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Due April 2009 - Festive bumps explode into crimbo, April mums wait in limbo

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BabyCRIMBOlat · 15/12/2008 19:48

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BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 11:03

Ha ha Springy - see we all know the truth (hee hee ). I didn't say anything actually and really regret it - rude!! and it was a really good friend / colleague!!

Yes, DH can stay 24/7 if he wants to although there is no bed, they have reclinable oversized chairs on the wards or Sofa's in the private rooms that they can stay in (DH will be staying and bringing in food and refreshments!!!)

I am so jealous of the snow!! I want snow!!!

Claire, none of us really have anything to say so join in, the chat tends to emerge in to something, even if it starts with what we are eating on toast hmmm toast...!

BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 11:04

And springy, we wouldn't have it any other way xxxx

gingersarah · 06/01/2009 11:10

ante natal classes - are you entitled to time off work for those, even NCT ones? I thought that was just your standard health check / MW appointments. Damn! I booked mine on Saturdays (and am really regretting it now I am finding work so knackering and wishing I had weekends off instead of somewhere to go every Saturday morning). (how the hell am I going to cope with a baby?) (PANIC PANIC PANIC)

for some reason, perhaps just being completely in denial, I am not worried about birth (yet). Yes, a couple of times I have thought about worst case scenarios for a minute or two, but it all seems so remote and one way or another can't last for ever. I am much more anxious about looking after the baby and being exhausted all the time.

NuttyTaff, so pleased about your good GP appointment. Mine was a fobbing off exercise.

BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 11:14

Oh ginersarah - what did they say?

Yes you are entitled to time off for antenatal (all I think but not 100% sure) but you need to check with your employer how much notice you have to give etc

I am really not panicking about the birth - just see it as something I have to do, your body will get through it some how!!! baby on the other hand is a different matter but I am just getting through it by thinking that there is no such thing as a 'natural mother' and you learn by doing so it will be hard but I will get there in the end...

gingersarah · 06/01/2009 11:29

This stuff is easy to find if you look for it - I should have done so before!

www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/HavingABaby/HealthInPregnancy/DG_171338

So yes, you are entitled to time off work for ante natal classes.

The dr didn't know what to do about the wheezing, has given me a prescription for an inhaler but didn't seem confident about throwing random drugs at the problem while I am pg and neither am I. I don't think that is a solution as I will not be using it unless I am blue and suffocating, and I don't feel any closer to finding out what the problem is.
I didn't ask her about some other things that I had meant to because I started to feel that I had been there too long wasting time, so now I feel a bit stupid.

good news is that lo is all good and I love to hear his little heartbeat!

I had no idea about the glucose thing at 28 weeks. I would have just turned up after brekkie as normal, no one told me any different.

I am so useless at knowing what I am supposed to do! I have managed this all wrong

BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 11:50

I had breakfast before mine and they didn't say anything - I think unless they tell you otherwise you just go as normal! I was never told about the no eating thing so might just be something they do at certain hospitals.

Ginger really don't worry, your LO is doing well so you are obviously not doing anything wrong!

BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 11:51

Can you get another general appointment to run through the other things? or my dr takes email concerns sometimes so you could phone up and see if you could email / chat on the phone rather than taking up an appointment slot?

KittyCatIsGettingFat · 06/01/2009 11:57

Gingersarah - I feel the same way - I've never done this before so really can't be expected to know what to do all the time, yet I feel soooo guilty for NOT being perfect... my Virgo traits coming to the fore I think...

On a happier note, I've just won the cutest glider crib on EBay for 20 pounds! I love that website...

BoffinMum · 06/01/2009 12:31

Hey AuldAlliance, that sounds interesting. I assumed jobs would be similar in both countries, but I am wondering now.

Bleuravin · 06/01/2009 12:37

Glucose tests- Dh had one not long back and they were upset he had a mint on the way in and had brushed his teeth when he got up in the morning. Anything you eat would in theory ruin the test...

Never done this before- I so feel the same way about certain things. I often get a bit 'unreasonable' and start raving at poor Dh because people ask me all sorts of questions about things I know nothing about and act appalled that I haven't made up my mind yet... but usually this is because while seemingly common practice in Britain I've never even heard of it (took me forever to figure out what a TENS machine was...I kept thinking people were saying tense machine and I thought'now why in the world would I want a tense machine?!' and I couldn't find any information about it online because I was looking up tense machine rather than TENS...

gingersarah · 06/01/2009 12:52

Ha ha KittyCat, I am virgo too!

Hi BB, I will see if I can do that.

Feeling very tired and competence-challenged today. I am not really coping with being back to work and not able to breathe very well and so I am just getting into a moany spiral. Stop it! Lovely day! go for a walk!

BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 13:00

Or eat chocolate!!! That always helps!!!

I just can't seem to function today - just spent 45 minutes doing a research paper and realised I was doing the wrong bloody thing so have to start again!!!

Oh Bleuraven, don't worry, I live in the UK and still didn't know what all these things were until I found MN!! The experts on here will soon have you sorted!!

Bleuravin · 06/01/2009 13:17

I'm having a hard time with motivation/concentration/functioning today too. I was sure with the beautiful weather I would feel all energized and manage to get things done. But all I'm doing is moving mess from one part of the house to the other (that is while I'm not typing on here, facebook, or email...).
I wonder if chocolate would help me? I'll have to find the stash DH has somewhere in the kitchen... ;)

NuttyTaff · 06/01/2009 13:34

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BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 13:34

If you walk to the shop to buy chocolate - you technically burn most of it off before you eat it!!

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AuldAlliance · 06/01/2009 13:44

Boffin, I think it's organised differently.

A general overview...

The impression we have is that French lecturers/professors teach more hours than others in Europe (about 10 a week), but do have tenure which has become rarer in other countries.
Pay is lower than in the UK (it's 1,800 euros/month for a lecturer at the start of their career, with very slow and small rises; after 20 years, you can earn 3,000 euros). Many lecturers can't afford to buy property in Paris or my region.
Sabbaticals are very, very, rare, so research gets done during term-time or over the summer, but since summer is usually taken up with marking and with preparing next year's new courses, time is hard to find.

One reason I'm interested is that our status (which is defined by the gvmt as we are still civil servants, and our independence is protected by the Constitution, theoretically) is under reform. Presidents of Unis are being given much more power. In particular, that of deciding how many hours everyone teaches; the 10h/week "can" be increased, and no figures have been given as to the extent of said increase, if it is decided that a lecturer/Prof is not doing valid or sufficient research. But in my field (Arts&Humanities) validity/sufficiency is hard to define. The Ministry bods wanted to base criteria on the type of journal articles were published in, but that means condemning many small, yet crucial journals to death because they don't fit the mould (international editorial board, etc.). And the criteria were science-based, the idea that one might spend a long time producing a critical edition of a literary text hadn't crossed the bureaucrats minds so they were planning to make a monography count the same as an article. The idea that scientists regularly co-publish and thus appear to have produced 5 or 6 articles in one year, which is impossible in literature, had apparently not been considered either.

The general impression we get is that those in charge think academics doss about doing sweet FA and need a kick in the pants. The reform states that a lecturer/prof has two missions, teaching and research. It simply ignores the increasing hours of admin we all do and which have piled up as each year there is a new reform and we have to completely revise all our courses and our degree structures.Admin is an obligation, but will not be taken into account in assessing why someone hasn't managed to publish lots of stunning articles one year. The trap being that if your teaching load does get increased, you'll have no chance of ever finding time for research. I am Director of Studies to 45 1st Year students, responsible for 3 Erasmus exchanges, co-ordinator of 4 courses and general co-ordinator of one major teaching programme, as well as being an elected member of several Councils and Commissions. None of that is taken into account when considering someone's "performance" or "profitability".

To cap it all, the gvmt funding for unis has just been announced (often e-mailed to Uni Presidents at 11pm on a Friday late in December, with injunctions to vote the budgets by the following Tuesday), and almost every Uni in the country has been ordered to slash posts. So it seems obvious that in fact nearly everyone's teaching hours will necessarily have to be increased, to cover for the job cuts.

That's the nub of it, really. I'd be curious to know how it all compares to RAE-oriented, selection-based UK universities. (Yep, forgot to mention that we are not allowed to select students; anyone with any baccalauréat, including a vocational one in car maintenance or technology, can study anything they like in any Uni of their choice (except medicine). The first year is therefore full of people who wanted to do other, selective higher ed courses but were refused, so go to Uni as a default choice. There are 45 people per tutorial group, many of whom have no desire to be there and are only students because it provides them with Social Security and health insurance. Our pass rate is unsurprisingly low in 1st Year, for which we are also being slated and criticised.)

That was a bit long; if you are willing to contact me off-thread and spare the others here the finer points of academe in the UK, I'll give you an e-mail address.

Bleuravin · 06/01/2009 13:47

oooh found the stash (or a stash?) and it has all my favorites in it ...Reeses pbcups and chocolate buttons and lion bars... He must have known I'd go looking ;) Sometimes they (DH/DP) can be so sweet.

gingersarah · 06/01/2009 13:53

Boffinmum, random allergy question: can ordinary cotton / quilted mattress protectors help with allergies or do they have to be the plastic ones sold on allergy sites?
thank you

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purlease · 06/01/2009 14:06

turns out my appointment isn't until next week - mushy brain kicking in already. Sounds like not all hospitals do it. It is to test for diabetes in pregnancy. I phoned hospital and found out that I need to drink 280 mls of Lucozade about half an hour before I go in for my appointment. if any of you do have this I'm sure you'll be told in advance.

mrsfossil · 06/01/2009 14:15

Hi all hope ypu all had a nice crimbo - lots of turkey with lashings of gaviscon

Don't know if i am behind the times and you ladies have already seen this but
just seen this link on another thread sounds good for all mums due on or after 6 april, (apparently still applies if baby comes early) well it is a one off payment of £190 from hm rev and customs. It doesn't mater how much your income is and won't affect benefits campaigns.direct.gov.uk/money4mum2be/

As i am self employed and recieved my tax bill along with my crimbo cards its nice to get something back from this penny pinching government.

BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 14:22

Nutty, do you have shares in Thorntons - you always have yummy chocolates!!!!

mrsfossil · 06/01/2009 14:23

Also ladies what are people thoughts on anti natel classes. I am definately going to look around the hospital but i am not sure if i should go to any of the local classes as a already have a ds. I wondering if the mw will be able to answer all my questions. It might be nice to go along but if its lots of 1st time mums i might feel a bit of a fraud.

BoffinMum · 06/01/2009 14:26

AuldAlliance, send me your email address and I'll respond to that. I think we're a bit better off over here in academic terms but we are also experiencing change. I am boffinmum at hotmail dot co dot uk.

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