Due in September 2009 - Calling all the Christmas and New Year BFPs! thread 2

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The other thread was too long and wouldn't let me add a new message.

I am 8+3 and as my previous m/c's have been at 9 weeks.

kooky, sorry to hear about your worry, hope the time passes quickly and scan puts your mind at rest

I've just had my first mw appointment, at home. I think I love her - she told me repeatedly that I was young Plus she took blood and I didn't faint, so that's a first. She'll be my named mw throughout, and towards the end I'll meet the other members of the team just in case she's not on duty at the critical moment. Nice thing to have community midwives.

Have just had a good old cry for no earthly reason, so I'm going to blame hormones.

Glad you're feeling calmer, Kooky, and I don't think there's a better place for offloading worries.

kookykid - so sorry to hear of your current worry re blood tests but from what I've read the blood tests notoriously give false positives. That's why so many women have invasive tests only to discover all is well with the baby. I don't want to raise your hopes too much as you won't know one way or the other without further tests/scan etc. but just wanted to put it in context. Are you going to have the anomaly scan at 16 weeks?

Kookykid sorry to hear your results. I think everyone has given good advice.
Will you have the chance to talk about your choices with a consultant before you make your decision about tests?

Thanks everyone for the support (again).

I am seeing a consultant on Monday.
I will probably have the anomoly scan rather than the invasive test. MW said they would prob do the anomoly scan between 16 and 18 weeks, and they can't do the amnio until 15 weeks anyway. Not prepared to risk a m/c if baby is healthy and by all accounts the abnormalities with an Edward's baby are pretty severe so would be easily spotted on a scan. It's going to be a long wait though.

DH is being brilliant. My little DD (23 months) made me feel so much better when she arrived home this afternoon and I am feeling quite humbled and lucky to have her. Oh, here come the tears again! Am trying to count my blessings, rather than focus on the worst case scenario.

oh kooky. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. This must be such a difficult time for you. Its going to be such an agonising next few weeks. But, as you say, if it can be recognised on a scan at the same timescale as an invasive test, there is no contest. Take lots of care of yourself in the meantime.

Kookykid - Ikwym. I found having ds very humbling and comforting when dealing with the pain of m/cs. I think your decision is very sensible fwiw and I'd have chosen the same. How far along are you now? In other words, how long do you need to wait?

Hi kooky. Thoughts area with you. Sounds like you're pretty clued up and getting sensible advice, and support.

Ladylush, I am 13 weeks today, so have a minimum of 3 weeks to wait for the scan.

Thanks for your kind words, everyone.

Am shattered despite 3 hours sleep this afternoon, so taking myself off to bed.

kooky, hope you slept well

I have my dating scan this afternoon.

Kookykid, I'm so sorry, you must be beside yourself . I hope you slept well and that you're feeling better this morning.

Good luck with the scan Stealth

Thinking of you Kooky, lots of love and hugs heading your way.

Great news Blue. Hoping everyone else going for a scan has a wonderful time.

Thanks for all the visitor advice. I'm hoping things will improve with mum before September but I'm realising that I can't have everything my own way and she will probably only come up for the day anyway. Could be worse, she might want to stay for a week Hoping to steer her to arrive a few days after but luckily PIL are brill and hoping they will come up and give some support without taking over.

Got a fab book The Baby Whisperer in Pregnancy & Birth magazine this month. Ideal for us first timers as it's got everything in it, like how to bath the baby!!

Step away from the parenting magazines/books you will only get yourself flustered and tied in knots you have all the help and advice you need at your fingertips here on mumsnet.

hee hee - wise words mummyhill

I read loads of books first time round and found that I just got all upset and was sure I was a bad mum because I paid more attention to the books than my own feelings because the books were written by experts but for some reason their methods didn't work for my baby.

Second time round I just went with gut instinct and stuff that worked 1st time.

This time I think I will go into auto pilot!

yeah totally - I read soooo much when i was pg with dd my head was spinning from all the "good advice" - obviously picked up some really good tips but was also left feeling like an inadequate mother cos my baby didn't seem to comply with Gina Ford or the baby whisperer etc. next baba's just gonna have to go with the flow - especially as there's only gonna be 20 months between them - my hands will be well and truly full!

Well scan says I'm 11+5 so due on 12th Spetember. All well and the baby was waving and sucking her fingers (obviously not at the same time!). Was a lovely scan (once we knew everything was OK obviously) as DS was never that easy to see but this was so clear - I could make out everything without really being told, it was fascinating!

Great news stealth Mine is tomorrow, getting quite excited now.

Kooky - am so sorry that you have to deal with this and think you are being very strong.

Stealthpolarbear - great news on the scan.

As for baby books, I didn't read any with my first. I bought the contented baby and started it but it just terrified me. When are you allowed to leave the house??

I did go to NCT classes tho which were great for meeting other Mum's and did go thro some basics such as bathing and nappy changing. The other Mum's from that group were life savers in the early months and I highly recommend it for meeting people who will have similar age babies esp for 1st time Mum's.

I think rather than books, talking to other Mum's with similar age kids is much better - it definitely helps keep you sane when you're sleep deprived. And knowing that other people are going thro the same things really helps. But that's just from my experience.

Hi everyone,

Great news on the scan, Stealth!

I am feeling much calmer today. Have decided I need to try and take things easy and look after myself and the baby in the hope that everything is OK. Yes, it's going to be an awful few weeks waiting, but I can't change the outcome and the odds ARE low. I wish it wasn't happening but it is! Feel very grateful to have found MN as it's been a huge source of comfort and reassurance when I haven't felt strong enough to talk to people in RL.

Have been referred to Cambridge fetal medicine department who have already been in touch by phone, although I wasn't here to take the call.

Great news Stealth

Re. pregnancy books/magazines - I agree with mummyhill but otoh I remember how exciting my first pregnancy was and I used to look forward to getting the next edition of the magazine! I did become quite disillusioned though because a lot of them featured the same articles and they were full of ads. Think I was seduced by the packaging!

Kookykid - it must be hell having to wait 3 weeks, though undoubtedly preferable to having to wait til you're 20 weeks. How is your dp coping with it all? Hope the two of you can comfort each other during the next few weeks. Thinking of you

I'm still in limbo with the bleeding. Fed up of it. Every time I go to the loo I'm reminded of my m/cs as it's the same yucky blood I had post m/c and yet somehow it still seems to be a viable pregnancy. Hard to get my head around tbh. I feel that I can't plan, can't bond because each time I bleed I wonder if this is it. I find out tomorrow whether the hospital of my choice will take me on (St. Georges) but am not holding out much hope as they don't like taking out of borough patients (it's only half hour away ). The 2nd choice is not bad, but doesn't have as good quality scans or fetal expertise.......and I'm getting on iyswim so thought I may need these more than a sprightly 30 yr old

I din't read any books before DD came along, sitting up at 3 panicking with the breastfeeding book with dd latching on is a very vivid memory.

I did enjoy pregnancy magazines but this time I think I will only buy ones that have good free gifts.
lady lush I think you must be near me as I'm not that far from St Georges although won't be going there. Your bleeding must be so worrying.

I finally got my scan letter today and have managed to change the date. Due to DH and work. It's the 24th March (week 13)It's going to be a really busy day s I also have a meeting in the afternoon and parents evening in the evening and it'a supposed to be one of my days off!

I don't want to bore anyone but Ive got some fantastic advice for first-time mums on breastfeeding!

Kooky - I hope you're feeling a bit better as each day passes.

Really strange, I was showing last week and now I'm flat as a board with no sickness. Absolutely huge (.)(.) though! Bf nicknamed my new bras 'battle-bras'...god help me, I'm yet to get bigger and I'm already a 34E!! Still wearing size 10 trousers so you can imagine how odd I must look....

Did you know that in Italy they class bleeding through preganancy (around the time your period would have been due) as healthy!

Hi everyone
Ladylush I really sympathise with you on the bleeding. Luckily mine seems to have stopped now. i am absolutely terrified of the scan,not only because of my age but because it's twins and I'm dreading some horrible complications. I miss my DP as he's in Germany and won't be home till next weekend, then he's away for another 2 I think.

Share the advice then blue you won't bore us love.