Due April 2009 - Sod the thread title, we will need a new one in a week.

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Welcome new joiners, lurkers, occasional updaters, prolific posters, and Nutty and Springy .
I say this one wont last a full 10 days.

thankyou brettgirl x and spring, how did you get to have such a mature head on your hot twenty year old shoulders. thank you too. i'm afraid though ladies that i don't think i'm going to get my head round this whole pregnancy lark in time atall. I'm utterly rubbish at it, infact i probably hate it, and the scariest thing is as much as i hate it i am also scared shitless also by the prospect of it ending as birth and babies are also things that i doubt I'll be good at. I'm sorry, i just wasn't expecting all this atall. i might have always wanted it in an abstract sense, but i'm mentally not here atall. sigh i just want to run away

i must admit ladies, i'm impressed by your commitment and chattiness. I used to be a member of a message board for glastonbury festivals and got really addicted to the thing. Infact it was a bit scarily addictive. so if i sometimes seem a bit distant or don't post much for a while it's because i'm abit cautious about getting addicted to another, because i know it's in my nature. but i do think you're all lovely, and reading you all makes me feel less scared and more sane, so thank you so much x

me and my cup of peppermint tea and my kiwi fruit say hi from my vegan lesbian coop. what the fuck am i doing here? six months ago i was in my lovely little cottage, going to festivals, having fun and it was sunny. sigh. moan moan moan. aaaaaghhh

I've not even had any dinner yet - I had a sandwich at about 4 & a yoghurt recently, but that's it (I'm not actually hungry ). But I keep thinking my tummy may burst open at any minute with the kicking, so I think he may be trying to tell me something

Oh, I quite miss waking up & trying to decipher the clues from the night before. The handful of cash next to the toilet = must've got a taxi back. Jeans inextricably tangled with bag on the floor = must've caused a hilarious scene trying to get undressed, which probably didn't seem so hilarious to those trying to sleep through the crashing around. Naked man next to you when you roll over at 7am = OH SHIT, GET RID OF HIM BEFORE MY FAMILY GET OUT OF BED!

Ha ha thanks brett -

I did actually say no to one of my bosses earlier in the week and I don't think he knew what to do with himself! I am going to get better at it tho

Frekkles, if it is any consolation I absolutely HATE being pregnant! Absolutely hate it, in fact apart from the kicks, there is nothing about this pregnancy that I even remotely like! I have to say I am not so scared about the actually baby bit (although I still have 10 weeks to go!) but am with you on the whole thing feeling alien and rubbish!

you're not too young springy, it's all relative, age is in your head and you sound far more grown up than me in your posts and i'm 34! i think you'll be an amazing mum, i bet in 10 years time you'll be reeling off acheivements like boffin in a similar off the cuff sarky lovely way.

on the belly stroking front ....my boyfriend (i'm going to start calling him john !) John introduced me to somone last week as the bump "do you want to meet the bump?". this blokey i was kinda being introduced to then said to john, "can i touch it" and john said"yeah sure, go for it!" I just stood shocked and amused like a good vessle.

just got a text from john btw the way saying " i miss you. just pulled over to tel you i love you before i lose signal. have a nice weekend x" . i feel a bit meh.

Oh I would never have been brave enough to take a boy back to my house!!

frekkles, I don't think most of us are coping too well with the pregnancy part - the best we can hope for is that we'll cope with the baby. & we will! Cave women did it & they didn't even have Mumsnet

Ah bless john - what a nice message! You could probably let him stew for a little while longer tho - just for leaving you!!

the best way to avoid waking up in the morning wondering what you did the night before is to not go to bed........

is anyone else a bit worried about being lonely once the baby comes? - I don't really know anyone where I live because I spend my life in London working or at the weekend Dh and I go and visit friends and family! AND none of my friends have kids and I don't know any other pregnant people (apart from you lovely ladies!!!)

I will have my family and friends but on a day to day basis not sure who I will have to spend time with (apart from my LO!!!)

i didn't text him back. he'll not be missing me. i know how much alchohol and other recreational substances he took with him. there'll be no sleeping for that boy till sunday afternoon.

sorry ladies, i'll promise i'll try and stop moaning soon

It only happened once in the sense, with a work colleague - which makes it even worse! I've taken quite a few friends home that I've had to chuck out before my family got up, because I just wasn't allowed people home at all. But yes, that wasn't bravery. That was being so drunk that I simply didn't know what I was doing. It was quite funny being 'the man' & chasing him out of my house, telling him to stop talking because he had to go now

frekkles, my DP does that with his brothers & mum - "quick, the baby's kicking, come & feel!". It wouldn't matter so much mostly, but he always manages to call people over when it's practically in my fanjo & they're hovering their hands around my crotch

I'm not surprised that you feel meh. That is a nice text, but it doesn't really cancel out how crappy you've been made to feel by him & circumstances in general. Just make sure you have a nice weekend, lovely. Do some things for you xx

oooh I got in such a strop with DH today, was driving down the M4 and he called me and was chatting away and because of that I missed my turn off and had to drive 20 miles down to the next turn off and turn round again to get back on the a34! grrr - he was not my favourite person!!

I am tempted to write down how horrible it is so I don't forget!!

Sometimes when I am feeling mean I wonder if I will say to the baby when it is all sickly - oh look your throwing up - that's what you did to me for 9 months!!! (I would never tho!!!)

i'm definately worried about being lonely miss bolat. hell i'm lonely just now that i'm pregnant. hope it's all a big amazing whoosh of love and contentment and happiness like some say, and not months of sleep deprived weepiness and depression like others say.

thanks for the reasurance again everyone. nutty thank you. i promise i'll be more positive tommorrow.

Haha, I've never had to peel my hairdresser off the chocolatey sheets, so I probably don't, no

& yes, I worry about exactly that BB. Looks like ever making student friends is unlikely & I don't know anyone for miles around. I think I'm pretty much relying on my NCT group (which I'll start at the beginning of next month), but I bet that doesn't work out because I'll be discounted as being too young to bother with. I'm just going to spend loads of time joining various baby groups & hope for the best, because that's the only avenue I have.

I seriously considered writing down how awful I felt in the very depths of morning sickness, with a promise to myself that I'd never do it again. But I knew that I'd only ignore it anyway, so didn't bother. I'll be cursing myself next time for not being somehow more convincing.

frekkles, don't worry about being positive for our sake - we all use each other as a sounding board at some point. It's what we're here for. Nobody understands how difficult it is to be pregnant unless they are pregnant. I think that people forget afterwards, so even people who have already done it aren't much help. We're all in the middle of this together.

I think me and my LO will become best of friends!! I hope he or she starts talking early on or it could be a lonely couple of months!!

Oooh baby groups - hadn't even thought of that (see Springy you might be younger but you are far more knowledgeable that me!!!)

I am not doing NCT classes just one 2 hour antenatal class (you are supposed to go to 4 one-hour sessions as a minimum but they set up a special one for those of us who were working and couldn't do that - so likely to be people that aren't looking for lasting friendships - although don't know that so don't want to be negative!!!)

Ooh, me too - I'm always up for a meet up! I'd love to meet as many of you as possible after all of this! & you're all welcome to come & visit me in Sheffield at any time

Nutty, that is another reason for us to campaign to get you fixed!!! We should definitely definitely all meet up once the LO's are here and you and boffin are walking upright again xxx

And I live near the beach so summer picnics on the pebbles are definitely in for me....

Judging by our threads I doubt that any of our babies will be slow talkers - they'll just have to find a second to get a word in first

The two main reasons that I'm doing NCT classes are that we're getting a total bargain because we're students & because of the social aspect. The apparently excellent breastfeeding counselling, etc., comes into it, but it's really mostly that I want to meet people who live nearby who will possibly want to be friends with other new mums. DP is under strict orders to be impossibly charming so we can trick people into liking us

By the beach, you say? I am so there!