Due April 2009 - Time to dance the light scantastic.....

[LittleMyDancing]

New thread as the old one was full!

No, my sister has two kids and a respectable husband in the eyes of the church and the law.
I think they will be happy, I just need to get over this mental block.
DP is teasing me about it - I tell him I am not telling anyone tell it's born, and then only the people I have to!

babybolat - i cannot believe they were like this with a first baby. I remember the excitement of doing that first test and getting a positive. f course its much more exciting for you, but you'd think they'd be pleased for you. Maybe they just don't understnd what a huge thing it is.

gingersarah - "mom, dad we have some great news, you're going to be grandparents!!/or we're having a baby"
make it sound exciting and show your excitement about it. I'm sure they'll be thrilled. Do they know you were trying or even want kids?

I think they'll be really pleased, come on at 37 you have the right to have a baby without being married!

ginger - i agree with diddle - a lot of the time when you tell people things its the way you say the news that can influence their reaction so if youy show you are delighted and excited, that will rub off on them, but if you look embarrassed - they will think there is maybe something to be embarrassed about (which obviously there's not).

not that i know anything about psychology but have heard that sort of thing at training things.

Thankyou Babybolat, Diddle, Brettgirl and Conkertree - good advice, I will go for it soon. Maybe do my sis first as she will be easier and will tell me not to worry and to stop being so stupid. you lot are v. good at the pep talks, thank you!

I have been reading the "funniest things about giving birth" thread and that might have been a mistake - it can all get pretty extreme in the delivery room then...? Oh well plenty of time to worry about that!

Great to hear from you all who have had good scans and results. My tiny one was pretty still but it was great to see him / her - just what I needed. no statistical results yet but the heartbeat alone means a lot, don't you think?

Heartbeat means loads. Baby could have been asleep - I don't think they move all the time. Mine wasn't moving as much as some people describe he/she just jumped a couple of times and put hand up towards the camera. That was quite scary because it made the hand look enormous!

Good morning

I haven't been posting as have been a bit paranoid with coming and going symptoms. I have been lurking and enjoying peoples posts, although saddened to read some. I have my 12 week scan this afternoon, please send me your positive vibes. Glad to see so many people have had great scans already. It will be wonderful when we are all through the first trimester and can relax and start looking glossy and rounded.

Good luck with your scan Puzzle.

Babybolat - yes, it was a private scan and worth every single penny! Although it makes me mad they don't do these things on the NHS.

Conker- this is my third too. My mum, sis and few best mates were really excited, but inlaws don't even know yet, and we have no intention of telling them as they don't bother with the grandkids they already have, and all my family know but hardly any have phoned up to say congrats. I think they all just expected it. DS's are REALLY excited so that makes up for it!

13 weeks today (by nuchal scan) and 12 weeks tomorrow by dating scan, 13 weeks by dates, not sure what to go by now!

Good luck puzzle, I'm sure everything will be fine - let us know later. I think everyone's scared of MMC at 12 week scan but the fact is that the vast majority of people see a little person jumping around.

Babybolat, Just a quick thought re your unexcited friend - is it possible that she has been trying, unsuccessfully, for a baby?People often don't tell their nearest and dearest about fertility issues, but it can have a HUGE effect on the way they react to other people's good new.
On the other hand, if she's a big drinking, party girl with not even a bf, then I think she was a bit mean (or hungover!?)

Surprise, I second the vale of a private scan. In my las pregnancy they picked up issues with my uterine blood flow and resulting growth restriction(potentially life threatening for the baby) doing tests that the NHS don't bother with.

Bubba- in my first pg I had severe PE, from 27 weeks. Apparently the scan I had this time checks the blood flow through the placenta which can show signs that pre-eclampsia will rear it's ugly head. So, to see that everything was okay, was at the least very reassuring. If only I had had that on the NHS with my second pg, I wouldn't have spent the whole nine months worrying (i didn't have it second time).

babybolat i have had the same with some of my friends. a kind of yes thats great but it was bound to happen. kind of you've been married a year so we were expecting it. no realisation at all of the nerves and worry that go into it, wondering whether you'll be able to conceive, total joy when you do the test etc.
i felt let down... and had to physically remind some that i was pregnant... as in ask me some questions, or just vaguely acknowledge it!
not sure who said it, but people who are trying themsleves and are having issues are not the most receptive to pregnancy news. someone actually said 'that's so annoying' on hearing about us. (was reported to me rather than said to my face).
so tra la la. as long as you are happy!

Morning everyone and hope you're all well. I have very sad news...I started bleeding yesterday and today a scan confirmed a missed miscarriage . Although I was prepared for the worst, it's still a shock.

I wish you all healthy pregnancies and healthy babies in the spring next year. Good luck to you all.

Hi all thanks for all your thoughts - I think most of you are right.

To be fair one of them called me last night and was much more excited, the other one, I think you may have hit the nail on the head Bubbaluv - Not necessarily that she is trying but I think she definitely wanted to be the first one to have the baby (it didn't go down very well that we got married before her) she is a bit of a princess but lovely all the same!!!

mizzannie, that is exactly how I thought, I know it is a million times more excited for me but I was expecting a little giddiness!!! I CANNOT believe someone said that to you tho (even behind your back) - what a witch!

Surprisenumber3 - I was going to have a private scan at about 30 weeks when the baby is nearly all grown up! - do you think it is better to go earlier?

oooh the decisions

Someone gave me a baby present (booties and hat) at the weekend and it really freaked me out - is very sweet but refuse to have it in my house just incase!!!

Oh Stork I am so very very sorry - are you Ok? (that is such a stupid question!).

Take care and look after yourself.

Stork,
Sorry to hear your sad news. Pregnancy and baby making have become such commercial, public, pressured events. Everyone expects a normal pregnancy and a happy outcome and we don't appreciate what a delicate process it is until this happens. My first baby died at 24 weeks and I am pregnant with my second. Sal, and others, I had a twelve week scan yesterday; a heartbeat but a very still baby. Needless to say I have been pretty tearful since, despite reassurances from everyone. Your posts made me feel a bit better as I realised it wasn't just me who didn't see a jumping baby, and my fears about lack of movement are magnified because of last time.
Just wanted you to know there are a few of us who had a bit of a inactive disappointing scan. x x x

Stork ? sorry to hear your news. Sending lots of good wishes and thoughts over the ether.

I have to admit....last week after I had seen baby at the 12 week scan, I bought baby a little hat and gloves newborn set from mothercare at the weekend...

I know that it is still early days but I am refusing not to enjoy as this is probably going to be my last pregnancy.

It makes it all much more real as well...

Just enjoy is what I say!

Stork... I am so sorry to hear your news.. do take care of yourself.

Dungungirl, I really want to buy bits, I keep seeing things that I just fall in love with but think I am going to wait until 20 weeks and then start purchasing! It's the only thing that makes me want to find out if it's a boy or a girl! Although I am going to be strong!

Stork - so sorry to hear your news, lots of love and hugs.

Juliette- in my scan my baby was asleep some of time, try not to worry too much (although I know that is probably impossible).

Babybolat - there are pros of having a private scan at any time! I wanted one now for reassurance but if money was no object I would definitely love another one at 30 or so weeks in 4D! Just a case of personal preference I think!

Hi Ladies, I don't think I've posted in ages, sorry!

Stork - so sorry to hear the news.

My baby was sleepy at the scan too. Then the sickness and tiredness wore off and I started to worry. Luckily m/wife found the heartbeat yesterday. Sonographer told me coke is a good thing to drink before the scan as it really gets the babies moving. I don't really like it but am definately going to have some before the 20wk scan.

I don't have an excuse to buy anything all I need is a new changing mat and boring things like nappies. Have tons of stuff from DS. I'm sure I'll find an excuse to buy a few things, afterall DS was a summer baby! (the summer of the floods mind)

I'm 16wks now and started to (I think) feel some throbbing movement but nothing very definate yet. I remember heels poking out towards the end of my last pg and people at work seeing my tummy move beneath my clothes - that was great, freaked out so many people!

Stork - so sorry to hear your news. I hope you will give yourself lots and lots and lots of tlc and take care.

surprisenumber3 - How do you get private scans? Can you get them as one off things with the rest of the care all NHS? Do you know if you can you get amnio and / or CVS privately, if you want to and are not offered them on the NHS? Sorry about all the questions, I have googled about a bit but haven't got anywhere.

I just had a meeting with people who make baby monitors and baby carriers among other things - I have never felt such interested in those things before - trying to disguise it as professional interest, although I am suspiciously podgy. (no bump - pure fat.)

Juliette108 and others with sleepy scans

we discussed our feelings about our scan with the midwife today

she said that at the scan babies either move too much and have to be booked in for another scan or else they sleep through it. People who get a happy medium are very lucky. She wasnt worried and listened to the heart beat and seemed quite happy with everything

My combined screen result is 1:21314
-that cant be right can it? I thought it went up to thousands, not TENS of thousands?
either way its good news but I'm just wondering if maybe there's a type error with an extra digit by mistake or something?

I'm annoyed that it says I smoke 1/day and drink 1/day
before getting pregnant I smoked about 2/month and none at all since being pregnant. I also rarely drink anyway, Had 1 on my wedding day and none since. I understand that the computer might only allow an input in terms of days and not weeks or months but still - its so inaccurate and I'm pretty p*ssed about it!

ahh, Sal, I'm sorry your report says that! I had something on about 1 drink a week last pg, I haven't really drunk much this pg, the odd sip of OH's wine. But I knew better than to say ANYTHING to the m/wife so I just said no. I've never been a smoker.

You know that you aren't drinking or smoking and thats the main thing. No one really reads that stuff anyway in my experience.

Your screen result sounds great. I only get a blood test and am waiting for the results. I was 1:3000 last time and thought that was good, yours is way better! I think, from reading other posts, it can go to 10s of thousands.