Due December 08 - time to start blooming and glowing.

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New thread lovely ladies

CC21 i'm sorry to hear about your bust up with a friend, is it really completely irreparable, it is very sad to hear for you. Friends are so important as life goes on it's shame she/he can't see that. I'm sure your lovely.

Oh thanks for the ice cream image i'm gonna have to have some now....well it is a hot day and not good to overheat is it.

veggiemummy, that's a really lovely post to minster!

cc21, sorry about your bustup, do you think the friendship is really over?

Mmm icecream, have some Ben & Jerrys in the freezer!

just went to Elvaston Castle and had a lovely afternoon but most importantly had a ice cream which tasted amazing. Pregnancy may bring many annoying symptoms but how good dos food taste while your preggers.

I've had a lovely day to myself. Dh & ds went off to ILs, I did some housework, went shopping (for clothes!) and then did some studying. All nice & relaxed now.

Minster and LP, so sorry to hear about your sad news . Sending you both big (((hugs))) from the sofa.

Currently watching totally trashy TV, DH been away all weekend so have had sole ownership of the remote. Not as if my brain needed any more excuses to turn into mush.

Tips for 1st time 2nd time mums please. Especially around Christmas....!

RGx

oh, minster, i am so so sorry - that is just awful. i cannot think of what to say. will be thinking of you tomorrow.

i am totally shattered gonna go to bed early night night

Minster I am so very sorry . Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Take care of yourself xx

veggie glad I'm not the only tired one on here. Went to bed at 8pm last night and still knackered! Hope I 'bloom' soon! Must come back to post tips but been v busy. Any tips for 1st time 2nd timers then?!

Another early night here too!

Minster am thinking of you both today

i had such a good sleep last night feeling very refreshed this morning might actually get this house into some sort of order today.

thinking of you and your DH today Minster

minster I'm so sorry . What a terrible thing to go through. Take care

Minster so very very sorry to hear your news. Hope you are as okay as you can be . Take care.

Devastated for you, Minster. Don't know what else to say. Thinking of you all today

Minster thinking of you today hun xx

Having read such sad news on this thread last week I have resolved to stop moaning about minor PG related issues and being such a wimp about the whole movement thing - I am now just bl00dy glad that the baby is moving. The sad losses have reminded me that just because we are past 12 weeks doesn't mean there are any guarantees and we are all very lucky to be in this position atall
If I start complaining about minor ailments please slap me and remind me how lucky I am.

I'm just back from holiday and wanted to say how sorry I am for Minster and Little Peanut. I really hope you're ok and thinking of you at such an awful time. Makes me so sad for you both.

x

How often should we be seeing midwife/GP from 12 weeks? We had our scan 7 weeks ago and have nothing until our next one at nearly 22 weeks - should I be seeing anyone in between times, does anyone know?

I think I have felt it move a couple of times, but can't really be sure. At 16 weeks felt like a little flickering and last weekend, it just felt like something turned in my stomach (and not wind - believe me, I've had plenty of that in last few weeks!). But nothing since. And have read that once you feel it once, you should start feeling it a fair bit and I haven't. Should I worry, or just hang on for my 22 week scan in just under 3 weeks?

Thanks all.

Beans, I believe you can feel it from any time between 14 and 22 weeks, and anything in between those is totally normal. It seems to vary wildly.

I haven't seen anyone for ages either (I am almost 20 weeks) and have my anomaly scan in week 21 and then seeing Obstetrician after that in week 22.

Beans, hope you had a nice holiday. I wouldn't worry too much, I've been feeling the baby move a bit but it seems to depend on what position he's lying in if I feel anything at all. As for appts, it varies from place to place. I've only seen a mw once and had my scan, I've not got anything until my next scan, then I see the mw at 24 & 28 weeks.

Beans is it your first baby? I think you're supposed to see the midwife more with your first. My doctors gave me a handout with details of appointments, and I think first time mums are seen about once a month either for a routine scan or by the midwife..

I saw the midwife last week at 16 weeks, I have a 20 week scan at the hospital in a few weeks then I don't see anyone until 28 weeks..but this is second pregnancy, I think with a first pregnancy I would see someone at 24 weeks as well.

I have been feeling a little movement I think at 17 weeks. Last time around I don't remember being sure I felt movement until I was gone 20 weeks, and that was with two babies!

HI Beans welcome back hope you had a lovely relaxing time. I'm also not sure how often you are supposed to see someone. Last time we were private and saw a MW everyone month until 28 weeks then it was once a fortnight and then from 36 weeks it was every week. So far i have had 2 MW apts (i'm now 18weeks) and have my next one on the 8th August about a month after my last apt and a week after the anomoly scan. Are you MW led or consultant led, i'm not sure if it makes any difference. That does seem a long time between apts but as had been said it may depend on where you live. I'm sure there is supposed to be a system of how often we should be seen.

i just had a look at the NICE guidelines for antenatal care and apts with either MW or consultant for a normal pregnancy should be monthly to 30 weeks, fortnightly to 36 weeks then weekly to birth. I don't think they are seeing you enough Beans, is your next apt at 22 weeks with a MW? In some areas they only have a diary of apt for 2 weeks in advance so they get you to ring about 2 weeks before your apt is due to make your next apt, maybe this is the case but they didnt make it clear to you.

Beans I agree with veggie, particularly if this is your first. You should be seen every four weeks up to 36 weeks. Communication over these things is often rubbish though - I bet they meant to tell you to make the next appointment but forgot . Give them a call tomorrow and see if you can get an appointment.

sorry - four weeks to 30 weeks and fortnightly to 36 - what she said! Doh!

Hello all - posted twice in a matter of days!!! I've just missed you all so much.

beans my mum has just been round (she is MW) and says same as veggie, although says some places will count scans etc as a checkk up depending on what they do! My 20 weeks on on thurs and after scan i see a mw too.

baby is doing somersaults as I type - active little bu**er this one

Re: the friend situation, I have tried twice to sort it out. First time I got a door in my face, second time she hung up before I had chance say vey much. I refuse now to try again, she is very self obsessed at the best of times, I used let it just pass me by. But for some reason my tolerance levels have changed and I can't just don't find her behaviour acceptable anymore.