Due April 2009 - Sod the thread title, we will need a new one in a week.

[PuzzleRocks]

Welcome new joiners, lurkers, occasional updaters, prolific posters, and Nutty and Springy .
I say this one wont last a full 10 days.

glad you're ok, take care swaliswan x get someone else to cook dinner! infact get springy's bloke to take you out for some!

bleu, i find you very calming and reassuring x thank you. I really hope that I do stay me, I do usually like me. I'm usually not one for worrying and moaning and being scared. This is all very alien.

hello springy, hope you have some nice grub x

aw that's really briliant boffin! you do just have to be brave sometimes don;t you? "Boldness has genius power and magic in it" and all that x hope that you're evening continues in a happy cosy loving way x

Bleu frekkles is right you are very calming which is probably needed on this thread LOL!!!

Frekkles, really I think you are doing wonderfully! Really! And there is nothing stopping you going to the festival, just play it by ear and enjoy whatever comes!!

Swaliswan, that is great news that everything is ok, rest and relax and get spoilt!!

Boffin, that's great, so glad you had a good day -have had a look through and think it's looking good. So nice to end a horrible weekend with something so positive!!

What else has everyone been up to today? DH and I are 3 episode away from the end of Series 1 of 24 and while it is excellent I refuse to buy series 2 because we both become a bit addictive and end up watching it non stop and I am shattered (tis very tiring having to concentrate so much!!!)

Springy I think you are going to lose your bet with Puzzles on the length of this thread!! We are already half way through (pretty much) and it's only been up 2.5 days!!!

Hi all! You sound like you've had a fab day solving the NHS problems and learning how to play with bananas...

BB - my DH bought me this for our little princess - it plays our song too, which is very soppy but sweet! He's been winding it up every night and putting it on my bump so baby can get to listen...

We went to see Slumdog Millionaire last night and it was surprisingly good! Quite harrowing but very clever... highly recommended esp if you get a Ben & Jerry's to go with it...

RANT ALERT - I am having SUCH a frustrating day yesterday... it seems all the legal problems in the world have descended on my head all at once - and on the first day of my third trimester too!! A quick summary -

My sister in Cape Town has had the police at her front door with three warrants for my arrest, from unpaid speeding fines from a company car I haven't driven in two years... my previous employer hasn't changed the registration papers (highly illegal!!) so I'm in big trouble for something i didn't do! Thank goodness I can prove that I'd already moved over here when the fines were made, but still.... AAAARGH! I have a criminal record for a crime i didn't commit and getting work just doesn't care!

I also apparently have an outstanding loan of 15k with my old bank (accounts were closed two years ago) and the lawyers have been called in for non-payment... I don't have and never have had a loan from any bank, ever, it turns out it's been a fraudulent transaction on my account! - but to get it sorted (esp long distance!) is impossible!

My poor sis is also writing her final law degree exams right now and does NOT need this kind of stress on my behalf... I feel incredibly guilty asking her to run around with paperwork for traffic fines and banks, but she's my only hope to clear my name!

I have also had a big fight with DH today - he was saying how happy things are now that I'm "making babies" and not working - meanwhile I am climbing the walls since my redundancy and feel my brain is rotting... he can't understand why i feel this way??? Well, after spending 7 years in very expensive tertiary education developing this brain, I kindof value it, you know???

AAAAAARGH am I going mad or is the world just nuts today? [confused and frustrated emoticon]

Just realised how long and me-me-me that was... sorry ladies! I guess I'm in shock, cos I've always been such a Good Girl and toes the line, and now am in deep poo and don't know what to do! Well, I DO know what to do, it's just taking ages to do things via email and phone to RSA than in person...

I'm now eating a hot cross bun smothered in butter and am feeling a little bit better...

Oh Kitty what a nightmare Ok let me try and take it in sections:

Criminal record re fines - that looks like you can solve it fairly clearly so hopefully despite it being a nightmare for you that will be solved asap!

Loan, was the account closed before the loans were taken out or after? do they have copies of the paper work that authorised the loan?

Bless your sister, I am sure she realises how thankful you are (and on the plus side is giving her some real-life experience with the legal system) but maybe buy her a lovely present once it is all resolved and see if there is anything you can do to help her with her exams in the interim

Ok as for DH (lovely present BTW) but I think he may have a death warrant! Yes making babies is lovely but that doesn't mean your brain should stop - what did he say when you said you were not so happy with the redundancy!

You are not going mad! Feel free to rant away xxx

Have abandoned the idea of cooking a full roast dinner as we're not hungry anyway (didn't get lunch until 3pm). I'm just cooking the small joint of beef so that we can all have some for tea tomorrow.

I'm so exhausted, I've been having pains on and off since yesterday evening. They got really bad on the way back from church this morning and continued to get worse after we got home and I had tried relaxing. The thought of going to term with this baby terrifies me more than having another prem one! I knew that Bean was moving loads and that was, at least in part, making me uncomfortable but I didn't realise quite how much movement there was until I looked at the CTG printout that said there were 100 movements per hour!

How many weeks are you now Swaliswan?

100 movements in an hour? that is crazy!! is that the normal amount?

Oh Kittycat, what a nightmare for you. Have you any idea how long it will take to sort this all out? I know what you mean about feeling like you are wasting your brain as well. I used to be a medical student and now I'm just a healthcare assistant. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't want to be a doctor - I've seen how junior doctors get treated. But, it would be nice to have the opportunity to use my brain for something that I do want to do. It does annoy me a bit when DH says that he thinks that his career would be easier to develop without children in the picture Since I've known him, he's gone from being in an entry level bank job to being at middle-managerial level for a government agency with responsibility for their business planning.

BB I'm 26 weeks and AFAIK they want you to have 10 movements an hour to be considered 'normal'. This is a very active baby and it is making me exhausted. It moves all day and thankfully seems to go to sleep at night but it does make for an exhausting and uncomfortable day.

You can do all kinds of things with a newborn - I bet Boffin has a few tales to tell... perhaps you might feel more agoraphobic, or protective, or have PND (yuck) BUT you might not at all. Festival + baby sounds great to me. The only thing I clung on to in first crazy days of babyness was the idea that the baby should be exposed to lots of experiences, not just closeted away - so I tried to adapt life to suit all of us, still went to parties and passed her around, put her to sleep in strange places etc.

It will all be fine my wobbly ones

Oh dear - on the one hand it's great the the LO is so active and you know they are fine but on the other hand it must be hideous being that tired! Sorry for asking again but how early was your first?

Btw Swali I have the same thing going on and whilst it's very reassuring it is exhausting and you have a right to be exhausted (swali)

Now 29+4 and lack of room seems to be slowing her down slightly

BB and Swalis - you're right, all the above problems can be fixed with time. Sunday evening is not the best time to find out about these sorts of issues, because you can't really do anything about them till Monday, which is why I'm a bit stressed!!

I think DH didn't mean it like it came out - he was hoping to make me feel better about the redundancy, by saying it's OK to not work, that we don't need the money, - not saying that I shouldn't EVER work... It just came out wrong and I bit his head off for it. A few times. I'm a right cranky cow today I'm afraid! Promise I'll be better tomorrow!!

Anyway we've kissed and made up (a tub of Nutella and a spoon will do that every time!!) so all is well in KittyLand... tomorrow I'll be spending another day waiting for parcels to arrive, so hopefully should have lots of online time to sort out legal issues! Thanks for the rant...

Hey Nutty - has been very quiet without you today! What you been up to?

Glad is all sorted Kitty, once you can start speaking to people will help you actually make sense of it all - the good thing is you know you are in the clear so there is nothing they can do to prove any guilt!

yay for xmas tree removal!! hope DH has been suitably celebrated!!!

Sorry, I nipped off to read some of the post on the premature birth board for a bit. DD was born at 34+6 so in the grand scheme of things she wasn't that early but early enough to be a surprise and need to go to the Neonatal Unit for a few days. I know that people think I'm being negative, but I just have a feeling that I won't manage to get to term with this baby either. I am so uncomfortable and feel like I'm further along than I really am. I felt the same with DD and just ignored it until my waters broke!

Oh Nutty I want your DD!! She is ace!!!

Swaliswan, will the hospital give you more regular check ups because of the possibility of being premature?