Due April 2009 - Saucy dreams, squirting boobs and spacehoppers. Whatever will the April mums get up to next?"

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About the bf'ing - I bf DS straight away for about an hour, and then the lil bugger wouldn't feed again from me at all. We had to express and syringe milk down him. Was under a lot of pressure to bf before I went home, we lied in the end, and I bf as soon as I got home. DS just hadn't been hungry. I ended up bf'ing for 14 months, and will probably do the same again this time round too. There is pressure, there is (some) support, but you end up doing what's best for you anyway. It used to really hurt for about 3 seconds when he first latched on, for about 6 months, then I just used to get an ache. Oh - and the leaky boobs - really not looking forward to all that again - and the bf'ing bras that give you a monoboob.

gingersarah - burble away tis a beautiful thing

monoboob love it lol

Sarah, you made me laugh with your enthusiasm about 38mm femurs - I was the same. I sat with a ruler looking at the exact lengths & practically crying with adoration

BabyCRIMBOlat, I'm glad of it too - to be honest, if I'd had to answer the questionnaire for him I'd probably have made less of an issue of things than he has - it seems that more's going on in his head than I'm even aware of, which is worrying but also good that he knows that it needs fixing.

& I'm a bit funny about breastfeeding too. I know this is going to sound really strange (& I'd never admit it anywhere but here, in our fluffy thread) but I'm really worried that it'll be almost sexual or something... I have quite sensitive nipples (yet more ing!) & can't imagine anyone's mouth on them in a non-sexual way. I feel really freaky for even thinking that, though... I'm sure it'll be perfectly fine when it comes to it, right? [hopeful]

ah snowy you'll be fine and when your bf'ing you wont see it as anything sexual at all just as a naturally beautiful thing, everything changes instantly when you see your baby

That's what I'm hoping. I just can't imagine it at all & get a bit panicky at the idea of sexual intimacy with my son! I'm fairly sure that it won't seem sexual when it's happening, but I'm having a bit of a first-timer worry

Oh dear. I was talking & copying the emoticon thing from the bottom right without thinking - I meant , not , obviously. I'm so dim sometimes

in fact as soon as labour starts all thoughts you had during pregnancy fly out the window and nothing matters anymore apart from the big arrival and then you just work with your instinct from there on in

in fact as soon as labour starts all thoughts you had during pregnancy fly out the window and nothing matters anymore apart from the big arrival and then you just work with your instinct from there on in

sorry double post x

oooooohhhh good idea, i never thought ot copy and paste!!! get fed up with typing the emoticons too much faster

top tip, thanks snowy

See I think it will be more weird bf'ing a girl! So strange!

In fact the whole thing is pretty weird (I know it is perfectly natural) but doesn't feel right to have someone sucking on them!!! Sure it will be fine once it is here like you said SNS!!

As for the leaky boobs - I am there already!!

My boobs aren't leaky yet, but getting to be a tiny bit crusty. Hope nobody's eating as they read that

nakedness - i agree that when its happening you just really couldnt care less. I stayed in a stretchy dress thing until the pushing stage but wanted to have skin to skin straight after the birth so took it off and it was fine - couldnt have cared less - and pooed probably more than i wanted to (curry to bring on labour didnt help - sorry way tmi - but actually wasnt bad at all - midwives are so discreet.

snowy - great that dp has taken the first step.

babycrimbolat - i was leaky at 20 weeks last time but not so far this time round - still make sure i have breast pads in my bag though just in case.

agree with snowy that it gets instinctive and you just go with it.

for me, bf was the most natural feeling thing (after a shaky start) but i know a lot of people cringe at the thought. i think once you try it, and if you have at least some support, it just feels totally right to be feeding your child that way. the same thing about a girl crossed my mind - but i have no idea why - dont see why it would be any different from ds, so probably if we have a girl it wont cross my mnd again but it is strange how your mind works before the birth.

DP just thanked me for pushing him to go to the doctor - he said that he'd have never gone without me pretty much making him, but that he's beginning to realise how much of a problem he has & that he'd have just ended up completely alone & feeling even more worthless, etc. I said that it wasn't exactly a selfless act on my part, but he said that he's still grateful. I'm cautiously very hopeful.

thats great snowy - maybe its the same as with addictions and things that once you can admit you have a problem, its a major part of changing things.

That's what I'm hoping. I think that the questionnaire surprised him as well. I know that he wants to be a good father more than anything in the world, so I hope that that will be enough of an incentive when things get tough.

snowy - how cool i'm so pleased, thats a great start

969 posts girlies we need another thread title sharpish, any ideas?

I liked your earlier ones - can we culminate them somehow...

Festive bumps explode into crimbo, April mums wait in limbo...

or something along those lines - don't think we will need to worry about the festive title being out of date as the rate we chat will be full by New Year!!

Snowy, I don't know much about violence but had a lot of friends with problems that needed help and really this admission stage is such a huge step forward I feel proud for you! yay for your DP! That being said, still a long way to go and tell your DP not to worry, any decent doctor will use medication only as a last resort or as a temporary measure!

I like this working from home malarky, finished dead on 5.30 and have just showered and moisturised and now back on the sofa mning!! DH wont know what to do - two days in a row and everything. Now if only I could do it everyday!

Well ladies, the NHS got it wrong as it would appear that this baby is, in fact a girl! I had a scan done at babybond and the sonographer said that it would be fine to go out and buy everything pink.

I think this is very funny as EVERYONE said it would be a boy (including my 'psychic' friend...) except dd2. LOL

Wow Electra that's three girls isn't it? Bit scary tho that they got it wrong - how definite were the NHS?

DD2 obviously has secret powers!

Yes - it will be three girls! To be fair the NHS weren't 100% because the baby had its heel up but she was fairly sure. I felt I really had to know as I have no boy stuff. So I think it was worth paying to find out otherwise I would not have been able to buy accurately!

I am one of three girls and while I would have loved a brother now I am older, I really do like being one of three girls (feel bad for my dad tho with a house of 4 women!!!)

At least you have less to buy! Are you pleased?

What was the scan like?was it a 3D one?

Hi Babybolat - it wasn't 3D, just a basic gender scan. Yes, I would have been happy with a boy or a girl but I really wanted to know so that I can prepare myself. It will be easier for me to find a name that I like for a girl. I am very glad I paid now because I wanted to be sure!!