Due in Jan 2009 - Grumps, bumps and heffalumps (the 3rd thread)

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He he Loved that idea FLF!

Moose sorry to hear you have been having a hard time I'm glad things are a bit better now

Trust me to share the most popular bra size! (34C) Just my luck!

Scan tomorrow! I'm really looking forward to it!

morning

miss jackson my brain is starting to go to mush 18 wks tom i tried to put batteries in my camera doesnt take them have to charge them @ the wall.
glad u r feeling better m
weather is awful here wet and windy

I am annoyed about maternity clothes too. I have longish legs and no high street stores sell maternity clothes in longer lenghts, not even mothercare. Given that non-maternity clothes always seem to come in various lengths I don't understand this! Do they think tall women can't have babies? Or that pregnancy shrinks us? At least if you need a shorter length, adjustment is easy.

So I ordered clothes from:

Dorothy Perkins - fitted properly and arrived on time but stink of chemicals

Next - enormous, a size 10 must be at least a 16

Blooming Marvellous - also huge, I believe that my mistake was following guidelines that said I needed medium with a DD cup. They seem to assume that fairly large breasts mean broad shoulders, backs and thighs... also everything that I really liked in their sale turned out to be out of stock

So all have to go back now, grrrrr!

Just stopping in to say hi. Glad things are a bit better moosemama - life gets on top of all of us sometimes, and I very much doubt any mother has managed to hold it togather 100% of the time.

I'm glad the countdown is on for you LG&T, I would be going insane after 6 weeks on my own with DD, let alone with all of your DCs! I think you must be superwoman or something.

Still crazy busy here with DHs business and various other things. Every week we seem to say 'next week we'll have a quiet week' but don't think we've finished work before 10pm for the last month. And there have been a fair few 1am shifts in there too. Think its starting to catch up on me now since am feeling very tired and achey. Am going to pin DH down to letting me have a couple of evenings off next week if I can.

Scan MsSparkle!!! Very exciting, good luck.

Upwind, I've had no better luck with maternity. Most of the tops seem to be designed for the last few months rather than the middle few. I've bought a few bigger sized tops to tide me over and also found smaller size materity from h&m was a good fit. Don't buy from DPs maternity anymore - everything I've had from there in last pg has been rubbish quality and stunk like you say when it arrived. Most of the tops I bought fell apart before the end of the pg. Think they are too obcessed with being cheap and don't take enough care with seams and fabric. But might just be me having been unlucky.

Thanks Lennie, I actually bought a few non-maternity tops in primark that are just a size bigger and look nice over my bump. The trouble is I have to wear maternity trousers and jeans now and can't try them on before buying...

I am dissapointed to hear that about Dorothy Perkins, the clothes I decided to keep from there are just starting to lose the chemical stink and do seem fairly flattering, though the material is far from good quality.

poorbuthappy Violet came from my working on my family tree... it's my great-great grandma's name.

moosemama thoughts become things, choose the good ones. and don't forget to breathe.

i definitely felt a kick the other day. was sitting on the deck, just had my night time tea and toast and stretched and there it was. kick. very strange. then i woke up early in the morning and i was laying to far over on my stomach i think because i got a couple of kicks... maybe because she was feeling crowded. little things keep bringing being pregnant more of a reality. i go for next midwife appointment on tuesday and worried that it may be a concern that i have only gained 7lbs in total in 4 1/2 months. it seems a little under.

May be off for a while ladies as dh is home tonight. I have dd in hospital today though having some teeth out. I am a bit worried as i don't think they will let me in the anaesthetics room or recovery with her as i am pregnant. The aneasthetics cross over to the baby. I have mil with me but i want to be there with her

Am hoping we are home this evening as dh arrives home should all go well at hospital.

I agree with others that Dorothy Perkins are shocking,they get holey quickly and go baggy. Next are marginally batter but the denim in particular goes baggy after 24hrs, saying that the jeans i have from them are lovely, just not for long!

My Seraphine jeans are great! Very comfy and a great fit. Highly recommended.

Right am off to get them all breakfast (except dd ) and tackle today. Wish me luck!

Have a good few weeks ladies.

Forgot to say i saw the midwife yesterday, all well. She is very nice, i am hoping she will deliver me if i get her on call. Heard baby gin's HB, hard to hear with the baby screaming on my lap though. All bloods fine and my iron count good, i eat lots of green leafy though. She has told me to rest lots and if possible to go to bed for a week or so in November as i approach 32 weeks as at this stage in the last 2 pregnancies i have gone in to prem labour and be hospitalised reulting in bed rest until i am 37 weeks!!! I cannot do it again. It is so disruptive and i hate sitting down for any length of time!

morning 18wks today
great news about midwife lg&t

Chefswife i wouldnt worry about weight gain. I haven't Gained Anything, if anything i've prob lost a little, due to HORRID sickness.... my midwife wasnt at all concerned, as baby has first shout on everything we're eating. At Least i know Bean is fine (as i'm sure yours is) its just me thats wasting away!

No wonder i've been feeling so rubbish!!!

xx

I got a lecture from the midwife about being underweight, which made me because there is not much I can do about it and it just adds to my anxiety.

Besides I do not believe I am underweight, I've never been so heavy in my life and I am assured that I don't look too thin. I tried to point this out to the midwife adding that I have a slight build and small bones but she was having none of it.

i have only gained about 3lbs

Morning all - It's been ages since I last posted!

I'm really really busy at work at the moment which is good as it's my own business and bad as I need to work out what to do when I go on maternity leave...

Have just found out my friend is pregnant - she's 10 weeks which is great as I'm only 16 weeks and she had her last baby two weeks early so we'll be having babies within a few weeks of each other!

Maternity clothes - where do I start!

1. I have given up on shops - although there is a bit in Bluewater I decided a while ago you just have to put up with the postage and buy online!
2. If you're shortish in the midrif (like me) don't even try to wear normal clothes a size bigger as it just doesn't work! the bump makes itself known very quickly!
3. Anything tent like in style looks awful on everyone!
4. Sizing is a joke, I was a 12 at the start of my last pregnancy and had maternity clothes sizes 8 to 12 - this time I was a 14 at the start and can wear all the same stuff!! Just order anything vaguely good in 2 or 3 sizes....
5. Don't assume you can keep things for the next pregnancy.... I thought I had loads of stuff - but it's all office wear as I was full time in an office - now I work from home it's all jeans and t's.
6. for whoever was looking for 'tall' maternity try formes...

That's about it for now (what a long post!)

Moosemama - you need some time out - can you get the DC's in a holiday club or something?

hi fym

great to hear from you
have you tried vertbaudet have just ordered bits in there sale for winter
mothercare is good too

upwind How weird that different midwifes can have such differing opinions. No doubt if we'd all put on 3 stone all hell would be breaking loose that we'd gone the other way. Okay so 3 stone, maybe i'm being a little OTT!

rrrayray, I think it is an early example of the over emphasis on simple numbers and charts. I really am very slightly built with narrow shoulders. By looking at me this should have been fairly obvious. I am sure there are also many fit women with an above "ideal" BMI partly because they are bigger boned or are more muscular.

The midwife was focusing on a simple BMI number which had me only marginally underweight. It is probably more common for pg women to be overweight so maybe that is why she felt the need to address it.

This advice might be helpful to some who are worried about lack of weight gain. My midwife says that it's very common and not a problem to put on very little weight in the first 20 weeks or so, but after that you should aim for a steady gain as this is when the baby starts to really grow rather than form parts of their body. She suggested I try to have a snack like cheese and crackers mid-morning and mid-afternoon even I don't really feel hungry (I seem to have lost my usually ravenous appetite in this pregnancy!) and switch to whole fat milk etc, which helps add calories. She said even if you don't exercise much, just growing the baby takes loads of energy!

Apparently the calcium intake is the one to watch, as the baby will just leech it from our bones if they don't get what they need from our diet and then you get osteoporosis when you're old. I think my calcium levels are already pretty low as I HATE milk and have done forever, but I find I can drink it in lattes probably not exactly what the midwife meant but it's my one vice and I'm not giving it up!

I am finding it really bizarre about worrying about wieght gain? As long as the baby is fine, it doesn't really matter. With dd i was 9 stone to start with and when i wieghed myself on my due date i was 11 stone 10! I was active and ate normal so i hate to think what i would have been if i had eaten extra calories to try and gain wieght!

When i wieghed myself after the birth i was just over 10 stone so most of the wieght i put on was the baby and all the fluids etc. So really i only put on a stone extra during the pregnancy but that took me a year to shift! So i really wouldn't worry about wieght gain, make the most of the lack of it in fact because after 20 weeks you just seem to get bigger and bigger!

I had my scan today, all is fine and healthy. She had to send me away for a cup of tea and cake because she couldn't check everything because the baby was lying on it's tummy! When i went back the baby had turned over onto it's back so she got to check everything properly

i have the opp problem - think i've put on 9lbs so far..which is way too much if the rest of this thread is anything to go by.. someone at work asked me if i was having twins yesterday (hilarious) as it's all out the front..the rest of me is slightly more rounded than usual (i'm a size 10/12) and my boobs are massive!!!

oh god, this is my first, and i dread to think just how big i'm going to get...

but mssparkle, i agree that the baby's health is the most important thing (and no midwife has expressed concern at me yet)..

looweeza, 9 lbs doesn't sound like a huge amount to me.

Evening all. Had GP appointment today to listen to the heartbeat. All well and no sign of pre-eclampsia yet, though she kindly informed me I'm more likely to get it as I had it first time round . Am very determined to tell my body not to bother!

I've got a good friend who is due on Saturday, it really brings it into focus when you meet someone who is on the brink.. she is going for a home waterbirth, so fingers crossed.

LG&T I was in Germany. Hope you are having a lovely reunion with your man followed by a restful break from the brood.

thanks elkiedee, i think its more the way i look which has been concerning me over the past week or so... a few others at work are pregnant and i'm comparing myself unfavourably to them..

anyway, just being vain - i've bought lots of new maternity clothes so at least everything fits at the mo!

looweeza- don't worry- it all evens out! I put on weight in my first 20 weeks first time round, but not much in the next 20- I was very fit and healthy beforehand, and my m/w weren't worried about the gain. This time- I'm 17 weeks and have just this week gained 1 pound... so the rest is going to have to go on in the second 20 weeks.
I lost it all by the time dd was 6 mo- bf is great for weight loss and we did plenty of walking in the fresh air too.