Dec 08: but that doesn't mean you can touch my bump!

[rosmerta]

New thread with bisou's title suggestion

happy birthday for tomorrow chutney are you doing anything special? Old is the new young.

you have just made me snort my mac n cheese at those analogies.

Happy Birthday for tom chutters.

oh arti how did you get on with your nanny today did she come in talking about AA?

chutney: goats cheese fine if it's cooked, so I imagine in pasta it would be OK (and v tasty)

LadyT: what are you doing still at work ? I hope they let you out soon. DS was a few days early and I was sure he was going to be late, as both my sister's babies were way overdue (as was I). Then again, I also thought he would be a nice placid baby as DH and I both slept through most of our first two years (ha!). Maybe the genes will kcik in this time round (ponders going overdue versus sleeping baby).

Have finally got round to picking up my knitting again and started on a jumper for the baby. Did a nice stripy cardiagan for DS which was v useful, so must get some more poncy wool. I also do a good line in ridiculous hats for those all-important embarassing photos. Love knitting baby stuff as it's so small, a normal jumper takes me at least a year!

oh and happy birthday for tomorrow

wow effie puts my muffins to shame

Rosemerta sorry to hear about your nan on meet up thread. will be thinking of you.

hilarious Veggie
Happy B'day for tomorrow Chutney!

good news on the drinking front - i've been having one or 2 small glasses a week recently

chutney happy Bday for tomorrow and yes next week's meet up is happening. Victoria (again) - probably Ask... there's a thread somewhere about. I'll check next Weds and then book a table for the Friday if a few of us are going.

LOVE these analogies, btw. You lot have made me chuckle!

Thanks veggie, I'm just waiting to hear when the funeral will be.

I've read both the IMG books, do like them but can make me giggle with their language! There was a thread on MN a while back wondering if the women in them were stoned when giving birth!

chutney happy birthday

Happy birthday Chutney! Rosmerta so sorry to hear about your gran - hope you are okay .

Veggie laughing my head off with the melbourne cup version! It really reminds me of our time in NZ - straight talking people!

Effie very impressed at your knitting!

Thanks so much again all for all the support and kind words. DH is frantically looking for new work as going from 2 incomes to half an income is going to seriously knacker our finances. Am talking to our accountant today to find out what benefits/credits we could get on a worse case scenario of him not getting any other work for a while. At least it gives him more time to spend helping his parents out as well now they can't drive as well as having extra time with us.

Hello!

I'm lapsing again in my posting habits but ds still asleep so shall make a brave attempt to catch up.

Morning all, and happy birthday to chutney

As usual, you've started my day off with a chuckle with all the talk of the 'gates of life' and 'rosebuds' - childbirth all sounds so calm and serene, I can't wait

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHUTNEY

I'm feeling slight family overload today. DH's sister (who has a 9 month old) is suggesting that we all head to their parent's place the weekend before Xmas as we're all going our own way for the day (his parents are coming to mine, which will be nice). I'm a bit hesitant because if the bambino HAS arrived, then our maternity nurse only leaves on the Saturday and if it hasn't arrived, then I'll be being induced that weekend anyway. Plus, even if it has arrived, I'm not sure I'll want to do loads of travelling so soon afterwards.

They're such a lovely family and I'm very lucky to have them, but I do wish his sister had thought back to when she had her baby and the first couple of weeks afterwards and how she really didn't want to do anything at all (I remember it clearly). I'm now feeling a bit pressured about it and I don't want to. I know DH will want to go and I'll feel bad about it. But it's tough really, if I'm not up to it. I have asked him to tell them that it's a nice idea in theory, but please can they be flexible on it as even if the nipper comes bang on time, it'll still be only 2 weeks since I had it, so everything will be tentative for a while! Gosh, why do I let myself worry about these things so much?

Feeling a bit peeved about it in a bratty kind of way. Just lack of any thought about or situation etc. I just don't know what to expect and don't want to feel any pressure around that time to have to do anything. Would rather it was all just about me and DH and the new beastie, without having to think about anything else!! Am I being really unreasonable? (probably!)

Hi Melissa72, I live in Lymington and will be having my baby (second DC) at the Princess Anne (due on 5 Dec). I think we are the only ones in the group from the South Coast but I could be wrong.

Sorry Beans missed your post, no you are not being unreasonable!!!! I agree with the nice in theory but see how you go response. Do they live close by?

Hi Nolda - They live about an hour and a half out of London, so not a million miles away, but just far enough for it to be a bit exhausting to do two journeys that week - also an hour down to Kent to my parents for Christmas. It just all seems a little bit much at the moment. Sure everyone will just have to wait and see.

beans I don't think you're being unreasonable either - and surely the family will understand, with a little prompting back to their own children? And has this invite come from his parents, or is it is sister inviting you all to their house? Maybe speak to them?

My SIL is also putting a bit of pressure about Xmas - but in a different way. They come down every year to stay with the in laws, and she's already told my nephew that he'll have a little cousin when they come at Christmas - bearing in mind I'm not due til Xmas eve then it's quite likely he won't have a cousin at Xmas, but when I pointed this out I got told 'well I'll have to have had it or it could ruin his Xmas'. Both of hers were 2 weeks late, so I'll be keeping my legs crossed for as long as possible, just to pee her off!!

Morning,

Beans I would say its a tentative maybe and that although you weould love to spend some time with them understandably you will have just had or about to be induced. So plans will not be set in stone. Give them the whole I will do my best but not sure if I will be up to it.

Rosmerta so sorry to hear about your gran much love to you and your family.

28wk app today and DS's MMR just before thats going to make it a nice calming experience, might invest in some choccie buttons as a bit of a treat for DS.

Ooh and in relation to random things about giving birth and stupid analogies when we had DS the dads at our NCT class came up with the very helpful "It's good pain' for when in labour! Honestly you should have seen us all jump on them and tell them not to be so stupid and if any of them said that during labour we were aall going to come round and personaly show them what "good pain' was.

Oh my GOD, I forgot to write on here as well... I got a taxi home last night as was running late for yoga and the cab driver was asking me if I was having a natural birth. I said yes, but if I needed it, I'd definitely have an epidural. And he said (and I quote) "oh, that's not a natural birth, that's a coward's option". To which I replied "I don't think any man can tell a woman that they are a coward when they have a baby. I'd like to see you push a watermelon out of your arsehole and then tell me having an epidural is cowardly". I then turned off the intercom and read my book the rest of the way home. I'm usually quite friendly to cab drivers. Not yesterday!

zj - was your SIL joking??!!!! That's appalling! At least mine is just a bit thoughtless, yours just sounds a bit mean!