Due Nov 2008 - PMA - our tums & bums are growing but we get an excuse to wear big knickers - now that's a stroke of luck!!! x x x

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Hope you like the thread - minds not working so well at the moment!

LOL Hana at both of us suggesting an ergo! I do feel very strongly about the Bjorn type carriers. Like I said yesterday, how much of ds1's problems he would have had anyway I am not sure, but I know I carried him around a fair bit in the bjorn and he lordosis / excessive curvature of his lower spine and obviously his gait has to compensate for it, so he looks slightly akward when walking when viewing him from the back, plus he trips over his own feet all the time and suffers with painful legs/feet and back when out and about. It's so sad as he's only 7, to see him standing thier arching his back like I would right now because it's sore

I've got sling confusion. Those ergo things look cool, though v v v v v pricey! Are they any good for bfeeding? Can't see dh wearing a ring sling!

Hello again everyone

I have no idea what I've missed. Hope everyone is OK.
One very wet weekend away and a week without internet and you all go and hide in a new thread!

The next book arrived this morning, many thanks ChocO, Lacka, do you urgently need it before this weekend as we're up North again for my first tradestand at mumsworld in Harrogate on Friday. (Slightly nervous face)

Went to MW drop in clinic this pm and saw lovely MW who is quite happy for me to have HB and ignore GBS, and she's more experienced/qualified than my regular MW!

what are you doing on the stand, yorky? Sounds interesting. good to see you back! most important thing you missed is a) the secret stork thread and b) the recipe thread...check them out. I think they both begin with Due Nov 08.

Hello MM
Having nothing better to do atm I have started my own business doing chocolate bars in personalised wrappers, like this
Not as crafty as pinky's blankets, and probably won't last as long either, but nice.
I did email Mr Lackadaisycal but haven't heard anything since - do we know who we're supposed to be buying for now?

hello all, im new on here,,
my names louise im 20 n expecting my first on the 20th ,, and its a girl,
im so excited,, hope to meet some nice new people n congrats on all ur growing bumps
x

Hey All,

Vbab - am feeling much better thanks - got through the night without needing the bowl.

I have to say that I am SO where you are with the hormonal never ending domestic chores of daily life type thing. I hope / think it must be a hormone surge or something. I feel like if anyone dare cross me at the moment I would bloody 'ave 'em - be that the kids, DH or a stranger!

Welcome expectingagirl.

I want to hear more on the sling thing - I went for a tricoti sling with DC2 but found it too fiddly and never used it - I was all for being eco mum but it just wasn't hapnin! (am sure they are probably easy to use) The bjorn type seem a lot easier to get on and off.

I just want the easiest for on and off - ability (and off course one that won't affect the baby's posture) especially as it will be winter so coats will be needed for us too.

Have you all gone to bed again?

oooh - am liking the look of the Ergo - anyone know how easy it is to get on and off?

hmmm - a couple of not so keen reviews here

www.babyworld.co.uk/information/reviews/product.asp?id=194

Hi guys. I won't be here for a bit. I need to take care of my family = pay some attention to ds. And dh.
I smacked ds yesterday. Hard. Total lack of control on my part. I am so ashamed. I can't stop crying. Infact we re all miserable.

Dh says he doesn't want to go away for the weekend, because of how bad ds behaves and how bad everything is between us.

So, I will see you in a bit. I need to get my priorities right.

roca - glad u ok. may it continue.

To be honest all this stuff with DH is just how it is without hormonal enhancement of description. If any my hormones may be making me less likely to hold my tongue for ages then one day blurt it all out I just say stuff straight away.

DH still in bed at mo, normally sets off for work at 8am to get there for 8.30am. But I think stuff him "im not his mother". I told him the time when I got up at 7.30am. After all he needs the sleep because "he is tired" imagine pitiful look on his face.

We may not be able to go and stay with my sil this weekend. Becasue baby Reece - the one who currently has my cotbed, has measles.
Anyone know if this is dangerous for me ?

ob, we're always here, whenever you need us.

i am meant to be emptying my loft today. but my hips are killing me again, so wil lcancel that job.

obs - Feel for you. I would feel guilt too if it was my DS. But only if I was wrong for doing it and where it is done also. Kids have that way of making you feel bad especially their mummy's. But DS probably will just carry on like norm and have forgot about it.

I would still go away for the weekend. Being away is away after all and it can lift some stress of your and DH shoulders. Ok so DS is badly behaved so what DH going to lock him under the stairs or be a good parent and try to remedy his bad behavior. I know it is hard but try and be positive and just take each situation (including DH, says me) with a deep breath and as it happens. Could SOME of DS behavior be that he senses yours and DH tension.

Obs Sorry you're having a difficult time of it at the moment As Misdee says, we're here whenever you need us.
Sorry to hear others are also not having an easy time of it at the moment either, what with unhelpful DHs and aches and pains generally.
Welcome Expectingagirl

Welcome MrsRigby and expectingagirl I can't believe there are still more people popping up in November!!
Obs hope everything works out for you and you feel brighter soon.
Vbab I don't blame you for leaving him in bed like you say you are not his mother!
I also agree that DCs well mine anyway play their mothers up more then anything because you are the person they have ALL of the time, My Aunty had the cheek to suggest that DS listened to her more then me needless to say we haven't been there for a couple of weeks - She (who has no children) should try having him for a week whilst full of hormones and see how easy it is then!!
Don't beat yourself up at losing it with him they can be so frustrating at times.
Roca hope you feel better today.
Hope everyone else is well

Morning all

Welcome expectingagirl - hope you find this thread as useful and supportive as I have!

Obs good luck with everything - don't beat yourself up about things. I hope things get better for you. As for measles I have no idea but I would phone NHS direct or my MW to check.

Have a good day all. x x x

Yorky...a day out in Harrogate is just what I need! I know DH wants to go and do a comparative shop at some of the lovely independant delis there so we'll come and find you! I should be paying attention to events like that to promote my flegdling nappy business, but so far all I've done is advise friends and recommend nappies for them, not actually taken the plunge and done anything else. How did you hear about it, if you don't mind me asking?

Dozy...I will get the next book in the post today. I have hardly crossed the threshold all week, but feel OK for a toddle down to the PO this afternoon. Sorry if you are waiting

Obs, sorry things are a bit rough at the minute . I say you should all go away this weekend as planned; a change being as good as a rest and all that. I am queen of th bad behaved DS here so I sympathise. I've also snapped and smacked DS on lots of occasions. Not my finest parenting moments , but you just pick yourself up and move on. Try not to dwell on it too much. It is possible that as the birth of the baby approaches he is feeling more and more insecure about things. DS went through this whne I was pg with Em; five years is a long time to be an only child and then suddenly be dethroned. We found that not mentioning the baby directly when he was around helped and then he started asking questions about it in his own time once he had gotten his head around it.

And don't stay away completely, please. We are here for you and are a great support system. How about limiting us to when you have a spare half hour? You are so much part of the backbone of this thread, it'll seem empty without you.

Oh, and Yorky, DH is going to do the emails out this weekend so you haven't missed anything. I know he's received yours cos he mentioned it as he recognised the name

Morning.
Thanks for the sling advice, Hana and everyone else! I had checked out teh ergo but wasn't sure I liked the look of the "infant insert" which you'd need for the first few weeks (months?). Anyone used the babasling at all?

Obs, it does sound like you are going trhough a tough time, sorry.

Welcome expectingagirl!

oh obs, have definitely been there too. i think some of bad behaviour in my ds comes from being bored (it's holidays) and i am too cumbersome to do all the high energy things he enjoys - then he gets bored, plays up, I get angry etc. and have lost it on many occasions. although i always feel bad after, i do think it is good for kids to see they can affect your emotions. if you are always cool, calm and collected they don't understand the impact they can have on you. and saying in a calm, controlled way, "i am very angry right now" is really no way to communicate that you are REALLY ANGRY! but anyway, that is a personal theory, i am no psychologist and just basing it on my own life experiences.

yorky, no we haven't been given names yet. but the deadline to go in for secret stork is soon. the chocs look cool, good idea.

welcome expectinggirl. i wasn't part of an antenatal thread with my first (didn't know about mumsnet), and i am really enjoying it this time round...but it takes up quite a bit of time to keep up!!!

oh obs, just wanted to sympathise and empathise with you... we have been through many many horrid rough patches since ds, am finding things particularly tough at the moment too for a whole host of reasons.

you are not alone darling, i hope things ease for you soon.

Niping in quickly
Welcome new people, its a lovely thread but we all talk too much!
Lacka - I know there are no nappy people selling at mumsworld, I heard about it on here but the thread has since been deleted
Glad I haven't missed the stork
Obs - look after your family, we've all been there, its not fun but you can make it better

obs don't feel bad please. All of us with kids have lost it at some stage or the other and depsite our best intentions, I can't think of a single mum frined who hasn't given their child a smack at some stage or the other. I personally don't think a tap on the hand or bottom does them any harm - I certainly have smacked my 2 when they have been playing up, albeit not hard but enough for them to realise that they are in the wrong.

Before becoming a parent I was NEVER going to smack, NEVER going to shout and be a calm, collected, reasonable parent - we all know that is not possible 100% of the time. (in fact in my case, I am probably calm, collected and reasonable about 20% of the time)

Parenting is NOT easy - especially when pregnant with other things going on. You have been under a LOT of stress and have had to cope with a lot from the strains of your job to endless hospital visits. You are only human.

Go away (if measles permits) and spend some quality time together as a family.

Lacks don't worry about the book - I wasn't expecting it for a while anyway due to your trials and tribulations of late!!

Am working today but will look into somewhere for afternoon tea for us London Ladies....

Have a good day
DM xx

Hi all, just trying to catch up on here, bit like Obs where needed some time off here to get stuff done. (not my house merry, your right thats all done! been supporting my mate who had a three day labour. was a text buddy for three days. baby then got whisked away to incubator for a day and so i had texts with her crying that her baby wasnt with her and she could hear everyone elses

ive just been mega low for some reason, ligament pains come back and just feel so down. in laws and my family havent bothered with us at recently and i posted about it on here and got an Mn arse kicking telling me to grow up. ha ha. so stepped off for a bit just to try to gather myself up. i think its not so much being pissed off at lack of help, more that im lonely in a different town where i know no-one. MN is becoming my only social network and that cant be good.

Today im watching films and reading posts on here and try to gather myself up.

ladybuzz i'll be posting your book tomorrow, sorry its late, i havent ventured out of the house