to playgroup Pink - if all else fails maybe a toga?

Danny is going to have his first bath tonight as his skin is tonnes better now and all the nasty cracks have healed at long last. Am hoping he'll love his baths as much as DS1 did (and still does).

P.s. LBB - your neighbour sounds really amusing (in a glad I dont live next to her kind of way!). I hope she does get therapy as suggested for the sake of your sanity... I had a neighbour abit like that in my first year halls at university; my room mate and I took to keeping the lights off and pretending to be asleep at all hours to try to avoid her dropping in with her crazy too much sharing ways...

God - sounds like last night was the night for being kept awake. After relatively settled nights on Tuesday and Wednesday, last night she was pretty much up all night. I think I got about an hours sleep. She seems to have a bit of a cold, as she's quite bunged up, and I think that has made a big difference. She was very clingy, and really only wanted to be held.

She's been like that so far today as well, so I can't even try the 'sleep when they sleep' thing. Not that I can. Anyone else find that they get to the stage where they are so tired, they're not tired anymore?

May I break the trend and say we actually had a good night last night- for once!

DH was on a night shift so F stayed in with me and I latched him on when he mumured (1.15am and 4am) and we were just waking up when DH came in at 7am! It was great!

Unlike the other nights where either DH or I have been downstairs dancing about the sitting room with him at 4am whilst he screams the place down.

If only I knew what made a difference?!

Pink, I made an effort today and straightened my hair, only half way through did I find some matted together with baby sick. Attractive

MrsY - go lie on the bed with your little one , raising her head on your rmand cuddling her in towards you. Bet you she drits of and you can at least get a lie down and poss even a nap. Its the only way I can convince overtired Danny to sleep sometimes though cant do it when DS1 is around as he wants quality mummy time.

Sorry last post should say raise M's head on your ARM (will help her breathe with snuffles).

Markstretch - at hair story.... glad someone had a good night last night.

hello everyone, back from the beach and loads to catch up on so am having to read a few pages then post and read a few more. My brain cannot cope with reading 6 pages in one go.

welcome and congratulations to heylittlelady,
congratulations also to pinkspottywellies, chilledmama and lardy Scary birth story there lardy, so glad Owen is ok now.

Pempe know exactly where you are coming from with the cultural thing but even though its not the done thing out there, I'd still tell them to sod off!

fruitstick, congratulations on the arrival of Arthur.

MS, don't feel guilty about not giving DD a drink. I'm sure she'd demanded one if she was thirsty. It is hard though isnt' it trying to balance everything and not forget something. I'm finding DD is getting very demanding just when I'm feeding DS.

LMN, I know how you feel about the scary coughing. Harrison still has a really bad cough and the last few nights DH and I have taken it in turns sitting up holding him (mainly me though I seem to recall ) as he is coughing so badly we are worried he will choke. Hope your LO gets better soon.

MrsY at your midwife, really good bedside manner she has cheeky mare. At the end of the day, if you need help/support, you need help/support and she should be providing it. Very of your Bluewater trip, I can't wait to get there when I'm back in the UK.

QK & Rosie, I'm now 19 days post CS and my scar is REALLY sore. Its got worse the last few days since I had it checked by a nurse on Monday. Last night it was really sore and I got DH to check and it was weeping in one place and there was a really dubious smell coming from the wound. Luckily I'd already made a doctors appointment for tomorrow morning (our Monday!) so hopefully he will sort me out with AB's or something as clearly it shouldn't be like this now. Very very sore too, not just on wound but my whole stomach area.

congratulations littlesez, pinkbabybump and katieblirdsnest more lovely names

herby, I'm wearing whatever fits, which isn't much! About 2 pairs of maternity trousers, 1 skirt and a few tops. Went out shopping a few days ago but was very disapointed with the lack of choice and prices. Exchange rate is killing us and a skirt in M & S which was marked up in sterling at £30 worked out at nearly £75 which I refuse to pay.
DH is back to the UK in a few weeks on business so think I'm going to order online from Next and have it delivered to our neighbour ready for him to bring back.

With my meighbour, pre dc's I would have just hid everytime she knocked, by I have a toddler who thinks he's a banshee and a newborn who is calling for the rest of the pack in an odd dinosaur tone, so not sure she'd believe I'd gone out and left the boys here , when dp's in, I do sometimes lock myself in the bathroom and run the shower
When she was talking yesterday, it did take me a while to realise she was talking about sexual stuff. She was saying when they started talking on line, he was telling her all the thiings he wanted to do and try, so I was thinking, mountin climbing, bungee jumps.........but then she said the word desires.......
I'm sure she's very nice and all, but I'm getting a bit about her. She knocks to see if I want anything from shops, she knocks to ask if I want her to watch the boys for a bit (wtf?) and is generally very keen in letting me know she'll babysit, which is nice but she is a stranger and she seems too keen, maybe I'm being too paranoid, it just makes me feel a bit uneasy.

MrsY I'm like that, so tired I'm full of beans but then get really exhausted 10 mins before ds1 is due to wake up.

Ds1 has conjunctivitis

congratulations cocodrillo and guitargirl, fab name Coco.(BTW, your midwife sounds like a nutter)

littlesez, sorry you've experienced the awful afterpains too and hope they have settled down by now.

lardy, try not to get too upset/down about the b/f. I was like that a few days ago as Harrison just wouldn't stay on for more than 5 to 10 mins but in the last few days he has finally proved he is like his dad (a boob man) and is doing really well now and can go for 20 to 30 mins at a time. Hang in there x

I seem to have a tiny baby sitting on me...

Alfred John arrived at 6am exactly on Sunday 22nd February, after a 14 hour 'official' labour. He's a very bonny little chap and we are completely in love with him.

Sorry it has taken so long to post about it, husband hasn't allowed me near the computer!

I haven't even checked up on posts - very useless. Will catch up an post birth story soon as. Hope everyone is well and the babies are still a-popping...

Morning all.....glad, well not glad, but I am in a sort of caring sharing way that we're all pacing the room with our DC's at night....DD is just sooo windy that she won't settle and with the cold too it's exhausting..

I agree with the tired thing though. The night before last, she slept til 2.30am and then til 7am and I slept pretty well in between (had gone to bed at 8pm) felt exhausted today. Last night she slept til 2am and then wouldn't go down easily - dummy to calm and then a little stroking between the eyes and a loud bout of shushing in the ears and she sort of passed out (a trick that DH came up with with DS)...til 5.30am when DS woke too and I was then awake too (although DD snoozing with dummy clamped firmly in her mouth) and today I feel, well, could "perky" be the word ? . I just have a headache lurking most days and can snap/cry at the slightest thing (DD has a little lion which plays a "Les Miserable" tune which always makes me cry )

So, sympathies everyone !!...

MOS - your wound sounds similar to mine- weeping one side - greeny pus and although TMI anda bit disgusting smelt a bit cheesy. Doctor took one look at it and dolled out the anti-b's - I'm on second lot now. It was also very sore. Not much better now but a bit. at your trip to the beach - sounds lovely !

lbb - at your neighbour - she sounds, well, interesting but it's quite difficult isn't it when they sort of "prey" on you and you have to keep thinking of excuses particularly if you're in close proximity....Hard one eh? Our neighbours at our old house were nice but the wife was a bit "needy" and we could see them over the fence. She always had something wrong with her or something to moan about and would off load. I don't mind a bit of friendly neighbour chat but nothing which passed her lips was ever vaguely positive. I almost felt glad to have left them behind. Now we live in a road where none of the neighbours speak to each other ....can't win can you ?!

Off to meet up with my ante natal group (from DS)this pm at someones house for a bit of adult conversation and so that DS can trash someone elses house. Off out tonight with the group for a girlie night tonight. One of the girls has just got divorced - her husband was having an affair just after her DD was born ....she took him back and then he did it again. Sad, but she's a changed woman without him (he was very domineering). Not sure how long I'll last tonight and I suspect one glass of wine and I'll be dancing on a table

Congratulations Eejaykay on the arrival of little Alfred - well done you. Hope your birth at the MLU went well and things are settling down at home. Am sure he's an absolute honey! And it sounds like your husband is being very attentive - long may it last (here is where you will reap the benefits of having an at home hubby).

Herb, MoS - those wounds sound nasty! Hope the drugs clean them up and sort them out quick smart! Also hope you had a fab time at the beach MoS. Have a nice afternoon and night out Herbgarden.

Right - today I have mostly been dealing with needy little boys and poo of different varieties from my boys and me (maybe TMI, but is anyone else suffering from really hard poos post birth? Isnt constipation as going every couple of days but they're just really hard and painful to pass, despite me having prunes and drinking buckets of liquids). Both DS1 and DS2 have been pooing for England today - and both will only have me and not their nanny to deal with it and comfort them; oh the joys and glamour of motherhood.

So, from the waddlers and riders list I think we're waiting on news from Spottyshoes (when she's back on line), Munteria (is she still around)and Ranirani. Anyone else?

made it to toddler group... even managed to get dressed to do so had a clean pair of size 8 pants which obviously didn't button (running back and forth to SCBU helped with the weight but size 8 is a while off yet ) but shoved a skirt on over them so hopefully wasn't noticeable. aaron slept all the way to the shops and back and for the 2 hours at toddler group so glad i went as it was a bit of a break from the usual daily ritual of change, feed, burp, feed, burp feed, dash around doing housework while he sleeps, change, feed, burp.........

congrats eeejaykay (and all the others i've missed in the last few days!)

dinky.... my digestive system goes into some sort of lock down after i give birth every time, i only need to poo every few days and when i do it's horrible.... really hard and solid and occasionally actually makes me bleed (sorry..... TMI yet again ), been having a reprieve the last few days though as seem to have a touch of the bug the kids had... never thought i'd be glad to have diarrhea!

speaking of poo..... ds1 has decided he wants to learn to use the toilet not sure how up for it i am with a newborn to deal with and dd still wetting herself far more than is normal for a 4 year old but i can hardly refuse can i?! [sob] my house is going to be even more disgusting

Well done on getting out Pinktulips and thank god its not just me with the rock hard poos - and the toddler insisting on now being the time for potty training himself (though all DS1 wants to do is sit on the potty or loo for hours, then get up and poo or wee in his nappy afterwards and demand a star for the starchart)!

if only ds1 would stay on the damn toilet (he's scared of the potty ) for a while longer we might have more luck! he wants off after 10 seconds and then pees/poos everywhere 5 mins later... although i popped him on after he peed on the floor last night and he actually squeezed out a few more drops which is the first time he's ever peed on demand so am being manicly optimistic that that might be a sign he's finally grasping it [deluded]

Congratulations to the ladies with babies, I'm very .

Sympathies go out to those with no-sleeping babies and sore CS scars..

Still waiting, I'm booked in for Wed for them to try to break my waters etc. if nothing happens before then. Can't see anything happening before though as there are absolutely no signs.

eejaykay Congratulations on your little man.
Dizzy Hope it starts before wednesday for you, but at least the end id in sight!

Re: poos, I had the rock hard difficult ones sfter ds1 for quite a while but found a sachet of fibresure in my morning tea helped a bit, and I've said it a few times, but cannot stress enough the greatness of vasaline. I really would recommend those of you finding it difficult to go because it's too hard, get some vasaline around the hole, a big old lump of it, and will also help with the wiping after bleeding, takes the edge off the sting. Thank god, that seems to be at least 1 area where I'm not having problems

Routines....
I decided to start putting Luke to bed at 6:30/7ish after a wash, change, milk and a story, and left him in the bedroom. It has been nearly a week of doing this and I have decided to knock it on it's head. Luke is doing well with it and settles at that time perfectly (mostly) bt I am feeling quite guilty about it, therefore it's wrong for me to do it atm. I will continue with the washing (when not bath nights) and story but will keep him with us in living rom I think and start a proper bedtime in a couple of months. I just can't do it as have a niggling guilt.

herb What have you done about the gripe water? I remember you talking about whether to give it alongside infacol if it's needed or should just one be used. What did you decide on?
And when it says on the box suitable from one month, is that when baby is one month, is that one calender month or 4 weeks? I just ask because we're coming up to the month mark and I want to start using it as it was our saviour with ds, but do I stop putting the dentinox in the bottle, or can I use them together? Was thinking about using gripe water after a feed if he still looks uncomfotable after having colic drops in milk or should I just pick one to use?

I'm such a numpty, just to clarify, I know when they put on the box suitable from one month, that it does mean from when the baby is one month. I got halfway through a sentance but thought I'd worded it wrong so deleted and started again but clearly did not delete the whole sentance. Just thought I'd mention that before everyone started to think I was really stupid (instead of just a bit! )

Right, hoping DH will be home v.soon so I can get ready to go out - although god knows what I'm going to wear.

Today I have been:-
Vommed on a dozen or more times
Peed on twice
Pooed on once..
Luckily the last one was squeezed out just as DS was eating tea so I could strip off and get changed...

So, my wardrobe is now even more limited.

LBB I used gripe water after 4 weeks not a calendar month but I'm sure it doesn't make much odds....

Do you think those of us with toddlers are in cahoots - DS has suddenly decided that this week is a good week to up the ante on the potty training and is constantly asking to go. Except he too won't sit long enough to get a poo out and keeps presenting me with rabbit droppings which I have to keep emptying...and then asks for a chocolate button (that's the reward) - maybe he's worked out that the smaller the poo the greater the number of choc buttons .

Another here with painful pooing (whilst we're on the subject) - they are hard (and hard to flush - sorry !) and I also get a bit of blood. It seems to be getting a bit better but I don't look forward to that time of the day !

That's enough poo talk for one day. I'm off to try and find something to wear and go out...

Enjoy your night out herbgarden.

Congrats eejaykay

and good luck dizzybrummie.

DD2 is 2.2 and there is no way I will be tackling the dreaded potty training for some time yet. Oh no. Oh no no.

Coco - DS is nearly 3 (2.10) and if it was up to me, I'd definitely be soft pedalling the potty training too but he seems to quite like all the attention he gets with it (though DH does egg him on - we have a system of 10 stars for loo/potty visits equals a present - after about 4 months he finally got his first present, DH then showed him his next present this week - a charlie and lola little doll set - and now DS1 is all out intent on getting it)... oh well, guess we have to tackle it at some time.

Dizzy - am sending you labour vibes. Good luck.

Herbgarden - after a day like that you definitely deserve a good night out, enjoy.

We gave Danny his first bath tonight in the tummy tub and he loved it (as with all babies didnt like coming out but liked the massage that followed). He truly is a little water baby