Due DECEMBER 2008 - just over a hundred shopping days to Baby

[LadyThompson]

New thread, people, unless someone else has started one...

Hi Hatty. I know exactly what you mean. I sometimes forget, then remember when I try to squeeze through a gap and my gut gets in the way!

I'm absolutely SURE it won't be affecting the baby and the very fact you're worrying about this now means that you are probably thinking about it more sub-consciously than you realise. And when you do think about it, you get good rushes of feeling, which is great. Don't worry at all - I'm sure everyone reacts differently to it. And good not to be too obsessive - I think I can be and am very dull for DH as a result!

yoga will definitely help as it's an hour of thinking about nothing but the baby. I also sometimes find it quite hard to visualise this little beast as an actual baby. It's all about pregnancy and to think that it's going to be a human feels extraordinary!

x

Hi all! I won't even pretend I've managed to catch up with everything .

Had my 20wk scan this morning and they also did an in-depth cardiac check because of dd4's condition. Thankfully everything appears fine and the baby is a right wriggler.(Also probably another pink one ). I had been getting worried because I wasn't feeling as much movement as thought I should. It turns out the placenta is at the front so that would be why .

Hello everyone! Am reading lots but not posting much. All a bit hectic here as am trying to get our house finished (well, bits of it) before my work hots up again!

Congrats to all with scans, and so relieved Waitinggirl that all is well. I have a placenta on the front and definitely can't feel as much as in previous pgs.

Hatty, I think that this is the lot of being a second time mum! After the first trimester when I was so ill I could barely move, I barely thought about DD2 when pg unless I was at the MWs etc. Didn't affect how it was when she was born at all. In fact, she is the most laidback chillsome child in the world, and I do wonder if it is because she had no option other than to blend in to an existing set up! Sorry to hear about everything else that is going on - hope you are OK.

Am off to do a few more jobs, then to see a friend's new little boy. Back later.

oh Hatty i think are subconsciously thinking about your baby, limiting yourself to dark chocolate for a start! sounds like you barely have enough time to think about yourself.

I know what you mean though i started feeling that way a couple of weeks ago, with DH away a lot (with DS we spent loads of time in the evenings chatting to baby) and an almost three year old to run around after (but only one not your two) i was finding it hard to concentrate on veggiebaby but preggers yoga at home has helped and also using the time with DS to focus a bit by laying down on the couch and have him chat to the baby, now he actively seeks out my tummy to talks to baby so kind of eminds me veggiebaby is there and he is invovled in what DS & I are up to, as DS tells him what he is doing and shows him his toys. Not sure if your would as they have each other but it's worth a try.

However i don't think it is bad for baby, one of my ex colleagues had an unplanned pregnancy, and she hated her baby the whole way through her pregnancy and would always say how much she didnt want the baby, but as soon as her DD was born she had a complete turn around and her DD is such a lovely thing. You certainly don't hate your little bump maker so i'm sure your inability to have time for yourself let alone your baby would be bad for it.

now go and have some more dark chocolate.

X posts Snoirris. Does that mean you'll have 5 DDs? I love girls and would happily have another - only a week til I find out! I am not quite sure what to do with boys, so may need to handholding if there's a boy cooking away in there.

So glad all well with the heart too. What a relief!

Reban, any word from your consultant about an earlier scan? I think 4 weeks is too long to be in limbo. Fingers crossed you have some good news soon.

Aw am all tearful now, in a nice way. Thanks girls, I really appreciate your kind words. Will try and dig out my pregnancy for yoga dvd tonight and do some - I found it really soothing last time around. You're right I'm sure the baby will be fine - it's just such a contrast from last time around when I knew exactly how many minutes pregnant I was, had long lists of shopping requirements and names drawn up and spent ages choosing the healthiest lunch possible!!

My shopping delivery arrives from 4 so may wrestle the driver to the ground to get my hands on the dark chocolate lurking in the boxes! Am trying to make life easier for myself by taking shortcuts where necessary so have ordered birthday cakes instead of making them and am refusing to feel guilty! My girls have their 3rd birthday party tomorrow - can't believe they are so grown up!

Snorris - 5 girls wow! I was a bit sad at first that baby looks like being DD3 but now can't think of anything better! I would really need to get my head around having a boy now - will be interested to see what your DC3 is chutney!

Dh groaned a bit when they told us but I pointed out that at least we get to re-use the pink highchair,the pink pushchair,clothes etc,etc! . TBH I'm not sure I'd know what to do with a boy . We need to start thinking of names now-might have agreed on on one by December!

Veggie - it was me re: the tara lee dvd, and yes, it is in the 70 mins full version - in the sun salutation bit. in the lunge, just don't put too much strain on your pelvis by rising off your knee to hold that stretch. do the rocking back and forward, but don't do too much - although you sound v active anyway.

oh boys & girls and scans that reminds me of something i forgot to tell you. After our 20 week scan when DH, DS & I were out in the reception waiting for my notes we were chatting about the fact that it's a boy and not a girl and how we would have only boys in our little family, i said 'oh well at least we don't have to worry about her getting pregnant as a teenager' as way of brushing off that tiny bit of disappointment i had about not having a girl. Then next thing they called in the next lady for a scan who was sitting within earshot of me and of course she was not much more than 15. she had made a funny snort noise when i said about the teenage pregnancy thing and i felt terrible when i saw her, DH thought it was hilarious as i am always putting my foot in it, but i feel terrible, poor thing has enough to worry about than 30something women judging her.

Arggggh!

My boob just leaked! PMSL!

I thought after reading this 'oh mine haven't done anything yet' so whipped one out (don't worry am SAHM not in an office!) lol , gave it a squeeze and leaked!

hehe!

AND DH felt baby move for first time last night! he was sooo happy

Have my NHS scan on Tuesday

Hope you are all well!

thanks waiting i'm quite happy to leave some bits out. I think my arms might hurt a bit tomorrow, i can't remember what i did to make them sore during the session but i can alreay feel my deltoids.

Snorris he may groan but really he's chuffed he gets to come to 6 women who adore him everyday. My brother has 4 girls and no boys and it used to really annoy him the amount of people men & women who assumed he must be disappointed about not having a boy!!!! nice to know how important girls are. So good on you for producing lots of girls ladies.

disenchanted when i read your post i actually reached for my boob then thought i'd better just leave, apart from not really wanting leakage, the neighbours can see into our back window and may give the poor fella nextdoor a heart attack.

lol!!

pmsl..am also sitting experimentally squeezing but producing nothing as yet! Didn't leak at all last time during the pregnancy so maybe I won't this time.

Always thought it must be nice to leak in pregnancy if you're planning to breastfeed, it must make you feel very fertile and full of gallons of milk rather than worrying about supply!

ps am working at home so no office boob flashing here either!

Congrats on the scans ladies You must be very relieved waitinggirl

Sorry to hear you are feeling stressed hatty Make sure you try and take a little time out for yourself if possible though, just for your own sanity! Hope your mum is better soon. Good luck with the twins party

veggie Ooops! You must have wanted the ground to swallow you up.

LOL at you lot squeezing for milk!

Hi all not heard back from the consultant yet chutneymary, im going to give it till tomorrow and chase them. I have kind of stopped panicking a bit because i know its quite common for measurements to be out because of position etc and if i do stress for the next four weeks it really isnt going to make it any better for me or the baby.

Hatty you are certainly not a bad mum for not having the time to relish every second of your pregnancy. I dont think its possible to comprehend how different your first pregnancy and child experience will be compared to any subsequent ones. This is my dc4 due 20/12 and i def have to be reminded sometimes not to do things because im pregnant (like balancing on silly half-made shelves that collapse undre my weight

It will be the same for your dh, mine was obsessed with my tummy with dc1, he used to talk to baby whole way through pregnancy .. very different this time round

you lot are gross. I am at work so I think I shall not try the squeezing thing!

go on summer give em a little cheeky squeeze you know you want to, see if anyone notices or is game to say anything

The thing is I know one person in this office who would probably notice, and point it out in a loud voice. And then ask for a taste.

I'm at work too, but still tempted - resisting the urge to have a feel and to laugh at the rest of you - v hard to do both at once!

I can't believe anything is ever going to come out of my boobs - I'm only an A cup, they've not grown, no tenderness, no response to pregnancy from them at all. There's still time though...

Has everyone got the notes from their scan? I was told mine will be sent direct to the midwife, and I don't see her for another 3/4 weeks now. I'm feeling left out now

ZJ.x

I'm going to try it out on the First Great Western misery wagon from London Paddington to the Cotswolds, tonight.

I was running out of ways to express my displeasure with the poor service, and now I feel inspired.

see if you can hit someone in the eye...

Oh my gosh - so hormonal. Just had tears at work. V embarrassing.

Sit behind a very bitter unpleasant (little) man, who keeps making snidey comments about how bad I am at my job and just constant niggly stuff. usually I just let it wash over me as it's not worth it, but today I reached final straw and just did quiet tears at my desk. Luckily I'm not the only person who thinks he's unpleasant, but still quite difficult! Someone spotted me, but she's a good mate, so we had a good old bitch about it and I feel better. If it goes on, though, I'm going to complain. He's our ombudsman as well, which is ironic really.

What a tosser, Beans. Please complain. He should not be allowed to get away with this nonsense.

Beans what an idiot! Some people are just so horrible, making snidey comments is the sort of thing you expect 7 year old schoolkids to do to eachother not grown men

Get him in the eye with a squirt of breastmilk