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Dec 08: but that doesn't mean you can touch my bump!

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rosmerta · 03/09/2008 15:18

New thread with bisou's title suggestion

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hattyyellow · 17/09/2008 14:26

Turnip am making myself laugh at my own hormonal soppiness! I asked the sweet old supermarket delivery van to bring the shopping into the kitchen earlier and he smiled and was so sweet to me going on about "but of course in your condition love, we must look after our pregnant ladies" and I narrowly avoided sobbing at just how sweet that was. Good grief! At least I have gone from being ratty Hatty to sobbing Hatty.

I'm getting towards the waddling stage fast. Getting out of bed is getting tricky and I am getting skilful with using my toes to pick up my clothes as I get undressed rather than trying to bend down!

hattyyellow · 17/09/2008 14:26

Meant delivery man not van!

TheInvisibleHand · 17/09/2008 14:27

hatty - that's such a lovely way to look at it! I guess I've been pretty ambivalent about a NYE due date, partly thinking about the practicalities of being in hospital when they are in skeleton/"festive" mode, but you are quite right, it would make the LO's birthday and every New Year after rather special. My own (and DH's) birthday are in mid January, which is always a bit of an anti-climax as by then everyone has had enough of the festive season, so maybe on time has plenty going for it!

Bump is definitely more bump like - suddenly its obvious and I don't have to explain myself, which until a few weeks ago I always felt I did, as people seem to hesitate over "is she or isn't she?". My bump tends to be a bit spread out rather than neat and bump like, so it can be tricky.

Beans33 · 17/09/2008 14:30

There's a girl at yoga who claims to be 37 weeks pregnant. I'd SWEAR she's about 17 weeks - or definitely how I was at 17 weeks - absolutely tiny. I wonder if she's pregorexic or whatever it's called. And another one who is 16 weeks and she was doing some stretching yesterday and her stomach was completely flat and I could see her hip bones. I haven't seen my hip bones since we got married and at 16 weeks, I was definitely bulging!!!

poisondwarf · 17/09/2008 14:43

chutney Happy Birthday!

rosmerta sorry to hear about your grandma.

Re big bellies, I've just been home for lunch and for the first time this pregnancy had a bit of difficulty eating from a plate on my knee - I'd forgotten about that. It's starting to get a bit of a pain lacing up my trainers as well. Oh and as for waddling, I've been doing it since the first trimester (only when I'm v tired though).

Going away for a few days - not sure if I'll be online at any point but will catch up when I get back.

Enjoy the meet-up on Friday, those of you who are going.

Turniphead1 · 17/09/2008 14:56

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emmanbump · 17/09/2008 14:56

I def have a noticable bump now. Girl at work hasn't seen me for 3 and half weeks and said "OMG look how much you have grown". Even been offered a seat a few times on the tube now which is fab!

Just met a friend for lunch she is 30 weeks and said she is getting very tired and heavy now. Poor girl!!! She still looks fab though. Lucky thing.

LadyThompson · 17/09/2008 15:10

Phew, tons to catch up on! I love it. Sorry if I miss anyone:

Rosmerta, I am so sorry about your grandmother.

Chutney, Happy Birthday old thing! But I bet you aren't old at all. I am 36 so I'm pretty old. And my sister, who shares your birthday, is 42 today!

Effie, I wish I could knit. I can only do raggedy plain. For all my talk about embroidering a stocking, I am yet to order it.

Beans - re: your Christmas situation, there is nothing worse than 'well-meaning hassle' (which is what I call it) because it's hard to respond to. Be as firm as you can whilst remaining polite. It can be tricky. As for your cab driver...you were a lot more polite than I would've been. I'd have blown a gasket. The next person who even so much as whispers about my cs is going to feel the full force of my wrath!

ZJ - your SIL is being EXTREMELY unreasonable and a bit odd. You don't need this extra pressure over something over which you have no control!

Summer - that is a VERY tricky situation. I feel sorry for your MIL but I feel concerned that you will be under pressure. Hmmm. Hopefully your DH can be superunderstanding.

Turnip and Hatty - I hope my daughter ends up like yours! As for nativity plays, can you believe I get a lump in my throat at the THOUGHT of my DD being in one. I am so sentimental about Christmas anyway and the thought of watching my own little child in a play...I think I am going to be an embarrassing mother.

Olipop - Minipop is such a CUTE name. I love it!

PD - I keep spilling my dinner on my bump. I need to break open the bibs I think...

Had a bit of a row with DP (over the phone again, naturally) about (oddly enough) alcohol consumption. Like I said, I drink 3-4 glasses of wine a week - maximum, sometimes less, and he tells me he is 'worried' about this. He thinks I shouldn't drink anything I know the govt guidelines are NO units, but NICE (National Institute of Clinical Excellence) say that as long as you don't go above 1.5 units per day it should be ok, and I am well under that. I'm off on hols for a fortnight on Saturday and I don't want booze to become an issue whilst we are away...And he drinks quite a lot so it's extra hard.

Beans33 · 17/09/2008 15:16

God, poor you LT - DPs really need to learn to be understanding. I can't see anything wrong with the amount you're drinking. My GP told me I could have a couple of glasses a day if I wanted to and I would if I still liked the taste! I have no qualms. I do think DPs/DHs can be a little ununderstanding about this - I don't think they realise how much we have to put up with. Perhaps tell him that it would only be fair for you to stop drinking entirely if he did the same, otherwise it's like rubbing your face in it. If he's not willing to do that, then TBH, why should yoU?

LadyThompson · 17/09/2008 15:20

I think hell would freeze over the day he gave up drinking, Beans But what annoys me is that my obstetrician has told me that my alcohol intake is fine. She also said stress is worse than a little drop of booze, so long as you are sensible (and I AM: I drink heaps of water to compensate and always make sure I am having a proper big meal too if ever I have a glass of wine). It's all too irritating for words.

Beans33 · 17/09/2008 15:26

Hmmm. I would just tell him that you've been told that and lump it. He'll get used to it. Don't stress about it, it's not worth it. Not like you're necking a bottle a day or anything like that!! I think he's being quite unreasonable. Try not to get stressed, though. As you say, it's not good for you. He'll calm down. the other thing you could do is send him a link explaining it all to him.

SummerLightning · 17/09/2008 15:36

LT - grrrrr is all i can say.
I have yet to find a health professional who thought that a few glasses a week was a problem. My midwife didn't even ask me how much I was drinking just as I written on some form I filled in that I did drink alcohol, she asked if I was cutting down, and I said yes, and she left it at that.

If my other half did that I would just keep saying I was going to bed every time he was just getting into his drinking in the evening! Is it just the two of you going on holiday? Where are you going?

artichokes · 17/09/2008 15:36

Hiya

I am soooo tired today that I can barely type. I am struggling to stay awake at my desk and just want to go home. DD woke up at 3.30am and refused to go to sleep again until 5.30am. I think she was discombobulated by her first days back with the nanny after six weeks on holiday with either DH or I - she was so clingy and sad. Everytime I left her room she would wail "Mummy left me, Mummy gone". It was heartbreaking. She ended up in bed with me which never works as I do not sleep a wink.

Jam - the nanny managed to laugh about the alcohol story once she understood the details. I was a bit relieved as she is not big on jokes...

LadyT - isn't it your DP who was also being funny about staying with you in the hospital post CS? I have no patience whatsoever at the moment so if DH criticsed my care of his unborn child, or put his needs post birth above mine, I would get quite cross. Tell him what your consultant has advised and point at that a bigger risk to you and your DD is feeling unsupported after a major op...

Rosmerta - I am really sorry to hearabout your gran.

Chutney - Happy Birthday!

Beans - bloody cab drivers.

ZoeJ - Bloody relatives being inconsiderate about crimbo.

Re christmas generally - Luckily DH's parents only live five miles away so we have said we will go to theirs for the day and be waited on hand and foot. If I am literally 48 hours post-partum (I could not still be pregnant) then we may have to rethink but we may go anyway as DD will get to play with her cousins and see all the festivities even if I have to lie flat on my back upstairs. God I hope this baby comes on time (or even a little early) I really want DD to have a good christmas.

Turnip - How cute is your DD? I love it when little ones show empathy. Currently DD lvoes nursing me when I am feeling sick or tired. She puts a pillow under my head and then turns on a very sorried face and goes "OK Mummy? feeling better? need a hug?" I just love her more than I can say when she is like that.

SummerLightning · 17/09/2008 15:40

I think it would spoil the pleasure for me of drinking though, if I knew my DH disapproved, which is what I would find so annoying. I just can't be doing with people disapproving - I am sure there have been a few people disapproving of me (especially when I have had a pint glass in my hand that has actually been shandy but they didn't realise!) but fortunately I haven't noticed anything obvious.

emmanbump · 17/09/2008 15:40

LT sorry to hear DP being a nag. It seems a bit unfair that he has been ok up until now and now started nagging. Sounds like he has been listening to advice from someone else.

Can't see what the problem is with the odd vino or two.

I haven't had a drink at all since been pg and DH didn't want me to drink either. So we agreed that if I got pregnant I wouldn't drink. He to be fair has only been drunk once since i've been pregnant and doesn't drink very often so that it's not so bad for me.

If your DP wants you to obstain he should do the same!!!!

zoejeanne · 17/09/2008 15:40

ladyt I hate being apart from my DH, as our arguments only ever happen over the phone, somehow phone conversations seem to cause more problems than they solve. If he brings it up again, maybe mention that the government guidelines for men are 3-4 units a day and any more is classed as a binge - that's less than a couple of pints, so I guess he's no angel on drinking either, if govt guidelines are the last rule on it.

And on the subject of bellies, 2 people at the swimming pool asked me last week when the baby is due - so I guess I look officially pregnant and not just fat anymore too!

zoejeanne · 17/09/2008 15:47

ooh, cross posted with loads of you there - but forgot to add to PD to have a fab time

LadyThompson · 17/09/2008 15:51

Thanks everyone...sometimes it's good to have a moan.

YES, Arti, he IS the very same man who doesn't think he can spend the first night with us in hospital! Bloody barristers. Everything is so black and white to them. Sometimes it's like being in the dock! He's wonderful really but he does have these blind spots. And what a gruelling night you have had - poor you...

Summer - yes, just us, we're driving through France, stopping at lots of lovely places on the way; through Switzerland, staying at Lucerne for a night and then the Matterhorn; then into Italy, winding up on the Italian Riviera. Then back again, via Lyon and finally, the Champagne region! We were getting the Eurotunnel but cos of the fire we've had to book a ferry.

Thanks Emma. He's a bit of a worrier at the end of the day. I admire your immense forbearance though!

And ZJ, yeah, the phone's a pain, but I am actually going over to see him tonight so I wonder whether I dare bring it all up again...

Kimberly1979 · 17/09/2008 16:20

Oh my gosh there seems to be a lot going on with everyone!

Beans that is absolutely hilarious about the cab driver.

Emma I think we are due on the same day... 29/12 and we are also trying to figure out what to do about Christmas. Doesn't seem like we should go through all the hassle if the little one decides to make an early debut. My Mom and the in-laws are coming in from the States around that time as well. Should prove to be an interesting time!!

Oh... and I've added my name to the ever growing list.

MrsMattie due 28/11 DC#2
LadyOfTheFlowers due 30/11 DC#3
badkitty due 01/12 DC#1
twinkle183 due 01/12 DC#3
pwcbird due 01/12 DC#2
rosmerta due 02/12 DC#2 - Homebirth/West Mid, W London
RawChocolate due 02/12 DC#3
Flumpybumpy due 02/12 DC#3, (GIRL!)
theyoungvisiter due 03/12 DC#2
Modernlove due 03/12 DC#1
daisydora/cc21 due 03/12 DC#2
DonnyLass due 03/12 DC#2, (BOY!)
LadyThompson due 03/12 DD#1 - St Mary's, London, (GIRL!)
Doozie due 3/12 DC#1
goneundergroundtillfamilyknow due 04/12 DC#3
Verso due 04/12 DC#2 - St Helier, London
Hanni22anni due 04/12 DC#2
BrightShinySun due 05/12 DC#2
Nolda due 05/12 DC#2 Princess Anne, Southampton, (BOY!)
mibbes due 06/12 DC#1 - Stirling Royal
majormoo due 06/12 DC#3 - Royal Sussex, Brighton
pixsix due 07/12 DC#1 - St Thomas', London
elenamaesmummy due 07/12 DC#2
jenduck due 07/12 DC#1
Beans33 due 07/12 DC#1 - St Thomas', London
Ebs26 due 07/12 DC#1 - Darent Valley, Kent, (GIRL!)
poisondwarf due 08/12 DC#2 - Homerton, London, (GIRL!)
toratora due 08/12 DC#3
Mina30 due 08/12 DC#2
lal07 due 08/12 DC#2 - St Thomas', London (GIRL!)
jumpjockey due 08/12 DC#1
JezzaJ9 due 08/12/08 - Hope, Manchester
JamInMyWellies due 09/12 DC#2 - St Johns, Chelmsford
Natalie537 due 09/12 DC#2, (GIRL!)
ChutneyMary due 10/12 DC#3
Artichokes due 10/12 DC#2, (GIRL!)
hiccymapops due 11/12 DC#2
Webbi due 11/12 DC#1
Bisou due 12/12 DC#1
fishnchips due 12/12 DC#3
Jackstini due 12/12 DC#2
kayzisexpecting due 12/12 DC#2
Alliebongo due 12/12 DC#3 - West Suffolk
KutilPutil due 13/12 DC#2
cococat due 14/12 DC#1
pootleflump due 14/12 DC#2
Katie3677 due 14/12 DC#2
monkeydops due 15/12 DC#2
Veggiemummy due 15/12 DC#2 - Homebirth, Derby, (BOY!)
bunnysgirl due 16/12 DC#2
chinchi due 17/12 DC#2 - Calderdale Royal, Halifax
Purple79 due 17/12 DC#1 - St Thomas', London, (GIRL!)
Kmp1 due 17/12 DC#1 - Queen Charlottes, London (BOY!)
IceCube due 18/12 DC#1 - Homebirth, Cheshire
snorris due 18/12 DC#5, (GIRL!)
SummerLightning due 18/12 DC#1 - Addenbrookes, Cambridge, (BOY!)
moaningminnie2020 due 20/12 DC#2
reban due 20/12 DC#4
hotmama due 21/12 DC#3
RhinestoneCowgirl/MaeWest due 21/12 DC#2 - Homebirth, Bristol
abbymeg due 21/12 DC#2 - St James, Leeds, (BOY!)
waitinggirl due 21/12 DC#1 - Whittington, London
preggiejane due 21/12 DC#1
georgiepig due 22/12 DC#2
NineUnlikelyTales due 22/12 DC#2
hattyyellow due 22/12 DC#3 (GIRL?)
Indith due 24/12 DC#2
Turniphead1 due 24/12 DC#3 - St John & Elizabeth's, N London
zoejeanne due 24/12 DC#1 - Scarborough
HollyMiranda due 24/12 DC#1 - Chelsea & Westminster
Missmama due 25/12 DC#3 - Birmingham Heartlands
DisenchantedPlus Bump due 25/12 DC#3
kitkat9 due 25/12 DC#3
Annagt due 25/12 DC#1
strikey due 25/12 DC#2
GettingBiggerBird due 25/12 DC's#2&3 - Homerton, London (GIRL & BOY!)
purplepansy due 25/12 DC#3
PinguRocks due 25/12 DC#1 - St Thomas', London
Lowrib due 25/12 DC#1 - Homerton, London
Jollybear due 26/12 DC#1
tm2 due 26/12 DC#1
GordontheGopher due 26/12 DC#2
Twiga/okaythen due 26/12 DC#3
LitterBug due 26/12 DC#3
Crazycatlady due 26/12 DC#1 - Homebirth/St Thomas', London
Olipop due 27/12 DC#2 - West Middlesex, London
simmo14 due 27/12 DC#2, (GIRL!)
rowergirl due 27/12 DC#2
feb due 28/12 DC#2
emmanbump due 29/12Kimberly1979 due 29/12 - St. John's and Lizzies (BOY!)
babblington due 29/12 DC#3
EffiePerine due 30/12 DC#2 - Homerton, London (BOY!)
march29 due 31/12 DC#2
TheInvisibleHand due 31/12 DC#2 - Royal Free, London

Beans33 · 17/09/2008 16:28

Well, that time of day has come when I just hit a brick wall. I think I'm going to have to pack up my computer for the day.

LT - I'd hang on before discussing with you DP tonight. Just give yourself a night off arguing and chill out with him and remind him how amazing you are. Let him feel your little beast kicking away and that should convince him that all is well in the land of womb!!! And just make yourself smile with "Gates of Life" and opening up like a rosebud!! haahaa!

I hope you manage to keep your chin up and maybe wait til you're on holiday to bring it up again as might escalate before then.

Big love to you and chin up.

xx

Veggiemummy · 17/09/2008 16:33

wow you ladies have been busy.

most have said what i waanted to say to Beans cab driver and her christmas organising family.

ZJ i concur with what everyone has said about your SIL but would add that your offspring is not a play thing for her spoilt brat and if your darling is born in time there is also the issue of overstimulation, when babies are little all they want is to be close to their mummy, fed or asleep, they don't want to be handed around to people who to them are strangers and will quite possibly poke or annoy them, so even if any of your lovely babies have arrived in time for these demanding families they won't want to be up for all this christmas stuff either. Make my words if you get invovled wth all this Crimbo lark your babies will be screaming constantly and all these demanding relatives will then be telling you what you are doing 'wrong'.

emmanbump · 17/09/2008 16:34

Kimberly I've just looked at your profile and saw that you live in Leytonstone. (i'm not a stalker honest) I live in Epping. Yes we are due the same day. Understand your Mum and in-laws wanting to visit when the baby is due. Should be nice to have some extra hands to help you out and meet your new arrival.

emmanbump · 17/09/2008 16:34

Kimberly I've just looked at your profile and saw that you live in Leytonstone. (i'm not a stalker honest) I live in Epping. Yes we are due the same day. Understand your Mum and in-laws wanting to visit when the baby is due. Should be nice to have some extra hands to help you out and meet your new arrival.

Olipop · 17/09/2008 16:40

Wow - I have done my catching up! I'll try to remember everything I wanted to add!!!

Welcome to the new girls: Mybumpsaboy, kimberly1979 and Melissa72!!

LadyT - sorry your DP is being difficult. I have had the odd glass here or there and even had two big glasses of red one night after a row with DH...felt guilty but much better! Oh and well done on the test!

Baby positioning - I had a BellyBag last time and it was so comfy (it's worked its way round various preggy friends). Ordered and came very quickly.

Maternity Coat - I have just bought a beautiful coat from Hennes for 19.99!!! It's raspberry coloured and will be perfect with a bump!

Slings - I am a bit of a sling novice but when they are a bit bigger a 'hippychick' seat is fantastic.

Wow - think I've covered most things...sorry if I have missed anything!

Veggiemummy · 17/09/2008 16:41

oh and the alcohol thing these bloody govt guidelines annoy me, is MEN assuming that women couldn't possible do something as immense as nurturing a human life within them without their help, the only studies ever done on alcohol intake and pregnancy have been on women who drank 5+ units a week and it showed only that their babies showed signs of irritability at 1yr. I think the irritability might have had more to do with being studies for a whole year rather than their mothers drinking!!!!! its the same as that study they did on exercise and breast feeding where they got a bunch of women to BF then do 30mins execise then express and feed their babies with a eye dropper and recorded that none of the babies liked the milk therefore the exercise must have changed the taste of the milk, not that they didnt like drinking from a bleeding eye dropper!!! i know if i had of tried to feed DS from an eye dropper he would have ranted in baby language at me.