Due April 2009 - Sod the thread title, we will need a new one in a week.

[PuzzleRocks]

Welcome new joiners, lurkers, occasional updaters, prolific posters, and Nutty and Springy .
I say this one wont last a full 10 days.

I am still angry but I haven't broken anything!! I am still a bit sad about the crib damage.

I told DH about our PR plans and he agrees to let them have a chance to respond properly to our formal complaints and if nothing happens to wade right in.

I think I owe it to the other women around here as much as anything.

I think he is right - you have then given them more than enough opportunity to respond then and if they don't it this time, it is just blatant neglect! Make sure you have a named contact tho on the letter and do get it signed for or else you have no proof they ever received it!

Well that's progress that nothing is broken today and DH thinks he can fix the crib and am sure you wont even notice it (you may even laugh about it once the baby is here and you are pain free) although take a photo of it broken just in case we need it!!!

Is the pain any better today?

Morning ladies! Sorry I missed the fun last night but was out partying ( in a pregnant/teetotal sort of way). But there was cheesecake

May I be lazy and inquire what the prob is Boffin ?

BB - have just emailed you in real life with some documents. Thanks for all your help!

Hi Mathsmummy, I am being neglected by the NHS and BB is organising a PR campaign to kick ass, unless they respond properly within a few days. That woman is wonderful, wonderful!!

OOOOh exciting! Love a bit of ass-kicking. You have my moral support and as much leftover birthday cake as you can eat

BB - pain is still crap. I can shuffle around the house a bit, but I am going nuts indoors. It's OK if I lie in bed.

DH offered to take me for lunch at the seaside at Aldeburgh, but I do not think I would survive the car trip. Plus the whole point of going up there would normally be for a hike (I like hiking) and I think I would just end up parked at the Brudenell Hotel feeling sad while the others all ended up going for a walk (boys have to be regularly exercised like puppies or they climb the walls).

Thanks Boff! Just had a look through

I know it's not the same but maybe you could have a family games afternoon with lots of lovely board games and snacks so you can all spend some time together!!!

Oooh Mathsmummy did you have a lovely birthday and get lots of lovely presents?

Hi all sorry Ive not been posting much this week but I have been at SIL waiting for deliveries and Sky Installations most of the week and their laptop wouldnt let me post for some reason.

I have been reading all posts and have laughed and had righteous indignation at all the correct points but my sieve brain wont allow me to post on a case by case point so just be assured if I should have laughed I did and if I should be wanting to arrange a lynch mob I attempted it!

My sieve brain also wont let em remember what I wanted to post about me either so hopefully it wasnt too important!!

It appears we may have come to a decision regarding a name!!!!! I am now cringing hoping no one says anything too bad but we appear to have decided on Violet Rose although DH thinks Rose might make it a bit too flowery so that may change.

Claire xXx

Clairey that is a beautiful name - I don't know any violets which is nice as I have no pre-judgements. My grandma always said to me it has to be a name that works when the baby is a little toddler (so cute), a teenager (not silly or jokey), in a career and as an OAP and Violet definitely does that.

Violet Rose sounds like an actresses name so maybe she will be a star!!

If we have a girl, we have got it down to three:

1. Alara (this is the current favourite)
2. Aya (pronounced I-ya)
3. Asya (pronounced aseya)

Boys is still up for debate / argument / divorce!!!!

Thank you sooo much BB I was really worried people would think it was awful. Told SIL last night and she thinks it is a really beautiful name which made me feel a bit better but you can guarantee someone will find some horrible tale to tell about a Violet! Im not sure I can quite imagine her as a baby but certain from toddlerhood up it seems to fit.

All your three choices sound lovely prefer Alara or Aya personally but they are all very unusual. Good Luck finding a boys name its a hard business coming to an agreement isnt it!

And of course my daughter is going to be a star how could you possibly doubt that!!!!!!!

The baby's moved now & I'm far more comfortable now. Still pregnant, so let's not be crazy with our definitions of 'comfortable' but much better.

Worried to see that 'boys have to be regularly exercised like puppies or they climb the walls'! Can I stick a lead on him & tie it to a treadmill? Will that count?

Violet is a lovely name! I don't know any either, but it's not a really out-there name like most really uncommon names are these days. I like it

BB, are you still debating Caravan?

Have brought the list over.

Mar
25 Mar : Jumbs: DS 15 months
28 Mar : AlexandraPeppernose: DC no 3
29 Mar : Gemzooks: DS 1.9 then 2 m/cs, age 32, live in Holland
29 Mar : WhatFreshHell, DS 2.4 born on Easter Sunday
30 Mar : BabyBolat: 1st timer
31 Mar : Cosmogirl: 1st timer

Apr
01 Apr : Rachelinscotland: DD 2 years 10 months, and DS 18 months
01 Apr : Chickenbalti: DS 4 years DD 17 months
02 Apr : BoffinMum: BOY! dd(21) ds(10) ds(7)
02 Apr : MathsMummy27: GIRL! DD 3 years
03 Apr : skiingone: DC1
03 Apr : nzbabies: DS 21 months
03 Apr : purlease: 1 m/c, 1 DD 3 years
03 Apr : Kalikaroo: SURPRISE! (28), 1st timer, lives in Scandinavia (but too shy to say where!)
04 Apr : mizzannie: first timer
04 Apr : Bleuravin
04 Apr : Bumpalump: DS 2.2
04 Apr : babypringle: 1 DS 2yrs 1 month
06 Apr : ToastnHoney: first timer
06 Apr : Diddle: DS1 2yrs, DS2 10months 2mc's
06 Apr : PintofStella: DS 5.4
06 Apr : Mummyontherun DD 22 months
07 Apr : Bethdivine: DS 18mo
08 Apr : LuLuBai: 1 DD born 02 Apr 07
08 Apr : Pinkdolly: (age 27) dd 6, dd 5, dd 2, 1 m/c January 08
09 Apr : Oddeyes (30): GIRL! DS 17 mths, 1 mc. London
09 Apr : Nigeltuffnell
09 Apr : Soundbites(30): DD aged 18 months
09 Apr : Barbarella: 1st timer, TRIPLETS
10 Apr : hopeful1
10 Apr : BinkyB(30): TWINS 1st timer, lives London
11 Apr : BellaMummy
11 Apr : Teeheelaydee
11 Apr : mrsfossil: 1 DS 6.5
11 Apr : Dungungirl(30): BOY! 1 m/c, DS 3.5 years
11 Apr : Bubbaluv: 1 DS 1yo
11 Apr : SpringySunshine: BOY! 1st timer.
12 Apr : daisycat01: DS 6yrs, DS 3yrs
12 Apr : Salstars (34), 1st timer
12 Apr : Brettgirl, 1st timer
13 Apr : April2009Baby:
14 Apr : girlylala0807:
14 Apr : AuldAlliance: DS3.8 BOY!
14 Apr : Wellbalanced: first timer
15 Apr : claireykitten: GIRL! DS 12 months
15 Apr : VixterB: first timer
15 Apr : electra
15 Apr : Sarahmum: DS 10yrs
16 Apr : tristaleejac(25): 1 ds, 3 years
17 Apr : lou031205(28): DD age 2.8, DD age 1
17 Apr : Glaskhamhasoneintheoven: DC3, have one of each already.
17 Apr : Surprisenumber3(32): DS1 9 DSS 9 DS2 5 GIRL!
18 Apr : mumsoon: DC1 GIRL!
18 Apr : minouminou(37): due April 18-19 (i think). 1 DS, 22 months
18 Apr : salbysea: (28) 1st timer
18 Apr : loobee: DS 22mths
19 Apr : gingersarah: 1st baby
19 Apr : Kittycat8 (29) 1st timer
20 Apr : v1kk1m: BOY! 1DD 5 months
20 Apr : MegBusset: DS 18mo
21 Apr : B52s: DS will be 2 and a quarter
21 Apr : Festivedollyx: DD9yrs DD7yrs GIRL!
21 Apr : Staryeyed
21 Apr : Schulte
23 Apr : chloemegjess
23 Apr : katiepotatie
23 Apr : Reesie : DD 20 months
24 Apr : PuzzleRocks: DD 19mths GIRL!
24 Apr : conkertree (26): DS 12 months
24 Apr : Bronze (Gawain) - 4th DC
24 Apr : Frekkles
24 Apr : EsmeWeatherwax (36) DD 17 months
24 Apr : SnoozyVic: first timer and semolina-monster
25 Apr : Swaliswan: DD 17 months
25 Apr : ReallyTired
27 Apr : Bicnod
27 Apr : Carameli
27 Apr : longlegted
27 Apr : SatHereSitting
27 Apr : purplemonkeydishwasher DS 3yo
28 Apr : Laulau27
29 Apr : lauralou1 1st DC
30 Apr : Nutty Taff 2nd DC GIRL!

Hello all

A quick catch up from me. I was hauled off the computer yesterday by my Mum. About once a month since the start of this pregnancy have had a wierd migraines with aura (zig zaggy flashes which start in the centre of my eye and spread out to the periphery). I hadn't mentioned it to anyone because they were few and far between but yesterday I had my second in 24 hours which got my Mum all freaked out and in turn got DH panicked. I'm not worried about pre-eclampsia because I don't have any swelling or other associated symptoms. Has anyone else had this?

Boffin - do you have any pearls?
I spoke to NHS direct and she told me to lay off chocolate. Heartless woman!! Girls please tuck in on my behalf.

Nutty - I want to get another design too, something to celebrate our family. Love the candida lesson BTW and yes it does sound like pregnancy. Wouldn't want one of those in my mouth either.

Springy - My RL name is not all that common either so he would have a hard time replacing me and finding someone to match the tattoo.

Boffin - I can well imagine a baby didn't stop you as a student. I can't imagine anythng stands in your way when you have a goal.
Do let us know the outcome of your son's audtition. He sounds lovely.
I'm pissed off for you that everything seems one step forward and two back. I really think you are incredible the way you cope, even if you feel you aren't at the moment.

BB - the fact that you say the piercings were "discreet" suggests they were somewhere a bit .
Good on you for pulling strings for Boffin, how thoughtful.
I know a few people who love the shopaholic books so shall definitely recommend your friend's book to them.

Your birth stories and family visits are making me grin. When I was in full on labour with DD my beloved eldest sister whom I adore phoned my Mum (birthing partner alongside DH) to say she has just pulled up (uninvited) outside the hospital and could she come up and see me. Ordinarily I would be delighted with a visit from her, BUT I WAS IN LABOUR. Fuelled by pain and G&A I calmly told my Mum to tell he that if she valued her life she would turn tHe ignition back on and get the hell away from Chelsea and Westminster as fast as possible. If she came through that door I was going to kill her. I'm hoping for a homebirth this time and I think I might let her pop over.

Boffin - "Be nice to your children, they choose your nursing home". My Mum has that as a fridge magnet although she reminds me all the time that she will come to live with me.
Love the voodoo website. Don't tell us you are also a qualified high priestess.

Nutty - Bloody hell, your MIL really is a f*cking cow. DIY abortion, unbelievable .

Clairey - my favourite aunt is called Violet. It's a great name.

BB - I love Alara, agree that's the best of the three.

wooh; I just caught up after being gone all day yesterday. Let me just say I love you all becuase you are funny and sweet and intelligent women. It is very much like reading transcripts of conversations between me and my sisters (if one had such transcripts) I won't comment on everything like thorough Puzzle, but I do have a few things...

Boffin-I'm glad to hear the people you've been dealing with will be made aware of their faults

BB it is so of you to offer your expertise to Boffin as she offers hers to us.

You're both very good people. thanks

Frekkles I'm glad you had a better day yesterday and hope things continue to look up for you. I think you forget how strong you must be and when you focus on the strength and crativity you possess you'll find ways to be the person you want to be and raise a child too. Think how fun it will be to raise an independent, thoughtful, creative mind similar to yourself!

Springy- I had to ask DH why people would be making comments on a woman in Uni being preggy; he reminded me that there are not so many varied ages at uni in the UK and that people tend not just come and go from Uni like they do in the States....It is rather outrageous to think of them passing comment. I can tell that your determination will get you passed any hurdles.

I think it's quite right to think you can have a life, baby and a career. We've got friends who have recently had a baby and they are constantly saying to us, oh your life will change, you won't be able to go out and do this that or the other... BUT I happen to know you can do a lot more with babies than many people think, certain more than they think). It's all about being flexible and trying things out and finding what will work with you and the babe. The old adage 'you never know until you try' works with babies and kids just like other things.

By the way I have a lovely neice called Violet Grace and she is the most intelligent thoughtful, although sometimes stubborn little 5 year old there ever was (she wasn't a Violet Rose because my littlest sister's middle name was Rose) I think the name adorable.

Bleuravin, that's exactly the problem - nearly everyone at uni is 18 - 21. I'm only in my first year, but I'm 20, whereas about 85% of people in all of my lectures are 18. There are very few 'mature' students (particularly at my uni) & I'm yet to see another pregnant woman around campus at all & I've definitely been looking. It's exceptionally rare. To be honest, my uni is fairly prestigious (it's certainly no Oxbridge, but it's still quite good) & the sad thing is that I know that pretty much any young woman who found herself pregnant during her time there would automatically assume that it meant an abortion was necessary because, by the nature of people who attend, they have aspirations to be 'successful', etc.

Puzzle, how are you going to cope without chocolate? I've not had any visual disturbances at all, so I can't advise DP was training to be an optician before he moved to Sheffield & keeps asking if straight lines appear to be bent now (they don't), but that's the limit of my experience

Where's Boffin gone? I hope she's found something fun & relatively painless to do...

So yesterday while you gals were going for Guiness record for posts on a single day I was with DH driving up to Doncaster to pick up a bike trailer -Springy we went right passed you I could have waved if I had known you were in Sheffield, though I did say to him don't we know someone in Sheffeild? To which he looked at me strangely and shook his head- After that we drove to Leamington Spa to drop off a kids bed for a friend and pick up the cot for our baby. I got to listen to a lot of 'When you have your baby you're going to do this...' and even more of 'You must have a ... or you'll never survive.' and 'You have to go to a babyshow or you'll never know all the things you really need for your baby.'
To which I kept murmurring politely while quietly seething until I finally manged to pull DH out of the house for the long drive home during which he got to hear me rant about his friends... I have to say I am not very generous towards people telling me things I have to do...I tend to passively rebel against such things... I apolegised to DH later saying I should not 'rag' so much about friends and family over here...

I'm the same about being told what I must or should do. I don't take kindly to it & often cut off my nose to spite my face in proving a point

As for the baby shows, I went to one with my mum in November. It was quite nice as a mother / daughter thing but not very useful at all. I suppose it might have been if I didn't know about MN, but there's far more advice to be had here than any company can provide you with whilst trying to sell you their products.

& as for your DH, just blame it on hormones. It's a Get Out Of Jail Free card that can be applied to any situation at the moment

lol 'get out of jail free' I feel I use it too much lately...

It's a strange out of body experience in some ways to feel yourself getting all hyper and anxious and weepy over things which you wouldn't normally. I called my mom and was talking about it with her and I could hear her smile in her voice, 'you never were a weepy child, head strong sometimes, but not weepy, it must be a bit strange, but rest assured it goes away after awhile and you get back to yourself...'

Have to say I get a bit jealous of you ladies that get to do things with your mothers- well not the bickering things- but the nice stuff- Hopefully DH and baby and I will be well enough to go back home in the Summer...

I went to a babyshow when pregnant with DD. I wasn't too impressed although my mum and I did manage to cadge loads of free huggies. I don't like huggies though so swapped them at Sainsburys for Pampers claiming my Mum had got my order wrong. They gladly exchanged but did look at me a bit funny because there were about 7 packs.