Due Nov 2008 - PMA - our tums & bums are growing but we get an excuse to wear big knickers - now that's a stroke of luck!!! x x x

[ChocOrange05]

Hope you like the thread - minds not working so well at the moment!

I sobbed and sobbed the other day.
Becasue dh promised me there was macaroni, to make macaroni cheese, in the cupboard. But when I got home, there was ever other pasta imagineable, but no macaroni.

Like.... thats LOGICAL
As Pinkali says, these 'naughty hormones'.

Obs I sobbed last night - for no reason other than DH was out and I was home alone - bawled like a baby for about 20 minutes, all the time thinking why am I crying, I have nothing to be upset about as my life is pretty great - still didn't stop me! Bloody hormones!!

Daisy, I think that sling looks briliant, how much is she asking for it? If you don't mind my asking?
$119 on that site

Those hormones are buggers I'm sure its our way of preparing for the baby - You think you can't cope and panic about everything so much you expect to have the child of satan - that way when it actually comes its not as bad as you thought it might be! Thats how I found it anyway. Don't get me wrong it is hard work but it is also worth it!
We are all allowed a cry for no reason and like Oblomov said you will always get sympathy on here .
DS was so sweet this morning, we were talking about the baby coming and he said he was going to hold its hand and give it cuddles and share his dodo and bear with it - That is huge no-body gets to share bear. I could have cried bless him!

Those hormones are buggers I'm sure its our way of preparing for the baby - You think you can't cope and panic about everything so much you expect to have the child of satan - that way when it actually comes its not as bad as you thought it might be! Thats how I found it anyway. Don't get me wrong it is hard work but it is also worth it!
We are all allowed a cry for no reason and like Oblomov said you will always get sympathy on here .
DS was so sweet this morning, we were talking about the baby coming and he said he was going to hold its hand and give it cuddles and share his dodo and bear with it - That is huge no-body gets to share bear. I could have cried bless him!

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Ladybuzz - lol at your DS sharing his dodo with baby - I asked my DS if he was going to give the baby his dummies (thinking this might be a way of weaning him off them) and got a very firm 'no' back although 'baba Sam' (aka bump) did get a kiss this morning (without me asking him to do it!) which was quite sweet and 'baba Sam' does get a lot of stickers stuck on him aswell!

Ooh lists are good - it really clears your mind about all the stuff that needs to be done

Hi all,

Kudon to everyone doing this with toddlers in tow - how the hell are you managing that? I can't cope with this one! I like your mantra, hanaflower - it helps when I look at the house and want to emigrate rather than decorate!

Does anyone know what you are allowed to do in terms of DIY when pg? I am very behind in the home improvements and I'm getting nervous in case Baby Saurus makes an early appearance, so I can't wait for DH to get started and am going to get on it myself.

Plus I want the paint smells out of the house before s/he comes home!

Chocorange - I cried the other day because DH left his pants on the bathroom floor and it felt (at that unreasonable moment in time) like a cruel mockery as I cannot bend down that far . Poor man isn't that mean.

I like your lists - I have bought scary maternity pads, paper pants, some baby clothes and not much else (nowhere to put it all until DIY done...). Plus we have been given a cot and two moses basket and stand sets. It seemed rude to say no.

What were the most useful things for the hospital bag?

Forgot to mention, think I am nesting a bit too soon. Last night I got the urge to clean out the fridge of al those jars (we all have) on the top shelf that are well past their keeping date. I washed them all out and put them in the recycle bin ready for collection this morning. Honestly when they emptied the bin it sounded like we were the local alcoholics I also got rid of a load of mess from my pantry so we can decorate in there. DH was most impressed as it is very unlike me.

LOL at ruthosaurus and the dh's pants on the fllor, being a deliberate insult. LOVE IT.

We have now finished decorating the spare room. I don't think there is anything that you are not allowed to do. I don't recommend swinging from the ceiling light, as a way of painting the ceiling. Or trying stilts for the first time, to paint those hard to reach bits. But other than that .....

Hi Ladies

Glad I am not the only one prone to tears at the moment!

Well thought I would share my experience with you. Had a bad night with my legs and most of night right side achey.

I woke up this morning and I could not et up as when I moved I was in agony, DH was at work and did not want to unsettle DD as she is back at school today. Got upset as was stuck!

Half hour later I managed to get myself onto all fours, still crying phoned DH to tell him to come home as needed help with DD etc. But OMFG agony. Needless to say not at work just hobbling round house.

Been to the doc's who was lovely but honest and he gave me tablets but make you drowsy so no driving, not that I could and also when go into labour they need to know about these tablets as effect heart rate - confused so going to speak to MW.

Really sorry for me post but needed to vent, just feel so incredibly frustrated.

All this waxing talk, I have never had one and am tempted as shaving down there when you can't see is some what risky!!

I have white draws in the nursery and wardrobe and they came from Focus the DIY store Dozy.

Sorry Obl that diabetes getting you down.

x

Coolkat, actually diabetes not getting me down. That was MerryM.
Goodness are you o.k. ?
What is going on ? What are they saying that it is ? Sounds awful.

Ooh coolkat that sounds painful. Hope it improves soon.

Coolkat you poor thing, you have certainly put my hormonal moment into perspective! Hope you are OK.

Am v pleased to hear that everyone else seems to be experienceing irrational feelings/fits of tears too! I have now made my lists - things to buy (actually that one was under control thanks to chocorange's wonderful spreadsheet) and things to do. Actually there isn't that much on the "things to do" list - it's all totally managable - so that has made me feel better. Thanks everyone!

Oh, and pinkali, I think I am getting the "nesting" urge too - I think that was the original cause of my stresses as I just feel that everything needs to be ready NOW. Need to keep telling myself that I've got 3 months!

Sorry Obl - hope I have not offended you.

Presuming that SPD has got worse, sure I will laugh about being stuck when its all over and done with

May start preparing bag and send mum with a list of bits I need to get, I am going to call MW later re the tablets and express how if I am struggling to move about am I going to give birth?

Bahh I am sure I will feel better soon, it can't remain like this for the next 9 weeks surely

Coolkat, not at all.
More worried about you. Sounds so awful.

Hello everyone, sorry I've not posted in a couple of days - though with my long posts you've probably been relieved!

Now 29 weeks pregnant, so 11 weeks or possibly less till DH and I get to meet Emily/James. Does anyone else have a feeling they are going to give birth earlier than anticipated?

Autumlady - so glad things are getting better.

ChocOrange05 - ooh, actually I fancy a Terrys Chocolate Orange, will pop down to WH Smith in a minute (branch inside the hospital where I work). Anyway that wasn't what I was going to say, I was just going to tell you to give up all hope now. I have tons of stretch marks/cellulite. DH loves to point out the new ones on my stomach, just as well I'm not a normal woman who would take offence. Seriously, it looks like a snail has crawled all over me.

LackaDaisycal and Suiledonn - I feel your pain, literally. The heartburn is nasty. So far the worst thing I've experienced, though I've been pretty lucky with no other symptoms/complaints..

Vbab78 - Oh my god, the amount of arguments DH and I have on a weekly basis about de-cluttering and doing the baby's room. He's been asking me/wanting to clean and decorate the place since we moved in in September 2007 - fair enough, my bad. So, I started de-cluttering (Anthea Turner advised doing this first as it would make cleaning easier)the dining room with the intention of moving on to other rooms in the house, but after doing a little DH dragged me away (not literally) to do a bedroom upstairs thats being used by him for ironing, cue arguments, me in floods of tears (he doesn't seem to care about what affect it's having on the baby and has said on a number of occasions that my crying is emotional blackmail) and me going into work on a Saturday. So after that neither of us did anything more. Until yesterday, when I sorted through old papers/magazines to recycle - it's a start. Hopefully, he'll let me finish de-cluttering the whole house and then start cleaning this weekend. Can I just point out that in our 4 bedroom house, we have 1 room (I should thank him for letting me have a room) and the other 3 are used by DH. 1 for the computer, 1 for him to do his ironing and hang wet clothes and 1 for him to store his clothes and get changed in. And he can't understand why this angers/upsets me. He doesn't want empty rooms. Well, he can kiss goodbye to the one he's using to keep his clothes and change in as thats the baby's room. We haven't plastered/ decorated the baby's room either, DH feels that with less than 3 months before the baby's due, we should focus on painting the windows in our bedroom and living room and clearing the guttering.

I think the problem here is that DH is treating the house like one of his work projects and he wants everything to be done to timescales he imposes. I on the other hand think of it as our home, somewhere we will grow into and do things to as and when we have the money. He loves to remind me about how little we have and how bad house prices are and how bad the economy is, but then he starts going on about the amount of stuff he wants to do to the house and starts having a go at me.

When it comes to the house I think he's a little out of line, but he'll never see it. I feel miserable and everytime I try doing something he just has a go.

He wants to paint the baby's room this weekend, great we need to do it, but the ceiling possibly needs plastering and that should be done before painting. He doesn't understand this. There is a lot he doesn't understand. Sometimes I really wonder why I bother with him.

I wish we'd never got the house. It would have been easier if I hadn't got pregnant as well, oh well too late for that now.

Great, now I'm in tears and feel like crap. No longer want the Terrys Chocolate Orange.

DH has a habit of making everything seem so impossible and the smallest of things blown up to great big massive problems.

Maybe tomorrow I'll say something positive about DH.

Sorry for the rant and long post, honestly I never intended it, but the whole house/baby thing really angers and hurts me.

I wish he'd relax a little, stop worrying so much and prioritise the baby over sodding windows. It would be nice if he gave my thoughts a feeling and realised that me being angry/upset is not good for the baby. Everything is so gloom and doom these days, I remember a time when he used to make me happy.

I'm going to get some chocolate, though he'll probably have a go at me for taking too much money out the cashpoint.

Ohhh, here's another that cried like a baby last night, but I was stupid enough to watch the histopry of heart surgery on the blood & guts series on BBC4 last night. Serves me right as all I could see was MY baby lying there, clinically dead in almost everyway to have his life saved. Sob sob!! Even my hubby was shaking his head when I adamently told him I was going to watch it because I was interested in how the technique of saving people with heart consitions came about. It WAS interesting, but hard to get past the "that was my baby".

Hmmm, started nesting a little here. I suddenly am not happy about the amount of clutter around and have been warning the kids not to leave stuff lying around because I WILL throw it away. I have thrown stuff away when they haven't listened, but thankfully most of it is little bits and pieces of things that are not safe for the baby anyway, like magnetix (I shudder to think after that programme on them that was on earlier this year).

The one thing I haven't done in this pregnancy is cry much at all. On dd I cried practically every day. Everything set me off - tv programmes, happy and sad, the news, songs on the radio - everything. Makes me wonder if I am having a boy this time as I am not hormonal at all.

Dh is being so nice to me at the moment. He has been working long hours and he knows I am exhausted so is sending me away for the night on Sunday. I'm going to stay somewhere nice, have a long bath and a good nights sleeep followed by shopping for all the bits and pieces I need on Monday. It's our 5th wedding anniversary on 6th September so it is a nice gift. At first I wanted dh and dd to come too but he says that defeats the purpose.

I'm 29 weeks since Tuesday. If I decide to opt for induction at 38 weeks then I am in single figures. Hooray.

coolkat hope you are feeling better. My sister had SPD on her last pregnancy so I know how awful it can be.

merrym hope you get the diabetes stabilised and start to feel better.

ladybuzz your ds sounds so cute. DD loves to kiss my bump too and says 'the baby is coming out soon' all the time. I wish she was right!

Going to post this now and catch up on everyone else shortly.

MrsRigby are our DH's related??! We are also going through a similar scenario with last weekend dedicated to "sorting out the study and transforming it into a palace for tiger lemonade".

Carted kids of to parents and set about de-cluttering. Cue MASSIVE arguing about paperwork. DH literally keeps everything including bank statements going back to 2001. Not even in a lever arch folder, but in a huge file. I said we should only keep and file paperwork for this year, to which he had a massive hissy fit saying he would archive everything and we need to keep it.

Next drama was aboutt he built in bookcases. I literally recycled 200 of my books to various charity shops and sorted out my masses of photos. He INSISTED on cutting out half of the bookcase INSISTING that a cot could fit in there, and that he would turn the other half into a bespoke wardrobe. The gap he had cut measured 117cm and I went online to check if a cot could fit. The smallest I could find was 120cm. Told DH who was ADAMANT he could find one smaller blah blah blah

To cut a long story short, he has now agreed that my idea is better although he hasn't apologised at all and so this weekend he will spend taking the whole lot out.

His problem is he ALWAYS thinks he is right. He quitge clearly isn't!

Coolkat as you know I had very bad SPD with DS1 and 2. This pregnancy is not so bad as the baby is transverse but I totally understand the position (and pain) you are in. Have you been given a full body support yet, physio, crutches and more importantly painkillers. I was prescribed co-drydamol which were fantastic at taking the edge of the pain. On of the best things I found was a v shaped beanbag filled cushion in between my legs at night, as it gave more of an even distribution as higher than a pillow....

Are you getting a chance to rest up at all????

HI to everyone else - Merry good luck at the consultant today

Hello everyone. Sorry to hear of DH woes again Mrs.R and Dozy. Mine's been away all week - I'm about to leave to collect him from the airport.
Our "nursery" is still the spare room with 2 x twin beds in which need moving to his MIL's loft. But she's away until end of Sept so we can't do it until then. This is stressing me out, as we can't start doing anything to the nursery until after then. And I know from previous experience that it will be me sorting out the hire-van etc, and that he will moan like crazy about lumping around the beds down the stairs and into the van. Not looking forward to it at all. He's sh*te at DIY. So am I though.....
Anyway - must trot - can I just say, my toes, now 100% hair-free, have now had a pedicure and look jolly nice.
Vbab - I LOVE your 30week photos - the one of your bump facing the camera is brill - it's like the bump is smiling at you!!
P.P.S Had my 30-week check-up with GP today - first thing she said when I entered the room was "wow - you look much bigger than 30 weeks". She then tried to wriggle out of this by suggesting I might have wind! So tactful!! Gotta dash - laters all!!!
Keep up the PMA !!!

Dozymare - are we with the same guy???

Firstly, he thinks we should be keeping all financial stuff from the past 6-8 years. I don't think I need to point out how big an argument that escalated into. He even wanted to keep my bank statements from my bank account which I've just closed.

Secondly, he wants to keep all his books (including ones he hasn't read in years) and all 400+ of his CDs (even the ones he doesn't listen to).

Now I went through my CDS, throwing out/donating to charity the ones I don't listen to or were completely deranged to buy in the first place. And after reading a book I donate it to charity. So why oh why does DH feel the need to keep these things.

When I asked him to go through them and bin/give to charity any he didn't read/listen to he went balistic. Apparently, just because they've been in boxes for the last couple of years and never touched does not mean he will not want/read/ listen to them.

My way of trying not to completely lose it is to a) let him have a bookcase, but in his room with the computer in. That way I don't have to be reminded of all the books he never reads (but of course thats because he's so busy) and b) get a sideboard for the dining room (thats where the CD player is and the CDs) and shove all his CDs in there and that way I'm not reminded about all the CDs he never listens to (but there are some really good CDs that I never let him listen to).

I have another way of dealing with him, buy chocolate and try to ignore him. The latter is very hard to do unless he's working away, which thankfully he does during the week. I'm currently eating a Double Decker, I'm not enjoying it and its not making me feel any better. However, I still have the Cadburys Caramel, Mars and Snickers so theres hope.

MrsR and Dozy - sorry about your DH's but I am sure part of it is their way of dealing with the enormity of what is happening. My DH is certainly like that - in times of stress, he will do something practical rather than talk about it!! I remember last pg, I suddenly got really high BP at about 34 weeks and they were talking about admitting me to hospital (thankfully they didn't) so what did DH do when we got back from the hospital - start building the nursery furniture

HM2J - I completely understand about the heart surgery on telly. I was exactly the same last week watching some surgeon programme last week with Robert Winston - there was a gorgeous little boy who was about 1 having stomach surgery and I had to tell DH to turn it off as it just reminded me so much of when DS had his op on his stomach at 8 weeks old - far too close to home!

Suiledonn - you may be right about the boy. I have not been at all emotional throughout either pg and both were/are boys but I think I am quite a 'hard' person anyway so maybe that is something to do with it.