Due in September 2009 - Calling all the Christmas and New Year BFPs! thread 2

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The other thread was too long and wouldn't let me add a new message.

I am 8+3 and as my previous m/c's have been at 9 weeks.

Great news kooky! Really pleased for you.

I have my scan on Wednesday, and I'm dreading and looking forward to it in equal measure. I just want everything to be ok, I know it's the same for everyone. They are going to take bloods for downs screening at the same appointment and the results come through in 48 hours apparently. So by Friday I'll have more information one way or another. And on Saturday we're flying out to Morzine for a skiing holiday - booked before we knew!

Jrocks - hope you get good news on Friday. You'll enjoy your holiday a lot more then. Maybe stick to the nursery slopes or hit the spa?

Kooky that is BRILLIANT news! I am so happy for you, what a relief hey? Heres to a enjoyable pregnancy from now on in!
Soo... Are you going to tell us the sex or is it a secret? I can't wait to find out, don't get my '20 week' scan till 23 weeks, won't find out till 18th May. Kept ds's sex a secret till he was born, but told everyone we had really known. Obviously a big mistake as now my parents are already asking if we know the sex from the scan at 11+4 and don't believe me that you can't tell that young on an ultrasound! Gah. Its going to be tougher this time round!

Ladylush great news, its such a lovely feeling seeing them wriggling away isn't it! DS was so active they had trouble taking their measurements, whereas this one was much more sedate, was strange comparing them. Obviously going to be chalk and cheese

Great news Kooky! Oh do tell us the sex?!
So is anyone who is in this for the 1st time showing yet?

Thanks bigbang Yes, lovely seeing them wriggle. This one was asleep I think as inactive initially, but then was moving about so much that it was hard for her to get measurements. Lol at your parents. Guess they are excited I haven't even told mine I'm pregnant. Would love to later this week. We haven't given a lot of thought to finding out the sex - I think we just wanted to be sure it was alive and viable iyswim. We did want to know when I had my first pg and we found out at the nuchal scan.

Great news Kooky and Ladylush!

Ladylush - what doppler are you using? ONly ask because every now and then I have a wobble and wonder whether I should get one, and then dissuade myself by wondering whether I'd be more worried if I couldn't find the HB for some reason. I don't know...

Have my consultant visit on Thursday. Hoping that he'll check for heartbeat, but not sure of the form really - previous pregnancies were with a different doctor's practice and so completely community midwife. This time, with new surgery, I see the consultant at 15/16 weeks and then nothing until 28 weeks when I think I have a midwife appointment and bloods because am Rh-.

Will not be finding out the sex - didn't with dd and ds, though I can see why it would make sense to find out because could get rid of about 6 bin bags of clothes in one fell swoop if a boy (older girl's clothes). And could have concerted effort at boy's names, which I find impossible, or relax into potential girl's names. But dh v. anti, and tbh I rather like the surprise element.

Pooka - I've got the angel sounds doppler (bought with bobber's recommendation). Tbh I nearly sent it back as I was getting quite impatient with it. If you google mumsnet you will see there are mixed reports on it. Some people prefer another doppler which is about three times the price but is apparently more sensitive. Can't remember the name but you will see it if you do a search on mumsnet - BT200 or something like that. I am only using a doppler this time because I've had 4 m/c since ds and am understandably hyper-nervous. I think if you buy one you need to be pragmatic about it and accept that you might not always find the hb - easier said than done. If you are 15 weeks, you will probably feel baby move soon so maybe you might want to hang on? Hope your appt. goes well next week. I think it's nice that you want the sex of the baby to be a surprise. I am rubbish at surprises so will probably decide I want to know. I think H might want it to be a surprise this time though.

More lovely news ladylush

I spoke to my midwife today, and told her about my scan, and she took it to the head midwife, who thought it was crazy that I'd been offered cvs with a risk of 1 in 1000 - she'd never heard of it before. She also said that not seeing a nasal bone isn't that uncommon. I feel lots better hearing that, but think I'll take her advice and call the centre to talk the results over with someone.

Before I'd heard back from her I booked in at the FMC for Thursday, and don't know if I should cancel. It might be nice to have a scan where I know what I'm getting into, and maybe have a clearer head to ask more questions while the screen is in front of us. Everyone likes the FMC, don't they? And if the bone is there it's money well spent.

nitnat I'm not showing yet, but I do look a lot rounder out front, even though I've put on a grand total of two pounds.

so go on - what's the sex?

sorry, am flitting between reading and posting.
lemonmoon - do you mean your MW thought the risks were too small to warrant it?

Thanks pooka and lemonmoon
Lemonmoon - I think the scan at FMC might give you more clarity and allow you to ask questions. As you say, you might see the nasal bone too. Your risk is low so I can see where the mws are coming from. It's your call but if you will keep worrying, maybe the FMC might allay some fears?

Ah Kooky, that's fantastic news! Now you can relax and enjoy!!!! xx

re. dopplers....i don't like the idea of them - remember 10 years ago mw trying to find heartbeat and it taking about 20 mins!!! Reckon I'd become an obsessed maniac if I bought one...same reason I've NEVER bought one of those thermometers that goes in the baby's armpit or ear or wherever...I would panic over the slightest thing. Each to their own though...I just think both cause extra worry and stress, which are often undue

I found that it was a big surprise even though we found out at 20 weeks. It really helped us prepare. I did think that asking 'what is it?' after labour etc would be lovely, but loved knowing and bonding with my boy too... Its a tough one but I guess I was so overwhelmed with it just being an actual BABY when he came out that I didn't even that connect I already knew the sex!

My family said they didn't want to know as they said it was anticlimactic for everyone else but the parents to know beforehand. So we didn't tell them we knew... This time they seem desperate to know... Must be excitement I guess!

It's a...

BOY!!!!

Am so delighted as it was what we were hoping for. We weren't going to find out the sex as we didn't with DD, but I felt after everything we'd been through that I wanted to know. It was also the 1st thing the midwife offered to tell me when I got the results!

Brilliant scan news everybody and thinking of you those that are waiting for yours.

kooky- Oh how lovely! So excited for you Now you can start thinking of lovely boy names. Hehe!
I am so tempted to find out the sex but everyone around me keeps saying 'dont find out!' What to do?!

kooky- Oh how lovely! So excited for you Now you can start thinking of lovely boy names. Hehe!
I am so tempted to find out the sex but everyone around me keeps saying 'dont find out!' What to do?!

Congrats Kooky thats fantastic news!

I am a bit upset tonight as I have had a call from ante natal screening co-ord to say she wants to discuss some results with me. By the time I got the message she had left so have to wait until morning and DH is on nights so I'm on my own an don't want to worry family.

Every single scenario has gone through my head and I am so frightened. I am really scared that it will be something bad and we will have to make a terrible decision. My biggest fear is that I will have to give the kids bad news and they will be heartbroken.

Please tell me it will be ok girls, can't stop crying.

Hi LJ, try not to worry my love. Easier said than done though right? It could may well be something minor or maybe they'll just need to do a follow up test. It might really turn out to be nothing. Be gentle with yourself tonight.

Oh kooky that is such brilliant news. I am so pleased for you.

LJ - I can understand your worry, but as audreyraines said it could just be to repeat a test or something. I've read somewhere that the chances of something really serious showing up on tests is extremely small - I think even with CVS or amnio testing where other tests have showed a potential problem, 19 out of 20 bubs are absolutely fine. But, all that said, the worry wont go away for you tonight I completely understand, so have a big hug.

I've still been plodding on at work with the spd - what an idiot, I know - and am now in constant agony with the crutches no longer enough. I curse myself for being so stupid and will finally accept being signed off at the next physio assessment this Weds. School are aware & Im telling the students tomorrow - gulp .
Also found out im positive for Group B strep, so my list of stamped on risks on the front of my mat folder will fill up the cover completely now - yikes

Is this with regard to the scan, or to any other screening i.e bloods?

Just I remember getting a call when pregnant with dd saying please call us back. Cue massive panic, but transpired that the blood test was showing that I had low iron, and needed supplements.

Fingers crossed.

Pooka, I'm not sure, as I had my scan and bloods done 2 weeks ago I'm assuming its the bloods or they would have said if there was a problem at the scan. I had thought about low iron but I was taking Pregna care whih has an iron supplement in. Just wish I had come out of work 5 mins earlier and then I would have picked up the call. Thanks for the hugs ladies.

I got a call back after I'd dropped in a urine sample - panicked me, turns out they'd knocked it over
I know this is different but the point I'm making is that you can't imagine the 1000 mundane things it could be, and it's almost certain to be one of them. I know it's much easier said than done but please try not to worry and to get some sleep. Let us know how it goes in the morning.

A boy! How fantastic kooky - one of each!

Yes mw think the risk is low, and I can see that now - I just couldn't see it when the sonographer was saying 'do you want to sit in a quiet room to think about the test?' Talk about giving someone the willies. Usually the cut off is 1 in 250, so who knows why the hell he suggested it to me.

LJ chances are it is a small daft thing, but we all assume the worst, as I well know. I know it's hard but try to distract yourself with something nice this evening and try too get as much sleep as possible.

LJ - When they called me it was less than a week after the bloods had been done, so I'm sure that you would've heard sooner if it was something major. (You can still have low iron even when taking tablets like Prgnacare.)

It makes me really cross that they call and leave a message like that! It creates often needless panic for people.

I know it's pointless saying "Don't worry" but try to stay positive.

LJ - agree with everyone else. They can't say what it is on an answerphone message due to confidentiality reasons. But I can imagine how nervous you are.......so here's a big hug. Hopefully it will all be cleared up tomorrow.

Blue - as you say, each to their own (re dopplers). I must stress though that I had 4 m/c since ds (who is 5 in June)and enduring that many failed pregnancies takes it's toll. One of the hardest things ime is the constant worry in the next pg. Anything that can ease that worry imo is a huge plus. Even if I only find the hb once a week/fortnight I feel more reassured than I would if I had to wait 8 weeks for a scan and had no inkling one way or the other if the baby was still alive. But hey, that's just my opinion. If you've had fairly straight forward pregnancies, I agree that it makes sense to put your faith in Mother Nature

Lemonmoon - is it worth having another chat with the guy who did your scan? Or will you go ahead with the other scan?

Kooky - how lovely, a boy One of each indeed So glad you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy now