Due May 2009 - our bellies are getting as big as Santa's

[FiKelly]

It'll be an alternative merry Christmas for us this year ;)

Afternoon ladies,

Back from the scan, and everything looks normal with baby- very cute profile too. And it is definitely a BOY! Was a bit disappointed (didn't want to be outnumbered) but it is probably for the best as DH wasn't looking forward to going through all the teenage girl stuff/anxiety etc twice! It's quite sweet too as my DH is from a family with girl, then boy, then another boy (so we are following the trend). Then also went on to have yet another boy! (not sure i'm up to having more).

Rubysmum- i may not look that old (but i feel it!)- I am 37 on Saturday.

I should also say, although it is early days so fingers crossed this will work out, that my sister, who has been having IVF for a couple of years now, has had her 1st BFP today! She is over the moon (as you would expect) and has an early scan booked for a few weeks time. Just hoping that this is a sticky one.

pulapula congratulations on your boy and happy birthday for sat if I forget to say it again then! I'm 38yrs at the moment and will be 39yrs the day after our LO's due date... really hoping we don't end up with birthdays on the same day as don't fancy spending my birthday in labour! That's great news about your sister and keeping everything crossed it does stick

Congratulations!

I hope my ones got a tinky winky!

lol

Happy Birthdays to all the Capricorns!

Great news FiKelly and Pulapula about your scans! Must be such a relief - can't wait for ours. Great about your sister too, P - hope it works out.

I'm 36 next week... Hope this all goes well and I can be having another baby in a few years... x

Hey great news on the scans all!

Am I the only one not planning to find out... am slowly changing my mind tho as I think I've posted before.

Meant to say too, thanks for all the messages about movement - feeling more reassured now.

runningmonkey, we're not planning to find out either - may change our minds on the day though!

Hi all, i had my scan yesterday. I really wanted to find out but DH didn't. It's our 2nd, we didn't find out with DD but i'm more curious this time. He agreed it's my choice if i wanted to find out but not to tell him. I did find out and now i'm finding it so hard not to say anything. I'm already beginning to regret this, i'm worried i'll slip up!! My SIL is 8 months pg and she's managed it, my brother didn't want to know but she did. I don't think i have the self-control. Has anyone else ever done this? Any tips on keeping 'mum' (pardon the pun!!)?

OOh Chocolatefrog- I would slip up straight away! Last time me and DH knew but told other people that we didn't. None of them suspected we knew - i made sure I used "him" and "her" and "it" interchangably. Guess its a bit different when its your DH and he knows you know!

Are we allowed to know

I've told other people that i didn't find out simply to make life easier. Otherwise people start questioning and i know that i'll get muddled up and let it it slip by accident. It's not like our first child, when we talked about it a lot. This time we don't seem to speak about it as much so maybe that will be my saving grace.

chocolatefrog - Does your DH know that you know? I did this with DD2 (didn't find out with the 1st baby either) - but as I had lots of extra scans with DD2 DH couldn't always be there and so when he wasn't there one day I asked. But didn't tell him or anyone else that I knew (IYSWIM). I must admit for the first few days I was bursting to tell and found it really hard keeping it to myself. But then after a while it's almost as if I forgot that I knew (probably due to lying to everyone by saying I didn't know what it was) - and although I knew she was a girl and loved knowing it wasn't a big deal.

This time it's been slightly different as I found out from the Amnio result phone call and told DH that evening that I knew and did he want to know. (but I only did this because it's the opposite gender to what he was hoping for so I thought I'd deal with the 'disappointment' and shock earlier rather than later). However, we have told everyone we didn't find out and nobody really asks you anything once you say you don't know. I think if you say you do know but aren't telling people would spend the whole time trying to make you spill the beans! Which would be annoying (for them and you).
Anyway, sorry an essay on the subject. BTW I love knowing what I'm having - but then I hate surprises!
Tell us what you're having though..................? Won't tell a soul!

Hi All - wow, lots to catch up with.

I was planning working up to 38 weeks as both DC were 10 days late so I figured there must be a pattern...

BUT went to MW this am and have SPD so very P.O.! Petrified that I'll end up on crutches, with working FT and looking after 2 DC whilst DH works away it's not that easy to "take it easy"

I'm really glad that I found out we are having a boy. Have 2 girls already so it was a bit of a shock that I needed to get my head around because I really wanted another girl. Didn't find out last times but wanted to manage expectations of DC this time around and soooo glad I did. Good news that we don't need to think of yet more girls names. Bad news that everything we own for babies is pink !!

MsG Think that's what we'll end up doing. DH doesn't really want to know, I don't think I could keep it a secret if I found out tho... couldn't even lie well enough about the pregancy to begin with!

pula fingers crossed for your sis, didn't spot that earlier!

Tummum - SNAP!! (2 girls, boy on the way, house full of pink sparkly stuff, ponies and Barbie)! Sorry about you SPD - make sure you see a good physio asap - they can give you a lot of help, excersises etc.

delightedoldbag DH does know that i know. I'm wishing now that i'd lied and said that it's 'legs were crossed' or something. I'm too honest for my own good sometimes. I am hoping that that the initial panic about knowing and not telling him will fade. I'm sure in a few days it will settle and it'll be back to 'baby' or 'it' again and i'll forget. Only 19 more weeks to keep the secret!!!! I wanted to know because i had PND last time and i'm working on the proviso that if i know what it is i can do some bonding before it's born as i'll be able to identify with it a bit more. When DD was born it was all a real shock, i was convinced she was a boy and i did feel detached from her alittle bit in the early days. It wasn't that i wanted a boy and was disappointed, I guess it was all part of the PND. Anyway this time i thought knowing what it is might help. I'm not going to say what it is just in case someone knows me in real life?! Unlikely i know. I am excited i know what it is though!

Tummum,

I feel a bit disappointed still that i'm having a boy. Glad I know though as would have gone through pg still thinking it could be a girl. When we looked to see what gender it was I was so busy staring between the legs for the "three lines" i'd heard about that i didn't notice the willy pointing upwards! DH said this evening he was a bit disappointed too. I feel bad to be disappointed when it looks like baby is perfectly healthy but think its because I was so down after having DD i feel like i missed out on having a little girl and wanted the chance to experience it properly.

I went to mothercare to treat myself to some newborn baby clothes but there wasn't much in the sale and I kept glancing at the girls clothes which seemed more exciting and cute. I'm sure i'll be OK though. I bought a couple of sleepsuits which look massive considering they are 0-3months!

chocoate - I think you're absolutely right - the novelty of knowing will fade and you won't be desperate to tell in a few days. Also I totally agree with your reasoning re:bonding. I do feel that in the last 3 wks since I found out I've started really bonding with him, and although initially we had assumed (and wanted) another girl I was shocked by how thrilled I am it's a boy. (DH has taken longer to get used to it but now seems to be warming to his 'heir' as I jokingly call him!). So I think knowing what you're having should help - it's easier to visualise him/her, sort out a name, make plans, see him/her doing things with you in your head. I love it and I think it can only be a positive thing.

pula - I think prob good you found out now if you were rooting for a girl. So by the time he's born you won't even be able to consider it wouldn't be 'him' IYSWIM.
FWIW I do think we are given our particular children / genders for a reason although maybe it isn't what we think we want at the time (check me out, being all philosophical and stuff ! )

Pula I have found it difficult to admit to myself that I was disappointed when I found out. This LO wasn't planned, so I think that the boy thing has thrown me again as I am not in control of the situation (I'm a control freak!!). I'm sure that I will fall madly in love with him when he arrives, but in the meantime I am trying to stop feeling guilty and start feeling excited.

hi all.
I think it's good to find the sex at the scan to manage your expectations (if that's what you need).
I'm glad we didn't find out with DD1 even though I wanted a boy, I think having the 1st baby, I overlooked the sex! when dd2 came along, though, I was disappointed but obviously have gotten over it by now (dd2 is our little peanut and wouldn't change her for the world).

However, with our 20 wk scan finished, I really wish we'd have found out the sex so, if it is a girl (likely to be), I could mentally prepare myself. but too late unless we want to pay for another scan (we don't). so, i'll prepare as if we are having another girl, that way shouldn't be disappointed (that sounds terrible: 'disappointed'). and if a boy, very happily surprised.

but Tummum and delighted, it's good to know the odds of having a boy after 2 girls isn't that miniscule.

momino - although I know a few people with 3 the same sex I also have several friends and relations who have 2 girls followed by a boy. In fact just heard of another one the other day........so it's not as unusual as the 75% - 80% chance of another one the same seems to suggest to me - but if you do have another girl you know you'll love her to bits - as you say you wouldn't change DD2 for the world. (I must say I would be tempted to change DD2 - not into a boy but into a better behaved, less of a madam!)

Momino- I am one of 3: 2 girls then a boy. Someone I work with had 2 girls then a boy too, although conversely there are a few families I know with 3 or 4 girls. You just never know lol.

Yes, delighted- I definitely wanted to know and would have paid for a private scan to find out. I can start thinking about my little boy now and get excited. DD seems perfectly happy about her baby brother, and when we were told she said " i thought it was going to be a boy!". I hope they don't grow up and gang up on her. DS is already as strong as her and can hold his own when "fighting" for a toy!

Well we will have girl boy girl. Poor ds. Wanted a girl for ds and a boy for no3, but hey there will still only be 3 and a bit years between dd1 and dd2.