Due April 2009 - Saucy dreams, squirting boobs and spacehoppers. Whatever will the April mums get up to next?"

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I am going to have a private scan to establish gender because I have two girls and I NEED to know if it's a boy as I have no boy stuff and really I will struggle with names.

Still, at least this time it will be MY choice alone (last time remember dh sitting on the sofa while I asked him his opinion on all my ideas, which he systematically rejected one by one. And when I asked for his suggestions on the matter he didn't have any - grrrrrrrrr)

Electra I am very jealous . I wish my DH didn't have any opinion on names!

Springy I know how you feel about sex. We can chat if you like it's miserable and misunderstood.

Hope you are all feeling good ladies..I am going for Guinness and hula hoops this evening ;)

LuLu - could you not rip out girls names and keep that half of the book seperate and tippex out the boys names (you really hate) from the book and then at least your dh only has a vetted selection to choose from??

Guinness & hoola-hoops? Sounds like a blast. I'm mainlining hot lemon & honey and herbal tea.

My cold has been getting progressively worse all day and now it hurts when I breath and REALLY hurts when I cough.

Anyone found anything you can safely take? (I suppose I could take a swig of TixyLix?)

Ah that would be a good idea NuttyTaff - but the book I currently have is

a) a library book - they don't approve of Tippex at the library
b) has boy and girl names mixed up so he keeps on finding girls names and deciding they would work better for a boy (last pregnancy he was dead-set on Evelyn for a boy - this time at least he has that on his girl's list).

I have one too but the Guinness helps.

Ice cream and lots of id the best medication I've found. Can take hot paracetomol powders of course.

I'm feeling quite tipsy on my half a pint of Guinness !!

have you tried some hot/warm lemon and hunny?
soothes and is yummy?

sorry have not read post properly you are already doing the lem and hun thing

am so thick to day please excuse me!!

Yes, lots of hot lemon & honey. It is good, but I would like something stronger. I might take one paracetamol before bed.

Mathsmummy - what's 'id'?

Preghead!

yup

Night everyone. Am armed with box of tissues and hot lemon & honey so I'm going to take myself off to bed and try to sleep this lurgy off.

sigh - once upon a time I was able to stay awake past 9pm. What's happened to me?

Apparently I'm a cunt & there's nothing left worth fighting for - when I point out that we're supposed to love each other & we're having a baby together, apparently that's not 'worth it'. & when I get upset about him insulting me & the baby like that, he says that he's sick of making an effort, because 'look where it's got him'. I ask where exactly he thinks that is & he just storms out.

I'm sure it'll settle down, but GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

Oh springy - hang in there. It's very hard for blokes to get their heads around the concept of impending parenthood. Sounds like he's being a brat, but just hold tight and try not to let it get to you.

springy - ((hugs)) my dh was a bit like that when i was pg with dd hun (going out getting ratfaced and not coming home until the next day, wouldnt even look at mothercare, read pg related books that i shoved under his nose, didnt want to touch my belly etc )try not to let it get you down blokes are big kids really and it takes something like making a new life to realise they now have to stand up be a man and be responsible for themselves and their "family" for them its really scary they tend to think about what they are going to miss out on and not whay they will gain ( which is unconditional love from a very small person, and a huge sense of purpous) its hard for them to imagine because its all new and also they feel very helpless as its happening everyday for the woman and nothing really changes for them until the birth comes along.

hopefully he will come round he just needs to sort out his head and weigh up the feelings he has

chin up chickaboo xxx

that said i do think he's acting like a bit of a pillock

One of my mates married her childhood sweetheart (who personally I think is a bit of a tosser, but there you go), and proceeded to get pregnant. He was in total denial for the whole pregnancy, did not even refer to the baby, pretended she wasn't pregnant at all times, etc etc.

However a few days before the birth he took himself off and bought a Brio train set as a present for the baby. It had obviously taken 9 months for him to process the information man-style, but once he was ready, he was ready. They went on to have another and they have been married in total for about 12 years now.

This also happened with some neighbours of ours as well. Total denial until the actual birth, then it was found the baby had undiagnosed Down's and a bad heart condition, and died after a couple of days (this was about 15 years ago before such good scanning techniques). He proved to be solid as a rock after that and they went on to have other children as well.

I think the best thing to do with a man processing Big Information is to leave him alone in his little cave to work through it, and get on with trying to be busy and happy yourself. Eventually said man will most likely emerge into the daylight and start being nice and supportive from that point on.

Morning all

Oh Springy - what a horrible thing to say - I hope he has woken up this morning and said sorry - how are you feeling?

Hope things have sorted themselves out!

Got my first bout of indigestion this morning (ow!!) but seemed to be fixed by a hot chocolate and mini panetonne from Costa - yum!!!

Wonder if any of you can help - I went to the baby show at Excel a couple of months ago and found these cloth nappies with poppers for sizing that you put an extra pad in at night time for extra absorbency. The people that were selling them started the company after they had twins and wanted to save money or something like that. Anyway I took the leaflet but cannot find it at all and want to order these after Christmas hmmmm.... Anyone know of a similar company or nappies?

I will venture out of our warm fuzzy thread if not but you know how that scares me....

will have a scour of el netto for you now bb :-)

clothnappymum.co.uk do them
friendlybaby.co.uk
cuddlebabes.co.uk

all do one size cloth nappies with poppers for adjusting

twinkleontheweb.co.uk
babykind.co.uk

Good morning, everyone.

Special hello to Springy and Frekkles because things sound really rough. I can't offer advice to either of you, just want to say that I hope it helps to talk on here, I know I value it a lot. Look after yourselves.

I was very excited on Sunday night because it felt like LO was doing a very serious workout. The thing is, now I am actually a little more convinced (s)he is in there, I find it irresistably hilarious that there is a person living in my belly and it makes me laugh at random. This makes me look mental, and I don't care.

Boffin, sorry to hear you aren't so well. you sound so cheerful, though. very shaming...
I am suffering badly from WWWAAAAAA states and GGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRR states, mainly about work related things. I made a resolution to try and channel these felings into the appropriate situations (code for: stop behaving like a spoilt brat to DP and make things hard for the people who deserve it, instead) which resulted in me shouting at my boss who told me to shut up and get lost. Oh well.

Oh Nutty - what would I do without you! DH even asks about you now as to whether you have come up with any more names! bless!

GingerSarah - classic - I too have made a resolution to be nicer to DH but then this morning I was feeling horrible and he was snoring and making weird mouth noises 20 minutes before the alarm went off so it's fair to say I am not doing too well on that one!!!

I love it when bump goes all kung fu panda but wish I could get him/her to perform when I need them too like when I am bored or struggling to get through work!