Due June 2009 - Fattening Up For Christmas!

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Bumpsadaisie 28th May
CoteDAzur 28 May by dates, 1 June by scan (37, dd 3)
swottybetty 30th May (31. DD 07/03/08)
llynnnn 1st June
Myneaux 1st June
Bigcar 1st June (37, dd 18, dd 9, ds 8, dd3 2)
joyfuleyes 2nd June
marmotti 2nd June
gems27 4th June
Mrs McJnr DC2 4 June 2009 (34, ds 8mths)
Ineedmorechocolatenow 5th June 2009 (31,ds 2)
summerbird 6th June (35, 1st one)
daisy5 6th June (41, dd 2)
LittleSarah 6th June (26, dd 4yrs)
thisisyesterday 6th June (ds1 3.5, ds2 1)
DreamyDorrie 7th June (30, dd 19/11/07)
Yoshimi 7th June (ds 18nths)
Aligard 8th June (one dd)
Leaky 10th June (39, ds1 5, ds2 2.5)
DawnoftheDead DC1 11th June 2009
Champagneforlunch 11th June (27, DD 4yrs)
NickelSodium 12th June
travellinglight 13th June
Sparkle73 13th June
Froggy16 13th June (27 ds 6 yrs dd 4yrs)
Nemoandthefishes 14th June [30 DS 5[+2days],DD1 2.9yrs,dd2 21mths]
Irishmama3 17th of June (36) [dd 9 ds6 and dd2
chocciedooby 18th June (37m ds1 4, ds2 3)
onehitwonder 18th June (41 DD1 3)
snowwombat 21st June (31)
TTCnumber3maybe (36) DC3 22 June 2009 (DS 4.5 and DS almost 3)
StrawberrySam 22nd June
Diege, 22nd June (38, dd1 7, dd2 5.8, dd3 2.8)
Heebeejeebee - 22nd June (36)
BobsWendy DC3 26 June 2009
TheLittleMermaid DC2 26 June 2009
Tee2072 DC1 26 June 2009 (39)
Sweetie34 - 29th June (37)
Wilsonmummy 28 2dd edd 30th june NotSoRampantRabbit
tessofthedurbervilles
boundoriginals
helpivegottogivebirth
Lionstar
Li lacpink
mel1981
flynn1984

Oh ffs, leaky, what's your sister like? People can be so horrible and judgemental about a situation they haven't experienced. My friend with 2ds was exactly the same. Before ttc she and her dh discussed it to make sure they were going for a 3rd child rather than trying for a daughter - but even so she hoped for a girl and had a little weep at the scan just like you did, but then got ready to welcome another lovely boy. He'll be starting school next year and the three of them together are just a delight. She's not going to say to him - oh yes, and I cried at your scan because you weren't a girl. And actually, even if she did say that, it would be in the context of - but I'm very glad I had you and wouldn't have you any other way.

My sis was desperate for a boy and her friend, due at the same time, wanted a girl but they got them the other way round and they still sometimes offer to swap, to the horror of all the grandparents.

Hi everyone.Havent been on for a while as I pulled a muscle in my back and have been laid up for a while.. But it wasnt all doom and gloom as my just of med school GP thought, as I had a tiny bleed too that its caused by out of womb pregnancy and sent me for an early scan and I got to see my baby!! It was worth pain and agony I went throu to get to the hospital..Got nuchal next in December and Im dreading the results..DD was 1 in 150 and we ended up having amnio..Well, we will see how it goes..
This time around I would like to know the sex.Its not a mayor deal but if nothing else Ill know what to do with mountains of baby girls clothes that Iw been keeping. People can be funny about it but I find it that they are much worse if you chose to go for an amnio.I had some bad comments and it really angered me at the time.
tee-I have a friend who suffered from severe depression in pregnancy, so much so that they considered termination..She was really, really in a bad way.She was put on anti depressants and that helped.Once the baby was born she was fine and even her DD is a very difficult baby and needs special care as she has cleft palete my friend copes better than most people would in that situation.I dont know if any of this is any consolation but you'll get better and you will enjoy your baby..O(thats supposed to be hug)

I 'fessed up Chocciedooby. I then blurted out to the rest of the class (about 7 people). I figured that if anything goes wrong then I'll just not go back! But it nice to get all the congratulations. Everybody thinks it's lovely that i'm singing to my baby ,but I checked up when I got home and apparently although the ears are formed by 11 weeks, they can't hear yet!

I am feeling a bit of a numpty after eating mushroom pate on Saturday night...just saw the NHS website which says ALL pates shd be avoided, INCLUDING vegetable ones. So let me be a lesson to you all...(though I'm sure your SIL would scoff, June, I'm definitely airing on the side of caution!)

Pregancy is so paranoia-inducing, though. I stood in some dog poo this morning then googled Toxoplasma obsessively before spraying my boots with dettol.

Hope you're hanging on in there Tee

leaky - I'm glad you appreciated knowing my 'statistics', as I actually regretted putting them up afterwards as it worried me that we all might start comparing numbers which could be upsetting.

I really looked into it hard this time - weighing up if based on my age, if I should go straight to CVS. Trying to decide if some factors were more important than others etc. These are the things that occurred to me as the most important:
If the baby has a strong nasal bone, healthy organs and a reasonable nuchal width - then sonographers will tell you 'this is a healthy baby'. Obviously there will always be some teeny tiny miniscule number of exceptions but they can just tell it looks good. In these cases it doesn't really matter what number (risk factor) they give you. Because they put in a bunch of variables like age and weight - that are heavily averaged across the country and may bring your personal number down - that may actually be completely irrelevant to your personal pregnancy - which looks terrific.
As the sonographer is really happy with my scan, I cannot find any justification for a CVS. I can see why other people might - but personally I just can't feel it's right for me given how things went yesterday and given what I saw with my own eyes.
I used to work in market research so worked closely with statistics - and 'averaging' across a large population can really distract from some important issues: for instance it doesn't take into account two very important variables: if you have been taking folic acid and if you are healthy (irrespective of weight).
If you were told you had a one in ten chance of getting a job, you would think it was a long shot. But if you were told you had one chance in ten that you had a baby with chromosomal issues we would be beside ourselves with worry. It's natural of course, and probably not the best comparison - but it's just that the chance of all being fine do far far outweigh the chance of there being a problem.
Babies that aren't well have a habit of becoming our miscarriages, which is so sad but it does mean the ones we have are the healthy ones.

This is just my personal interpretation. I'm no medical whizz. I wouldn't impose my thoughts on others - but I hoped that it might over some peaceful food for thought for anyone stressing out over the 'numbers' game - I think it's been in the media a lot over the past couple of years and has really put unnecessary pressure on us older mums.

ermintrude - out of all the friends I know who've had babies, the two who drank the most (1-2 glasses, 2-3 times a week) - have the brightest children!!! So go on - finish that bottle

tee - you are the most important thing at the moment, so glad to hear you are not working when you are not up to it. Hope you are pampering yourself. Favourite movies, bubbly baths and long leisurely walks - do they help?

looouise - am living in the same clothes that hide the bump for almost a month now. When I get to 13 weeks and decide to announce it and put on the fitting clothes, I think people are going to be quite surprised how big it is!! Glad to hear you got someone to tell your news to - it is fun isn't it. And I wonder - even if your little one can't hear the singing, maybe she can 'feel the vibes'?

Afternoon all!

tee I hope your feeling better today and it's good your taking some time off work to get better, never suffered depression but cared for my mum when she had severe depression last year so I know how tough it can be, thoughts are with you

I hope everyone else with scan this week have a great experience.
Still can't get the image of my 9+4 feteus stretching its wee tiny arms and legs it was amazing
Well nausia is back (excuse spelling) thats what I get for rushing out the door without breakfast or vitamins...I'll learn my lesson someday!
I hope everyone else is keeping well and people suffering symptoms badly I feel so bad for you I know how it feels!

Take Care x

HI Leaky

Just to give you my experience with testing...I had a Nuchal scan this morning which I paid for privately as they only do the blood tests here on the NHS.

At the scan the sonographer told me he could see a good nasal bone, good heartbeat etc and my odds went down from 1 in 420 which is the average for my age (I will be 32 when baby is born) to 1 in 6000.

I was originally going to have the combined blood and scan (whopping cost of £200) but the midwife told me that I could just have the scan and if the results were ambiguous to then consider further testing.

I feel so much better now and even though I know that there is still a chance the results could be wrong it is definately reassuring.

Of course....they cant test for everything so there are no guarentees !

hi there, was wondering if you guys could cheer me up a bit. sorry my first post has to be on a negative note..
i'm 11 and a bit weeks have my 1st scan tomorrow which i should be really excited about. but i just have a really bad feeling about it. i have been in bed all week with an ear infection, on painkillers and antibiotics. i think it's spread as my whole head feels like it's gong to explode and i just can't imagine how a tiny little foetus could survive in my body when i feel so awful. i know i'm being irrational but every time i think of the scan i burst into tears imagining the bad news...
am really pleased for all of you who've had good scans so far.

hi Innat. try not to worry, our little ones are so well protected and can withstand such a lot. in my last pregnancy i had the most horrendous stomach bug (think caused by food poisoning) at 8 weeks pg. I didnt eat for a week and imagined the worst, but my dd is and was absolutely fine and totally unaffected!! look after yourself as much as you can, and try to rest. please let us know how you get on tomorrow

myneaux - congrats on your great scan, you must be very relieved

flynn - i keep looking at my scan pic and thinking 'awww'!!

innat try not to worry. Your baby is well protected in there, all cozy and floating along!

Let us know how your scan goes!

thanks llynnnn i'm usually quite a rational person! must be quite hormonal today. also being stuck at home not well enough to do anything constructive just leaves me a lot of time to think and dwell on things.

Innat
I think it's natural to be worried about the scan, especially when you're feeling rough.
Mine is 13 days away and I've really tried to keep positive and stay away from any books/articles/postings about mcs as it also makes me cry.

Most likely though, you'll be absolutely fine and you get to meet your little one :D

Put your favorite dvd on or start your online xmas shopping to keep your mind occupied?
It's silly but I play online poker on facebook with my brother to cheer me up

Good luck for tomorrow!

Innat It's natural to feel apprehensive. I feel equally nervous, tho I haven't had to cope with nasty bugs. Poor old you. Please don't worry tho. I took loads of anti-biotics while pregnant with DS as I had UTIs throughout (Sorry if TMI!) He is absolutely fine so he wasn't affected at all.

Have had a manic day and haven't sat down all day.... looking forward to some time once DS is in bed.....

Thanks for your kind words Tee, Ineed and June2009.
I feel a bit better about it all now, especially as dh and dd are home. I think because i was by myself all day i just got myself a bit worked up and into a state. I know there are people out there with a lot worse problem than mine - I think all those hormones don't help to keep things in perspective.
At least i don't have to wait much longer now. Will let you know how it goes. Then i hope i can be more positive

Innat Good luck with your scan today, I'm sure everything will be ok x

Innat good luck with the scan, I'm sure you'll be fine.

daisy I am also showing a lot, especially compared to the first time. First time around I got to 20 weeks before anyone noticed, I'm going to be lucky to make it to 12 weeks and hide it this time. I should have done some sit-ups in between pregnancies lol!

Hope everyone is feeling ok, my nausea is back so I'm feeling luverly! Off to a ceilidh tonight, which should take my mind off things. 9 weeks today!

June2009 your scan is the same day as mine
It seems so far away but I am praying it will all be ok. I am quite confused about all the numbering when given your results on a nuchal scan and I am finding it a bit scary. I do feel heathier now than I was when I had DS2 at 34 but the age factor is obviously going to bring the number down.I exercise more now, eat healthier, don't drink very much at all and am abstaining at the moment (can't stand the smell of it!, I don't smoke and I weigh less now than I did with DS2. DS2 was also born 16 months after DS1 and I believe a smaller age gap can increase risk. This time around I will have a 4 yr age gap! All in all my result will be very interesting.
Good Luck with your scan today Innat. Your baby is well protected inside you so try not to worry about your illness. When I was 9 wks with DS2 I fell down a man hole (long story) in the dark and DS2 is a perfectly healthy little boy

Hello ladies hope you are all well. My scan went really well yesterday the baby looks perfect and is low risk for all the nasties that you can look for at this stage, it is also a girl ? I just knew that it was!!! They?ve changed me due date again, to 30/5 so now a whole week earlier than I thought, shall be reminding them of that when they want to induce me!! Please can I stay here with you? I don?t believe for a minute that she?ll arrive in May! Now I?ll catch up?.

MrsMcJ yayayya for little girls! And of course you can stay here with us. 30th May is practically June!

I'm still feeling blurghy and depressed. Told my boss I had no idea when I'd be back. And then had insomnia on top of that last night. Totally sucked.

MrsMcJnr Congrats on your scan! Just wondering how can they tell you so early what your having, does this mean in 3 weeks I could find out what I'm having?

Just booked my 4d scan in Livingston for 13th March when I'll be 25+6 it's my DH's birthday so thought it would be a good present for him (also my birthday the day before the scan)

MrsMcJnr - Yay, that's great news!

My scan is on Monday and we will also find out the sex. I can't wait!

HIya

Got back from my scan, saw a little bubs and a heart beat which was such a relief. They didn't really check for anything else, but we did get a wave too. I feel a lot less ill today too. The antibiotics are starting to work I think - phew.

My due date was only changed by 1 day to 8th June (my dh's birthday) he said he always wanted a poo machine for his birthday!

I'm amazed that some of you have been able to find out the sex already. It's just incredible the technology that is around.

Tee I'm sorry you're still feeling crap. I hope you feel better soon.

Nearly 12 weeks so am hoping my ms will disappear soon (although it never really went at all with dd but here's hoping!)

Thanks again for all your support x

Good news about your scans MrsMcJr and Innat. Good luck with yours on Mon, too Cote. Grrr, I haven't got a date for mine yet . am v impatient because I want to tell people but am waiting till then. The number of excuses I'm having to make for looking like death and avoiding social gatherings; it's getting ridiculous.

Okay, someone needs to explain to me what a 4d scan is. The fourth dimension is time, so is it a more accurate dating scan or something? Or does it go into the 4th dimension to see into the future and tell you what the baby will be when it grows up?

And Tee, let's not forget the 5th dimension (cue wibbly screen and wah-wah music): SPACE

4d scans are done in the Tardis, surely?

glad you're well enough to crack jokes, girl, that's the spirit.

but i'd like to know what the 4th dimension is too, please...