Fab Feb 2009: holy shit, this is it

[chilledmama]

Cause Swampster has a dirty mouth
Wouldn't hear me speaking that way...much
How do we delete threads????

Nobody puts baby in a corner....

I know what you mean about negative associations, but I just think it would take my mind off the general gore fest of being sliced open.

The good news is that I have a friend who is being sliced on the same day in the same hospital, so at least I will have company.

Have been very naughty and banned all annoying relatives from hopsital - it was an absolute circus last time and I hated every minute of it.

Just want time to recover before attempting the reality of having TWO children!

Idontbelieveit-breech CS only higher risk than normal cephalic cs if you are in established labour and recent research suggests that is just because breech babies are generally slightly higher risk. Key seems to be that if anything happens to suggest onset of labour get thee to hospital sharpish!

"I'm feeling comfortably numb", MsLucy?

McDreamy- That's good, at least they have listened to your concerns.

IDBI- I feel like now I know the date I am just worrying about it more! I did say to DH maybe it would hlep if I made a conscious decision NOT to worry anymore but that's easier said than done when you're awake thinking about it at 3am!

Mslucy- DH is going to go and get DD and DSD when DS is here and bring them to the hospital, my mum will be with DD so she will probably come too, then DH wanted his mum and sister to be able to come up that evening, I said I would wait and see how I feel. The last thing I want is a load of visitors when I'm feeling and looking awful.

I had Mozart

MS, you need to learn to allow your mind to go blank and accept the inevitable - Ommmmmmm...

Dont worry Pempe - I think we should come to you for the next meet-up - Or Mamagoose! Whaddya reckon ladies Greece or Spain?

ELCS ladies please dont shit it - it really is rather surreal and relaxing (if that's the right word) but your own music would be a good idea. Just before the took DS out S-Club was on the radio 'Luckily' he was stuck under my ribs so was born to the Kaiser Chiefs instead

I think baby has flipped head up tonight Hoping s/he goes round again by next Wed else I'll be joining you with stinky candles IDBI! (Sorry the ECV didn't work btw but glad it didn't hurt you too much!)

I don't think my mind has ever been blank in it's entire life. I think far, far too much.

I wish I was DH, his mind works like this:

I am hungry, I will eat.
I like football, I will watch it.
I am tired, I will sleep.

HE NEVER WORRIES ABOUT ANYTHING AND I AM SO JEALOUS!

LOL MS - Add

I like cricket I will play it

and

I need to £$%^ I will go to the toilet

and you have my DH's life to a tee!

evening all. I got a call from hospital today and I am now the proud owner of a pelvic support. Lets hope that this works..

That's good news Lardy, lets hope it helps with the pain a bit

Evening all. Ds has been in bed for just over half an hour and is still awake. He is refusing to drink milk before bed so think as of tomoz will have to attempt giving it to him in the mornings instead.
Lots of funny feelings in my special place too, and not of the good kind .
Sorry you're all at the panic stage about your cs's, I'm sure at the time you'll all be fine.

I prefer the ScissorSister version of Comfortably Numb but that's definatley not CS music

When I had DS1 they didn't want to let us have our music - all sorts of excuses from no space (ipod, tiny) to nowhere to plug it in (ipod, fully charged with tiny speakers)... Got in and they were listening to talksport or similar - AS IF I'M GOING TO HAVE MY BABY TO THAT!!!

mumoverseas - yes vodka meetup is the way to go

Evening all...

Elective C-sec ladies - my mates who had emergency/crash sections first time have ALL said the second elective section was a totally different experience - really calm and really positive (though they like you were bricking it beforehand) as you know what's going to happen, you're not in the full throes of labour while trying to get yourself used to the idea of a c-sec etc - and picking your music is great. One of my best friends had the storm troopers theme tune from Star Wars for the birth of DS1 (it was also the music she and her DH walked out to from their wedding)... she went on to have 2 more sections and I think picked slightly more positive tunes for those two!

Lardy - hurrah for fast delivery pelvic support girdles; hope it helps and alleviates the pain. Sorry the ECV didnt work but glad it wasnt painful. Both your sling options look great and great value.

Pempe - may be worth looking into getting your front seat air bag in Mercedes passenger seat turned off anyway (if car seat fits in there that is) as with a 2 door car, putting baby in the back seat is difficult (I know, we had a 2 door mini for the first 2.8 years of DS's life) but doable (provided you dont have a dodgy back) but is horrid if you're driving on your own and baby is screaming in back seat - whereas if they're sat with you in the front and its just the two of you in the car, its much more bearable for some reason... oh, and accidentally sit on your SIL next time she comes out with comments like that

LBB - DS refused milk at bed time from when he stopped breastfeeding at night time (was around 16 months) so we just started giving it to him around 6ish while he had a little bit of Cbeebies before his bath and story time and it worked a treat. In fact, he still has a guzzle of milk from a cup while watching Charlie and Lola nowadays...

ps MsLucy - nice to see you posting! I find sitting on exercise ball helps with the swollen fanjo feeling (which I had terribly after having sex with DH back in December - am NOT doing that again unless am desperate to get Squiglet out...) - alternatively sitting on the sofa eating icecream comes in a good close second

Glad to hear that all the London ladies had a fun meet up today, I'm gutted to have missed it. I think I made a good decision not to come though, I've had a very restful day (after a good night's sleep last night thank god) and am feeling a little bit more human, although still really, really suffering with pain down there. I'm seeing the MW tomorrow so I'm going to ask about pelvis bands and see if there's anything they can do for me.

To whoever it was who did the deed this week - congratulations, I take my hat off to you! I have now managed to officially ban it. I think DH sees me hobbling around and wincing every time I have to get up, or climb stairs etc, and he realises that trying to get his end away would simply be unfair!! Phew, off the hook.

I'm off for my pre-birth bikini wax tomorrow - I feel sorry for the beautician, she has no idea she's going to be waxing a beached whale (who will struggle to get up on the table due to pelvis issues) who hasn't been able to face the waxing table since the beginning of October. She's going to need industrial strength wax and strips to get through my undergrowth! (Sorry - TMI. Lol!!)

MS - yep I too am now honestly terrified by the whole thought. Like you I was so fed up and drugged up by the time it happened last time (and sleep deprived I was almost asleep on the operating table) that I honestly can't remember a lot about it or the day that followed it.

The thought of going in as you say, stone cold sober, terrifies the life out of me. I'm also concerned about picking out music which I love only to find that I forever associate it with the birth.....

So, I'm with you on this one. The only consolation is that the baby comes out after about 10 mins after the op starts so hopefully the excitement (for me I don't know what flavour we're getting so I'm really excited about that bit) will keep us on our toes. You'll have DH up your end (hopefully) - my DH is (thank god) not squeamish and is great support when I'm feeling at my most hysterical/emotional so I know he'll step up to the mark.

I've also spoken to a lot of elective cs mums who have said, like Dinky relates below, that it was a calm positive and almost surreal experience - no-one I've spoken to has said anything else.

The night before ain't gonna be great. I suppose at least when you don't know you're going into labour you don't have that "night before" feeling. I suspect neither of us will have the best nights sleep before the big day !!.....

ha ha swampster - comfortably numb - very good.
was thinking of taking along "Dark side of the moon" and getting them to stick it on - I love all the tracks on it, but I guess "Great Gig in the Sky" is the one I want (lots of weird breathing sounds).

Am also being waxed tomorrow - have not been for ages. I warned the wax lady about my condition so hopefully they won't be too alarmed when they see me.

And hopefully I won't break wind too frequently during my session with the beautician - I am in permanent trump mode.

Evening everyone! It was lovely to meet you all today. LBB you didn't talk too much and you have nothing on me in the rude department (sorry for cutting into your conversation with random comments about buggy boards!)

The cake really was a bit pants, wasn?t it? Last time I was there it was in a different league and I was soooo looking forward to it again today. Must say the chocolate brownie I had at the Tower of London later did help to make up for it.

Swampster, DS said his favourite part of today was sharing your DS?s chocolate cookie and that he was a very kind boy!

MrsY the Doppler I have is branded differently but look identical to this one: cgi.ebay.co.uk/Fetal-Doppler-AngelSounds-Brand-New-Great-Bargain_W0QQitemZ190279221726QQihZ00 9QQcategoryZ87169QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem. It?s always worked perfectly for me though I have replaced the headphones that were supplied with it with some audio ones which seem to improve the sound quality.

The book I mentioned was www.amazon.co.uk/Ina-Mays-Guide-Childbirth-Gaskin/dp/0091924154/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qi d=1232393443&sr=8-1. What I really like about it is that has over 100 pages of really lovely birth stories so it make you feel like you?re not just reading an instruction manual.

Can?t remember who was asking about nursing attire but in 3.5 years I?ve never felt the need to buy anything specifically designed for the purpose. I just started out with a vest top under a normal top. That way you can pull your normal top up and the vest top down over your breasts without revealing your wobbly tummy. Having said that, my friend, who is substantially more well-endowed than me swears by nursing tops from www.mamaway.co.uk

Do we think PinkTulips is pushing that baby out right now? If any one of us could decide when to have her baby and then get on and do it I?m sure it?s her!

Oooo good luck Pink if you are!

nursing attire = scarf/shawl/cardy.
anything you can drape over the baby during feeds does the business - far handier than all these poncey tops with weird flaps on them.

did I really type the words "weird flaps"?

I think, come March, a few of us will have weird flaps...

Herb- they are my feelings exactly. I am going to ask the Nice Drug Man if he can give me a little something so I don't attempt a run for it mid-spinal block.

To be honest, for me nursing attire was pretty much any top I was wearing (just hoicked it up and DS hid my tummy beautifully - one of the benefits of having a chunky long baby ) but I found soft stretchy cotton t-shirts best as DS liked grabbing hold of the material and playing with it while he fed